In a previous post (https://www.nairaland.com/8096971/getting-correct-lady-say-yes) where I, amongst other things, drew a portrait of who a correct lady is, I emphasized the fact that marriage is one of God's core strategies to empower us to become all He has destined us to be with great ease. In other words, you are primarily aiming to marry a member of the opposite gender not for sex or childbearing or companionship sake, but the most important thing is that they have the configuration to play a unique and pivotal role in helping you fulfill destiny (becoming all God has destined you to be) with great ease.

Now, as a lady, if you want to enjoy the full dividends of marriage with peace of mind, you have to go the bible way (God's way) and not as dictated by imperfect societal standards and opinions. This means you have to be patient with God to bless you with a man who has the configurations to help you fulfill destiny and must not agree to marry a random guy just because of physical considerations (money, height, complexion, etc).

I want you to remember this, like Eve, if God will lead you to a correct guy who can help you navigate your journeys in destiny, you must also be a correct lady who can be an adequate helper to him too. To attract a correct man, you must be a correct lady too. And to have such a configuration, you must be genuinely saved, submitted to the Holy Spirit, and have started running with destiny.

I explained all these in full detail in my books "Getting A Correct Lady To Say Yes To Your Marriage Proposal" and "Getting A Correct Guy To Propose Marriage To You".

In the context of our conversations here (about marriage), a correct guy is a male God has configured to help you fulfill your destiny as your husband. He is not only saved (submitted to the Lordship of Jesus and the government of the Holy Spirit), but is already running with destiny even as a single guy. A guy who is useful and beneficial to God his Creator will translate into a quality husband for you.

A Correct Guy Is Already Running With Destiny While Still Single

This can be explained via 3 expressions:

A. He Is Already Running With The General/Common Destiny Of Mankind

The destiny of mankind is to have a righteous intimate relationship with God which is eternal in nature, through faith in Christ Jesus, and on the basis of that relationship, is empowered with the Holy Ghost to have dominion over creation and is not a slave to anything negative (including satan, sin, self, sickness, poverty, hell, etc).

If a guy is yet to start living out this reality, he should first focus on making this a lifestyle first of all before bothering himself about marriage.


B. His Personal Unique Life Purpose

Our life purpose (what we are meant to do on earth) are tool for our eternal destiny. They are pathways that contribute to us becoming all that the Lord has destined us to be in all of eternity.

Before a guy should get occupied with the busyness and responsibilities of marriage where he is carrying the weight of his wife and children, he should have first discovered himself in his singlehood. He should have first discovered his life purpose (the paths God would have him thread on earth) and should have started going that path - already experiencing the fulfillment of doing what God would have you do even while still single.

Such a guy will be a valuable asset to you as a woman in your marriage, and he will capably lead you and your children in a worthy manner.

He should have discovered his talents and spiritual gifts (as well as other necessary skills he can learn) that can be utilized to become all the Lord has destined him to be in eternity.

C. Already Embraced The Destiny Of A Husband

A correct guy, even while still single, is already displaying a husband. The man, even before getting married, is already conducting himself as a responsible husband, and it is evident (particularly from those around him) that any woman who will marry him is a very fortunate woman.


A husband is destined to be a leader of his household. This is his unique contribution to his marriage, and if a man is devoid of a leadership capacity, he will be defiling an integral part of the destiny of husbandhood.

A correct guy is one who is already displaying good leadership in his sphere, even while still single.

Mind you, I'm not talking about having positions and titles - leadership is well beyond titles and positions. Many men in leadership positions do not even have leadership capabilities, but they are simply empty noise makers.

Leadership is a consciousness, revolving around responsibility. In other words, the guy is a very responsible person and is adequately taking care of whatever was placed in his hands and jurisdiction. A correct guy has the wisdom for leadership and knows how to make the things placed in his care flourish. When you see this, know that it will be easy for him to make your family flourish too.

So, he must be exhibiting leadership virtues already while still single.

A core aspect of the destiny of a husband as a leader is to provide protection and security to his home (spiritually, financially, etc). Every visionary lady has a deep eye that spots greatness in a young guy even when he currently doesn't look like it. This is one of the things you must look out for. You must see that he has the configuration to provide protection of all kinds to you and the children. If he doesn't have this, it is dangerous to say yes to his proposal, because he will leave you and the children exposed on different fronts in the future (which is a very bad experience).

For all of these to be a possibility, therefore, the guy must be sacrificial. A correct guy with leadership virtues will be able to protect his family via a sacrificial personality.

Finally, a core aspect of the destiny of a husband is true love for his wife. For a wife, submission within her own marriage is her unique contribution to the progress of the home, and a woman who is not ready to be submitted to her husband is defiling an integral part of the destiny of wifehood.

For the husband, his unique contribution is genuine and sacrificial love to his wife. ‭‭
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Ephesians 5:25-29 NKJV‬‬
[25] Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, [26] that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, [27] that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. [28] So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. [29] For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.


Hence, if you see a single guy who is already displaying the trait of difficulty in exhibiting sacrificial love around him, he is not a correct guy and has no business with being married.

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Now, as a lady, if you want to enjoy the full dividends of marriage with peace of mind, you have to go the bible way (God's way) and not as dictated by imperfect societal standards and opinions. This means you have to be patient with God to bless you with a man who has the configurations to help you fulfill destiny and must not agree to marry a random guy just because of physical considerations (money, height, complexion, etc).

Correct guys do not have these qualities?

sgtponzihater1:


I can see he wrote "just because of", meaning that should not be your only consideration.

Nope. I am curious as to why people demonise these qualities. So a correct guy should be considered "just because" of what? Abi are all the men showing women shege rich, tall and handsome?

Single life…. A phase I have been in for 3 years

Others might be lucky and end up finding love from the most unlikely place. However, the best bet is to marry your friend. There is that one person who has your heart.
Leave your comfort zone and build with him. A plus if he is already made or you are both doing well. You two would be surprised at how far peace, tolerance and love would take you.
No time would be spent on rancor , fight and unnecessary competition.
When you find love, you live well. That happiness will extend to your children’s healthy growth and development .
But to be honest, he/she must be your spec in terms of physical appearance, if not you will always be attracted to others.

Jubilancy:
Single life…. A phase I have been in for 3 years

Seems like an advert

Make I pitch my tent on behalf of Solife TV.

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Jubilancy:
Single life…. A phase I have been in for 3 years

Why so?

The headline should be
Getting a correct girl to propose to...
All these stupid girl wey go carry another man pikin come give u

pocohantas:


So correct guys do not have these qualities?

I can see he wrote "just because of", meaning that should not be your only consideration.

Character

Getting a correct woman should be the topic.....but alas, Nigerian girls are not the type that one will want to propose to, cos they are all leeches and bitches 🤥

In the context of our conversations here (about marriage), a correct guy is a male God has configured to help you fulfill your destiny as your husband.

Be respectful, honest and humble

Be very attentive to personal and home hygiene.

Top priority in food and sex.

Don't try to cage him. Allow him to knack outside marriage from time to time. its not cheating. I mean the blood of our biblical patriarchs, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, David, Solomon etc and our African ancestors are still flowing in veins. Monogamy is not neither African nor biblical. It's a western hypocrisy.

In turn you will be loved and cherished.

Clowns everywhere 🤡


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A correct guy has his personal relationship with the Almighty checked, his purpose and is on the road to getting it done checked, his financial economy checked, his mental and emotional stability and intelligence✅, his personal grooming checked among other qualities.

pocohantas:


Correct guys do not have these qualities?



Nope. I am curious as to why people demonise these qualities. So a correct guy should be considered "just because" of what? Abi are all the men showing women shege rich, tall and handsome?

Just because means that should not be your only consideration.

A guy can be rich and handsome and have attributes of being a good husband and father
Another could be rich and handsome, but could have a flawed value system and be of bad character or even a murderer.

He has rightly said rich, tall and handsome should not be your only consideration, but never said do not marry a rich, tall and handsome man of he has good value system.

However if this does not make sense to you, then no worries or need for arguments. Believe and do you.

Kind regards and best wishes.

If you actually want someone of high value, intelligent and not a low-life,
The most important values and attributes you need are as follows:


1, BE BEAUTIFUL & HEALTHY
A Man of value want a woman he can be proud of. An attractive woman and a woman who will birth him beautiful and healthy children

2, BE NEAT
Neatness is a huge turn on for men of value. Also, cleanliness is next to Godliness.

3, BE A VIRGIN
No reasonable man alive wants a useless OLOSHO that has been used and dumped by multiple men for a wife. A girl that has been passed around.
Being a virgin clears a lot of things...
There's absolutely nothing like low BODYCOUNT, because who is counting?
IF SHE'S NOT A VIRGIN, SHE'S WHÓRE...

4, BE RESPECTFUL AND GOD-FEARING
No much talk...

5, HAVE SENSE!

sgtponzihater1:


Just because means that should not be your only consideration.

A guy can be rich and handsome and have attributes of being a good husband and father
Another could be rich and handsome, but could have a flawed value system and be of bad character or even a murderer.

He has rightly said rich, tall and handsome should not be your only consideration, but never said do not marry a rich, tall and handsome man of he has good value system.

However if this does not make sense to you, then no worries or need for arguments. Believe and do you.

Kind regards and best wishes.

No one was interested in arguing with you, honestly. Definitely not me. Take care.✌️

After the proposal who go fund the borehole wedding??