IbrahimB:

Yeah, let her see your family doctor and let her undergo the tests every rape victim should undergo. It's a serious issue.

A question, who is the doctor preparing the report for? For you? I really don't want to laugh!

Alright the doctor treated her for stomach fungus; didn't he treat her also for rape? 'Are you pondering what I'm pondering?'

She went to the hospital not because of the issue but because she was sick from agbo she reportedly took.

Thanks to everyone who has replied to this thread. I am yet to see her face to face but I will do that in about 4 hours or so. I have not seen her not because I am not serious or something but my left leg would not allow me to travel long distance ( suffering from injection that I took in 2002 ).

Anyway, We have chatted and I have noted so many things. I have told her over via text message that I don't believe her story and this is what she has to say

I am d 1 in question nt u and see no reason to say smtin am nt happy abt. So lets stop it here. Do luv u.

Obviously her text is enticing but I will never be decieved by it.

Here is another one that was sent when I kept trying to question her to see if she will change what she has said

I will ensure I bring doctors report to u. And u are making me unhappy with dis and you know I am not OKAY

Unfortunately the doctor's report is reportedly not ready ( according to her) and she can not wait cos she is reportly have some stomach problems ( the doctors said it was stomach fungus again, according to her ) but she has agreed to go see my family doctor.

She claim not to have told everyone about this and she said she did not tell me because it is something she prefer to talk about one on one and not via the phone. I am trying to give her every support she needs but sincerely, I still do not fully believe the story.

I will update you guys later today or tomorrow.

Pray for who? Does TB Joshua know how many people this idiots that rule us have killed? Yaruda can not tell us he does not know of his party's arocities. He can not tell us he does not know that many people have died as a result of the hardship they force on us.

I don't wish him dead but I can not pray for someone to get healed and then for the idiot to come back and start making life hard for us. It is obvious that God does not want him they and he can continue if he thinks he is greater than God.

Sincerely, I don't mind seeing him forever sick until he resignes. And his wife, family and friends are the most stupid humans on earth. They know he will die if he does not resign and do something about his health yet no one has advised him to resign. It is true that some of them might have advised him to resign but methink if the pressure is much, he will.

Let him die if he wishes or life if he also wishes. Stupid sheep like idiot.

I just notice the title of this thread has been changed on the homepage of NL which I think is unfair. I was not in anyway saying being raped is not a big deal. My girlfriend got raped and I can not be happy with it.

I only used the word "no bid deal" because it is not something that will make me leave her. Please Moderator kindly change the title to exactly what it is. Please.

Tough for you? Isnt that just typical of u guys - selfish! What about her? She should be the priority now, not you!

Selfish? far from it, if I was selfish, I would not have brought this up here. I would have jilted her without second thought.

Thanks to everyone for your support. This has been a really tough time for me but I believe it is for purpose. And you guys should please note that I did not start this thread to ask if I should jilt her or something. I started this thread because :

1. I need someone to talk to ( had no friend who will understand me cos I decided not to have any friend again after I lost my best friend 2 years ago )
2. Was worried that she might kill herself ( at least that was what I saw in my dream and my dreams are always spot on or close to it )
3. I was seriously bothered as to why she did not tell me even after I deliberated asked her when last she saw her period for her to know I already know something was not alright.

We have had many troubles in this relationship. Her best friend has tried to make me do it with her and when I refused, she started blackmailing us. Telling my parents and who cares to listen that my girlfriend was a bad girl, she already had 365 kids for 730 men ( fortunately she was a virgin and I am still disappointed I did not believe when she said she was a virgin ).

We had so many issues and I did not jilt her then ( even though I considered it at some point ) and I don't think I will want to jilt her now that she is undergoing some emotional issues. Me and her have decided to sit down and analyze the situation and move on from there.

Sincerely, I don't know why but the I just know that I Love her more than I thought with all these. The only thing I am not happy with is the fact that she did not tell me. Yes, it is not easy to say but then she knows I already know something was amiss.


Any, thanks to everyone who have replied to this thread. I am tempted to single out certain people for special thanks but I will not do that cos all the replies have helped in one way or the other.

Thanks Guys and Gals. You guys have helped make a difficult situation look simple.

I read just one line: being raped is not a big deal.

How would you feel if some macho men tore your ass?

I believe some of the guys and gals here have got me wrong. I am not happy that she got raped ( at least that is what she said ) and when I mean it was no big deal, I mean it is not something that will make me quit the relationship. Being raped is a bad thing but it is not something that one should jilt a girl for.

How will I be happy when I was the one who disvirgined her and sincerely, no girl ( apart from her ) can say she has "done it" with me.

Update : I did talk to her, we spoke on phone for about 2 hours yestersday and we will both be going to Lagos ( Tuesday and Wednesday ) to trash it out. I don't think the relationship is important now. What is important is her health. I may not date her again ( seriously, I need to think about everything again ) but I don't want her death.

I saw her dead in my dream and she comfirmed to me that she almost died due to the drugs took and even thought of killing herself. She is not the end of the world for me, in fact one mistake ( we have had too many already ) and I am off but death is not what I want for her.

The only problem I have with her is that 1. She did not tell me even when it was obvious that I already know something was wrong 2. When she did finally explain, she explained as if nothing was wrong.

Anyway, I need to concentrate on what we will make me happy, I am not having the best of week ( to worsen the situation Arsenal got disgraced by Drogba yet again ).

Hi Nairalanders,
 I need your help but before I explain what just happened to me I need to first apologise to Seun, his admins and moderators and everyone else.

I had to create an account here cos there may be someone here that know me through my real username. Please accept my sincerely apology.

Here is the situation :

About 1 week ago I had a dream where I saw it that my girl friend ( of 4 years - we starting seeing November 20 2005 ) was seeing another person and another the line got pregnant and did an abortion and I got to know then broke up with her. Later one of her family called me ( still in the dream ) to tell me she was dead.

She, myself and everyone around me know that I have power of dreams and it is always very dangerous when I dream and something unusual happens but as God will have it, I did something unusual, something I have not done for years, something that according to me my ( no one knows about this one ) I did not do when I was small - I wet the bed.

I call her the next morning and to my surprise she was sick, I asked her what was wrong, she said she was sick but I know it was not sickness alone.

I kept calling her asking her what was wrong. She later told me she told one herb ( agbo ) and it was disturbing her. I had to call her friend to please help me get her to a hospital when it was obvious that the pain was too much for her which they did.

The second day, she called me to say she was coming home ( she is schooling in Onisha and I am in Cotonou ) because she is still feeling sick and the doctors could not treat her well enough.

Later the third day, she was talking fine and feeling better. She even asked me to talk to her on the messenger which I did but we could not chat for long because her connection was bad.

Then today, ( about 5 days later ) she called me to help her do some assignment online ( she has given me the job for sometime but I have not been able to do it cos 1. I have been in Lagos all week and had no access to the internet 2. I have been having body pains due to much travellin.

It was then she told me what was wrong with her after much begging and persuasion.

And what was wrong is ,

She was raped.

Ok being raped is not a big deal but :

1. I have warned her to stop working out alone in the night

2. Why didn't she tell me when it was obvious my dream was close to t

3. When we were talking, I asked her to come down to Lagos ( she has nothing much doing in school according to her ) so we talk about it but she turned me down without any excuse.

4. When she rejected coming down to Lagos, I told her to let us talk on the messenger but she said her time was up and she logged off without saying bye.

5. I called her to ask why she logged out and she was talking to me like someone who is not remorseful.

I have promised myself and my God when I had the dream that I will do the right thing, never let the situation to derail what I am doing but do you think this girl is worth continuing with?

I have been dating her for 4 years now and she has been my parents number 1 enemy for the last 3 years due to a problem she had with my younger sister and my dad.

What do you guys think? Should I jilt her?

Another thing, I have not cheated her for once. Her very own friend has offered herself ( which is aware of ) and I did it. A friend of mine ( a girl ) has offered herself and even went ask far as blackmailing her but I never did and now this is happening to us but she does not feel sorry or does not want to talk about it.

Help,