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 Family › Re: Awaiting Fathers: Lets Share Our Experience by Abali1(m): 8:36am On Oct 03, 2014 |
By His Grace, am also in this category. in the first trimester, she was vomitting a lot and I got scared thinking each time if she Will be able to go through this. I was even blaming myself. lol. I had to relocate temporarily to mum's house, cos I couldn't handle it all by myself. After that stage, things has normalized a bit. I can't cook but I do help out in the kitchen, sometimes. I already told her that as she nears her due date, I will go and bring her mum to come and stay with us. I no fit shout ohh...her mum will soon be here, even though her due date is still at least two or three months away. God Bless all mothers and pregnant women. 16 Likes 1 Share |
| Family › Re: Abali Weds by Abali1(op): 3:11pm On Sep 19, 2014 |
bennyrazz: @op, is it my glasses?? why do you and your wife look alike? congratulations anywayhehehe..... it must be your glasses 2 Likes |
| Family › Re: Abali Weds by Abali1(op): 9:58am On Sep 18, 2014*. Modified: 1:50pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
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| Family › Re: Abali Weds by Abali1(op): 9:52am On Sep 18, 2014*. Modified: 1:50pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
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| Family › Re: Abali Weds by Abali1(op): 9:49am On Sep 18, 2014*. Modified: 1:52pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
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| Family › Re: Abali Weds by Abali1(op): 9:44am On Sep 18, 2014*. Modified: 1:51pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
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| Family › Re: Abali Weds by Abali1(op): 2:11pm On Sep 03, 2014*. Modified: 1:49pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
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| Family › Re: Abali Weds by Abali1(op): 5:37pm On Sep 01, 2014 |
My phone was down on that day, moreover am still on honeymoon. 3 Likes |
| Family › Re: Abali Weds by Abali1(op): 5:35pm On Sep 01, 2014*. Modified: 1:53pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
shizzleStar: show us more pictures or you are a troll |
| Family › Abali Weds by Abali1(op): 2:03pm On Sep 01, 2014*. Modified: 1:54pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
I did my church wedding last Saturday. 14 Likes |
| Politics › Re: Breaking News: Multiple Bomb Blast in #kano&kaduna by Abali1(m): 1:43pm On Jul 28, 2014 |
Nigeria my country. I have no other country. Am not going to be chased out of my country by some idiats. |
| Celebrities › Re: Beyoncé And Jay Z 'Will Split After Their Joint Tour Ends by Abali1(m): 1:40pm On Jul 22, 2014 |
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| Health › Re: Factors That Trigger Off Crisis In Persons Living With Sickle Cell by Abali1(op): 9:14am On Jul 22, 2014 |
Suarezpatrick: what's the best drugs to take when in crisisAm not qualified to give advice on the drugs you can take during crisis. Why not email me at abiaaba4@gmail.com Thank you. |
| Politics › Chibok Girls: A Critique by Abali1(op): 2:06am On Jul 19, 2014 |
It's about, mid night here and of all things that will be uppermost in my mind is the Chibok girls saga. No, don't get me wrong, none of my relations was among those kidnapped. I am worried because this has become a recurring decimal in our polity. Yes, history do repeat itself. When this Chibok girls saga hit the airwaves, I was among those that silently agreed with Mrs Kema Chikwe. I also thought about the feasibility of over 200 girls being adopted in one fell swoop. But I equally believed that there was some abduction of girls. So why am I now opening a thread to critique the chibok saga, and even went ahead to say it has become a recurring decimal in our polity? How many of you here on Nairaland still remember the MEND? What of the Kidnappers that held the south east hostage? Almost the same time the MEND were reigning in the Niger Delta? Okay what of the Mafia boys of Aba? You think it has finished. So you didn't remember the Bakassi boys that were at a time seen as a answered prayer to Mafia boys, turning around to become laws unto themselves. What has all these got to do with Chibok girls' saga? It has got a lot to do with it. Today, Borno and the entire North East region are under a siege, by Boko Haram. Tomorrow is going to be the turn of another region. Today we are advising Southerners in the North to go back to their region, I guess many have read their history books and came across were South Easterners were advised in the period following the second coup de etat to go back to Igbo land. Am sure again that many have not forgotten the series of warning issued during the MEND days. We can all remain deaf and dumb and watch our country taking over by some bucaneers masquarading as leaders, play politics with our lives. Or we can start a silent campaign in the media and in forums like this to condemn these few who have held the country by the jugular. Today it is boko haram, tomorrow after GEJ must have gone with his stolen loot, another group of militants/ terrorists will spring up in another part of the country and we Will start another round of criticism. Am done ranting. 2 Likes |
| Family › Re: Options Available For Same A.s Genotype Couple by Abali1(m): 1:19pm On Jul 14, 2014 |
ameenahz: IVF? Amniocentesis and subsequent termination of SS foetuses?Amina you've already given him some advice. Whatever Abali says will not make any difference. Moreover this is a man with a free Will. |
| Family › Re: How Come Men Don't Wipe After Peeing? by Abali1(m): 3:33pm On Jul 08, 2014 |
kreamidiva: Ha! Coogar! He wipes the tip of his kini,shakes it well for the rest to come out and wipes again.Hmmmm, your hubby does all these after peeing ? 5 Likes |
| Family › Re: . by Abali1(m): 7:05pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
flying dutchman: look, we are here to help. If you're going to shoot down every idea, then u don't have the OP's interest at heart. DO YOU HAVE A BETTER IDEA? If they can afford $7,000 why not go for it. ALL U PEOPLE HAVE BEEN OFFERING IS ADVICE OF BREAKING UP. THEY HAVE A RIGHT TO STICK TOGETHER. ITS THERE LIFE. Abali1: I never wanted to reply untill I read this. In another thread, someone is already accusing those of us are against AS/AS marital union of playing God. (Well, Only God knows my heart).*********************** Abali1: ,. . NB The above was my first and second posts on this thread. Like the second post stated "I think and believe its high time some people educate themselves from either learning from others or allowed to have the experience themselves". Talk is cheap. Op, you now have enough view points to make a decision. Do what you think best. But, you are solely responsible for any action you take. 1 Like |
| Family › Re: . by Abali1(m): 4:58am On Dec 28, 2013 |
flying dutchman: Please Op get in touch with me ASAP!!! I feel you. I have made an extensive research on the ISSUE. My information is free and should be spread around for everyone to see. There are three main methods of not having an SS child- (1) \when you are pregnant, there is a thing as PRENATAL GENOTYPE TEST-- It enables you to determine the genotype of the child you're carrying. ALTHOUGH, I DON'T SUBSCRIBE TO ABORTING IT, but its an option.Of course you don't subscribe to aborting it, but really what are other options are left for the couple if not either aborting the foetus or having a SS? Oga some of has actually done our research also. If Prenatal Genotype Testing was the escape route, will we all be here asking the Op not to go ahead with 'happiness'? flying dutchman: (2) PGD -- IT INVOLVES USING USING YOUR HUSBAND'S SPERM CELLS AND YOUR EGGS TO FORM A SERIES OF EMBRYO, AND THE ONE WITH THE BEST PROGNOSIS IS IMPLANTED INTO YOU. IT WOULD ALSO NEED YOU TO RECEIVE AN INJECTION WHICH WOULD MAKE YOU PRODUCE SEVERAL EGGS AT ONCE. I HAVE THE CONTACT OF SOME SPECIALISTS AT BOTH GREECE AND INDIA. ABEG, ABEG, ABEG, ON MY HONOUR, I'LL GIVE HEM TO YOU IF YOU DESIRE, BUT NOT ON THIS THREAD, SO IT IS NOT ABUSED- U KNOW HOW WE ARE AT TIMES.Again, you fail to mention that this method is not 100% accurate. Also I noticed that you didn't bother the cost implication of going to INDIA or GREECE anytime the couples have a need to have a baby. Or, you think that if this method were the best AS/AS intending couples will be frowned upon by many including some churches? NB You never stated the third method. 1 Like |
| Family › Re: . by Abali1(m): 11:41pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
[quote author=Efemena_xy]Having said that, you did pique my interest when you mentioned tribe as a criteria for getting married. I don't know how to ask this without sounding coarse but I'll try my best... Will you say, that in choosing a partner for life, you've had to compromise on your criteria / check list of what your intended wife should have or meet? I mean, apart from her needing to be an of AA genotype, would you say you've had to forgo other aspects which normally, you wouldn't have if you weren't a Warrior? But you're the most open person / warrior I've come across so I'm hoping you'll indulge me and not take offence at my inquisitiveness...[/quote]Aunty Efe, You are not crossing any boundaries. I believe someone out there will read and get enlightened. . . My Answer: I am a straight foward person and I some times speak the truth even when I am at disadvantage. So naturally I am drawn to people who are truthful. And I trust easily, but any crack I will never trust you again. So if I were an AA, I can't compromise on a Trustworthy Lady. Thus AA or SS, my lady must be Trustworthy (even though of late, I have done certain things to make my girl distrust me). . . I don't really care about Tribe, but then I couldn't marry my first love cos of so many obstacles. The main one being that I am an only son, and I can't bear getting married and my mum wouldn't witness it (she threatened that she will be absent on my wedding day if I go ahead and marry her). So, AA or SS, I wouldn't marry a lady my mum resents because of her tribe. . . I like my ladies: Not too slim, not to fat. Not too tall not too short Front view moderate, back view moderate Above all a presentable face to look at (cos its for a life time). *** I am very picky, even though I am not too handsome. So whether I be AA or not, I will still not compromise on many things. I have got only one life to live, so I have decided to make the most of it. |
| Family › Re: . by Abali1(m): 10:23pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
[quote author=Efemena_xy]Now I really, really, have to ask this: how do you contend with heart break resulting from girls initally promising to go all the way with you, but then develop cold feet because they feel it's something they can't handle? I'm referring to girls with AA genotype. I'll understand if you don't want to talk about it, but I'm hoping you will.[/quote]@ The bolded, with me there is no holds bar. I will do my best to answer any question(s) if it has to do with Sickle Cell. . . . To your question; I learnt a very long time ago that I need a healthy dose of confidence in being able to relate with my peers, albeit having to cope with sickle cell. I thank God for my very first girlfriend. This babe got height, shape and she is beautiful. Guys in UNILAG were always asking her what she is doing with "this boy"; and guys in turn were asking me how I got such a hot babe. Though we couldn't marry because of TRIBE (mum was adamant), my confidence level just stayed high after that. AA girls (IGBOs) who rejected me because of genotype actually caused some damages to my Self Confidence, but when I remember other conquests and my first girl.......My self confidence always build up. At the moment I have an Ex who knows everything about me calling day and night to come back....... but she has already made the mistake of fluttering. Also, my current girl knows everything about my genotype and keep showing me love. She doesn't care about Genotype (maybe she is the one come 2014). NB Aunty Efe, As for those that walked away, their lost. |
| Family › Re: . by Abali1(m): 5:00pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
[quote author=Efemena_xy]Abali, If you don't mind my asking, how often do you have these crises and what triggers them? Does stress contribute to it? Teachers were wary of her and excluded her from tasks, from punishments, you name it. Yes she was a good girl but felt it unfair that she couldn't experience a little of what we all went through when naughty. I remember clearly, she broke the norm of being her usual quite self, made a lot of noise in class and made sure her name was on that list for noise makers. Even the prefect was reluctant to put her name down. When the teacher came in to round us up for punishment (yes, yes, I follow them make noise too  ), he didn't want to flog her but she insisted. You need to have heard the sharp intake of breadth from EVERYONE. Just to humour her, he tapped her hands lightly with a pencil and the whole class breathed a sigh of relief. Mind you, we were in JSS 1 then. Still very young, but old enough to understand the implications of what could have happened if the teacher her flogged her like the rest of us. Anyway, the bigger question here is this - why did she go this far? Simple. She just wanted to belong. To feel 'among'. So @OP really does need to ask herself if this is another thing she's willing to put her kids through. It's heart wrenching enough for an individual to feel 'left' out, much less a child. I also have an aunt who had seven kids, one of which was an SS child. No need going into details the pain the whole family felt when this child died just after gaining admission into Uni. A word they say, is enough for the wise.[/quote]Aunty Efe, I usually do have crisis not more than three times a year. Reason, I have come to understand myself so well that I can sense a crisis coming days before it occurs. Once I sense it, I start admnistering the necessary medications to either hold it off or minimize the effect. I once opened a thread "Factors that trigger of Sickle Cell Crisis". Yes, stress is one of the factors that trigger of crisis. Others are, dehyderation, Malaria attack, infection (maybe from open wound) food poisening etc. . . On the second bolded, I attended a boarding school and I will tell you that I made so much effort not to allow anyone see my Doctors Report. Why? I never want to be shielded. Infact in my JSS 1, only about 2 or 3 people suspected I had health problems. I joined my mates in doing manual labour like cutting the grass, carrying buckets of gravel to the building site, fetching water etc. Flogging? I recieved enough of that while in the secondary school. Yeah, Warriors may have health challenges but we also want to be treated like the rest of the human race. If you go through my threads, you will see that I have done some 'bad boys' things that you will never associate with a Warrior. But with the benefit of hindsight, it was just the Grace of God that I am still alive. |
| Family › Re: . by Abali1(m): 1:20pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
babestell: OP you know what you should do. Better do it, I do not believe in testing God, seek his face and ask his guidance, because a certain person claims his genotype changed doesn't mean yours will change.The bolded is the key word in this whole thread. I cannot understand why in this day and time, someone will take a Life Altering decision based on hear-say. God is still in the business of doing miracles, but I will never support anyone who purposely decides to tempt God. If the Op didn't know already, I will excuse her ignorance. But knowingly going into a marital union with both being AS/AS is a No-No. Nobody is even talking about the financial implication of catering for a SS baby. The money my family has spent on managing my health is enough to train about 4 persons from Kindergarten up to University level. As an adult who now earns his own money, I know how much I spend on medication. And still my family accuses me of not doing enough for myself. No two days passes without me taking one form of medication or another. But someone who obviously has not been close to a Warrior will come to me and talk about Faith. Do you even know what it means to "pass through the valley of the shadow of death" (literally)? Yet you talk to me about Faith. In the suicide thread, here on NL a fellow Warrior is constantly batteling with depression leading to suicidal thoughts cos his Father has abandoned their mother to her woes. NB Op, I am not your God........ but you can go ahead and Tempt the Lord your God. |
| Family › Re: A Nairalander and spouse invite Nairalanders to their traditional marriage by Abali1(m): 7:53am On Dec 27, 2013 |
berries 123, So you just NL come dey invite all man come your papa house........anyway, you gotta pay 'introductory levy'; 'Oversight levy'; 'Posting levy'.......Abeg no default on these levies ohh.....if not I go tell Seun to deactivate your account. |
| Family › Re: A Nairalander and spouse invite Nairalanders to their traditional marriage by Abali1(m): 7:48am On Dec 27, 2013 |
Baby mama: I advise you take that IV down immediatelyBaby Mama don vex.......abeg no too blame the op, the excitement too much for her..........moreover she is ignorant of the devices of the devil..... E heee Baby mama you fit inbox the venue for me, make I go drink mmanya ngwo...... |
