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i dont hate my exes but i only wanted to do away with my feelings for him but things are not working i just cant get over him while with him and i think he too. I think i should stop talking to him.

Wat has age got to do with this? Enway 23

I tried hating my ex bf it didn't work coz he continued being friendly, now am still dying inside. I have all his passwords and credit cards we talk all the time and he always keeps me around him and his friends. Pliz advise. Can we really be genuine friends and wat should I do to keep these feelings away?

Am born in a family of two, all girls. My late father was a very good and honest man worked for some years and lost his job. Him and mum struggled to pay us till we atleast finished a level at the university. As i write now i lost my Mum on 17/08/2012 about two weeks now, three years after my fathers death. Now am wondering why someone would never enjoy a moment of happiness in their lives till their death. Mum was a woman of faith and prayer cause even when she died she kept shouting the name Jesus. Well i do admit that sometimes i paryed to God to allow her rest because of the pain she was going through, it was just to much for a human being to feel but amidist that pain she never missed any single sunday for paryers. What am wondering is why God would allow someone to suffer in xile during the war, stay inlove and so faithful to a man with or without money, loose your husband, struggle to see your two children through education then you catch cancer, suffer for years and die a very painful death? My friends in christ, i miss my parents especially my Mum and yet in dreams she tells me God delayed her death, she was supposed to have passed on, on 15/12/2011. I dont understand and i really need your parayers

Time they say heals all wounds. How much time does it take to get over a break _up and wat do u need to do inorder to get out of it so fast

Am 24yrs old now and been in stupid relationships only. Am I gonna be left out without love or am I just in a rush?

Would you continue in a relationship with someone who infected you with hiv _aids?

For Christ s sake, why does my ex boyfriend always talk too much about me? And worst of all, bad things only . Wat should I do?

Guy's, am really so soorrry i so much love your advise plz dnt get angry with abeg.

@ AJJ, thanx dear am really trying hard to move on but believe me its quite hard to move on that fast especially when you keep seeing the one person your running away from everyday. @ Jojo Armani, that should be overdose for me i dont think thats the best prescription.LOL............@ M M M is it for consultation so that i can prepare some fees or ?? i wish i could.

@ ms pookie i think RUN is good just incase he turns out positive

@ Idowuogbo, rape him nara i cant even think of molesting him i just think saving me from HIV/AIDs that's if he is positive is enough to show how sorry he feels for me. Other things i don wanna know now.

@M M M ofcourse i know your pissed. But onething you guys should understand is the fact that am just learning to know that love hurts so bad it being my first heart break. YOU SHOULD ALL KNOW I REALLY APPRECIATE WATEVER ADVICE YOUR GIVING ME AND I THINK SOMETIMES IS GOOD TO SPEAK OUT. THANKS ALOT GUYS.

@ M M M, I have tested once since April and that was last week it was Neg+ and i never asked about his status ever since April when shit happened but before, we used to take tests together. Okay if he is not HIV+, then what is it? Friends please tell me how i should treat this guy cause we actually live together, eat together and even drink the same water and one funny thing is that, the days i treat him harshly and give him very bad atittude, he is totally disorganised and even becomes sick. I wanted to shift away but my friends said it would be corwadize.

@Amya, it's not that i want him back but i also wonder whether i should hate him or be good to him because if he is HIV+ then surely he has saved me.

@Bisjosh, he has no live-in girl because he leaves in my neighbourhood and actually leaves his keys behind whenever he goes off the week to work. Thouhgt i was trying to know if he stilled loved me after pushing me away thats why i asked to comeover to his place.

I have been in a r/ship for about 1yr and a half with lots of love involved though with a womanizer. He loved me and tried never to let me know he cheated though i would always know whenever our friends spoke about the stories they had.Time passed and one time he cheated on me again but this time he had live sex with this girl and most painful is that the news around town went that this girl is HIV+ and this time i hard it all, i still pretended i didnot know anything but for him he admited to me and said he agrees this time he has been caught pants down. Still i didnot say anything but after a period of two weeks, i heard him discuss in my neighbourhood with our friends that the girl tested + to preganacy and our friends wer' advising him to get rid of the prgnancy since he admitted he didnot know the girl at all. He objected saying he cannot concent to an abortion so i immediately sent him a message asking him if all i heard was true because he didnot know i was in one of the rooms in the house and heard everything. He denied saying he doesnot know wher' i get my rumours from. Time went on and he kept telling me we cant go on cause he doesnot deserve me, am too good for him we should forget the intimacy part of the r/ship but he can never afford to loose my friendship. sometimes i would ask him if i can come over to his place and all he says is not now. He is really very good to me and regrets having lost me but cant have me back even now that he let the other girl have an abortion. He comes to my place every day but doesnot allow me go to his place, buys me gifts and even celebrated my birthday with me and he really cares about me. What i dont understand stand is why he is nice to me yet he cant have me back. could he be HIV+? Because ever since he slept with that girl, he has never accepted me sleep with him, he only says not now and asks for my patience. please advice me.

@190 Have you ever been serious? en way i think you've never been dumped

i met my work met with whom we both once had an attraction in the club with another chic. he saw me and i also saw him but i stayed unbothered the whole night long in the club till this day i have said nothing about it. whats funny is that when am around him, he brings up a statement that someone was in the club on saturday and pretended not to see me telling his friends. what should i do

your right about that but remember he doesnt ask about my passed and we have never discussed anything about the r/ship is he serious or playing games

i have a work met who took me out one day, we had a fabulous time i even spent the night at his place till noon the following day. he calls me yes and teases me alot, smiles at anything i say and he promised to keep the r/ship a secret not known at work but the funny thing is we have never had any kind of serious discussion about love i mean he told me he will always be there for me when ever i want to talk to him or need his help. he has told me alot about himself but asked me nothing about my passed. i dont know if he really loves me or we get it wrong. one thing is i know he enjoys talking to me. he looks so much critically at me and makes me even uncomfortable. pls wat do i do here i dont understand this guy