Kobojunkie:
So all those who claimed to have been led by him who still ended up in terrible straits, some meeting their end in marriage, what do you say of those? God did not leave them well?

If you, after doing all you have listed in your OP, were to find yourself caught up in a terrible marriage what would you say would say then?

Being led by God doesn't take away personal responsibility in learning and doing the things that make a marriage work.

crackhaus:

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And what if the person/people coming around don't tick all your desires, do you keep waiting for someone who ticks all of it?

I also do not think a 10/10 of written specifications would always be possible. That may only be possible if we could customise human beings.

This is why I encourage that people prayerfully and and carefully write out what they really need and desire in a partner. That way, they'd always have an objective reference point in making a selection.

I for instance have my non-negotiables. Those non-negotiables are things I prioritise above everything else, such that an omission of 1 is a clear sign to not proceed.

That's if the person believes in God. Unbelievers also have successful marriages.

I sincerely no longer have opinions regarding unbelievers. Whatever convictions I have, are as the Word of God stipulates.

As long as the person you chose did not tick 10/10 of your desires, you've settled. Most people settle, and that's not a bad thing either.

For me, settling means a conscious awareness that the person you've chosen doesn't really satisfy your needs/preference but you've decided to go with it anyway.

A person may have always wanted a Toyota for instance, but found a Honda they surprisingly fell in love with. The Honda may not have some of the things a Toyota offers...but the Honda also comes with certain things that the Toyota doesn't offer

Settling is a matter of satisfaction. If the choice truly makes you happy, you haven't settled.

And realistically, how many people tick 10/10 of their partner's desires?
Not forgetting that even if you did find someone who ticked 10/10 of yours, have you ticked 10/10 of theirs?

Na two-way thing na...

Once again, I never spoke to a 10/10
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PrimadonnaO:
■ Being led by God doesn't take away personal responsibility in learning and doing the things that make a marriage work.

So, being led by God does not in fact mean your marriage is not guaranteed to end in divorce then? So what is the point of claiming you are led by God in marriage is chances are your situation will turn out no much different from that of others who didn't pretend to have had God in the equation?.