I really like to know if its permissible in islam for a female to woo a male she truly loves, even if hes a muslim& both are single?

i.e an eligible muslim sprinster to make an advance towards another eligible muslim bachelor

thanks in anticipation of responses. Ma salam

This is intresting but i doubt it,but try and use your own initiative to woo him indirectly by allowing him notice you first,because you may become weaker in the process since you are the one that feels for him and not him.Hope to see more ans

nice one.

This suggestion may work but i really want to hear from the very bold ones who can bury the shame and open up with fear.

sister toba, someone just gave u an advice on how to go about it.

young girl go to bed and let adults respond

^^^^^ Adulthood is relative.

Some will say juvenile is the one who was born after Shagari was sworn in.

Others will say if you never saw Gowon as Head of state, you need not to stay up after 10.

Others will say if you are bornat the tail end of the war, you have no business claiming that you are grown.

Others will say if you didn't have any memory of President Azikwe, you are still too young.

Yet others will say if you are born after independence, you are wet behind the ears, still,

@Toba, tell me why i should let you remain up after 10 pm on a Saturday night?

abegi address the op and leave me alone. i knew when murtala mohammad was assasinated and obj took over. how u may want to ask. My father was a senator of the federal Republic of Nigeria from 1979 to 1983. I remember papa awolowo used to visit our house in 1004 flat in VI. papa Adesanya(Late now) is few year younger than my father. i hope this gives u a clue as to how old u think i am.

You can find out the guys intrest and follow it up from there,the clubs he goes to play the sports and you could also enagage in it or learn it,like golf,tennis, etc,but if you live in Nigeria,people dont have time for recreation,but you must get closer to him some how .

But seems you want to have a fling and i know Nigerian guys will respond to the move easily regardless of religion unless the person his an hardliner or tabliq guy.

im talking about something serious and not just a fling. as in marriage heading kinda relationship

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abegi address the op and leave me alone. i knew when murtala mohammad was assasinated and obj took over. how u may want to ask. My father was a senator of the federal Republic of Nigeria from 1979 to 1983. I remember papa awolowo used to visit our house in 1004 flat in VI. papa Adesanya(Late now) is few year younger than my father. i hope this gives u a clue as to how old u think i am.[/Quote]1983 i became a father. and i was not a teenage father, either. now you know that you need to go to bed when i tell you, passing for an uncle. everything is relative. i am also relatively young, the reason i can with people like you. awolowo was a child to my father.

Sweetnecta:

1983 i became a father. and i was not a teenage father, either. now you know that you need to go to bed when i tell you, passing for an uncle. everything is relative. i am also relatively young, the reason i can with people like you. awolowo was a child to my father.

ehn ehn. I thought as much. how come u have a lot of things in common with afa olabowale? i remember telling the chief imam that i have a daughter and i also told one of our moderators. now the age difference between us isnt that much then. check my profile pixs to see her. i had her in the late 80s. Thank God shes now a graduate

I dont have exclusively to pre-civil war birth. or you think there was no muslim birth in yoruba family then? I have a lot of brothers born few years around my birth. you know there are about 40 people who look like one another. and even many more that may have parallel experiences.

age group is say 5 yeas give and take. same generation is 20 years. so whats your issue?

when you say a person is young, to some another person you are young. and yet to some you are very old.

while i will not go into your profile to corrupt my mind, i have many friends who i am older than and their 30something children are parents already.

Sweetnecta:

while i will not go into your profile to corrupt my mind, i have many friends who i am older than and their 30something children are parents already.

are u that weak? as in u can get tempted looking at an ordinary photograph?

Yes. I am that weak. I am different from you who is strong. I struggle to protect myself, petitioning Allah to help. This is why I didnt have children at a very early age.

what are u trying to say?

He is trying to say he never fornicated unlike u toba that doesn't free anything in skirt. Hope that sinks into ur medulla

virus, u know me before?

dont infect me with women virus abeg

He is trying to say he never fornicated

i dont think that's what he said.

my question is if no suitable muslim men are available for a muslim lady who wants to marry, can she be freed to consider single non-muslims eg christians [maybe nominal ones].

these days with so many women overseas and earning good money even in nigeria, it kind of narrows the dating pool sometimes.

abeg help me ask these 'believers' oooo. They ve been evasive since and opted to discuss me rather than address the question. May be some of them actually do it

@Tpia@: last man a muslim woman should consider is a non muslim man.

If there is no man on earth. Ehhen. If this not the case, then it is not permissible.

A muslim woman should be 2nd, 3rd or 4th wife of a believer instead of being my one and only to a disbeliever.

Oun to yeni lo yeni. Yeri o yeti okunrin. I know they are doing it now; this is blatant disregard to natural law.

An eligible woman should make proposal to a man of her choice, as long as he is a believer; like the same kind.

A muslim woman should be 2nd, 3rd or 4th wife of a believer instead of being my one and only to a disbeliever.

what if no believers are available, or the ones who are, already have up to ten wives or above and arent willing to take on more.

maybe things are tough due to the economic recession.

can the woman consider dating outside her religion then.

oun to yeni lo yeni. Yeri o yeti okunrin. I know they are doing it now; this is blatant disregard to natural law.

which natural law is that.

just curious.

@Tpia@: « #23 on: Today at 02:16:26 AM »
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A muslim woman should be 2nd, 3rd or 4th wife of a believer instead of being my one and only to a disbeliever.

what if no believers are available, or the ones who are, already have up to ten wives or above and arent willing to take on more.

maybe things are tough due to the economic recession.

can the woman consider dating outside her religion then.[/Quote]In the extreme case like that, Allah still does not allow a believing woman to marry a disbelieving man. Are there muslim men around the earth that can be her husband? Yes. And that man is who she should find. If all muslim men are now with 10 wives, let her be the 11th of another man because she avoids being a spouse of the disbeliever, yet she is married under the prevailing condition of over population of women. in every Islamic situation, there are conditions and the condition she finds herself is 10/1, so let her be the 11th of a muslim. Allah is Algafurun AlRahimin. Who wants a cross between her heart and the heart of her husband?




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oun to yeni lo yeni. Yeri o yeti okunrin. I know they are doing it now; this is blatant disregard to natural law.


which natural law is that.

just curious.[/Quote]would you want your husband to be a woman? that natural law. oko loko.

tpia@:

what if no believers are available, or the ones who are, already have up to ten wives or above and arent willing to take on more.

maybe things are tough due to the economic recession.

can the woman consider dating outside her religion then.





which natural law is that.

just curious.

I wonder again Tpia@'s curiosity on d marriage issue. I thought it is a toba thingy. Or cld dat b d new way to 'winning souls'? wonder shall neva end o

^^you're really too sensitive.

that does not bode well.


it was a simple question- either you answer or you dont.

end of.

the fact that you cannot relate to the situation, doesnt mean others shouldnt.

sweetnecta has given a reply, so let the matter end there if it doesnt concern you.

^^you're really too sensitive.

that does not bode well.

really? i almost took it as a compliment

it was a simple question- either you answer or you dont.

end of.

the fact that you cannot relate to the situation, doesnt mean others shouldnt.

well, I didnt stop them from doing that. It is like a many dimensional scenario. I looked into d dimension i wanted to.

sweetnecta has given a reply, so let the matter end there if it doesnt concern you.

i'll take d bolded to mean a plea

@ purple, i bet matters on Islam for Muslims concern me more than they do you

deols link=topic=777678.msg9350176#msg9350176:
i bet matters on Islam for Muslims concern me more than they do you

is this part of jihad?

yes. she is firm on resolve.

smh. u are one of those preventing me from taking one of the islamic 'damsel' around here

@ op,

Apart from certain biological roles, there is no much difference between what a man and a woman can do in Islam. A man can propose to a woman and so can a woman to a man

It is not a 21st century thing nor brought about by western civilisation. It is something that has been allowed in Islam since 1400 centuries ago