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Raising Children by Hathor5(f): 9:24am On May 29, 2023 |
What is the best advice you have received about how to raise a child? Please, "spare the rod spoil the child" is not what I am looking for here. 3 Likes |
Re: Raising Children by Nobody: 9:37am On May 29, 2023 |
Flog your pikin well whenever him/her messup |
Re: Raising Children by donbachi(m): 9:37am On May 29, 2023 |
Be a good parent kids learns by example. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Raising Children by Micheal56: 9:58am On May 29, 2023 |
God help to raise children Sometimes poverty change a child I know a lot of children from Christian homes into fraud today because of poverty |
Re: Raising Children by Diiiamoond: 10:14am On May 29, 2023 |
Children can't meet an expectation unless the expectation has been explained to them. Children aren't born knowing what appropriate behavior is. They are sponges and can pick up a lot from seeing and hearing things but being told straight out what the expectation is for any given situation cuts down on power struggles and makes setting limits and boundaries easier. 2 Likes |
Re: Raising Children by Kiddogarcia(m): 10:26am On May 29, 2023 |
It takes pure luck and the child willingness to train a child. Na we be your best plug for everything Sexual enhancement tho |
Re: Raising Children by Klass99(f): 10:38am On May 29, 2023 |
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Re: Raising Children by Hathor5(f): 11:02am On May 29, 2023 |
Klass99 Thanks sweet, I love it, will reply shortly in more detail, need to finish lunch first. |
Re: Raising Children by Klass99(f): 11:13am On May 29, 2023 |
Re: Raising Children by finallybusy: 11:33am On May 29, 2023 |
It's not by force to have children. There are many in the world who bore offspring before finding out they were better off childless. For some reason, those unable to feed themselves on a good day are super fertile. From observation, raising children is not for me till the far future. I can't come and kill myself. Yes, older folks without offspring live in regret for not trying — better that than bringing someone into existence only to abandon the person. |
Re: Raising Children by Eunoiaa(f): 12:18pm On May 29, 2023 |
This is not exactly an advice I received personally, just a "technique" for dealing with when kids are behaving bad and correcting them. And I've read it from various parents sharing their stories and I think it's one of the best things ever. If one's child is a bully, for example, because let's face it, we may gush and "aww" about having good, sweet and well-behaved children, but they don't turn out to be so all the time. And not because they are bad, though. They just don't have their judgement well-formed yet. So I have read the experiences of different moms about when their kids are bullying another in the school for their food, cloth, etc., and they had to make their children "go through" what the kid they are bullying is going through. If they were laughing at some kid for the kind of food he brings to school, then their mother start making such meal for them. If they were laughing at some kid's shoe, then their mom made them save up their allowances to afford a shoe for that kid that doesn't have. Another kid was making fun of a kid who couldn't afford to go on a school trip, and then the mother went to pay for that kid's trip while her own child remained at home, and explained to him how he should be grateful for being privileged. In all of these, the parent did sat down to explain what these children did wrong to them, though. And they also told them why they were punishing them. All done without beating them. In the end sha, they learnt their lessons and some of them even go on to become friends with the kids they were bullying. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Raising Children by Eunoiaa(f): 12:50pm On May 29, 2023 |
And of course, the classic one of BEING what you want your children to be like. I've even experienced this myself when my niece came to stay with us. I was always preening and making up myself with a mirror, and in no time, this girl has started carrying a mirror up and down, even keeping a compact mirror in her school bag like she keeps her pencils and stuff, and using it whenever she wants to eat. Same thing with me writing/reading too. I was always doing that and she'd want to copy me. Beg me for a jotter or sheet or paper or any old story-book I was not using again. Either she's writing "jagajaga" that she understands in it or looking from the storybook and writing the words out. Her personality may have more to do with her always wanting to imitate me, though, 'cause there are others kids who've stayed with me and never did so. So I know for her, she'll need positive influences and good role models to "mirror". I also appreciate validating children and their feelings and letting them express their emotions, especially anger. Or frustration. It's okay so long as it's not destructive. It's normal. We get stressed as adults too and we're allowed to let it out and to feel bad. That shouldn't be different for kids. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Raising Children by Nobody: 3:15pm On May 29, 2023 |
Hmmm |
Re: Raising Children by FalseProphet1(m): 3:33pm On May 29, 2023 |
Klass99:I have saved this post for the future so you wouldn't delete it as you use to do. About the deleting, it's the work of the agents of the dark forces, they want you to keep deleting all your hard work unknowingly. I'll suggest you come to my spiritual center for deliverance prayers and you'll be fine. This I have seen. 1 Like |
Re: Raising Children by Nobody: 3:40pm On May 29, 2023 |
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Re: Raising Children by MrBrownJay1(m): 4:52pm On May 29, 2023 |
Hathor5: ALL children are a blessing but also ALL children are different... dont ever believe that what works to properly nurture/raise/educate your 3 first kids, will work for the 4th one. and yes, some children are born dumb and will remain DUMB (like the below): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dYUIEL1lWeU |
Re: Raising Children by Klass99(f): 5:07pm On May 29, 2023 |
Re: Raising Children by FalseProphet1(m): 5:14pm On May 29, 2023 |
Klass99:Please this is a very serious matter, don't joke with it. I care about you that's why I'm showing geninue concern. I want you to be happy. |
Re: Raising Children by Klass99(f): 5:29pm On May 29, 2023 |
Re: Raising Children by cococandy(f): 5:45pm On May 29, 2023 |
Klass99 said it all actually and as parents who were once kids. We can all relate. If you didn’t like something that happened in your parents’ house as a kid, chances are your kids won’t like it. If it didn’t help you become a better person, why would you think doing it to your kids will help them? As for me, what I have is not advice because everyone has said it all. But someone once told me “cherish and make a mental note of every time you hold your kids, because one day it will be the last time you ever held them. And you never know when that will be.” 1 Like |
Re: Raising Children by descarado: 6:12pm On May 29, 2023 |
In this obodo oyibo precisely, two most important things I show my boys by examples. Financial empowerment and minding their business when they see nakid girls. I wear skimpy at home during warm weather. Let it enter their head not to sexualise women body. Their daddy will be like " woman, cover up" but I'm thinking about the future. Don't want story. Secondly, financial empowerment. My first will enter college this September and for anything I buy for him, he has to work for it. No more freebies. You want sneakers, fine but work for it. And we will bargain. If he allows me to cheat him, my luck but if he learn the power of bargaining well, he might outsmart me. |
Re: Raising Children by Klass99(f): 6:12pm On May 29, 2023 |
Re: Raising Children by frozen70(f): 8:23pm On May 29, 2023 |
Hathor5: Counseling a child works for me than beating the child When you counsel a child you will tell him more about the dangers of being a stupid and naughty child That doesn't mean that you can't beat the child, but some words from counseling sinks better than flogging a child |
Re: Raising Children by Hathor5(f): 9:27pm On May 29, 2023 |
MrBrownJay1: True. Each child is different. 1 Like |
Re: Raising Children by Hathor5(f): 9:28pm On May 29, 2023 |
frozen70: I also prefer patience and talking over beatings. God give us a lot of patience. |
Re: Raising Children by Hathor5(f): 9:31pm On May 29, 2023 |
Klass99 You have given some valuable advice up there. Very inspiring. What stood out to me was the prayer part. I have prayed more since I have become a mother. When you realize that you can`t always protect them because you can`t be always be with them, fear kicks in and then you trun to God. But then I also ask myself, have those other parents not prayed too? It`s a theological discussion after all. 1 Like |
Re: Raising Children by Hathor5(f): 9:33pm On May 29, 2023 |
descarado: First part, I have travelled a lot and I have noticed that in those countries in Europe where nakidness is the order of the day due to hot weather, men tend to be more relaxed. They don`t get excited as fast as men in Arab countries where they don`t get to see nakid skin all too often so I totally get you. |
Re: Raising Children by Hathor5(f): 9:34pm On May 29, 2023 |
cococandy: Makes sense. As for me, what I have is not advice because everyone has said it all. But someone once told me “cherish and make a mental note of every time you hold your kids, because one day it will be the last time you ever held them. And you never know when that will be.” Don`t make me cry Coco o. |
Re: Raising Children by Hathor5(f): 9:35pm On May 29, 2023 |
Eunoiaa: Inspiring. Let`s raise kind humans. |
Re: Raising Children by Klass99(f): 9:49pm On May 29, 2023 |
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Re: Raising Children by frozen70(f): 10:03pm On May 29, 2023 |
Hathor5: Amen 🙏 1 Like |
Re: Raising Children by FalseProphet1(m): 12:07am On May 30, 2023 |
Klass99:I'll rest when you tell me that you'll stop deleting your post you spent so much time to compose. |
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