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What Should I Do by Lilshaddy(m): 11:59pm On Mar 29, 2012 |
I actually don’t know where to start my story from. But I know Mandy and I are in this mess because of my jealousy years ago. This was how it all started. My name is Bobby. Mandy and I have been dating for about eights years now. Both families knew about our relationship and there was no doubt that we would get married when we are ready to settle down. Precisely in the fifth year of our relationship, I had gone to visit Mandy at home when I saw her with two young men and her other siblings. Mandy hardly noticed my presence ,the three hours I was with them. She was so engrossed with the two men, especially the one called Anthony. They talked and whispered into each other’s ear occasionally as if they were lovers. I was not too comfortable but I had to behave like a man - hide my jealousy. I partook in all the discussions from politics to football, played games and even had lunch together. All the time we were all together, Mandy did not introduce me to the young men and that bothered me so much. “Mandy did not introduce me to these guys. Am I not presentable enough or is there something she is hiding?” I asked myself. For the first time, I did not get any attention from Mandy, this was usual. I left them there and went home; she just saw me off to the doorstep, gave me a hug and promised to call me later in the evening. I waited for her call but she did not and because I was so angry and jealous, I refused to call her either even though I was dying to hear her voice and was anxious to know who those guys were. While contemplating whether to call Mandy or not, I did not know when I slept off. I dreamt that Mandy was walking down the aisle with Anthony in a grand style and when I accosted her that I was the right man for her, she told me she thought she loved me but sincerely she does not and was sure I am not man enough for her. While I was pleading with her not to leave me, my alarm rang. I was sweating profusely when I woke up. “God, what kind of dream is this? Is Mandy really planning to leave me?” I put aside the dream and got ready for work. At about 7:30 a.m. Mandy called me and apologised that she slept off. That day at work, I couldn’t concentrate because I was really disturbed by the dream. At about 3:00 p.m., I called Mandy and told her I would take her home after work and she said that was a good idea. At exactly 6:10 p.m., I was at her office and as we drove to her house, I took the opportunity to ask her who Anthony was. She told me he was a childhood friend and an ex-boyfriend. She explained to me that she broke up with him after she caught him cheating on her with her best friend and that He suddenly travelled out of the country and they lost contact further stating that To be honest, they saw each other again for the first time after 12 years the day i met him in her house.” out of redhot jealousy, I asked her if she still loved him and she said “No, but that they are still friends. Look, there wasn’t anyway that I couldn’t have seen it, It was very transparent enough that Anthony was still in love with her even if Mandy did not see. I saw it, I am a man so I know. I was so scared that she may leave me at any time, so three days later, I suggested that we took an oath to be together forever…… Yes I said so…..i was too jealous and insecure about my self and I thought I was going to loose her…. So I asked her for it to be done and people guess what happened….! She refused to talk to me for more than two weeks. One Friday evening, she called to inform she would spend the weekend at my place so that we would have the opportunity to talk things out. I felt it was a pleasant idea. The weekend was splendid. Mandy agreed to take the oath, if that would put to rest, my fear about her leaving me for Anthony or any other man. I cut our right thumbs with a new blade, with blood coming out. We pressed it against each other’s hand and said one after the other, “As long as I alive, I will marry you. If I marry another, I shall die. The only thing that would separate us is death.” I thought this act would keep us together for life until a few weeks back. We both decided that it was time to settle down and live happily ever after until we were asked to go for a series of medical tests as it is one of the requirements to get married in her parents’ church. so, we were told the particular hospital to go for the test. We went to the hospital with the sealed envelope we were given from the church. We saw the Chief Medical Director who asked us to go to the laboratory where we will be attended to. Our blood sample was taken and at the end, we were told that the result would be sent to the pastoral unit of the church. Three days later, I received a phone call from the head pastor to come with Mandy to the church that evening. When we got there, he informed us that we cannot get married based on medical grounds. So shocked beyond words, I asked him What the outcome of the test was and At least we should know why we couldnt get married And he told us that, the outcome of the test showed that our genotype is both AS. And that If we ever got married, we would only bring children into this world that would suffer as sicklers. Do you want to give birth to sicklers?” He told us that he would call our parents and inform them of the new development. I could believe my ears, mandy almost fainted… but that didn’t change the fact that he advised that it was better we thought of calling off the wedding to avoid future crisis. A week later, Mandy and her parents came over to my house to see my parents about the medical report. We all sat in our sitting room and her father that there was No doubt that Mandy and I love each other dearly but after due medical consultation with mandy’s mother and they have concluded that this wedding slated for the 21st of April next month should be called off for the sake of their unborn children. my father agreed and Both parents counseled us that we could still remain friends but must move on with our lives. We both agreed but we knew it was not going to be easy. God, my dream has finally come to reality. Mandy is finally taken away from me. But then, I remembered the oath we took. “What will happen to us because the oath was to be together for forever?” Time now has come for both of them to get married and they had to do test, which they did and guess what, they both are AS….. The pastor, families have come to a conclusion that the wedding which is coming up on the 21st of april will be called off so that they don’t bring kids into this world to suffer… They all agreed but here is what bobby has got to say in the concluding part of his story… Mandy came to see me in the office two days later and immediately she entered into my office, she pulled me close and asked, bobby, what about the oath we took? What do we do? And that she doesnt really care if our genotype is AS or SS; and that all she wants is to be my wife. And what broke my heart was when she asked me what I wanted, I became weak and stupid because I was responsible for this mess. “Honestly, I don’t know anymore. As for the oath, I thought she would leave me for Anthony that was why I insisted. Now, she still cannot be my wife. O God, what have I done?. Although the wedding had been called off but we both insisted that we must get married. The question on every one’s lips is why do we want to do this against the odds? Please advice, Do we tell our parents about the oath? God they would be so disappointed or do we marry different people and both die, or better still, get married, bring sicklers into the world and allow them to suffer? As I write this piece, Mandy is already a wreck and I am totally confused. What do we do? |
Re: What Should I Do by Coldfeet(f): 12:57am On Mar 30, 2012 |
This is more than Superstory abi na thislife? Anyways oaths can be broken and if you still love each other go ahead and marry! Your kids won't all be SS! its been said that only one out of four kids of AS couples will be SS so its possible to have kids that ain't sickly! That oaths thing is totally dumb is love a do or die affair? 1 Like |
Re: What Should I Do by Killz3(m): 1:17am On Mar 30, 2012 |
Lilshaddy: I actually don’t know where to start my story from. But I know Mandy and I are in this mess because of my jealousy years ago. This was how it all started. My name is Bobby. Mandy and I have been dating for about eights years now. Both families knew about our relationship and there was no doubt that we would get married when we are ready to settle down. Precisely in the fifth year of our relationship, I had gone to visit Mandy at home when I saw her with two young men and her other siblings. Mandy hardly noticed my presence ,the three hours I was with them. She was so engrossed with the two men, especially the one called Anthony. They talked and whispered into each other’s ear occasionally as if they were lovers. I was not too comfortable but I had to behave like a man - hide my jealousy. I partook in all the discussions from politics to football, played games and even had lunch together. All the time we were all together, Mandy did not introduce me to the young men and that bothered me so much. “Mandy did not introduce me to these guys. Am I not presentable enough or is there something she is hiding?” I asked myself. For the first time, I did not get any attention from Mandy, this was usual. I left them there and went home; she just saw me off to the doorstep, gave me a hug and promised to call me later in the evening. I waited for her call but she did not and because I was so angry and jealous, I refused to call her either even though I was dying to hear her voice and was anxious to know who those guys were. While contemplating whether to call Mandy or not, I did not know when I slept off. I dreamt that Mandy was walking down the aisle with Anthony in a grand style and when I accosted her that I was the right man for her, she told me she thought she loved me but sincerely she does not and was sure I am not man enough for her. While I was pleading with her not to leave me, my alarm rang. I was sweating profusely when I woke up. “God, what kind of dream is this?Is Mandy really planning to leave me?” I put aside the dream and got ready for work. At about 7:30 a.m.Mandy called me and apologised that she slept off. That day atwork, I couldn’t concentrate because I was really disturbedby the dream. At about 3:00 p.m., I called Mandy and told her I would take her home after work and she |
Re: What Should I Do by Latrice699gmailcom(f): 1:26am On Mar 30, 2012 |
~Killz~:I know this not serious? It gotta be a joke... |
Re: What Should I Do by Killz3(m): 1:32am On Mar 30, 2012 |
Latrice699@gmail.com:Looks real. . . What i don't get is why people still take love oaths in 2012. . . |
Re: What Should I Do by tpia5: 1:32am On Mar 30, 2012 |
story no dey tire una? if they say look before you leap, you'll fight them for advising you. if they say your story no get coordination- from meeting your "girlfriend" with various guys on the bed or wherever, to going ahead to marry inspite of every warning sign saying dont do it- you'll get annoyed. if they say read the right novels so you can make sense when you type, you'll say the country has bad leaders as if that explains it away? is nl meant for semi-literates and half baked wannabees? |
Re: What Should I Do by Latrice699gmailcom(f): 1:33am On Mar 30, 2012 |
~Killz~:Yea...that's weird.... |
Re: What Should I Do by coogar: 1:41am On Mar 30, 2012 |
Lilshaddy: I actually don’t know where to much ado about nothing. -marry her -get her on a permanent family planning program -adopt 2 lovely kids in calabar. -live happily ever after. |
Re: What Should I Do by Killz3(m): 1:42am On Mar 30, 2012 |
Latrice699@gmail.com:Well, it's his mess. . . Maybe others would learn from it. Making a covenant with demons. . . Smh! |
Re: What Should I Do by slimyem: 1:52am On Mar 30, 2012 |
Re: What Should I Do by kemiola89(f): 11:10am On Mar 30, 2012 |
cant oath be broken? |
Re: What Should I Do by tellwisdom: 11:19am On Mar 30, 2012 |
Bro, yansh her |
Re: What Should I Do by ruffhandu: 2:31pm On Mar 30, 2012 |
Bro, This should be a reversible action. The same way you took the oath, do the same way and pronounce the opposite “As long as I alive, I will NOT marry you. If I marry YOU, I shall die. The only thing that would KEEP us is LIFE.” Simple! You made it, unmake it. It's only difficult when one person wants to break it. Don't be afraid. Unless if you are bound by any other reason but oath. Regards |
Re: What Should I Do by SAFO(m): 3:52pm On Mar 30, 2012 |
~Killz~: Hehe love oaths in this day & age. Na wa o Feels like I jumped in the hot tub time machine. |
Re: What Should I Do by Nobody: 4:26pm On Mar 30, 2012 |
SAFO: |
Re: What Should I Do by Nobody: 4:29pm On Mar 30, 2012 |
Sexkillz is alive! |
Re: What Should I Do by Nobody: 4:37pm On Mar 30, 2012 |
bennyraz: Sexkillz is alive!Was he dead before? |
Re: What Should I Do by Nobody: 4:45pm On Mar 30, 2012 |
But @ Op. Sorry o. Make i first commend u for the gud explanatory write up. It was really interesting to read your relationship life story. I can give you Mr. Wale Adenuga's phone no or Tunji Bamishigbin or Desmond Elliot phone no. This your real life story go sell wela. Infact your script is damn good. You can email me at nollywoodmovies@alabamarket.com. Waiting for your email. |
Re: What Should I Do by Nobody: 4:47pm On Mar 30, 2012 |
sexkillz:i thought KILLZ murdered Sexkillz on NL. or maybe sexkillz has just finish serving probation. |
Re: What Should I Do by Nobody: 4:49pm On Mar 30, 2012 |
bennyraz:What's the source of your information? www.BABE.com? |
Re: What Should I Do by Nobody: 4:57pm On Mar 30, 2012 |
sexkillz:www.mrschima.com |
Re: What Should I Do by Nobody: 5:08pm On Mar 30, 2012 |
Oh. . . is that the new gossip website? |
Re: What Should I Do by Nobody: 1:22pm On Mar 31, 2012 |
Yup |
Re: What Should I Do by chuksikem(m): 1:29pm On Mar 31, 2012 |
~Killz~: o boy..so you get time read all that stuff...kudos to you great eye site and incredible patience |
Re: What Should I Do by Killz3(m): 1:58pm On Mar 31, 2012 |
chuksikem:I read it while i was re-aligning it. |
Re: What Should I Do by Nobody: 3:06pm On Mar 31, 2012 |
Op,the oath was it in the name of God or Sango. If it is God,go down in prayers,confess your sins and repent. God will forgive you. If it is Sango.....tufiakwa!!!,boy, this gods no get remote controls oo. Na trial and error options |
Re: What Should I Do by dgb4(m): 3:59pm On Mar 31, 2012 |
@poster, am so sorry for ur predicament. life is all about risk, if you really love her you can still get married and pray to God to non SS kids, ive seen 3 occasions where the couples didn't get SS kids, but they stopped after the 2nd child. OR you can go for breaking of covenant by a strong man of God. |
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