I really need advice on what to tell my friend. We just concluded our 2nd mbbs, i passed buh she failed and was withdrawn from med school. Not as if she aint intelligent buh due to NMC quota regulation exercise, only 60 out of 150 in my class passed.
Now she is so bitter and depressed, i'm her closest friend and i dont know what to tell her, worst is she calls me everytime, and i never say the right things, she might even end up crying.
Truly i'm confused cos i have never been there, i dont know how it feels.
I cant just leave or ignore her cos i feel this is the time to show am a true friend. Buh i honestly lack words. And each time she cries, it breaks my heart.

Be a good listener, a shoulder to lean on. Try not to patronize her with empty words, encourage her to come out of her depression. She will be fine.

Its a pity,I feel for your friend,I can only imagine how depressed she must be,watching her dream fly out the window.
The only thing you can do for her is be her rock like someone already said,don't let her do all the callings,call her from time to time,listen to her,make her realize its not the end,there could be something better for her out there,you could take her out once in awhile,and please don't make the mistake of trying to talk about you making it(atleast not now)encourage her not to give up on hope and hard work,don't try to act differently from who she used to know,don't give her the impression that you pity her,do those things you normally do together and with time she'll be better.

Na this kind thing make me bone studying medicine for this country,they can fit frustrate person,upon say person go dey house 4 years dey wait to gain admission, after dem go wave the person,even after all these, fake doctors still full everywhere for naija,mtcheeeeew.

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Come seedord,this thing don comot from play o,what's your obsession with me na,must you stalk me?you are beginning to make me worry about being kidnapped,if I'm looking for a boyfriend how does that affect you?let me be na,na wa o.

Na you sabi o,just stop passing comments my way.

now i understand how desperately some b***ch wants attension on nairaland!

Kpelle bt jst encourage her notin else man go do

Its sad to be dropped out of med school,i have seen that happen to abt 2close friends and truth is there is nothing you can do other than just be there for her,listen more than you speak and pray for her,when she is ready help her in choosing another department,she can go back to medicine after her 1st degree if she still wants to that's what both of my friends did.Please don't let her wallow in self pity.She ll be fine.

Yea, its very very painful.
Not just the career tingy, she talks abt the dissappointment, trauma, shame after all the hardwork.
Everyone thinks she's a failure, classmates, younger ones, parents, friends and all that.

andromida:

Be a good listener, a shoulder to lean on. Try not to patronize her with empty words, encourage her to come out of her depression. She will be fine.

seconded

I have a friend who suffered thesame way because he failed a professional exam, he began to feel like a failure, the shame of falling short of other peoples expectation but this is reality some people will pass some will fail and have to try again it does not mean she should quit and be walking about with an aura of failure because if she does that i can assure her that she will fail at other things. She should keep her head up.

Thanks @ all for the advice. I should listen more, cos talking doesnt seem to work.

Flashaldrin:

I really need advice on what to tell my friend. We just concluded our 2nd mbbs, i passed buh she failed and was withdrawn from med school. Not as if she aint intelligent buh due to NMC quota regulation exercise, only 60 out of 150 in my class passed.
Now she is so bitter and depressed, i'm her closest friend and i dont know what to tell her, worst is she calls me everytime, and i never say the right things, she might even end up crying.
Truly i'm confused cos i have never been there, i dont know how it feels.
I cant just leave or ignore her cos i feel this is the time to show am a true friend. Buh i honestly lack words. And each time she cries, it breaks my heart.

Hey Bestie, where were you before now. Couldn't you take her through tutorials, past questions & practice etc. A friend in need is a friend in deed, if you were looking for her best interest then you should have been her back bone before now.

OK the deed has been done. Its never too late to be her shoulder to cry on. Help her out this time and make sure she makes up for what she has lost. I am happy you didnt flunk your exams, would have given you 12 strokes of cane. She fell now, try and make rise for later.

Take care of u dear.

Hei sweri, Thank God you are here. Missed you loads!!
Well i tried my best for her, considering the time i had. Med school is so tedious you rarely get time for yourself, you know how it is.
Well, i'll do the best i can for her, and i have got to be careful too, considering she's quite vulnerable now, dont want any 'falling in love' to happen.
Thanks o, i'm glad i passed, though i aint afraid of your strokes cos even you do give me, you would do it so romantically i would want more. Lolz.

Flashaldrin:

Hei sweri, Thank God you are here. Missed you loads!!
Well i tried my best for her, considering the time i had. Med school is so tedious you rarely get time for yourself, you know how it is.
Well, i'll do the best i can for her, and i have got to be careful too, considering she's quite vulnerable now, dont want any 'falling in love' to happen.
Thanks o, i'm glad i passed, though i aint afraid of your strokes cos even you do give me, you would do it so romantically i would want more. Lolz.

I have been here. Missed u too plenty!
Ok try harder for her. Just do it such that she doesn't fall in love & you don't fall in ur grades.
"Intelligent, you can tell". Remember that so I knew u wld ace it.
Na if u fail, my strokes of cane would involve a mark and wound on ur butt. No romantics for olodos .
Take care dear.

She shud encourage herself by herself. D rison is because she herself is in d best positn 2 push ahead and make her decision. TOO much of sorry MIGHT cos internal weaknes. Its beta 4d 2 of u 2 sit 2geda n look 4 oda alternatives. Aldou its hard, but dats d way c it. Arise and carry d crox wit prayas, God wil c u tru

@slimgee, thanks alot.
@bestie, lolz. take care too.
btw, i miss your posts. you post rarely these days.

I was opportuned to be in a meeting with an international celebrity today- Erica Freemantle. She told a story of how and why she made it in life. One of her drives was people. Everybody told her she was ugly, a failure and wouldnt amount to anything. Google her name, you'l get an idea how successful she is.
Point: its okay when people say negative things about you, I take it as a challenge to prove them wrong. Your friend can be a drop out in Medicine but be an ambassador in another field. Let her get it off her mind, I mean being a failure, pick up the remaining pieces and stitch them together and move on. With God on her side,we'll celebrate her soon. Cheers.