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Ladylaura93:
This is a man adrianuche pls listen to him

Thanks have listened to him ... You guys are one derfull

oshyno:
@OP bcuznof this your question I had to go check your profile and eventually stumbled on this tread of urs. https://www.nairaland.com/2147628/how-broke-up-valentines-day

You said u broke up with her on vals day. Just want to know have u reconciled with her cuz it seems ur talking about same girl here. U even paid their rent. Dude uv been shouldering their responsibility since God knows wen. Looking even at her attitude towards anytin finance, guy u dont deserve such girl. Infact both of u dont deserve each oda cuz believe me the girl is still hanging in there bcuz of d money.

People help each oda. I do dat too to my girl but d moment my girl tried to get furious with me bcuz she needed moni badly and I wasnt giving her I placed her where she belonged. She apologized profusely and all got settled. Since den she cant even open her mouth and even beg me moni. I wud be d one to be like ok dis babe is in bad state financially leme lend a helping hand. And she will be thanking me even a week after.Shez now struggling to make somtin out of her life too which am helping her instead of being a leach.

Plz stop. take a stock and ask if this is leading anywhere. Or better still if d girl in question is appreciative or does she feel like is her entitlement.
If ur doing it bcuz u want to help a poor family,God will reward u but : 1-U must not expect anytin in return in terms of sex.2- the girl and the family must not put that on ur shoulder cuz for crying out loud ur a student which invarianly makes u dependent on ur parents. 3-the girl must be grateful and not see it as her due.

But for the girl sef to call u a fool on vals day speaks volume. use ur tongue to count ur teeth .

Thanks we reconciled and we apologized to each other , yes she's the same girl .. Sometimes she feels its a bit complicated anyways I brought her here to this forum so she sees people response so den she would value me ..

Benz4pimp:
We both know your parents are not rich,23 in Malay,we all know how it rolls dude....stop that shit about you schooling over there,all Na wash....she knows what you are doing over there and decided she should have part of the cheques and mtcn you receive,but am suprised that you are DUMB...if you feel she is loyal to you,give me her digits and I tell you,she will be in my bed on Friday night....Foolish Fool

Jesus

moreeni:
broda, I need monthly augmentation too.

Go away

kilokeys:
Fooooooooooooooooooooo*coughs*oooooooL

Thank you ...

Omotayor123:
If she's OK with it den it's not a big deal. Carry on.


But, Wait oooo........ 30k per month


And u said u are a Student+ 23years




*whispers *
Are u thinking what I'm thinking?

Wat are u thinking ma'am

NZEGWUAGU:
You are an irresponsible kid and probably one of those kids whose parents have stolen so much from the country. Where did you get the money you are spending on her from. Are you a salary earner so why place another on a salary. I sympathise with your family cos you are a prodigal son! I do not advise fools!

I do not know why u will rain insuts on me like dis if u are not going to advice me. At the end of the day...Thankx

kingsilly:
It's crystal clear he's from a comfortable family, all U guys ranting his mom or siblings needing his help don't hold much water to him, his family are all fine on their own, they don't need his help..him doing it means he can afford it and dosent really dig deep into his pocket, and the receiver being a girl will take advantage of that especially if she knows perhaps he himself dosent sweat that much to get his allowance that he further decides to part with her, it's all understanding, if OP decides to cut her allowe down and it really cause an uproar then we have issue @ hand, but otherwise its fine...he made it clear she needs it, Pls f**k the idea We have in our head of what does she brings to the table, he just chose to help someone and that person turns to be his babe..it's not his fault.

Thankx Boss...

Badosqi:
Ok guy let us be serious here...
You reside in Malaysia and gf stays here in Nigeria. You've been sending this salary to her for over a year for doing absolutely nothing.
My question is what do you stand to gain here?
How sure are you dat that leech is no cheating on you?(Don't temme dat her parents call u regularly).
How long will you continue to spend just to buy and maintain her love?

Am not buying it...

snazzy5050:
No wonder ... 'computer geek'

What as. That got to do...

Haywhymido:
Bros, why r u acting lyk a sissy. It is nt bad to give her money sometime,when she ask 4 it but monthly allowance stop it fast fast,she dey work 4 u?? When did being a gf/bf become a job? If u av too much money spend it in charity. As a matter of fact, i find it more convenient spending in charity dan giving a so called gf money.It's nt as if she suffering na, go to d street n see people suffering.worst of it all u may not end up been husband and wife. Do u knw wot dey call dat where i come frm "ABELEJE YAN (SOMEONE DAT SMOKES FISHES FOR DOSE DAT WILL EAT IT)

Noted Sir...

queebeediva:
My brother there is noting wrong in helping anyone talk more of your girlfriend if the girl in question is a good and responsible girl and you on the other hand feel you can take up the responsibility to assist her then it up to you but I will rather want you to assit her so she could add value to her life e.g giving her money for her education,or establish her to become an entreprenure but assisting her on material things is not good cause at the end of the day the money has not yied any profit in returns. Again the girl in question should not make it a piority that you must pay all her bills . Poverty is a bad thing again I say and I pray God to give me so I can give more out to help.

Thankx for ur contribution

Modester4:
OP, u just made a very big mistake. Public forums will place your mind on marathon worry and confusion because people here are different, so their suggestion might destroy something good or bring something good. U are in the right position to solve your problem and no one.

Here is what I think u should do. (feel free to reject or use it)
* Don't give her monthly salary, instead give her what ever that comes from your mind.(you are both young and still needs to start a family)

*Talk to her that you both are student and are striving to survive. even if u are from a rich family, tell her that u are rich does not mean u waste.

*if u intend to marry her cause u love her, she must learn to control her spendings. how she manages now will determine how she will manage your family.

Why she spends too much is because, the view of wealth which she has never tasted but now tasting is controlling her. and if she really loves u, when she will come back to her sense.

Now OP think, do you want to marry a lady that spends too much, make her control herself.
besides, we human fall astray sometimes and not perfect.

And as for those insulting,; how will u give out your point when it's full of insults. he needed advice that was why he came here at first.

Thank You Aunty I just wish we could be friends in real life... This are advice I need... thankx

LKO:
If u are not complaining of ur GF not giving u a "HEAD", then it is about monthly allowance for ur GF. U better be serious with studies.

Boss one kil me with laugh ooo I am serious with my books ooo... Dnt mind me this girl issue is just disturbing me sha...

Ladylaura93:
Will you shut up there. Adrianuche can you see the kind of things you are seeking advice from. Be wise.

LOL I can see madam you guyz are cracking me up... Thankx for ur contribution.

kene05:
Oh, u even sent her the link? Imagine o, do u expect her to dance skelewu? When it's certain her spells r abt to b cast bounds? My dear even if na yahoo+ u dey into, i bet u can invest it on something more lucrative here in Nigeria, rather than waste fortunes on dat lazy family. Just my candid opinion tho...

Thankx boss

abbey621:
Young man listen up, listen very carefully! Giving a woman money does not mean you own her, giving her money does not mean you love her or that she won't cheat on you. From your write up I can tell that the money issue is weighing much on your mind, at your young age you shouldn't be carrying the responsibilities of the girl's parents, unless she's an orphan! Putting a girl on a monthly payroll is a terrible idea, even in marriage encourage her to get her own and not rely on your source of income, from your write up she's still very young and probably not as mature as she ought to be. Try doing this, give her 30k one month, the next month give her 10k, the next give her 30k and the next give her none. Watch her reaction each and every month, if she adjusts well then you'll know she truly loves you, if she raises hell and becomes aggressive then my broda cut her off, end the relationship right there, the worst thing a man needs in his life is a parasitic woman!

Thank you boss I sent her this link to see peoples opinion on the matter and she's angry as hell its OK tho I just wanted her to know that just because am been nice it doesn't make me a fool ..

ilo04:
I know say d babe nah from Benin, she don give u love charm chop, because a sane person will not do what u type up there

LOL PLEASE I HAVENT EATEN ANY CHARM , I JUAT HAVE MERE SYMPATHY ...

justwise:
....but she is demanding how much to be paid? So where did her high sense of entitlement come from?

I do not know ... I would stop it, honestly its not that I can't live without her I just felt she needed the money ..

agarawu23:
stop repeating this statement, I feel like slapping u she needed money? are u are parent?.

just grow up and be wise. though I am not saying u shldnt care fur your girl but paying her monthly is crazy dude

I will stop ..

Ishilove:
You have set a dangerous precedent. Doesn't she have parents to assist her? 30k is more than some people's monthly salary. Asides that, it seems she is only with you for the money. The money is what is keeping the relationship together, and the day you're unable to keep up with your financial responsibilities, things will fall apart.

You need to seriously wake up from your fool's dream because you strike me as being incredibly naïve.

I doubt this story though. It's too unrealistic and I find it hard to believe that such level of 'mumurism' exists in present day Nigeria. No offence.

Yes her dad told me he gets 20k per month as his salary I dint decide to do this out of love I felt at a point she needed money until it started becoming too much.. That's when I felt giving her allowances was better incase she finish spending it she would manage for the rest of the month...

agarawu23:
Never blvd some guys can still be so fooolish to take the responsibility of their "gf" not "wife" o.

1. that Lady you are paying monthly as if she works as a labourer in your site will never end up with u.(accept it or not)

2. A responsible lady will not depend on a guy for monthly allowance even if she dey gv u sex 24hours in a day. na u be her mama ni?

3 if you invest in a small business in nigeria with 30k and additional 30k monthly, guess how much will be your gain at the end of the year. You will gain nothing from that girl than sex(that's if she is even giving you the chance)

you are 23 and you can't use your brain well, I think you need a prophet to cast out the spell the Lady casted on you and if its natural, then u shld visit China for brain formatting.

ppl like you can't give common "beggar" #20 and you are still thinking if reducing the money to 20k monthly is better

ITS A BIT COMPLICATED THAN THIS I REALLY DO NOT THINK IF I STOPED GIVING HER MONEY SHE WOULD CONTINUE, SHE CANT .. THE REASON I STATTED GIVING HER THE MONEY WAS BECAUSE I KNEW SHE NEEDED IT ..

MRBrownJ:
so what you are saying is that YOU (as a person) is not what keep this r/ship afloat, the money you send is. why shouldnt her parents call to thank you? you are doing THEIR JOBS, you have become someone's papa and mumsy, lol!

again, you seem like an intelligent man yet you wrote that you didnt not want to leave her alone in 9ja... but you did. are you insinuating that the money is a way to be with her?! you must be joking, right? its a way to think she will stay yours and not go and date other men, yeah, but she certainly aint "with you". you are in some other country bro, get real.

btw: were you paying her 30K before when you were around? and if yes then pls answer the earlier question which was:on what grounds did you decided that it was a wise choice to give her money?

any woman would love to have an extra 30K per month for doing absolutely NOTHING, look around 9ja bro. if you really think that your 30K is going to keep this woman as "yours" then so be it, good luck with your purchased love.

THANKX ALOT I NEVER FELT I WAS BEEN EXPLOITED, SHES NOT FROM A RICH HOME SO I JUST FELT SHE NEEDED THE MONEY ..

MRBrownJ:
may i ask, on what grounds did you decided that it was a wise choice to send her money? shouldnt you offer to help someone when they deserve it?



so from a gift, now it became a MUST that you should give her this money every month? again, on what ground? this is when your effort are now being taken for granted.



(no offense) some men have nothing to offer some women and therefore they MUST pay in order for these women to stay with them. you as a person should be the main price, and nothing else, while instead it is your wallet. if you want to know the type of woman you have, do NOT give any more money and see the true self of that criminal you are dating. i do feel a bit sorry for young men who are being taken on a ride like yourself, to the point where women will even fight with you if you dont pay them. here is the two question you should ask this demon you are dating:
1) how did you fend for yourself before you met me?
2) what will you do if i cant provide this money blackmail?

sadly the majority will either leave you or just find another mugu to defraud until you get yourself some more money.



wait....are you saying you guys are not even in the same country, and this is a LDR?!

Yes it is a LDR .. If I don't give her money its a bit of a problem every now and then, I would have said may be am been a maga , but it's a bit complicated since I am not around I felt I send her money for upkeep or other issues, she isn't doing any favour by dating me. Her mum calls me so as her dad and sometimes say thank u and pray for me .. So if u insist am been a maga its quite far from that.. I send her money because I feel I should so she doesn't feel I leaft her alone in Nigeria and all DAT, I stopped sending her money we quarreled and reconciled...

jmoore:
Remember to give her pension if she breaks up with you.

Lol stop been sarcastic ... It is obvious its a bad idea from ur response noted

FhemmyKW:
Are u fvcking sh*ting me? Like seriously? Is dating u a job to her? Wise up guy. Its necessary to take care of ur babe as a responsible guy, but its not by force.
I swear she doesn't love u a bit, na ur money she dey collect give another guy. Say no to magarism

Your point has been noted ...

sinaj:
I dnt nid to c ur bank statement


I c ur haircut nigga

Lol

Rapmoney:
Hello folks, please watch out for my new novel titled: 'When A Foolish Boy Falls In Love'. The book was published by Omiragua Publishers, Warri!

May be u are right am foolish but may be ur wrong as well, there's no need calling me names I asked for ur opinion not ur insults or mockery ..

marshalcarter:
DNT TALK TO ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!









You don buy wrapper for ur mumsi b4??




I swear you need to go cele

She hsnt asked me too buy her wrapper I occasionally buy her gifts on mothers day ...

Ipledge:
so what is ur reason for giving her pension without working for u

She feels since we are dating I should be responsible for upkeep bla bla bla ...