popcykaylah:
I didn't read your story but if na the reverse ve the case you won't see anything wrong with . Your greed led you to him cos you think he's doing well abroad ..deal with it,that's what marriage is about

But isn’t it good to go for what’s best?
If your daughter have the options of a pauper and an obviously well to do man as her fiancé what will you advice her to do?

Mightysomadina88:
are u jobless？

How many people get job for Nigeria ?

Maybe he's paying you back in your own coin.
It's a case of "Ole gbé, Olè gba". You're both in the relationship to exploit each other.

Hmmm ... she took him at his word and paid no attention to red flags. I can understand that because she sees herself as an independent person ... married or not ... what's hers is hers what's his is his ... the reason his name is not on anything she bought .... he wants land title he must buy his own land. It took years for her to realize he is a scammer.... a scammer without boundaries ... not even his wife is spared. It cut both ways ... men play women and more women play men ... we just need to have our eyes opened or we get caught up in the game and don't even know. Nice story.

The OP na male while the story is from a woman. All of una na yahoo yahoo. 😂😂😂

Domistar5:


I read it thinking it was a nairalander that it affected. But when I got to the last paragraph, my moral dropped. So na Nigeria series I have been reading? Mtweeeew

You spoke my mind. The thing pain me ooh.

Ara21:
I love women like you, you are not dependent on man. I am not the type of woman who depends on man for my stuff but the little I am making please don't put eyes, I love my husband because he understands this.

He shouldn't, but you can put your own eyes in his baa.

Switruth:
The OP na male while the story is from a woman. All of una na yahoo yahoo. 😂😂😂

it was a copied story, from a news paper.

The link is there

Uyi168:
....
moral lesson of the story pls?

Me self they wander

foleskay:

Yahoo yahoo indeed. I hope ur husband is not among the yahoo boys in my compound. Those guys fckk a minimum of 12 girls everyday. They've camped about 5 poly girls insise home since yesterday night fa. What a crazy world! Three boys camping 5 girls inside a flat. Naija which way

Living the life ...lol

I will advise any reasonable lady not to have anything to do with any Yoruba man in the name of marriage, they are worst than serpent especially Tinubu

Bunkbars:
He shouldn't, but you can put your own eyes in his baa.

Honestly women matter with money tire me. They can help u spend ur money Wella but theirs no go area

blesdman:

Honestly women matter with money tire me. They can help u spend ur money Wella but theirs no go area

Only when man don die, them go agree to take responsibility or support.

Ara21:
I love women like you, you are not dependent on man. I am not the type of woman who depends on man for my stuff but the little I am making please don't put eyes, I love my husband because he understands this.

He shouldn't put eyes who then provides in your home? Your assertion that you are not not dependent is false then.

You are both dependent on your self and on him financially while he depends financially on himself solely, your money is yours while his is ours. Clap for yourself.

A man supports the family financially solely for 100years no one hears when the reverse is the case for one year divorce card on the table.

Chibuzoripob:
typical My IPOB brethren . The IGBO wife just confam what the general public knw & exposed our IPOB lifestyle.


God bless hardworking women

Yeah. Written and edited by Peju Akande
That tells a lot about the authenticity

jojothaiv:
Along the line, his business just began to crumble and this happens when you are fraudulent; you cannot sustain good business on fraud, you just can’t!

When I saw this I know it was over before the goodbyes.

You are right, her rating of him plummeted when he hit the financial rock.

Same way we have yahoo yahoo wife, my neighbor is a case study. There is no marriage that is complete but in this case this is wickedness and heartless attitude one of partner will carry out, the worst of all, stabbing your partner at the back is like stabbing yourself.

meum:
This is your side of the story. There are usually 3 sides to a story. In this case: your side of the story; your husband’s side of the story & the truth.

If everything you said is the truth(which I doubt because some people can garnish stories for Africa) then your man no too try.

So many ladies enjoying and even squandering men's money, the men are not saying anything.

Mrs Man.... funny

Mtchew

WHEN THE NIGERIAN CITIZEN BEHAVE HORRIBLE, PEOPLE AROUND THE CITIZEN ENJOY THEIR RIDE

vickydevoka:

Your story is quite touching, buh u said u continue to use your maiden name right. Hakimi continued to use his mother's name and all the Nigerian ladies wanted the die. Me I can't trust any Human being. If my wife finds out my property is in my mother or brothers name , if she wants to leave , let her leave. U married me bcus of love or money?

Ladies only cry of something been bad only when it doesn't favour them. I
Imagine the guy doing the reverse, you will see complains everywhere.

When the man builds wealth , he wants his wife and children to inherit but when a woman builds she.wants only the children to inherit, the man in most cases isn't in the picture.

TyroneP:
You know all those stories you read online and you say, ‘eiyahh, stories that touch.” Hmm, my sister, that is my story, o!

This man, yes, I will refer to him as this man. When I met him years back, I was already working and driving a small car, you know those Picantos that flooded Lagos in those days? Yes, I was one of those who owned one. I was lucky to have landed a good job but aside from that, na sharp Ibo babe I be na, I know how to do market well.
I started a shuttle bus business on the side; for a church. I got my younger brother to run it for me. After about two years, we got another one; at this time, my husband and I had begun to court, he was doing business in Dubai then.
Then Dubai was a very hot destination for Nigerians and I honestly thought his business was doing good.

What was he doing? Buying and selling na? What else? All kinds of stuff; computer parts, female wears…stuff, sha!
Ok, when the matter got to the point of Marriage, he went to know my people in the village. They met with his, you know the rest how these things are, we had our Igba kwu and church. A few years later the kids began to come, we have five children!
Along the line, his business just began to crumble and this happens when you are fraudulent; you cannot sustain good business on fraud, you just can’t!

To be honest, I began to suspect he wasn’t doing genuine business shortly after we got married. He was dodgy about certain things, certain monies coming in, you know, I would ask him for certain papers and he was quite dodgy about them. I decided to mind my own business, after all he had been doing his thing before we met, so which one be my own?
I also knew I had to separate my business from him. I continued to use my maiden name in all my transactions on my own business.

Then he ran into customs wahala in Dubai, his goods were seized and that marked the end of things for him. Naturally as his wife, I encouraged him to be positive, I told him he had to get the right papers, organize his business in such a way that he would not raise red flags every time he passes through customs.
At that time, my job and businesses were thriving, I had five buses in my fleet, I had two schools and the church as clients; also, I had already bought a land from doing cooperative in my office.

Now, that land was bought with the mind that at least, I would be able to give my sons something to inherit. Land is a surer investment; transport business is good but buses always run down, break down, need fixing with you spending money…you get?
So, I first got a piece of land which I bought in my maiden name. That one became wahala for oga at home. He hala me tire, we had long quarrels. He wanted me to put his name on the papers for the land, me kwa, I refused, instead I put the name of my first son; we have three boys and two girls.

I then purchased a second land, again I used my second son’s name….I was just doing business as per say, e dey my blood and this job may not last. I wanted something to retire to as well; I am not the type of woman who waits for a man to provide everything for her and in a way, yes, I wanted to support my husband’s hustle, if he was unable to provide for us, would I fold my arms but no bi say make I kuku carry the load of provision for my head.

But even before the wahala of his business, I was paying school fees, rent, fueling our gen, paying house helps, lesson teacher, driver…Nne, I was Mrs Man in the house o!
Things got bad and my husband just became a degenerate!
You know, he would faff around and go to the club in the evening and come back at past 3am! Biko which kind wahala be dis?
So, I decided to help out, na, isn’t that what a good wife should do?
I swear, I regret it to date!

What did I do? I asked my brother, who I run the businesses with, I mean the one who manages the fleet of buses and over sees the new business we began, to allow my husband to join him, so at least he would have a sense of responsibility, instead of him parading night clubs like a male prostitute!
Abi? As he goes to clubs, no bi my money e dey go spend there?

Husband joined my brother and after a few weeks, na so so complain e dey complain; my brother did this, my brother did that, wahala every day… ol Gehl, I had to ask my brother to leave!
Because the quarrels were everyday and for my peace of mind, I just begged my brother, biko move to the other things we are doing; I asked him to focus fully on the nylon business we had just begun because all I heard every day was my husband complaining and my brother calling to tell me to tell my husband to back off!

Hummn. My sister like I told you, I still had my job and I had five children to raise, so my mind was most times not on the bus business or nylon business.
Then under my husband, who claimed he was helping me save cost that my brother was squandering, the buses would develop fault more often than before; yes, during my brother’s time, the buses too had problems, so it wasn’t a new thing for me.

The difference was that the cost of maintenance skyrocketed! My husband fired the old drivers and hired new ones then he would bring mechanics and his new drivers to me and they would complain about this and that and ask me to bring huge sums of money. At first, I would just sign the cheques for payment of these parts but after like six months, I began to document the things being repaired.
It was just on a hunch; I discovered I was being fleeced by the drivers and mechanics…they were fixing the same things they claimed had been fixed earlier.

Na every six months dem dey repair fuel pump? Gear box? Shocks?
I vexed, one day, I accused one of them of being a thief and cursed him and told him because of this thing he did to me God would punish him. Do you know what the man told me? He said, ‘Madam, na your husband dey do am, na hin tell us to increase price then he will pocket it!’
Nne, I shock but to be sincere, I no too shock because my brother had said the same thing months back.
The driver dropped the bus key and stopped working for us.
So, I had to call my brother, I told him and he told me some of the drivers had called him to tell him the same thing but that he didn’t want to ruin my marriage so he kept quiet after the first time he told me.

Chineke! I said which marriage? Marriage that I had been the one managing since the day we got married. I paid the rents, paid the hospital bills for delivery of all five children, paid the maids, the drivers, bought the land and…and yet he squanders what he gets on ashis at clubs! Abi you think I don’t know that he meets with ashis? Or is he meeting his aunties at the club?
Biko shift o!

I told my brother, enough is enough!
So, I am telling you the same, I no do again… to your tent o Israel!

Nigeria Series written and edited by Peju Akande and based on true stories

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2023/07/chai-my-husband-has-been-doing-me-yahoo-yahoo/

Serves you right as a woman.

You saw the signs yet married him.

You saw he was dodgy with questions about a count and his businesses before marriage and you finally entered and went ahead to birth five kids?

who did you think will raise those 5kids? the irresponsible man? No you.

You will play the role of a husband in that marriage.


You also after seeing he irresponsible he is, he could t manage his business yet Joh handed over your business over to him to save a marriage, which marriage are Joh saving when a man is alteady visiting clubs and coming back 3am when he isn't Davido, mscheeew!


a man not faithful in little, u carried transport business to him to run? Let him continue to fleece you so you get sense.


Now raise the 5kids yourself. you are husband and wife at the same time while you feed a lazy man when you are not a widow.

mschewww!

damoobaba:


So many ladies enjoying and even squandering men's money, the men are not saying anything.

SHOULD WE CONTINUE TO DO LIKE THIS, IN THIS PART OF THE WORLD, AS THE CITIZEN DON'T ASHAMED OF THEIR SELF

When a woman controls small power, she gets intoxicated. When a man marries a good wife things turn around for good. However, the evidence of marrying a bad wife is shown when things gets bad. He that finds a good woman obtains favour from the lord. He was doing well before you entered his life and his business started going down and you are enjoying his downfall because yours was rising.

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The number one mistake women make in marriage is their husband recruitment process.


If you want a good and deserving husband, my dear sister, you must pay close attention to the kind of men you accept as boyfriend then as husband.



Many ladies have useless criteria for selecting a would be husband; he must be tall, short, dark, fair, huge and tiny, come from your community and attend the same Church, and must not bear certain names too. Certain kind of men must never stop them to say hello, who the hell is he to dare stop a miss world like her when he knows he is not as handsome as Drake and as rich as Elon Musk?




You cannot reject Nkem Owoh, Chiwetalu Agu, Kanayo O Kanayo and accept Aki and Pawpaw as husband and still expect your kids to be as tall as Iroko tree, mbanu nne.



Dear single ladies, if you want a good deserving husband, humble yourself and revisit how you recruit your boyfriends and would be husband.


When amazing husbands like us write some tips to help you single ladies spot future useless horsebands, you ladies over sabi and overblown ego will never allow una learn.



Do I have any sorry to give? Nope, and you know why? I am sure more than 50 different awesome guys that would have made great husbands did approached this lady when she was single but she turned them down to accept this asinwine as husband, abeg allow us to rest oh, today is Sunday

BigJoe19:
It's very obvious you are a talkative, the way you just kept on writing unnecessary things showed it, some men are really trying. You provide but you are a big baggage of trouble.

Seconded. Aswear I tire as I dey read.

SURElee:




Serves you right as a woman.

You saw the signs yet married him.

You saw he was dodgy with questions about a count and his businesses before marriage and you finally entered and went ahead to birth five kids?

who did you think will raise those 5kids? the irresponsible man? No you.

You will play the role of a husband in that marriage.


You also after seeing he irresponsible he is, he could t manage his business yet Joh handed over your business over to him to save a marriage, which marriage are Joh saving when a man is alteady visiting clubs and coming back 3am when he isn't Davido, mscheeew!


a man not faithful in little, u carried transport business to him to run? Let him continue to fleece you so you get sense.


Now raise the 5kids yourself. you are husband and wife at the same time while you feed a lazy man when you are not a widow.

mschewww!

God bless you my sister, your fellow ladies are the cause of their marital woes and other issues in life, will they ever learn? No I don't think so, we mueve

Sorry. How did you meet your husband?