The home is a foundation on which a lot of things about an individual’s life stands. Often times an ill-mannered person is asked the question “who raised you?”

By observation, one can say that kids who did not have present and active parents in their lives often times than not have a twisted kind of life.

Parenting is guidance, parenting is support, parenting is devotion, it’s a whole lot of things. With the kind of adults we see these days I believe there is such a thing as dangerous parenting.

So what are some tips parents can employ to avoid raising morally bankrupt kids?

THE CONTENT IN OUR HOMES

In this digital age, what content are kids being exposed to right in the homes? I recall a friend’s annoyance at seeing his nieces and nephews watching the famous Big Brother Naija with their mum. This is a show that many adults don’t even see the need to watch as it barely has anything of value to offer and showcases ill-behaved persons and immoral acts, yet a mother didn’t deem it wrong to watch this along with her kids.

Some leave adult movies lying around carelessly, some do not check what content their kids are watching. A conscious and responsible parent should see and screen the content in form of movies, cartoons and the likes they intend for viewing by their kids to avoid exposure to the wrong content their little minds cannot understand.

TEACHING THEM RED FLAGS TO LOOK OUT FOR IN PEOPLE

It’s not okay for a parent to feel uncomfortable discussing what they think are intimate issues with their kids. In this increasingly perverted world, kids need to be taught what “private parts” mean. It is for you as an individual to protect so that no one violates your body, kids should be made to understand this fact. There are too many damaged adults who were not protected from sexual harassment as children, because these kids didn’t even know what harassment or abuse was.

Kids should be taught to stop adults from calling them things like “my wife” or “my husband” by making it clear to persons who refer to them as such that their parents have said it’s inappropriate. Kids should be taught to clean and bathe themselves early enough to reduce the chances or need to have others do this for them, as this is often the periods where sexual abuse spring from. Kids should be taught when a seeming play from an adult or fellow child is crossing the line, either crossing the line verbally or physically.

BASIC COURTESY AND MANNERS

A child taught properly and given guidance shows good manners. Kids should be taught to greet their peers and adults alike. They should be taught to clean after themselves as it makes them more responsible at an early age. They should be taught table manners, taught to thank their parents or providers after a meal, after a gift or after a service rendered them. This teaches them gratefulness rather than entitlement, which is a problem with many adults in today’s world.

REWARD FOR GOOD DEEDS & PUNISHMENT FOR BAD ACTIONS

Some parents accept and condone all behaviors their kids’ exhibit. So much that onlookers or strangers get irritated and annoyed when a kid is not disciplined. Good deeds should be acknowledged and rewarded by parents, if not rewarded all the time to avoid a kid thinking they must always get rewarded, then a good deed must always be acknowledged as good, this spurs a child to aspire for even more good.

Same goes for wrong doing, a child that gets away with wrong doing all the time is going to be a very irresponsible adult that never sees the wrong in their actions, no matter how much you try to make them see it.

RULES AND HOME TRAINING ARE NOT FOR GIRLS ALONE

This picture below is self-explanatory on this point, too many parents focus more or solely on their female children. Wrong!

MORE KIDS NEED TO LEARN SELF DEFENSE

Since the dangers around us in society is increasing, it’s a good idea to teach kids self-defense at an early age. They can attend karate or taekwondo classes. This they can keep learning into teenage hood. There would be lesser female victims of rape if self-defense is learned by the majority especially at an early age.

UNDERSTAND THE DEITY CALLED GOD

The homes scream religion but lack God Consciousness. A child that understands obedience to God will respect and obey their parents either in their presence or in their absence.

Too many homes now also pay attention to materialism rather than values. Good values are being lost every day. Teach children early in life the cost of good and evil, the reward with God for good and the punishment with God for evil and prohibited acts. Kids who understand that beyond this life is another life and we will give account to God.


Parenting is tough, and in the end individuals have the responsibility of deciding what they make of their lives as adults. However it is very important to have this solid foundation. Just as life is unpredictable, anything could happen and parents sometimes die and leave their kids behind, the lessons taught these kids. The voices of their parents is what remains with them for a long time to come.

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Cool

If the parents are morally bankrupt themselves nko?

Ok

There's nothing like serving as a good example to your children. If you do, you don't need to open their heads to pour in good morals

If you're morally bankrupt as a parent just forget it

dominique:
If the parents are morally bankrupt themselves nko?

Abi oooo

@ op, it's morally easy as you have highlighted in your post o. Hmmmm.

Try not raise your kids in the following areas

1. Ajegunle
2. Okokomaiko
3.Makoko
4. Ogbor hills Aba




That's all .

Don't quote

Thanks

In today's world. its all a game of luck. being over disciple will make them rebellious self

1. They should avoid Nairaland.

the earlier parents of this generation become aware that parental challenges of the 80s and now are not the same. There is a need to update how kids are brought up nowadays as times and challenges of raising kids have changed.

The best way to raise good kids is to be an example ,kids learn fast from adults around them and as the saying goes "the apple doesn't fall far from the tree".

tosyne2much:
There's nothing like serving as a good example to your children

If you're morally bankrupt as a parent just forget it

You're right

Agree with most, disagree on these two.

”self defense will reduce rapes” NO. Parents should teach their children to respect other people’s bodies, they aren’t entitled to them. They should be taught No means No and to speak up when they see evil.

Using God as a threat to teach children to be good is not ideal. What happens when the child grows up to be an atheist?

There’s no recipe to a morally correct child and like a commenter said “it’s a game of luck”. Everyone has the freedom of choice and they choose whether you are mounding em to the correct path or not but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t mound em to the correct part and this is because by building them to the correct path we are installing a conscience which won’t be there if we leave our kids to just roam around like free range turkeys.

I have met kids religiously mounded to look perfect and they turned out to be Lucifer close doors and open to some extent. Just as I have meet the ones who grew up in toxic homes and they ended up becoming better cos they have seen the demons first hand and swore never to be like the demons.

Moreover we live in the 21st century dominated by fiber optic cables able to make you see things wireless and communicate hidden hence we can be whatever we want to be and sooner or later the true nature of ourselves is exposed despite the moral cocktail we were infused with and trust me our true natures are very far from what we were lectured as as kids by our parents who just wanted the best.


In conclusion: No Moral Cockail exist. Just teach your kids what’s actually right and wrong and hope they listen to the rights and learn new better and right things along the way while ignoring the immoral things cos the latter is usually intoxicating and everyone seems to participate in it today making it look cool some way or other yet we know it’s bad and won’t let our innocent children indulge in it.

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StrikeBack:
Try not raise your kids in the following areas

1. Ajegunle
2. Okokomaiko
3.Makoko
4. Ogbor hills Aba

That's all .

Don't quote

I was raised in two of the mentioned places. Does that mean I'm morally bankrupt?

Please 90% of the time, we define our lives by the choices we make as individuals.

Sadly, what we have today are Fathers and Mothers but very few parents.

Nairaland has changed o


sensible topics making fp all day,,,

Please keep this up o

tosyne2much:
There's nothing like serving as a good example to your children

If you're morally bankrupt as a parent just forget it

Gbamest!!!

I'm sharing this piece on my Facebook wall straight away.

Hope I wont be going against copyrights law?

StrikeBack:
Try not raise your kids in the following areas

1. Ajegunle
2. Okokomaiko
3.Makoko
4. Ogbor hills Aba




That's all .

Don't quote

You did not Mention
1.Apapa
2.Bariga
3.Mushin

For me;
Teach them the dangers of social media, 'entertainments' like big brother..and oh! from NairaLand too.

Help them to have a proper view of sex according to the Bible not the ones clergies teach from pulpits.

But how can we help our children if we are already morally corrupt?.....teach by example

Befriend them and Watch their associates closely.

Always hand them over to God in prayer cos it's not easy especially in this our generation

Oh

Interesting read!

dominique:
If the parents are morally bankrupt themselves nko?

E don finish be that

Teach them how to manage the risks of sports betting.

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