Gone are those days where women patiently endures, pray for the success of their home. Pray for their husband to change from a bad habit to a better person. Today the story has changed for the worst.
What is your take on a woman who pack out of her marriage and go rent an apartment in the same city and live there with the children because of domestic violence and unresolved problems between she and her husband?

Legally and traditionally, what are the implications on her?

Only if Osinachi had taken this decision she would have been alive now and taking care of her children.
No woman should stay with an abusive husband, they never change, they grow worse.

No one is better in bed than a sex starved divorcee.

They always want to get the whole juice when the opportunity comes.

Dainy1:
Gone are those days where women patiently endures, pray for the success of their home. Pray for their husband to change from a bad habit to a better person. Today the story has changed for the worst.
What is your take on a woman who pack out of her marriage and go rent an apartment in the same city and live there with the children because of domestic violence and unresolved problems between she and her husband?

Legally and traditionally, what are the implications on her?

Go ask Osinachi abeg!

CoronaVirusPro:
No one is better in bed than a sex starved divorcee.

They always want to get the whole juice when the opportunity comes.

So many people are still sex starve in marriage

Dainy1:
Gone are those days where women patiently endures, pray for the success of their home. Pray for their husband to change from a bad habit to a better person. Today the story has changed for the worst.
What is your take on a woman who pack out of her marriage and go rent an apartment in the same city and live there with the children because of domestic violence and unresolved problems between she and her husband?

Legally and traditionally, what are the implications on her?

My take? No big deal!

I have personally advised married women to leave an abusive marriage.

Marriage is not a life in prison sentence.

If it works out, fine but if not, the two can separate amicably.

Kobojunkie:
Go ask Osinachi abeg!

but why would a woman confidently go and get an apartment and move in from her husband house? If her husband's family doesn't stay close by, why not carry the children and travel down to his village to stay with his parents?

Dainy1:
So many people are still sex starve in marriage

The married ones are hopeful. The divorced ones have no hope.

Dainy1:
■ but why would a woman confidently go and get an apartment and move in from her husband house? If her husband's family doesn't stay close by, why not carry the children and travel down to his village to stay with his parents?

You would need to ask the particular woman what drove her to make those choices for herself. People are different and we need to both respect and accept this.

If Osinachi had taken her kids away from her abusive husband and rented an apartment of her own, she would have been alive today for us to ask. But she did none of that and this year we are about to celebrate her third year of being food for worms with all the glory to marriage and the Mrs. badge she held on to at the cost of her own life.

Once domestic violence is involved, separation is necessary for the life of both couples

Puss360:
Once domestic violence is involved, separation is necessary for the life of both couples

You forgot to add infecting one's partner with STIs

Ahmed0336:

You forgot to add infecting one's partner with STIs

If the infection can be cured, as most of them are, then well, peace and common ground can be agreed upon and the marriage can continue....
But you see that panel beating, God forbid...
It's so bad that, the man can disfigure your beauty for other prospective men outside to notice you...
Even me, ordinary slap, relationship don end!!!

No marriage is a do or die affair, peace, happiness and rest of mind are the only options in marriage. If you don't get those in your marriage then there's no point being there. If you have money pack out and get a place to stay for your health sake.

African traditions and cultures have made us believe that a woman can only be respected if she's married regardless of the circumstances she is faced with in the marriage. Whereas, other developed countries don't see it that way.

Dainy1:
Gone are those days where women patiently endures, pray for the success of their home. Pray for their husband to change from a bad habit to a better person. Today the story has changed for the worst.
What is your take on a woman who pack out of her marriage and go rent an apartment in the same city and live there with the children because of domestic violence and unresolved problems between she and her husband?

Legally and traditionally, what are the implications on her?

She can still pray from her new apartment.Prayers goes beyond walls

Seems this OP just escaped or is typing from a psychiatric home.

What's the Opinion on a woman who chose Life over Death ?

Who was tired of treating different STDs.
Who chose to live for her kids ,family and her creator.

Are you pretending to be stupid or you actually are?...

Ejiot!

Ensa777:
■ She can still pray from her new apartment.Prayers goes beyond walls

Exactly! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

You definitely must be joking if you expect a woman to go and live with her in-laws after a broken marriage. You want her to become a maid for her brothers in-laws, sisters in-laws, mother in-laws, etc?

How would the woman have privacy and start life all over again if she stays with her in-laws

Dainy1:
but why would a woman confidently go and get an apartment and move in from her husband house? If her husband's family doesn't stay close by, why not carry the children and travel down to his village to stay with his parents?

Count your loss and move on.

U weren't expecting her to park out ba.

See the way you talk about domestic violence as if it isn't a big deal.

U would have prefer she move to your parent house, so they can settle it for you while you continue beating her telling her she gat nowhere else to go.

Give me her no, she deserves some accolades.

EreluRoz:
Only if Osinachi had taken this decision she would have been alive now and taking care of her children.
No woman should stay with an abusive husband, they never change, they grow worse.

What you people don't know is that women are responsible for over 90% of marital problems, including abuses.

What you usually see in the social media is the consequence of women's bad behaviours after the men have endured them for ages.

Just use yourself as an example. Which man in this world will have peace in his home after marrying you??
You will abuse him for decades and any day he decides to change it for you, the whole world will hear it and blame him. That's bullshit.

Free2Fly:


What you people don't know is that women are responsible for over 90% of marital problems, including abuses.

What you usually see in the social media is the consequence of women's bad behaviours after the men have endured them for ages.

Just use yourself as an example. Which man in this world will have peace in his home after marrying you??
You will abuse him for decades and any day he decides to change it for you, the whole world will hear it and blame him. That's bullshit.

I pity the unfortunate lady that will cross your path kos according to the rubbish you wrote, there's no single man with bad and abusive behavior and women are responsible for the abusive ones we read about. You are not well.

LilMissFavvy:
You definitely must be joking if you expect a woman to go and live with her in-laws after a broken marriage. You want her to become a maid for her brothers in-laws, sisters in-laws, mother in-laws, etc?

How would the woman have privacy and start life all over again if she stays with her in-laws

I'm thinking towards solution and not moving out completely. Moving to her in laws house for a while, so they can have family meetings to solve it

Ensa777:


She can still pray from her new apartment.Prayers goes beyond walls

Hmmmmmmm

Don't you think her husband and the society might be thinking she's having an affair and that could hinders the process of coming back together with her husband?

poshestmina:
Seems this OP just escaped or is typing from a psychiatric home.

What's the Opinion on a woman who chose Life over Death ?

Who was tired of treating different STDs.
Who chose to live for her kids ,family and her creator.

Are you pretending to be stupid or you actually are?...

Ejiot!

Are you for real? So, the best solution is for her to go rent an apartment and move in? How do some of you reason sef?

EreluRoz:
I pity the unfortunate lady that will cross your path kos according to the rubbish you wrote, there's no single man with bad and abusive behavior and women are responsible for the abusive ones we read about. You are not well.

Your lives are wired towards blaming men for your obnoxious, repulsive behaviours, and that's why many of you never change.

Look at what your gender do to innocent, defenceless house helps under them!

That's exactly what men would be going through if you creatures had authority over them too.

Dangerous gender.

Dainy1:
Gone are those days where women patiently endures, pray for the success of their home. Pray for their husband to change from a bad habit to a better person. Today the story has changed for the worst.
What is your take on a woman who pack out of her marriage and go rent an apartment in the same city and live there with the children because of domestic violence and unresolved problems between she and her husband?

Legally and traditionally, what are the implications on her?

Renting an apartment in the same or another city is even too much. If I were Nigeria's president, I would make it an enforceable law that parents, before they give their daughter's hand in marriage, must build a home that is big enough to accommodate the woman and her children, just in case something goes wrong.

Any father who refuses to accept his daughter will be locked up in prison for 45 years. You can't collect the traditional marriage items and bride price from a professional woman beater and then run when your daughter and grandchildren need you the most.

Dainy1:
but why would a woman confidently go and get an apartment and move in from her husband house? If her husband's family doesn't stay close by, why not carry the children and travel down to his village to stay with his parents?

You think is easy to live with in-laws?

Did you just ask the implication of her actions? Dang! So you would rather she puts up with the physical and verbal abuse to avoid some dumb "implications" at the detriment of her safety? Do you even understand what you're saying?

Oh.. because she's a female she has no right to her safety and sanity. Ok. Let's turn tables around here. If you as a man is fàced with a situation that threatens your life, would you remain there because you feel there would be "implications" if you run away from the danger facing you ?

Even if you're looking at it from the angle of salvaging her marriage to save face or for fear of what people will say, hey .. listen that marriage can go to hell because as far as domestic violence is concerned that marriage no longer exists so why try to salvage a marriage that is not there. Let her damn the marriage and get the hell out of that place fast.

Marriage this, society that, what people will say this and that until she dies.

The day a man conceives it in his heart to lay his hands on me, is the day that marriage died. Let me not even perceive that conception, I don japa.

I encourage every woman to leave her marriage if domestic abuse is involved. The effects of abuse on the emotional and mental health of the woman and the children must never be underestimated. It is better to co-parent in a peace than to be married and at war. Children need a healthy environment to thrive. A violent marriage is the opposite of such.

Free2Fly:


What you people don't know is that women are responsible for over 90% of marital problems, including abuses.

What you usually see in the social media is the consequence of women's bad behaviours after the men have endured them for ages.

Just use yourself as an example. Which man in this world will have peace in his home after marrying you??
You will abuse him for decades and any day he decides to change it for you, the whole world will hear it and blame him. That's bullshit.

Where did you take the 90% from? You run a research center?

Dainy1:
Are you for real? So, the best solution is for her to go rent an apartment and move in? How do some of you reason sef?

So she should stay back and get killed because she married a beast with legions of demons?

Please don't mention me on this thread anymore. I'm really trying to be civil rn.

Like someone rightly said up there, marriage isn't a do or die affair
If it's not working my dear it's better you take a bow and leave.....than for your corpse to be carried out.

If most of our parents had the same mind most of us have this days, most of their marriages wouldn't have stayed