₦airaland Forum

angelbaby22: Marriage and having children are seen as the qualities that make a woman a woman. I've heard that sometimes in nigeria before a marriage can take place the woman must get pregnant to prove that she can bare kids. The issue of marriage is there in Africa not just nigeria I believe most women naturally aspire to achieve the status of wife and mother for respect and following culture and tradition asit was past down from the ones before you.

I must confess I'm one of the guilty people that are definitely marriage obsessed

Raymondenyi: Idiots, so yu re part of the persons physically assaulting Ladies? Anyday u mistakingly try dat wt any of my siblings, or guardians I'll kill u wt my bare hans, foool.
Well as for the post! I think the whole thing is coming 4rm poverty ignorance n illitracey, I know dat village in Phc n its mainly Low class dat stays der. N I'll also use ds opportunity 2 plead 2 Ladies, pleeease after marriage don't see urself as no need 2 look Good cus U already have a"standby" man, it kills home! Men re moved by wat they see. N U should always try 2 keep up wt the trend its mandatory as a lady, try 2 look good. Please. I can't stand it if my wife doesn't look trrendy n she knows it n she's always cute looking so I really got no business outside. Ladies please be warned,

biolabee: u are the stubborn womanthat cant process what you are reading so far

A man told you he is not a polygamist, yet you are still painting him as a stubborn person

Calm down and go and take your inhaler....

and stop writing in caps

LoveAmaka88: Has anyone tried wearing these extra ornaments on nails? They're gorgeous, but I'm worried about them making my life difficult.

biolabee: The fact that you don't agree with someone does not mean the person is not making sense
You need to learn how to have mature , issues-based discussions rather than calling names

He is an African man and he told you he will not practice polygamy. What more do you want to hear

biolabee: JUDGED!!!

biolabee: you shd have read his statement properly. Let me do you one more favor and break it down for you



Any other name calling or sly talk will be met with ....

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adabeke12: IT IS NOW CONFIRMED THAT MOST NIGERIAN MEN DON'T LISTEN. WOMEN RUN FOR YOUR DEAR LIFE
LET THEM BE THE ONE AND ONLY BEING RULING THEIR CASTLE... NO WOMEN ALLOWED

biolabee: i am ok.. you are the one we should be asking that question

biolabee: GBAM gidi GBAM!!
You Got JUDGED,girl!

2buff: Good. Keep it up

2buff: Sorry. Bedroom policy.
As you know, these are the endtimes.
Sh|t be wack

2buff: s'okay. You know there's room on here for one more
Before coming though, please pass through that metal detector over there.
We can't be too careful these days with all these knives and stabbings

2buff: Argghh!! The yelling!
Some of us have just finished eating and are trying to fall asleep you know

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Thank you for your "observation".
Those women "dancing" about this issue are reminding us that they would do exactly the same thing, if their husband decides to marry a second wife!
I HOPE THEIR HUSBANDS/BOYFRIENDS ARE READING THIS, .....YOU ARE GOING OUT WITH A POTENTIAL MURDERER!

Back to the real issue:
[b]*The fundamental basis of any relationship, which is.... and should be "TO FREELY ASSOCIATE, WITHOUT COMPULSION", ....is being called to question here.

*Marriage is not about "exclusive ownership or property" .......since we humans are NOT COMMODITIES to be traded back and forth. You did not buy or own your partner. What you own is "Your own freedom" to walk away, if you want "out".

*Marriage is an "agreement to live together PEACEFULLY". If that condition can no longer be realized, or is no longer feasible or has become extremely cantankerous, then it is better (l said better, not the best alternative) for each party to go their separate ways.

*If one can then build a fulfilling (within limits of their circumstances) relationship from there-on, good.

*But when one partner thinks "I must kill the other one because he/she does not love me anymore", then it was NEVER LOVE in the first place!

*Killing your spouse also deprives the kids of their right to the "presence and love" of that other spouse!

*If what she did was right, why is she now running and dodging? For how long can she run? She will eventually be hanged or gassed to death. Those who kill by the sword MUST die by the sword.[/b]

In this age of rampant promiscuity, l hope all the women celebrating this murder will one day, expect their "man" to murder them if and when he discovers they have cheated on him,....how about that for thought? The same yardstick you use for others will be used for you, as well. Shikenna!

If you truly love something, set it FREE.....if it comes back to you, it is yours for keeps otherwise, it was never yours in the first place!

If you dont like a "situation", just walk away from it. It costs you nothing (and they did not build any home together because this is not a home, ab-initio! A "home" does not suffer this kind of violence.

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LESSON: If you must eat with the Devil, please be prepared to "buy and use" a VERY LONG SPOON! Nothing should be taken for granted these days! be Guided.

shymexx: We're the architect of our own reality - if you want to be happy, you don't need marriage for that... Just create your own reality... Marriage is more or less a partnership and if you feel cheated in the partnership, get out of it - you don't need to take the next person's life nor destroy him to achieve happiness... At the end of the day, we're all in pursuit of happiness and what makes me happy might not be what makes you happy - finding a balance is the most important thing...

Polygamy might be the man's source of happiness and if that's what he wants - let him have it... If you don't like it, leave him alone... We just can't keep destroying men to lift women up - that's a big NO NO... Polygamy is an African culture and any woman that doesn't like the culture should de-Africanise herself and go marry a white guy, period...

shymexx: You didn't get underlying message behind the last paragraph of my post... I was alluding to the fakeness about most pseudo-modern black women who try too hard to be what they're not... They all want to be everything but African - and your culture is who you're and not the colour of your skin... If you pride yourself in being African, then you shouldn't have a problem with your culture... Polygamy is as African as the African languages - and I honestly don't see why people have a problem with it... It's a matter of choice, if you don't like it - get out of the marriage and leave the man alone... Taking an innocent man's life because he was just being himself is unacceptable...

I'm not a polygamist and I'll never be - but I'll never deny something that's quintessentially African... If anyone has enough strength to handle more than one black woman, let him be... I definitely don't want to live in a house with more than one black woman... One is hellish enough - having more than one is like signing your own death certificate..

emmatok: I you marry a Muslim or Traditional African man, you should know that polygamy is possible.

jidegirl12: #counting fingers and slammed thread exit door#

biolabee: It's meant to elicit laughter
LOL

obowunmi: babe, you know say na me and you..... don't mind these people here to distract our love.

biolabee: LMAO!!!