Being SINGLE

People treat being single, especially if you’re female, as if it’s some kind of personality defect or something, it’s annoying. And because of it many women/girls jump into relationships when they aren’t ready just so they won’t be single and its detrimental most often, I’ve been in serious relationships and what I know now is it can save you a lot of trouble if you get to know the person well ahead of time, develop a friendship, you don’t have to rush into things. Being in a relationship can be a beautiful experience but it takes more than warm and fuzzy feelings to sustain, it’s take a lot of work (just like anything worth maintaining). But often people end up in relationships feeling trapped and unhappy when a little patience and discretion could’ve saved them time and pain. I’ve been single a very long time now (well not that long but long enough) and I’m in no rush to commit to just anybody, I like to meet people and just let things unfold organically. If I find someone I’d like to build with fine, if not that’s fine too, I’ve jumped the gun so many times with guys to know it’s not a smart thing to corner a man into a relationship (or myself for that matter) they end up angry, bitter, or cheating (or all three). I’ve been hurt enough to learn from my mistakes and I’m saving my love for someone worthy, and if I have to wait awhile so be it. Sometimes I get impatient and wish he’d come along a little quicker but I’m sure it’ll all be worth the wait. I’ve learned that it’s ok to be single, it’s ok to dump your shitty boyfriend, it’s ok to expect a healthy relationship built on a solid friendship, and it’s ok to turn down guys who won’t respect what you want or don’t want for that matter (like wanting more than friends w/ benefits). Anyways, just remember whatever you do make sure it is best for you, and don’t bother trying to be in competition with others, because they won’t know your heartache when it’s all over, will they?