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most men can not control their sexual urge, yet you want to marry a virgin
if we have 1000 men in a comunity and 90 of such men have slept with atleast 2 ladies aged 13 to 30 in the same society. Nairaland, please i ask you all how many Virgin will be left.

please can men start taking resposiblity of this beast, you all have created. can social media start campaign against men who use money bait just to hook wink and sleep with ladies... as you are luring those girls with urgent 10k and getting sex... someone another predatory man is doing same to your sisters.

because i understand that we Ladies we actually do have chicken brain attimes.

i know a lady in her early 20s Now

she is sleeping with Tom , Dick and Harry
just to furnish her new accomotion, she buying fridge, Fan, Microwave, wardrobe, Bed Mattress , all worth over 1 million
yet her monthly salary is 50k
she does not have a degree yet. very very pretty lady


i am tired of advising her.

that why we have ladies in their early 20s looking 30s

a body of 22yrs with an engine of 40
innocence gone
girly aura disappears
your girls wearing good wig, but already spent... crazy mileages

thanks to you all men, for the mileage and baggage

the Beast you don't tame today. will come after you tomorrow

Let me address Nigerian Men Categorically



2. Financially Able Men, Complaining of The Poor Quality of Available Ladies in the Dating Pool.
Men complaining of lack of marriage material. as one of the reason that Nigerian Men are hitting 40 saying they can not find quality Ladies

The crop of Ladies we find now in the society is a 100 percent reflection of the kind of men we have, you hear people like that Edo baba pablo calling Women Iron Condemn.


Let me take That Edo baba for Example. He encourages Men to get Married to Virgins,
that an awesome advice, isnt it.
i am also a pro-chastity advocate... because i was . The bible said Marriage is Honerable. Bed undefiled.
The question is you, Uncle i must marry a VIRGIN. I hope you are staying a virgin also.
real will always recognize Real.

looking for ideal woman in character and chastity. yet you as a man, you are living intentional living a promiscuous Lifestyle... because your funds can afford it. God is a jealous God he will not allow meet that good woman, even if you see her you will not trecognise her as a wife material.
you Nigerian men looking for a God fearing Kim Kardashian
a holy ghost filled, good charactered Kim K

U want a woman to have a glowing skin
clear complexion,

nice Curved Hips and Breast
Clear Skin no acnes

she should be good in bed and yet she should be a humble virgin with a good character in one breadth
you all men are Delusional


meet a guy today, next thing, he is pressuring you to come to his house

i shake my head for Nigerian Men

keep sleeping around with the loose women. but dont expect the good women to resurface suddenly in the body of an instagram model or video vixen. i think promiscious Nigerian men need to mole their own wifes and breath air into them gaskia.

its the delusional grandeur thinking for me...
the crop of the transaction ladies you have in the dating pool now, is a result of the beast you all created.


imagine inthe early 2006,2009, 2011
a nigerian man on 2go or wherever will lure an innocent girl, buy her lunch and sleep with her, ghost her
he will go on a spree with 10 more girl
free Bleep and she chop blocking.
now in 2025 all those girls have all gone transactional

the age of high awareness on social media
yahoo uprising
odogwu menace etc

This thread is Dedicated to all the Ladies of age 30s above trusting for Marital Settlement in 2025/2026

We have lot of Unlearning and Relearning to do here

How to Position your Self in the right Spaces to be seen by Good fearing, Kind and Eligible Bachelors.
How to work on your Self Esteem , Self worth after a previous Draining Relations. and MORE

This Thread is going to be very inspiring. i will share my Noble , Genuine Experience
and guide you ladies on how to build the character, feel seen, position your self for marital Settlement in 2026.
and i trust the Holyspirit to help me on this Assignment


Notabene... Dearest all men. Kindly do not Spam this Thread.
this will enable to me articulate my points insightfully


As we grow, i will set up a Master Class.
Happy Deliberations
God bless you

Hello Ladies

On good information. a Recent Economic Sampling Survey Shows Men aged 30-39 years , Unmarried, and Never Married. in Abuja


Ladies there are a lot of Unmarried Men hitting their 40s, yet unmarried

ACCORDING to the sample Survey. Abuja was used only


The first reason was
1. Financial Constraints/Economic Reasons


2. Financially Able Men, Complaining of The Poor Quality of Available Ladies in the Dating Pool.
Men Complaining of No Wife Material.


3. Men who have their own Baggage, e.g Addiction, Health Constraints, Spiritual Baggage, Character Deficiency. etc


Men are equally very Unhappy and worried about their Unmarried Status at almost 40s
The difference is that men are not as Emotional as women, and they dont have the Menopause Scare, or better put, they dont have any business with menopause, that why they dont go on Social Media Rants


Nevertheless, the unmarried men without children also feel depressed or unhappy at some point


i will throw more light on this Thread later.

Dearest all. Kindly do not Spam this thread.
Happy Deliberations.

If you are hypertensive

Gentle Daily Cardio Exercise will help you... take long works even if its only on Saturdays and Sundays
i understand you are mobile. park your car sometimes take walk. its good for the heart


1. you should do not have any business with Sugar, Factory made sugars
e,g Bitter Lemon, Energy Drinks, Coke, Fanta, all carbonated drink

do a sugar starvation fast for 14 days and go and check you BP, it gonna drop by 5
if i was 148/82 you might get 143/80

2. Let not even mention Alcohol ... protect you Kidney.. expecially when you know you are taking those blockers... dont stresss your kidney. it going through a lot already. if your a heavy drinker and your leg is slightly swelling up, ur foot and finger nails are getting brownish. please just stop that alcohol bikonu,

3. Stop buying those road side roasted chicken... humm

4,Men like fries, run away from fried eggs, chips plantain, over fried oily stews

how about you try boiling stuffs

5. reduce your groundnut oil... seed oil try red oil based food, it gonna drop ur cholesterol

over 40 and Having BP you dont necessarily need eggs, At least minimum of 2 eggs a week
sometime BP is a Genetically inherited. but adjustment in lifestyle can make it go normal, very normal. i have seen cases in my Aunt Clinic

MatrixReloaded:
Anakoheri. Foodie!!. You wan use food finish oga 4 house. Food born boy ni hunger born girl ko.
Adaobi X/Y chromosome is not by nutritional food.

OGA Y Chromosome can only be sustained by good nutrition, food
The Y chromosome cannot survive an acidic environment

i lived with a gynecologist before i got married, she advocated always about the importance of good Nutrional
that why i became intentional about what i eat

YOU ARE WHAT YOU EAT . KA chukwu mezie okwu

i have friends will concerns, that why i am educating a lot of people
what do you think contributes to poor sperm quality.
poor Nutrition

some of you men are eating badly, how do you build healthy sperms

Kobojunkie:
. You are not even trying to fix the disconnect between the content of the article and your topic, are you?

i am sir

Kobojunkie:
I can't seem to find the connection between the title and the information presented in the article.

noted sir

Page on Construction.. stay tuned sir, ma

Disclaimer... This are just my personal Assertions, Although i am currently carring out a Social research in this area
The Relationship Between a Womans Nutrition, and The Conception of the Male Child


As a young Lady about to get married from atleast 25 years, you need to up your game in terms of good food / Nutrion


as a New mum, i am talking from my observation and experience.
most women who have mostly girls or who just gave birth to girl have lazy eating habit, before during and after pregnancy.

i can understand know that conception of a female fetus comes with morning sickness, that said, what about before the marriage
what have you been eating


a lot of my girl friends hate our local delicacies , ofe Onugbu with okporoko, asu mangala, they hate Vegetable soup, okro soup, ofe owerri
take them to Gevinik during dates, they will not eat fisher man soup, Ofe Ora/Oha , Ofe Okro, Ofe Eguzi nkwobi, mama delight soup.... this soups contain uziza seed, okpei, ogiri igbo, green leafy vegetables like pumpkins, ugwu, water leaves, stock fishes, dry fishes, meat fish among other

NO THEY WILL NOT EAT OUR IGBO / CALABAR ORGANIC MEALS, they will go to Gevinik rather order for Rice, Point and Kill Cat fish (wey them use chemical farm oo) Sharwarma, Chicken ( wey they use chemical feeds, Agric tasteless GMO chicken) Tufiakwa unu

As a woman our Organic Soups Listed above contain lot of micro Nutrients.
(To know more about child birth nutrition and Micro nutrient follow Dr Berg DC on youtube)


Now for the male child Conception issue, you need to up a lot of the essential micro nutrients, which are found in Fruits, and green Leafy Vegetable...

Because i read alot and follow Scientific Medical advices on youtubes , Science Journal.. before i got married. i knew about PCV

As a woman, do you know that your PCV should not be less than 35 percent before pregnancy, thiss will help your conception of a male child

you also need to up your VITAMIN C level, Citric Acid... your best friends should also be Oranges and Green Leafy Vegetable
at least take 4 Oranges a Day... Dont miss Load of Mango during Its Season

How will you get enough of Green Leafy Vegetables when you hate our Organic Igbo Soup
YOU NEED A HIGH HEALTHY CALORIE LEVEL EVEN BEFORE GETTING MARRIED, BEFORE PREGNANCY TO CONCIEVE A BABY BOY, THE Y CHROMOSOME SURVIVAL RATE IS MIND BLOWING, EVEN IF THE MAN DEPOSIT THE Y CHROMOSOME IN THE SPERM.
HOW WILL IT SURVIVE WHEN YOU ARE A PICKY SELECTIVE UNHEALTHY EATER

LEAVE weight loss until you born...
stop selecting food. eat those healthy food that will supply u will the right micro nutrient to hel survieve that yY CHROMOSOME, that is a baby. boy

The experience i had when i was pregnant, i didnt check gender. but i crave for healthy Nutrition like crazy. i moved from 64 kg to 90kg
my PCV was 40 percent....
in Summary you need lot of healthy Organic Food, GREEN LEAFY VEGETABLE SOUP, PLENTY ORANGES, MILKS, EGGS TO CONCIEVE AND DELIVER YOUR BABY BOY WITHOUT AN COMPLICATION....


CHECK THE HOSPITAL, MOST BABIES WILL COMPLICATIONS ARE BABY BOY. I UNDERSTAND there are genetic DNA factors to neonatal complications in male neonates, but at least get your nutrition right.


i will write for the men also
because they are the suppliers of the Y Chromosome for male child


. i know this through lot of my newly married girlfriend. and experimented this on my self

mummy of boys are heavy healthy Eaters, including my mother. i have 4 brother.

they are not dependth on indomie and sharwarma












1 Do you notice that Women who give birth to baby Boys are Heavy Eaters... they get more healthy Calories.... THEY EAT AS MUCH AS THEIR SONS


As a New mum i will say this...

I

i find more Rich and Middle Class families having more of baby boys... from my survey Questionnaires

HIS THREAD IS MAINLY FOR NEWLY WEDS AND PROSPECTIVE COUPLES. EXPERIENCED Couples CAN ALSO ADVICE

DISCLAIMERS. THIS IS A DIARY FROM MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE, SHOULD NOT REPLACE YOUR MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL ADVICE

From my little experience.
1. The first counseling you should seek before the wedding ceremony . paramountly should be aN Appointment with a DIETICIAN and maybe a GYNEACOLOGIST .
1 year or few months before you get married, after all the Pre Marital essential TEST. you should make changes to your FOOD and LIFESTYLE

Again FOOD. I.E asin ee wetin you dey chop everyday and LIFESTYLE

i will come back to this

Hello Newly wed. Happy New year 2024, i will be dropping some cool healthy tips for newly weds... or for about to be married. for easily conception, some will say to get pregnant easily. i will also share my pregnancy journey.
it worked for me, so i taught i can share with you. stay tuned


TIP 1
IF you are a newlywed lady, weight less that 60kg at from 5ft7, above or below
you need to add some more flesh. talk to a dietician. being underweight can delay pregnancy.
so i was advice.

also don't watch your weight as soon as you get married. for slim ladies. u need a few kg to fast track things

for slim ladies heavy stress can delay pregnancy. you can take a 3 month to 6 months leave, if you are self employed.
i am particular about slim and skinny ladies weighing less that 65kg after wedding.


i will talk about quality of food and nutrition, micro nutrients later


Tip 2...
LIVESTYLE. i hope you know. Alchohol is a no no , if you aim is to have a baby within a year of marriage... hahahah argue with you keyboard... people are contending for quality and speed of sperm, you are still arguing about the quantity of alcohol to take. please that first 6 month of marriage, avoid alcohol until, that babe takes in, then you can continue you tedious lifestyle...

bros wait, wait.... i hope your Blood pressure is not above 140/80 and you are still taking alcohol and wishing for a newborn in the next 9 months of marriage. don't say my friends drink and they have plenty kid. ask also about their health status.

you can not be dealing with diabetics or high blood pressure or taking routine medication, combine with loading of alcohol and yet you want to fast track things. maybe you need a sperm analysis test before you can decide your fate on alchohol . just maybe

Thank you Jesus. WE had my baby yesterday. 5th January 2023. He was 4kg at 40 weeek and 4 days
A baby BOY. Natural Vaginal Birth. No Epidural or Inducement

yes lot of VJ stictches. mum dad and Baby in good condition

Thank you Jesus. WE had my baby yesterday. 5th January 2023. He was 4kg at 40 weeek and 4 days
A baby BOY. Natural Vaginal Birth. No Epidural or Inducement

yes lot of VJ stictches. mum dad and Baby in good condition

Truvelisback:
You need serious prayer. Delay in delivery or overdue pregnancy is not good at all. It may lead to birth defect or deformity.

u are sick. a stark illiterate. religious bigot. obviously, so much spiritual bondage runs in your family.
may you find healing.

i am 39 weeks today and 5 days oo
first timer mama
i don exercise tire
chop pineapple tire
i dey do the do regularly
i don chop spicy food tire... everything on the internet, i have done.
scan already say my baby is head down position
3.5kg....
people of God, what do i do next to avoid Pitocin inducement or epidural

i am 39 weeks today and 3 days oo
first timer mama
i don exercise tire
chop pineapple tire
i dey do the do regularly
i don chop spicy food tire... everything on the internet, i have done.
scan already say my baby is head down position
3.5kg....
people of God, what do i do next to avoid Pitocin inducement.. abi na epidural

Kukutenla:
Lienus. Welldone

is alright. thank you

beekind:
I am the 2nd born out of 2 children, my elder brother has been married for some time with no kids as a result I am super careful with issues relating to fertility.
I am in my late 30s and have been dating a 27 year old lady for 4 months now, the relationship moved so fast as she is a perfect match for me .
I have met her family and she has met mine, we are already planning marriage and have started counselling sessions in her church.

She complained of irregular periods so I told her to do a hormonal profile test and see a gynecologist, turns out she has got PCOS.

I have done my own fertility test and I am fine, I am at a cross road now, I cannot afford to struggle with child birth considering my age and also my only other sibling still also having issues with the wife also still trying to get pregnant after many years.

The only other option would have been to ask her to try for pregnancy before marriage but she is a virgin and wants to keep it that way till wedding, besides if I disvirgin her, how will I be able to walk away incase she doesn't get pregnant ?

I am at crossroads now, its not too late but walking away at this point will be very costly for me since we have already started plans towards the wedding and our families are already in touch.

My heart is heavy and I am confused, I need good advise as I cannot discuss this with anyone.

@admin, kindly push to front page for more advise.

Firstly you need to give you life to Jesus Christ. and surrender totally... before you can partner with the holyspirit. He will be your best adviser and teacher. what i perceived in my spirit is if you want your case to be different, if you dont want your family propensity with child bearing not to come close to you.. you need to act differently... leave this your human calculation. prayerfully walk out of that circle... with the way you are going about this your marriage calculation. you want to repeat the chain reaction'

beekind:
mmmnnn could it mean she deliberately claimed virgin so as to prevent me from bringing up the option of getting pregnant before marriage ?

As the only reason I am not asking her to try for pregnancy now before marriage is because she is a virgin, we couldn't even do transvagina*l scan, all we could do was hormonal profile test and pelvic scan to diagnose the PCOS.

The problem now is, I don't even want to have sex with her, cos if she is a virgin and she is unable to conceive it becomes difficult for me to let her go since I took her virginity (assuming it's true that she is).

This whole thing has got my head spinning...

do a virginal test on her... you could do it by physical examination yourself. or take her to a female gynecologist at the hospital for physical examination... Virginity test... if she has any objections. to this. bro . then you have being scammed.
as much as i am against lies and deception.
i like to add, i do not believe in pregnancy before marriage, especially if she is chaste.
being underweight can delay pregnancy... also what if you have a low sperm count that period. u just want to put the woman in unnecessary distress. human calculations can fail

Beremx:
I am a woman. When a woman says at 27years that she's a virgin and that she prefers sex after marriage, oga take off! 99 percentage of such narrative is lies. Get someone else, impregnate and marry. Simple

Not true ma. i married as a Virgin at 29years as a lady. my husband also was a virgin at 40years, he was born 1982 ....
after wedding we could not achieve penetrative sex for almost 3 weeks. my husband didnt even know where the vagina was located. he mistook it for the pee hole. each time he had a strong erection, its went flat as soon as he tried to insert the kings Rod, no entrace, i felt pains like hell. thank God for youtube videos, we even watched the messy irritating porn videos...it didnt help . until we jammed one doctor on youtube channel first time sex tutorial. my hubby started with one finger, graduate to two fingers...
we continue to mumu until week 3... the rest is history...
i got pregnant after 2 months of wedding.
sex still feels a little painful once in a while. as i am nursing a newborn


yeah i know some ladies are liars and manipulators. but not all
his fiancee might be or not
only GOD knows shall

beekind:
I am the 2nd born out of 2 children, my elder brother has been married for some time with no kids as a result I am super careful with issues relating to fertility.
I am in my late 30s and have been dating a 27 year old lady for 4 months now, the relationship moved so fast as she is a perfect match for me .
I have met her family and she has met mine, we are already planning marriage and have started counselling sessions in her church.

She complained of irregular periods so I told her to do a hormonal profile test and see a gynecologist, turns out she has got PCOS.

I have done my own fertility test and I am fine, I am at a cross road now, I cannot afford to struggle with child birth considering my age and also my only other sibling still also having issues with the wife also still trying to get pregnant after many years.

The only other option would have been to ask her to try for pregnancy before marriage but she is a virgin and wants to keep it that way till wedding, besides if I disvirgin her, how will I be able to walk away incase she doesn't get pregnant ?

I am at crossroads now, its not too late but walking away at this point will be very costly for me since we have already started plans towards the wedding and our families are already in touch.

My heart is heavy and I am confused, I need good advise as I cannot discuss this with anyone.

@admin, kindly push to front page for more advise.

Goodmorning OP. if i tell you i n have an advice to give you. i am a big Liar. one thing i will say, do not marry by human calculation., just take a 7 days fast, ask the holy spirit for a clear direction,
ask him to give you a sign of peace, or he should speak to you through dreams or revelation. tell him, God is this woman or man is not your will for me, let the marriage plan scatter. my husband prayed this prayers before we got married. i married into a family. where some siblings of my husband had delays and fertility issues. it discouraged my husband from married, He was almost 40. afraid of marriage. his younger sibling already married. story plenty... i no fit type.... all you need now is partnership with the holy not prophets.... my eye see something. infact during one marriage counselling session. one of their family pastor said... Nnne you know childbirth can delay in marriage.

hope you will happily stay married to your husband... because the pastor knows my husband family antecedence with infertility struggle. omor eeh i gently, respectfully but firmly but interrupted the man of God sharp sharp.... ( i was just 29... this their family pastor is in his 50s....


i tell the pastor am say no be like this dey do marriage counselling. my fiancée now husband was shocked, ( i remember when pastor Paul Enenche said do not keep quite when matters challenging your destiny are discussed) which kind counsel of Ahithophel be this, i said in my mind, i had goose pimples that day...
We got married. i was 29years , my husband clocked 40years


hahaha, you don't want to experience Ndi womb watchers.

at the end God showed us Mercy. I got pregnant after 2 months of marriage to the glory of God
God had mercy on me and my husband.

God can favour a 40 years old woman and she gets pregnant easily and born within the first year of marriage .
while 21 year old virgin fit dey wait ooo for 5 years or more

there are no parameters. no formulars ( hey mind you my husband was my first sexual partner)
so i am pro chastity.
what am i am saying in essence, this are hard matters. you need to partner with the Holy ghost, not pastors, prophets or Naira landers. May the lord himself give you an answer of peace, Amen

MasterJayJay:
Use another number and a different profile to contact him, make friends with him and try to seduce him into meeting you.

Fine. If someone can help me to that. Seduce is a no no

I don Marry oo
If when i never marry... I no fit seduce Man
Its a skill... I don't have it

Sis Please read what you wrote again.

here

Yaribanzaonic:
You brain dey work...

You Sabi Dem well well...

b

This fraudster Adinoyi 0704 475 8064
With this phone number. Which is still in use, i need to track his location in Abuja.

Nigeria Police will ask of Thousands of Naira for tracking a criminal...

Someone scammed me on Jiji
Absconded with my 220k


I don't have money to give Nigerian police for tracking.
I am just a little hustler.

Pls suggest goggle map app
Thatcan hit precise map location, of a missing person, a criminal or a spouse.

Using their phone number.

I need to track that scammer. Monitor his movement, maybe work place location or home.
So i can get the law enforcement people, a private,
Soldier, police or something


This information will help people in general who was to track. The offenders or vulnerable Love ones. Thank you

Nairalanders please help me call this thief to send me my money

Please if you are in a abuja.
U see this thief wearing this Shoe, Shirts and chinos trouser any day.

He didn't not pay for it. He scammed me with a fake debit alert. .. he has blocked me.
Since 3rd march 2023
Because i asked him for 30 digit session i.d.

Or he should return my the items.

He is a big thief
One day dey go hang Tyre round his Neck
Imagine person go wear that fine shoe, wey een thief

Cancer go chop ur leg, thief Adinoyi
This is his scamming line