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didi100:
■ Then I open the WhatsApp and saw the unbelievable.I could not believe my 12years old sister is this rotten.My mum warned her not to open Facebook but she opened.I also saw dirty chats.On the WhatsApp I saw porn related stickers and porn videos a boy sent to her.This girl was smart enough to put on disappearing messages.I must have missed some dirty acts she did.
Pls help me.I am in the University and most of her holidays,I'm not around.I feel like a failure as the first born and senior brother.I never thought or imagine my sister will be such.I need you guys advice.No body in my family know about this except me and she will be going back to the boarding house on Sunday.I need your answers urgently.What should I do I will send screenshot of what I saw.Pls Admin,send to the front page

Talk to your mum about putting her on birth control immediately . If she is already sexually active, it is only a matter of time before you start hearing the worst may have happened. You have the advantage of approaching her, not as a parent but as an experienced older brother who is himself, not a virgin, and has no blinders on about these things, so take advantage of that at least, but make sure to be sensitive to the fact that she is still a 12-year old. Teach her why you would rather she not be into these things.

She needs to know why it is important for her to take care of herself. She needs to be made to see that the path she has chosen would require a lot of work on her path and you need to help her understand all that would be required to keep herself safe from infection and pregnancy and also being taken advantage of by predators out there. Please be patient and kind as you help her along so she comes to realize for herself that she is indeed not old enough for what she may already be involved with and that it is OK to quit until much later.

I'm more shocked than Buhari at the messages your 12 year old sister is sending and receiving.

If she's still a virgin, then it's only a matter of time until she's not.

Firstly, you have to confront her to find out if any of those guys are above the age of 17 because that would be paedophilia doing such things with her.

In addition to advising her about the dangers of sex at her age, you need to find ways to chanel her energies into more meaningful engagements.

One of the reasons why she's like this is because she has lots of free time on her hands. That's why she can go see boys.

Occupy her time with numerous activities to stimulate her mind, also take away her smartphone if possible.

At the end of the day, she needs someone to seriously watch her. A disciplinarian that will be on her neck 24/7 or she will be lost to the streets.

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didi100:
■ Thanks for the advice.I also opened her google search and say things like "moan meaning,what comes out of a boys penis,cum meaning,what styles will make a boy love me"

She is at that age and it makes sense that she is curious to know as much as possible about the subject. What she needs is a grown-up to help her obtain the knowledge she needs in a safe and meaningful way.

Are your parents religious folks whom she is not close to at all? If so, try to make yourself available to her as much as possible to answer all the questions she may have on boys. Make sure you teach her only facts and to do that go online to medical websites to learn as much as you can of the body, sex, hormones etc. By presenting a knowledgeable side to rival Google, you make yourself a source she can trust maybe even more than the many anonymous people online she may already already be listening to. Do not hold anything back from her so she has all the information she desired to have to better understand why she is not ready for much of what she may already be experiencing.

If you get time to, ask her what her interests are and try to find ways to get her to focus on those healthy things like art and drawing, reading, learning to play musical instruments, learning a skill, etc. An idle mind, they say, is the devil's workshop.

Don't fight her or shout at her
Call her n tell her u hv seen all the dirty things.
Then let her know she should always use condom n stick to one guy.

Anything pass this advise she will hide more, bring more surprises.

Never heard of a lady named Hillary

didi100:
Good evening all.I'm an old member here but because of shame I created this account.This post is long,pls bear with me and read to the end.I'm 23 years old,my baby sister is 12 years.
She's in a female boarding school.We parked to our own house two years ago and my mum's secondary friend daughter is living next to us.So whenever my sister come back,she will go there and visit her.We allow her to go there as per only girl in the house and a friend is just in the next compound.
They are also some boys around that are + and - 3years her age if I am not mistaken.I and my Mom have warned her about those boys.My mom always tell her to be mindful of them because she is a female and if anything happen,she will be the one to bear the consequences.
She came back for her first term holiday,my mom gave my sister her old phone because she has some primary females friends and our female cousins too she like communicating with using my moms phone so my mom gave my sis her old phone to use.
Yesterday,I wanted to look for something in the phone.She was begging me to give her the phone and I shouted at her to open the phone.I just felt like opening the gallery which she didn't know of and I saw a picture of a boy's dick.I was surprised and confused.I scroll more.I then saw pictures of her snapping her breast and pictures of her vagina.She didn't know I saw all this.I asked her to remove all the passwords.I left her presence and went somewhere else.
Then I open the WhatsApp and saw the unbelievable.I could not believe my 12years old sister is this rotten.My mum warned her not to open Facebook but she opened.I also saw dirty chats.On the WhatsApp I saw porn related stickers and porn videos a boy sent to her.This girl was smart enough to put on disappearing messages.I must have missed some dirty acts she did.
Pls help me.I'm in the University and most of her holidays,I'm not around.I feel like a failure as the first born and senior brother.I never thought or imagine my sister will be such.I need you guys advice.No body in my family know about this except me and she will be going back to the boarding house on Sunday.I need your answers urgently.What should I do Pls matured response only. I will send screenshot of what I saw.Pls Admin,send to the front page
Modified:For the virgin part,she said her ex school.That was primary school and the boy which I know was her classmate.He should be 10 or 11 then

1. Did not read. Lol.

2. Snapshot.

3. See that jobless fellow is already here dissecting. Person spend Christmas Eve, Christmas, New Year’s Eve and New Year here, yet he wan convince me say he get life outside Nairaland. Hehehehehe. Incel.

Hmm dis wan deep OOO😹

maureensylvia:
Heeeeey
First of all, YOUR MOTHER DID A VERY TERRIBLE UPBRINGING!
Lemme go and digest this horrible story I’m coming

Kobojunkie and ValCon888 has dropped wise ways on approaching the matter; sex education is needed.

Now you, this isn't necessary. Next time don't be so narrow-minded. There are some parents that watch their kids like hawk and it still doesn't stop their kids from doing wrong things.

Your sister had lost her virginity even before she saw her first period
My suggestion is that your mother should withdraw her from that school. Boarding school gives her all the time to engage in all kinds of nonsense. Let her be going to school from home for closer monitoring. If she was my child, I would flog the nonsense out of her, but flogging her might bring different consequences depending on how she was brought up, so think before you act. Make sure she engages in house chores all the time. If at 12yrs she has the mind to do these things, then she's mature enough to handle house chores.
Let her school from home.

You're failure



Just rope yourself and kys also for fulfilling god's word


Only God can redeem your sister



Ecclesiastes 7:23-25

Guy....at this stage....... Otilor....

The fact that your mom has warned her severally means you must not spare the rod.

If you think that your child will keep her virginity just because you teach them sex education, then you are the most ignorant person on earth.

The more a child knows, the more he/she wants to know. A child needs close monitoring/"marking" and intense policing. Even Google, YouTube, Movies, Netflix, DStv, etc. gave you a tool called parental control. But you guys never used it. Instead, you gave a child adult tools and content.

You just can't warn a child or give sex education and go to sleep. They'll explore beyond whatever you may have taught.

Sex education will only help her to get better at what she already does, i.e., how to avoid teenage pregnancy, STIs, etc. There are better approaches to tame her completely untill she's grown.

Develop countries will always preach the soft approach until it's a Nigerian guy harassing a female child with nud.ity. Have you seen how they arrest and embarrass Nigerian immigrants in the UK who send nu.des to teenage girls? No go dull yourself o. Go hard before you lose her.

I am finding it difficult to digest this.

She had sex before her first period.

First she should be Withdrawn from boarding school. She has had too much unfiltered access. The phone should be collected.

And you guys need to go hard on her, very very hard, she's not even officially a teenager yet ke? Twelve?

My own sex education is always and will always be abstainence shikena.
She might still be redeemable.

Parenting these days is becoming harder, one has to be very intentional about it these days.
This is so disheartening, little children boys and girls taking about pussy, moaning and all that.
I don't blame parents that give their children close marking.


Tell your mum everything and that she needs to be Withdrawn from boarding school.

O ma de wa olagbara ke?
Parents do all you can and must to protect and discipline your children, it's getting worse, if you need to flog the craze Comot do so you will have rest.


That said it was ordinary harmless extra cool Chochocho I did that year at 17 already In the uni ooo the talk I heared from my big male cousin that midnight was not here. He even called the uniben boy I was talking to on the spot, introduced himself, saved his number for many years.

You will hear so because you are in the uni now you can be talking to boys abi, in the midnight at that.
Don't you know you are still 17.
I need to be sure you are not talking to a thirty something year old man.
Give me your phone, collected his number from my the phone log of my alacatel colored screen
Them no born me well to protest.

These days they will say it's invasion of privacy... Blehblehbleh. Speaking Grammer.

Years later myself and him always laugh about the incident.



The hard discipline might have to come from you go hard on her please or else she is gone.

Seems your dad isn't in the picture. Because a father figure in the house would have helped to instill fear and discipline to an extent in her.

In addition to everything being said, Let your mum remove her from that boarding school and put her in a day school for close monitoring. If your mum doesn't have that time, change her school, Schools these days are evil but the evils are in varying degrees.

I would Collect that phone from her till she's done with secondary school.

Lastly, the sad truth is that who wan spoil go spoil, you just need to ensure that she doesn't bring shame to the family.

Whatever you do make sure you investigate who and who has been sticking it to her. Anything 17 and above should be dealt with both streetwise and lawfully.
Your sister is just 12. She's not even a teenager yet! Fvck it, this is not the situation to play cool brother or try to be understanding. I see somebody advising you to tell her to use condoms wtf!!

A very hard reset is needed here. She's too young to go this extreme. Mehn you have to let your parents know. But abeg make sure they don't beat her to death, because this kind of shockin news na extreme disicipline be the reaction. What's been done has been done. You have to educate your sister on why it's wrong and must not happen at this age. And please she should be removed from that boarding school asap!
Best of luck

The bitter truth is, there's nothing you can do again. She's gone for worse!

slimjohn2k5:
Don't fight her or shout at her
Call her n tell her u hv seen all the dirty things.
Then let her know she should always use condom n stick to one guy.

Anything pass this advise she will hide more, bring more surprises.

Never heard of a lady named Hillary

Even Hilary Clinton

First give her 10 strokes of the cane before rehabilitation...

I am a teacher, we don't flog tho but if this is my house and this is my daughter or sister, I will flog her first before rehab because I believe that the lack of that flogging made her chose some bad decisions without thinking of the consequences or repercussions


Moderate flogging is a good way to show consequences and repercussions

didi100:
Good evening all.I'm an old member here but because of shame I created this account.This post is long,pls bear with me and read to the end.I'm 23 years old,my baby sister is 12 years.
She's in a female boarding school.We parked to our own house two years ago and my mum's secondary friend daughter is living next to us.So whenever my sister come back,she will go there and visit her.We allow her to go there as per only girl in the house and a friend is just in the next compound.
They are also some boys around that are + and - 3years her age if I am not mistaken.I and my Mom have warned her about those boys.My mom always tell her to be mindful of them because she is a female and if anything happen,she will be the one to bear the consequences.
She came back for her first term holiday,my mom gave my sister her old phone because she has some primary females friends and our female cousins too she like communicating with using my moms phone so my mom gave my sis her old phone to use.
Yesterday,I wanted to look for something in the phone.She was begging me to give her the phone and I shouted at her to open the phone.I just felt like opening the gallery which she didn't know of and I saw a picture of a boy's dick.I was surprised and confused.I scroll more.I then saw pictures of her snapping her breast and pictures of her vagina.She didn't know I saw all this.I asked her to remove all the passwords.I left her presence and went somewhere else.
Then I open the WhatsApp and saw the unbelievable.I could not believe my 12years old sister is this rotten.My mum warned her not to open Facebook but she opened.I also saw dirty chats.On the WhatsApp I saw porn related stickers and porn videos a boy sent to her.This girl was smart enough to put on disappearing messages.I must have missed some dirty acts she did.
Pls help me.I'm in the University and most of her holidays,I'm not around.I feel like a failure as the first born and senior brother.I never thought or imagine my sister will be such.I need you guys advice.No body in my family know about this except me and she will be going back to the boarding house on Sunday.I need your answers urgently.What should I do Pls matured response only. I will send screenshot of what I saw.Pls Admin,send to the front page
Modified:For the virgin part,she said her ex school.That was primary school and the boy which I know was her classmate.He should be 10 or 11 then

Her fault as the only girl in the family is you/your mum failure as her guidance!
I only read the first two screenshots and couldn't bring myself to read further - what a eyesore!
As a lone tongue in the midst of teeth's, your Mum couldn't give her enough sex education; you/the guys around are either not on the same page/too distance or perhaps, she learned from your numerous exploits(what a boy can do, a girl can do better); while the church sees sex talk as a taboo!
To crown it all, you bundle her to boarding!
In this internet age, what and where else did you expect her to learn about benefits of modesty/chastity to a young lady?!

SporaD8:

Her fault as the only girl in the family is you/your mum failure as her guidance!
I only read the first two screenshots and couldn't bring myself to read further - what a eyesore!
As a lone tongue in the midst of teeth's, your Mum couldn't give her enough sex education; you/the guys around are either not on the same page/too distance or perhaps, she learned from your numerous exploits(what a boy can do, a girl can do better); while the church sees sex talk as a taboo!
To crown it all, you bundle her to boarding!
In this internet age, what and where else did you expect her to learn about benefits of modesty/chastity to a young lady?!

What exactly would sex education do in this situation? I really want to know. Will it prevent her from searching the meaning of "c'um," moan, on Google? Will it prevent her from sharing nudes?

The church does not see sex education as a taboo. In fact, the church more than any other institution teaches you to respect and keep your body. What other "sex education" do you want to give an 11 year old child?

This child obviously has a lot of free time on her hands to wander away. Children who are her age are in church reciting bible verses, acting drama, and all. That's how to keep a child's mind busy and safe from the evils of this world. You can't give an 11 year old child a phone and sex education and go to sleep. You'll only wake up to a prostitute at 12. The more they know, the more they want to know.

If the things you know about sex today (i.e., STIs, unwanted pregnancy) have not stopped you from having sex, why do you expect a different result from a child? What a child needs is TOTAL and ABSOLUTE abstinence by whatever (preventative) means. Nothing else.

just 12? are you a Nigerian? you sound like an ajebo in fact you are and ajebutter, you even have to open a thread asking what to do?these our melenium children una nogo ever stop to suprise us,you dont even know what to do? i can see how your kid sis got into the mess she find herself in.you don't know what to do? since you dont know what to do,let me tell you the consequences of what her acts could cause her,you ,your mum and your family. right now she is naively smart, because she think she knows adult stuff,she think she is an adult,she would definitely get pregnant and wont know when because it might be during her ovulation before her first period,if she have not started her menstrual cycle yet, imagine your 12 year old sister pregnant?she is too young to have a child right?have you thought on what mental damage that could do to your mum and her?if they can't abbort the child, which is almost impossible for a little girl and could damage her womb forever,she could have the child and be mental shattered forever.you need to man up give her serious beating,give her like 500 hunches to flush those demons out of her system, then put her on a lead to that stupid boys house call his dad, show him the stupid things his son has been doing with your sister.its best that little girl live with the fear and shame which would discipline her now than carrying a child on her back when her mates are in school.maybe you know what to do now.

madscientist88:
just 12? are you a Nigerian? you sound like an ajebo in fact you are and ajebutter, you even have to open a thread asking what to do?these our melenium children una nogo ever stop to suprise us,you dont even know what to do? i can see how your kid sis got into the mess she find herself in.you don't know what to do? since you dont know what to do,let me tell you the consequences of what her acts could cause her,you ,your mum and your family. right now she is naively smart, because she think she knows adult stuff,she think she is an adult,she would definitely get pregnant and wont know when because it might be during her ovulation before her first period,if she have not started her menstrual cycle yet, imagine your 12 year old sister pregnant?she is too young to have a child right?have you thought on what mental damage that could do to your mum and her?if they can't abbort the child, which is almost impossible for a little girl and could damage her womb forever,she could have the child and be mental shattered forever.you need to man up give her serious beating,give her like 500 hunches to flush those demons out of her system, then put her on a lead to that stupid boys house call his dad, show him the stupid things his son has been doing with your sister.its best that little girl live with the fear and shame which would discipline her now than carrying a child on her back when her mates are in school.maybe you know what to do now.

Op pick this advice, this approach is brutal but it will go a long way to bring discipline in that girl. It seems she doesn't do any form of worship. Omo she's damn to small for all this rubbish.

Prayer is the ultimate way, parent can't be always with a child 247 but God is, pray to HIM to guide and protect your child from all from of evil and misleading vices.

You think boarding school of primary/secondary is meant for decent students? No, it's for parents who do not have time for kids and who aren't mind, if children are spoilt and rast"


Meanwhile,it's not time to talk about VIRGINITY, (the hyme damaged long ago), I think time to rescue her for her not to completely decay.

Your parents need to 1.Withdraw her from boarding immediately. 2. Withdraw smartphone from her and 3. Give her extremely close monitoring, before you do that, show her all the dirty stuffs she store on her phone.

You can also councel & pray for her as well.

The two below are tip of iceberg among messy stories going on campus.

I don't know what this world is turning into

Imagine the kind nonsense advicez up there

Bro report the girl to ur mum, tell ur mum to allow u handle her first, a girl at her age sending and receiving private pictures, even visiting, even sucking dick

Flog that girl, lock the room flock her like u want to kill her, hand her over to ur mum for her own way of training


After two or three days sit her and talk to her

Collect that phone, remove her from that boarding school and get a private school close by

Aftet school get her to learn a skill even if it's a computer shop, make sure u know the owner of the shop and make sure u communicate with him on how she behaves and make sure he report everything to u, be mindful of where u put that kind of girl, make sure is a family somebody because the person fit dey chop am


Bro if u did not handle her well, in next few years the outcome will shock ur family

Identity those boys, warn them personally on a street level and put fear in them, then report them to their parents

If u like stand there and be doing nonsense on keyboard

Egbami!!! See 12 year old girl chatting about sex like a porn star . The 10year old boy she's chatting with sef don rotten himself. She already said she has had sex, she don do orishirishi at her age. See porrno vocabulary. Her innocence is gone. Your parents failed her. By the time she reach 20 year, her body count go reach 200 with countless STDs

Bro, you need to act fast o. Because with what you wrote there, we go soon dey say your sister "belongs to the streets". At age 12, it is obvious she knows too much and the consequences will be televised. You need to get your mother involved ASAP, withdraw her from the boarding school, take away that phone from her and have a serious talk with her on the dangers of what she is getting herself into.
I remember one of our church members when I was around that age. She was the only child of her parents, but she was handled with kids gloves. She got pregnant at age 12 or so and that family never remained the same.
Your kid sister can still be saved only if the right measures are put in place.
I wish you all the luck in the world.