₦airaland Forum

Sulu Gambari should go and rest. He should be satisfied with just Ilorin that fell for the Fulani tricks and whims and leave the rest alone.

letskeeptalking:
I guess my real question is: knowing what you know now, would you make the same choice again?

I’m currently on the verge of divorce after 15 years of marriage and three kids.. Even though this is my decision, I feel like I have no real choice. My husband (if I can even call him that) says he doesn’t want to lose his family, but he does absolutely nothing to show it.

A lot has happened over the years, and it’s reached a point where I genuinely believe there is no future for us as a couple.

So I feel like I have two options: divorce him and move forward as a single mother… or stay, knowing I could never love him again.

I worry about my kids and how growing up with parents in a loveless marriage might shape their future relationships and choices. But then I also wonder, would they be better off growing up with a single mother?

I’m not concerned about stigma or even about finding another partner someday. Honestly, the way I feel right now, I’m ready to remain celibate for life.

If you’ve gone through this, can you please share your experience?
Do you regret your choice?
Looking back, would you make the same decision again?

I believe marriage is not easy anywhere. My mother would say, give yourself time , take it to God in prayer. He can solve it all

Yourprick:
Aren't all this people meant to be supporting obi? What changed.

“Tinubu Has Already Won The Re-Election And Is Going To Be President. He Has No Opposition In 2027. This Movement Is Unstoppable.” ~ Billionaire Businessman Zenco, Alongside Others, Donates Buses Worth Millions To The City Boy Movement In Support Of Tinubu’s 2027 Re-Election Bid.… pic.twitter.com/Yclh5g9VBy

— Somto Okonkwo (@General_Somto) February 12, 2026

don't be deceived , I have been in an election where some of these igbo big wigs that were given huge amount of money by Tinubu to help him gather votes in igboland were busy telling us to make sure we vote Peter Obi for president and vote for APC in the other ones

Op , be calming down o. The movie is just starting. Abi no be the same cane una carry flog first wife , una wan avoid for the second wife. Just be patient , you hear, this movie go long and e go sweet

elipheleh:
Marrying an unintelligent woman is really the worst mistake a man can make.

If I can reverse the Hands of clock I wont go for my current wife.

Well, I always loved an intellectually sound woman. It trips me. Something like a medical doctor or a programmer lady. At minimum a working class lady. Both intellect and beauty trips me.

I imagined a marriage where I'll be on thesame frequency.

I am a 1st class material but financial burden made me drop to second class upper in my 3rd year to 5th year.

I always knew I was going far in life and needed a woman who wanted to go far too.

When I met my wife she was very beautiful, speaks very well and in her 1st year. Each time I asked about her studies she would convince me how she was the best in her class and this and that.

Ask for her results, she would say results are not yet out.

By her 2nd year I married her after she got pregnant. As per the honorable man na

Do you know this girl after I2nd year, all her results were carry over. I mean ALL. Not even 1 pass.

Damn. Women fear women.

Now she just birthing beautiful kids. But now there's communication. Tge knowledge gap between us is too wide. Nothing to discuss about. Even when I try to communicate it frustrates me. I will speak and still explain my very own grammar. Then I will now explain the meaning and the etymology before continuing with the sentence. Its a real pain communicating.

You can imagine my regrets when I see an intelligent hardworking lady doctor outside.

Secondly, she doesn't want to work or even study to improve herself.

I am not poor by any means. I am a software developer. I earn about N4 million monthly.

But my wife is only happy selling ZOBO and kwulikwuli. Even at that she is not serious with it. Imagine this year she has not even started selling anything. January has passed.

I've told her to learn and IT skills. She says No.

Told her learn nursing, she said No

I did international passport for me, her and our 3 kids. She just came up and said she won't like to travel abroad. Her fears is that women there are likely going to be working on jobs.

Ok. Madam lets open Boutique for you - she no get the energy to run boutique.

Oya learn driving and be taking the kids to school - it is taking her almost 3 years to learn. Today she will drive, tomorrow she will forget it.

Oya madam go back to school and complete your education. She no want.

Every quarrel, she will threaten to commit suicide (informing random relations of mine to take care good of her children if anything happens to her) and accuse me of not seeing any value in her. Madam which value? You don't want to improve yourself and you now cry that I am improving.

She wants this and that and I spend so much. How can a man be spending more than 3 million every month? She want chop chop chop.

Since I met her, I have overworked myself.

Story long..

Sometimes, I always feel like quitting this marriage. But being a Christian, I feel trapped in this better for worse journey.

If only Madam can develop herself. I wish she can be just willing to learn or pursue knowledge. Let her drop this laziness about self-development and littleness mindset thing. Kai. No ambition. No dreams. I wish she can just have dreams for once in her life. And be a lover of wisdom.

I plan to go far in this life. But its difficult to do so when you're unequally yoked with an unambitious partner.

Only God can save my marriage at this rate things are going

give that woman space . You can move over to another state or even abroad , be sending her monthly allowance but make sure the money you send will be a little less than enough. If she complain, complain back and tell her things are difficult and money is hard to come by these days. By the time hunger wire her well , no be person go tell her to find something doing to support herself.

Op , be calming down o. I have seen a man that married a woman that is earning more than him but every little thing she will call the man and demand money for it even if it is pen or pencil for the kids.

I have also seen a man that married an uneducated woman , as soon as she came she started selling roadside rice and ofe akwu , today she is building a two story building for her family and the man even later lost his job.

Everything na prayer. Just pray make you marry a good woman.

Chai ! I pity the mother of this girl. She was in so much anguish in the video I saw yesterday. Why is insecurity thriving so much in this Tinubu's regime. Dear Baba Tinubu , Jonathan's tenure is 100% better than yours.

DomPerignon:
Ibos also insulted Fela because Seun and Femi refused to support Obi.

I lie?

igbos did not and will never insult fela. We can go for his son's but never the icon. Stop being clever by quarter

and if you check well , e no go pass agbadorians. Na dem dey beg pass

Dbegining:
Who would have ever believed that the words "terrorists" and "Kwara" will ever be used in the same sentence. But, here we are. Courtesy of Tinubu, the master strategist.

God bless you my dear. Imagine the very peaceful kwara state

I don't know why people hate ike Ekweremadu so much but that senator na one of the few Nigeria senators that do pick calls and answer you respectfully . I don't know what led him to this.

Mods abeg make una no ban me o. It's time for some home truth .

Dear president Tinubu , why are you suddenly afraid to fight insecurity abi no be the same insecurity you carry oust president Jonathan ?

Is it not the same insecurity you and Buhari and Anaechi take carry go Amelika go tell Obama say Jonathan is a weakling , say he is unable to fight boko haram ?
Oya , e don reach your turn, common bandit, you no fit fight.
Tinubu, am sorry to ask but who is now the weakling between you and Jonathan ?

That singular action of yours at Amelika made Obama to join hands with you to end Jonathan's regime.

Today what is happening ? You have now stopped so low as to pay lobbyist to deny there is Christian genocide going on in Nigeria. Still itt did not work out

Indeed karma is a big time prostitute , as e take fvck your boss na so e go take fvck you too or even worse , depending on how terrible your past deeds are.

Today, Your tenure is the worst ever in the history of Nigeria.
under your very nose , Nigeria might separate and there is nothing you and yours can do about it.


Today I remembered the cry of mama peace on national television, 'chai there is God '.

I hope those that mocked her then can look back and see indeed that there is God and he has sent karma on those that deserve it

Pls you all should go to America and do the war and war argument there but make una leave Africa alone. We no kuku get a single war head for Africa. The only warhead we get na that green drone from Nigeria Army

Burob:
Save the middle belt indeed, hypocrisy @ work.

Helinues, where is the hypocrisy here kwanu ni tori olorun? Helinues, give it a rest biko. Una fail for this one

omoredia:
I just love this man. I dont mind if u are good or bad but if u are sincere and say things as it is i will have a very special liking of ur person. Honestly is very rare

true talk my dear. My kind of man. Say it as it is without fear or minding whose axe is gored. Rare to find them these days.

So he abandoned the armed forces remembrance day just to attend a birthday in faraway France

So because Ugadans are eating shit , we should also follow Ugadans to eat shit. You agbadorians are terrible
Left for agbadorians , They will make aunty Remi the vice president and Seyi the minister of petroleum and aunty lgbt minister of finance

If you try saying this thing in a motor Park in Abia, you will be stoned to death and nothing will happen.

Let me ask you , are Abians immuned to good things ? Orji Uzor Kalu have failed and will continue failing. His time don pass and there is nothing he or his deity will do to Alexander Otti.

So tell your boss Orji Uzor to give it a rest or incur the wrath of the Almighty

Emergency lovers of Obi have crawled out of their Whatsapp group.

To recognize them, immediately one of them post something on nairaland ,about five or more others will follow up with replies against Obi.

Op, leave Obi for us the obidients and go and clean up your messiah whose yansh has been bared to the public as the failure of all failures that he is.

So it is no longer Emeka the screwdriver seller ? Now the same mouth una carry sing crucify him , crucify him , una go still used to sing all hail the king.

My dear it's terrible . If we protest now, they will tag it Igbo protest and the rest of the country will keep quiet. So we are wiser now let's be enjoying the suffering together until we all decide to get it right by electing sensible leaders not these vampires we have up there

So a screwdriver sales man is that powerful and influential that even the world most powerful president listens to him, bows before him and do his wants without questions ?

This Emeka screwdriver seller is a very powerful man and a patriot. He should be given a national honour for bringing the world's attention to the genocide going on in Nigeria.

Abi no be all of us here on nairaland dey cry for Benue , southern kaduna and Jos victims that were being attacked and massacred daily and begging the president to do something , yet he did nothing.

If he takes an ordinary screwdriver seller to save the middlebeltans , then glory be to God. Emeka you be kabiyesi !

chai! There is nothing Adadike no go see for nairaland. Keep blaming the igbos until Trump strike your backyard again. If you like, don't ask Tinubu the terrible to do the right thing. Trump is coming again. Inukwa , Emeka the screw driver seller? Can you even listen to yourself?

T9ksy:
Well versed, indeed!!!

Even before the coup, these guys have never shown you any love. Abi, you 've forgotten what happened in 1945 and then again in 1953?
And then you went and unalived their "God" and as if that wasn't bad enough, you now foisted unitary govt on them where you will be the one determining their future for them!

You all are on a long thing o. Since then, they have been kpaing you guys at the drop of a koran or sighting of the moon.

Actually the reverse is the case now. They are now unaliving the love of their lives at ilorin and Oyo as we are witnessing these days. They know their boundaries and where to stop. The last time they tried that rubbish with us , we returned it with full measure , so they stopped and faced the love of their lives

Obidients warned you all but you refused to listen and kept shouting on his manhood we shall stand. Some even tell us that this administration will favour them and their families .

Today they are all gnashing and singing a different song.

Immediately Tinubu rigged the election , I noticed that my people suddenly changed with the system.

They sat tight and decided to live a more simpler life..

They met and decided that our brothers outside the country will help by bringing more people to join them and many of them do send in money on monthly basis.

There is no home in the South East that lacked food this Xmas.

They thought they are doing the obidients but ended up shooting themselves at the foot

OfoIgbo:
Babandiga has already pointed an accusing finger at Awolowo.

As a former president of Nigeria, Babangida obviously was privy to secret documents which helped him in that decision.

Coup led Awolowo to prison
Awolowo coopted some impressionable officers, some of whom were Igbos to execute the Jan 1966 coup.
Awolowo also planned a coup when Babangida was the president, which led him to injest rat poison.

It seems as though Awolowo's life was all about coups and killing people.
Thank God he was unable to rope in any Igbo person in his last coup, otherwise he would have used it as an excuse to starve more Igbos to death.

thank God for people that are well versed in history otherwise they would have caused more rifts between Ndigbo and the northerners. God bless you dearest

franchasng:
Ordinarily, I am not supposed to reply you, but since I am free now, I will.


First, stop allowing ethnic dislike to control your thoughts and reasoning as human.


Your political elites told you guys so much lies about the Igbos which you guys have held on to for several years now and refused to do personal research and even analyze issues based on available facts and not some hearsay or they said or I heard.


I am going to present facts to you which you can personally research to know if it's true or not.


General Aguiyi Ironsi the first Military Head of state of Nigeria who happened to be Igbo was removed via counter coup in 1966.

While he was Military Head of state, Nigeria still ran regional system of government.


Col. Odimegwu Ojukwu was the Military Governor of Eastern Nigeria.


Col. Adekunle Fajuyi was the Military Governor of Western Region.


Maj. Gen. Hassan Katsina was the Military Governor of Northern Region.


Col. David Ejoor was the Military Governor of Midwestern Region of Nigeria.


Immediately Ironsi was removed, Gowon took over as Military Head of State and after taking power, Gowon replaced the four large regions (North, East, West, Mid-West) with a 12-state structure in 1967.


Gowon stated that he dissolved the regional system as a strategic move to dilute regional power, reduce ethnic tensions, and prevent further fragmentation. This effectively ended the pre-existing regional system.



But as usual, Yoruba media propaganda always love to blame Igbos for every political issue in Nigeria, so they always held on to decree 34 by Aguiyi Ironsi as what ended regional system of government but under the same man they said ended regional system, Nigeria had Regional Governors, Western Region had a Military Regional Governor, Fajuyi.


Now you may ask what was decree 34 all about?


It was a usual practice for all military personnel that seized power in their nations back then to find ways to consolidate power to avoid political uprising against them, so they usually suspend their nation's constitution and adopt the use of military decree to enact laws they used to rule their nations in place of national constitution.


Decree 34 abolished political parties, unified civil service in Nigeria to give the military head of state the power to control state institutions and prevent political uprising.


But as usual, Yorubas intentionally ignored Gowon's decree no 14 of May 27, 1967 that instantly abolished regional governments and created the first 12 states in Nigeria, which ended the regional system of government and rather blamed Aguiyi Ironsi's decree no 34 that only unified civil service and abolished political parties while keeping regional governments as Nigeria still had Regional Governors before Ironsi was removed via bloody counter coup.


So tell me, how did Ironsi ended Regional government in Nigeria when under his military leadership Nigeria still had 4 regional governments with their respective Regional Governors?


Tell me why Ironsi who never created a single state but kept all the four regions and appointed Military Governors to oversee the four regions the person to be blamed instead of Gowon that abolished regional governments and created the first 12 states in Nigeria?

Even I myself did not know this history. Thanks nwokeoma

Spy360:
Any Igbo that is a Muslim does not know his Chi.

Perhaps his Chi has abandoned him. He is now an empty vessel.

dem dey Enugu and imo state . I advise they should join their brothers in Sokoto

marshmonii:
Some of us prefer baby mamas

someone asked me to find him a baby mama with good character for marriage. Till date , I still wonder why?

givedemwotowoto:
Ok good. Since it’s working for you and your colleagues, you can vote for him while 90% of deltans who are buying fuel and foodstuffs for 4x what they used to buy it for, with little increase in salary - will vote for Peter Obi and opposition.

nnamukwu , that is Helinues from Osun state. That is his other monicker and I lieth not