usewisdom:

I've been thinking of bringing out this topic as far back. I wonder why Nigerians in Abroad especially in Ireland, they dont help themself. The social welfare and child benefit system has turned them to something else. They cannot accommodate you. If they manage to accommodate you for like 2 days, the next thing is ''u sleep too much, or you use light too much. If you dont talk to them, na wahala. If you be yourself, they will find something to say you've done wrong. Why are they behaving like that.

For example, one of my friends was having accommodation problem and someone said she can afford to accommodate him, this guy has never spent up to two weeks, she don start to they complain that he sleep too much till 8am. The worst thing is if they discorver that you're working, they will begin looking up to your little earning and expecting you to top up their bills.

The point is ''Why is it that no mater help they render to you in this Ireland, they will be expecting something in return, why? Despite all the benefits the government is paying them, they will still be expecting something from you in return simply because they accommodate you. They want turne you their house cleaner, taking their kids to school as child minder. They dont have the fear of God, and come to think of this, they will be the first person to arrive in the church on sunday morning or in the mosque. If they go 9ja, you will think they're working full time, not knowing they have been surving through the social welfare system. Lord have mercy.

A friend of mine again, although he's an illegal, and he's working and using a someone's bank account to get his salary at work, could u believe that this my friend will work 45 hour a week and expect his money to be paid by the account hoder a yoruba like him, and he will say there is a problem in on the account and he will have to rectify it soon, not knowing that he has spent the money.

Lord have mercy i said again. Nigerians, why?
Especially those useless single parent that claim they dont have husband at all. Go see them infront of their house, na their mouth u go hear how Obasonjo and Saraki was born.

usewisdom:

@ justiwise, its not me. But to think of this, so because u have helped me, u must be expecting a reward from me? Is that what your bible said? I believe u know the truth, or maybe you're one of them.[b] %98 of people knows what am talking about [/b]and they always say thesame thing i said. Only the %2 are in support of those people, and maybe you're one of those 2%.
Gbammmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

usewisdom:

Justwise: for example, i have accommodation problem in london, and u offer me a temporrary accommodation while u claim to be a christian. My point is ''Because u offer me a temporary accommodation, must i be watching your dirty plates? cleaning your house? taking your kids to school? sending me an enrand everywhere? Telling me what to do in the house. compulsory it to me indirectly what to do in the house? Giving me time to go out and the time i must be at home?
Asking me to prepare your bed? And the worst is ''calling my mobileand describing to me where to get your wears to iron and your kids school uniform to iron.

Now tell me, if u said its right, then the handwriting has already written on the wall that you're simply ONE OF THEM.

justwise:

If 98%  of people know that then next time your friend becomes homeless send him to one of them.

Don't expect a single mother who lives on benefit to accommodate your friend while he do nothing to appreciate it, if he works he should be able to help the woman one way or the other without been told.

If your friend can't show any form of appreciation then he should move out and pay for hotel accommodation.

usewisdom:

Justwise: for example, i have accommodation problem in london, and u offer me a temporrary accommodation while u claim to be a christian. My point is ''Because u offer me a temporary accommodation, must i be watching your dirty plates? cleaning your house? taking your kids to school? sending me an enrand everywhere? Telling me what to do in the house. compulsory it to me indirectly what to do in the house? Giving me time to go out and the time i must be at home?
Asking me to prepare your bed? And the worst is ''calling my mobileand describing to me where to get your wears to iron and your kids school uniform to iron.

Now tell me, if u said its right, then the handwriting has already written on the wall that you're simply ONE OF THEM.

Sky-walker:

Well said. Nigerians always want something for nothing. Not with the high cost of living.Even if the woman is on benefit,how much is it that she is being paid and she has to take care of her kids and bills. why cant your friend get a job and contribute small to the running of the house.At least he is not paying house rent

usewisdom:

,  Especially those useless single parent that claim they dont have husband at all,

Busy_body:

I feel you 100% usewisdom, Nigerians in diaspora are generally wicked and envious. They prefer you not to have a job so they can keep you as their house slaves yet even if you are working, they still expect you to help them bath their kids, feed them and take them to school before you go to your own school or work, and they expect you to go and pick their kids from school as well as feed them and babysit them till they come back from work. Some would volunteer their accounts like you mentioned yet pilfer your money.

Some have to sleep outside sometimes because they refuse to give you a spare key, they moan and grumble about you switching on the light, using water, gas, etc, you would be lucky to get hot water to use to bath sef because na only one hour dem dey switch their heater on daily, yet you see the poor gutter rats all over nairaland boasting that they have electricity and water 24/7. And they never fail to attend churches faithfully on Sunday too.

For most part, loads of people are struggling to make ends meet so every extra person that comes to live with them makes it more unbearable to pay their bills hence reason for the hostility and using one like a slave. You can't really blame them. There is no excuse though, the asians are in similar situation to us, yet they look after their own kind. May God forgive us Nigerians.


I shouldn't laugh, but this got me rolling on the floor in tears

Sky-walker:


Reading your post is so funny

usewisdom:

Guess what, maybe because i did say this earlier. He has got a good job now, and the woman has tried all possible best to get him back to his house. could u believe he even sent some gifts to her kids. Atimes when u look at some people talking rubish, u will nearly commit suicide. I dont blame them. If they're in same situation with the guy then, they would not have said all what they're saying. Must u expect in return because u help me? If u help me, someone else might reward u back, so it's not compulsory that i have to reward u simply because u help me. @ justiwise, it is very obvious that you're one of them. Whatever u say after this or how smart u think u are in this kind of situation, only God can judge. Does your bible tought u in that way that if u help someone for accommodation, he/she must reward u?
Nawa for people like u O! I'm not afraid, u've said it all in the sense that ''that's you'' and that's what u will do. U need to think about been a good person for people to talk good about u. At least i've seen someone that has accommodated someone when over there in UK for almost a year and never incovinent the person for single day, and the person left the house with peace and happiness, and he even left at his own convinent.
@Busy_body, 3 gbosa for uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu

I prayer god should open eyes of people like you. Do u know what we call people like you ? ''Kasun Kaji Entertainment.
Gbammmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

usewisdom:

Na u know O! Who con regrets at last an dey find friend? No be she? yeye people
Appreciation ko, Appreciation ni. Civilization ni,

usewisdom:

The bitter truth is 'You know the truth, you're running away from the truth so that people that read your post should say u're the best. Haba, i've red one of your thread here causing people like this woman indirectly long time ago. [/b]Justwise, pls practice your name.

usewisdom:

Yes, to start with https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-503440.0.html
I have more if u want.
And lastly, the truth is we all came from thesame country, and so there is no harm or crime in it if we help our brother or sister in time of such prob, I've accommodated someone in London 8 years ago for good 6 month, and another about 5 years ago, i dont need to mention names, and till now they appreciate me and respect me personaly, i never ask them to do this or do that or ask them a penny or expect anything from them in reward. Never, and i will never do that. And non of them has ever incovinent me. We lived like family.

So, THIS IS THE BITTER TRUTH. Lets all say the truth, even the bible says ''say the truth and the truth shall save u.
I'm still finding it very difficult to believe that its you justwise can said all this out in support of the woman

usewisdom:

You have nothing to use as an excuse justwise. You did not know this woman. Do u know the amount she has borrowed from him alone? so whats the different if my friend even rent a house within that period. [/b]U need to think b4 u write. Dont think u're always right in whatever u say. [b]Single mother that got free house from the govenrment, earning child benefits, unemployment benefit, back to school, plus weekly money for food. Y[/b]ou're the only person in support of this woman. Who knows maybe thats how u treat your fellow nigerians in time of trouble. We get to know that everybody knows this woman, [b]all she does with those money is to carry different men, buy cloths, shoes, bags, party today party tomorrow. Iya isale-eko. Was it not untill my friend got there we discorvered this but have no choice than to manage it. So, why are u backing up who u dont know

My first question on this forum regarding this was ''Why we nigerians dont help ourself, period. And if u cant answer, then its better u remain silent and allow others to reason reasonably.

usewisdom:

@ justiwise, its not me. But to think of this, so because u have helped me, u must be expecting a reward from me? Is that what your bible said? I believe u know the truth, or maybe you're one of them. %98 of people knows what am talking about and they always say thesame thing i said. Only the %2 are in support of those people, and maybe you're one of those 2%.