Please be hornest with your response on this topic, to you, is it idle for married women not to work and assist their spouses in caring of the family?

why is still so common among Nigerian men? they don't want their wives to work, some of them say its because they have enough to care for the family while some don't trust their wives and some say its because they  want their wives to have enough time to look after their children and home.

would u advise ur wife not to work, please if yes or no why

Well, my fiancee works, when we're married next summer, she'll still work.

It should be a lady's choice if she wants to work or not. Why would a husband impose such conditions, i.e not allowing her to work, if that's what she wants to do? If he doesn't trust her to work, feeling she'll get too close to work mates, especially male ones, then he shouldn't be married to her!

Sure, some men may have a lot of money, so from a financial point of view, his wife may not meed to work, but it's not always about money. A wife could go out to work, to give herself a degree of independence, and keep occupied. It's not always about staying at home to look after the children. Being stuck at home isn't everyone's idea of fun, cabin fever would set in rapidly!

My wife will always have a choice, to work or not, either way, I'm in full support.

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Sure!

the feeling of joblessness is the worst thing that can ever happen to anyone(man or woman).
How would men feel if they sit at home all day,doing nothing much??not so cool i guess.

This is not about women trying to do all men can do here,it is just that feeling of the useless that is really bad(even prisoners are allowed to work,make crafts,soaps,sew etc to occupy their time).

it is a big punishment to tell someone to be jobless for the rest of his/her life.

All said,i would not agree with mothers that would dump their kids with maids and travel for weeks or months all in the name of work.there should be a kind of balance.

But men,PLS,allow your wives work(atleast have a shop or sumtin doing).it might end up saving ur ass one day u know!

Cheers!!!

Yes!  It is productive for a woman to spend time away from the home.  Anything can happen to the man and she will end up looking for another man to take care of her since she has no "work" ethic.  That's not good.  Besides not everyone is a business "tycoon" in Nigeria or the world.  It takes 2 to run a marriage successfully--financially too.  How are you going to save money for the future?  With one income?

Gone are the days when men thought it was their business to stay out of the home for extended periods of time "working" and being breadwinners.  They are also needed in the home to raise the family.  No need living like a single parent when you are married.  There needs to be a healthy balance from both partners.

I am in between.

I can't stand not working

I think it's good for wife to work because 1) her income will augment the family income, 2) in case the man losses his job, they will have something to fall back on pending when the man bounces back, 3) the woman will be regarded by her in-laws for not being a liability to their son etc etc

She has to want to stay @ home.

If you force her, knowing it's not in her "genes" (apologies to naijacutee), your home will suffer. She will manifest a wide range of passive aggressive behaviours - From running with the wrong crowd, to running your home into the ground!

She can work if she wanna work, and could stay home if she wants, and she can take care of the family biz too.