₦airaland Forum

divineappo:
u don't need advise, u need insult

u are stupid for creating a thread for this useless childish matter

Biko take your maturity else where...if you feel its childish...you don't need to even look at it twice not to talk of taking ur time to comment...BTW am not stupid...Tanchu.

asdfghkeypad:
Yes. Application closed on 19th June according to the website.

I registered on 18th of June..the mail they sent me state that if I don't get a message from them before June 7th then its not successful....am just bothered about the date...could it be that they made a mistake and wanted writing July 7th? considering the fact that it was June 18th I registered.

Please for those that applied before the pandemic...it took them how many days to send you a mail that you should take an online test? just applied a day before the deadline...I want to know how long it takes for you to hear from them...thanks.

echesilver:
Am on final stage with Teach for Nigeria.. I just did my zoom sample teaching on Thursday.. Hoping to get the offer. The process was so tedious.. But laslas na God go win

please when did you apply for it and when did they get back to you?

Thank You all for the advice....am really grateful....God bless.

adecz:
When you serve somebody
very well, time will come when
another person will also serve you
well.


Stop being a lazy girl because you
are washing plates & cooking in
your elder sister's house, who feeds,
houses & gives you pocket money.
Would you not be doing same if you
lived by yourself?

Many people are looking for such an
opportunity while awaiting job to
come through. I hope you are not
secretly jealousing your sister?


Oya go back to village, ungrateful
22 year old gehl.

I think you need to always read a post and assimilate it properly before giving your opinion...what part of my post makes it look Like am jealous biko? so you didnt read the part where I said I am down with malaria? I wonder how some people think o...please watch it and don't call me ungrateful...You don't know me...do well to pass ur advice across without using abusive words. Thanks.

Trunaijian:
Once you are a liability, there is the tendency for disrespect.

unless you want to continue to receive such blames, you may have to be smart. But have one thing at the back of your mind. It’s HER HOUSE. So don’t challenge her in any way.

What to do?

Don’t stay too long at a stretch. Travel home and back frequently. You can always search for job without being at a location always. The internet is available and when you do visit Abuja, you can do the physical waka.

Do what you can to assist her. And try overlooking her blames. If it starts getting too much, then travel for a while.

Life is not easy. You are young and lucky to be starting life early. Don’t be too hard on yourself. You are privileged to have a place to stay in Abuja. Most girls your age are squatting with friends and forced to hussle money to contribute rent or living with a boyfriend they don’t really care about.

Overlook your sisters complains and help her the best way you can. As said earlier, if the complain wan too much, travel go house go chill for a while.

Wish you the best.

Thank you.

StubbornGENIUS:
You seem like a nice person.If you can't take your sister's troubles anymore(who i think is a bit selfish by the way),just go back to your parent's place and continue searching for Abj jobs from there.She and her family will definitely miss you(that is if she really allows you to go).I wish you goodluck Adunny07!

thank you.

jubrilELsudan:
YOUR SISTER IS A WINTCH AND DOESN'T WANT YOU TO PROGRESS.

SHE HAS TIED YOUR DESTINY AND WILL ENSURE THAT YOU NEVER FIND A JOB AND REMAIN IN HER HOUSE AS HER HOUSE MAID.


THE REASON SHE IS ALWAYS SHOUTING AT YOU AND COMPLAINING ABOUT YOU NOT DOING HOUSE WORK IS BECAUSE SHE BELIEVES THE HUSBAND LIKES YOU VERY WELL AND WANTS TO FVCK YOU.


VERY SOON SHE WILL ACCUSE YOU OF SEDUCING HER HUSBAND.


YOU , SHE AND THE HUSBAND ARE ALL VERY STUPID.

Oga what I will not take from you is insult...mind what you say Biko...don't you ever refer to my older sis as a witch...NEVER....if you don't have anything reasonable to say then waka pass....stop portraying your foolishness here...imagine you calling a grown man stupid...No dear I think that should be used for you...RESPECT your self.

Sparro:
How can people be so quick to throw their weight behind this op. You people have not even heard from the elder sister. U don't even know the elder sister yet. You people that are asking her to leave the house and telling her that her elder sister is lazy and that she has turned her to a slave are all dumb. Asin, dumb.

The op on the other hand is dumb and daft. This is purely a family issue. Someone who agreed to harbour you is the person you brought here to be mocked. God will judge you. If you are not dumb, you will find a way to beat around it. Everyone has one form of challenges or the other. This is purely family issue. This is your married blood sister we are talking about. If you think it is easy, go out the house and see for yourself. Nonsense

Your comment is very funny hope you know? you think I would come here and make up stories about my own older sis? if I was bad the way you are making me look I wouldn't have made the post like this...I would have probably describe my own sis in a way that might make people view her as being bad...I didnt do that...I only came here for advise because its bothering and paining me and. you are here saying God will judge me? Please you don't know me so if you don't have anything good to tell me you can simply not reply under my post...Thanks.

Hezmatosky:
The only problem I see here is you. Chores chores chores.... does ur sister operate restaurant? I think you're lazy. It is either you don't have enough time out with ur boyfriend or you have started eyeing her husband. Young girls like you are very dangerous

Not every one does that...its not always about a guy abeg...don't even have time for that...and why should I be eyeing my brother in law? thats just silly.

Kobojunkie:
Do you have friends or any place like a library you can maybe go spend a part of your day, at least until you properly recover from your illness? If you can head back home to your parents every so often, please do it.

Will go to my parent's house for a while to just relax.

lilyheaven:
My sister, for my house, I have four elder sisters, Na only me the do everything for house, no rest, infact, if I say pin, they will beat me ontop. as them de marry, Na so I dey move from house to house de do nanny . They see it as my responsibility, my mama come talk say , make I no complain because them be my senior, na so I endure, come marry, they still carry their seniority come, them go the call me up and down, I want to do this, cook this, serve me this, I wan drink water, come and take your cup , water dey here o, come clean de water etc. my husband come ask me one day, if my sisters no fit help me do one thing, I tell am , say if I talk now , they will say I don grow wings, why I go send them message. One day, our eldest call me say she de come, make I cook her favorite keep, I say no problems, as she come, my two elder sister join body follow come plus my brother.
I just dey look them that morning, na only one person I tell my husband de come, now na four people dey house. I carry my bible, tell them say , yam dey for store, moi moi dey for fridge , even stew dey, if my pikin carry, make una help me feed am, I wan rush go church.
As I dey go, I leave my phone for house.
I leave house around 3pm, I come back around 8pm.
As I come back, I no come see them, na my children and their papa dey house.
Morning no reach sef, my phone dey ring up and down say make I no try dat kind thing again, say my pikin just dey cry cry, make I no try leave my pikin for them again. I come beg them say make them no ves.
Last last na them cook food wey them chop, scattered everywhere.
As for now, I no dey try say I wan go do Christmas for my house, all of them go come with their pikin , na me go carry all the chores for head. Them no no say person don grow
Chio, it's not easy to be last born. I benefited too, they paid my fees, they clothed me their oversized clothes even their adult gist the sweet me too

Lol sis....I thought am the only last born suffering in my house o...before they got married naso so send send....now again wey them don marry na nanny and work I dy help them do...maybe when I get married I won't live close to them lol...it is well o...even now that you are married they don't want you to rest....God will help us.

maiyee:
well said, you are living with your "heavily" pregnant sister and you cannot assist her with most of the house chores if not all.
Your conscience should tell you to relieve her of work as she is feeding, housing and taking care of you... What are you contributing?
How do you visit someone older than you and still be waiting to be told to getup early and clean, SMH

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Acidosis:
A lot has been said. I really wish you well, darling. It will end in praise.

thank you so much.

Eketem:
Are you paying high Abuja rent?

Are you paying for food?

Calculate How much the work you do is and how much rent and feeding will cost you.

I think you should talk to your sister on appreciation while her husband who is supposedly so nice can help with the chores because it is his house and his wife is pregnant.

It is funny how you declare the husband a nice man while you expect your pregnant sister to do chores even when she may be drained.

Alternatively go back home let the husband pick up the slack.

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Biglittlelois:
Is she your blood sister? If yes, is it that you didn't grow up with her or you both are not that close that you can't stand your ground and say your mind?

When I first got a new job in a different state from where I stay, I lived with an aunt that was very nice to me, she has kids and she made sure all house chores are done by them, to the extent that I had to assign a duty to myself so it won't be like I don't do anything at all, this aunt is a distant cousin o, not even a close one and till I left there and got my place, I had no cause to complain, she is that nice....

So Op I'm wondering if she is your blood, though people differ in character and personality, you should still be able to voice out and say your grievances, all the best.

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bukatyne:
Some advises here already.

While you are with your sister, do what you can and leave the rest.

Also intensify your job search so you can move out as quickly as possible.

Funnily, she might mellow when you start working and buying salt and biscuit on your way back home.

Goodluck.

Thank you...I just wanna start working soon.

Righteousness89:
I Pray For you! May a good Job fall on in no time! In JESUS NAME..


In the meantime do whatever you will expect someone to do for you if you were in your sister shoes...

You are Sisters! There should be no unnecessary quagmire!

Thanks...and Amen.

Pauldollars:
You shouldn't be in your sister's house and be struggling with home chores, as long as you're not bed ridden. Don't need to talk of when you were the first to wake up and stuffs like that. If you're becoming not too comfortable staying with her, you can stay with your parents or rent a house if you have the money. Staying in Abuja is not a guarantee that you'll get a job there.
I was once in your shoe when I stayed with my elder sister and her husband in Kuje Abuja while trying to get a job after NYSC. As a man, I did household chores for her without complaining. Eventually I left and got a job in Kaduna. Today I'm lecturing and into business.

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Ariza:
Go back to your parents house. And there's nothing wrong in living alone at 22. But wait till you get a job before getting a place of yours.

I will go there for a while and keep searching for jobs...best bet is to get a work in another state if I wanna stay alone.

MASTERCHIEF0847:
Personally i will advise you endure for now, at least she's your family.
Another point is she's pregnant and most women easily get pissed and irritated during pregnancy, it's a common thing.
You just need to try and get a job, that way you won't have to stay home most times which means less encounter with her and also you will be earning some income and probably save up and get your place in future.
What did you study in school? Get soft copies of your CV and other relevant documents and upload to some sites where you can apply for jobs, better than waiting. Who knows you could get lucky.

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oluwaseyi0:
My story look a little bit like yours

Those days of my ND whenever I visit my aunt, I automatically assume the role of the one to do house chores her kids are lazy, as I continue to grow older it doesn't sit well with me, during my HND I learnt photography and start doing wait and get photos while staying with a friend, immediately I start earning small changes my dependency on her greatly reduced hence I don't visit often, before and during my service year I learnt programming and got a job immediately after service

I am grateful for all my aunt and her husband has done for me but the truth is I WON'T ACHIEVE ANYTHING IF I CONTINUE TO STAY WITH THEM MY MIND WILL BE MORE FIXATED ON COMPLETING A NEVER ENDING CYCLE OF HOUSE CHORES RATHER THAN THINKING ABOUT MY CAREER


it's very unfortunate that that's a typical African family treatment

@adunni07 you are simply are adopted house girl and that is not going to change any time soon, no one is gonna let a passive slave free just like that, fighting her is a no no, it is a war you will never win but you will come out severely wounded, she will paint you as ingrate, your parents will rather support her, if you fight her her husband will rather support her and worse of all you will loose the gains and comfort her house bring

Your best bet is to find something doing asap, if it's to learn a vocational training, intensify your job hunting and act grown up, let her see you as busy, don't let her always see you as available, immediately you get a reasonable job your best bet is leaving her house

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moadxist2:
Go back home for a while.

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Please I just really need someone to talk to about this and I will like your candid advise..

So since my older sister got married I always come to her house and spend few weeks or months and go back. Al·through my university days, whenever school is not in session I always come down here to spend time with her and her husband.

Truth be told the husband is a very nice man and has helped me always financially, anytime I come here once my sister welcomes me the first day like this, from the second day she leaves all her house chores for me, I mean everything and she just relaxes. At times I get really tired and don't even feel like doing those chores but because most times when I come visiting she is heavy ( pregnant) so most times I just help her...

Thing is my sister doesn't appreciate all my effort, most times she complains self its the hubby that tells her that I am hardworking and at least she should give me credit for all I do.

Now the reason why am writing this is because am done with service (NYSC) and as it is its like I have to stay in her house because the state where she stays has more job opportunities compared to where our parents live... She stays in Abuja...I have been down with malaria for few days now and I have been on treatment, just because I can't do certain house chores because am not too strong my sis started complaining saying I can't be living in her house and be waking up whenever i like... Mind you I was always the first that wakes up when I wasn't sick, in fact I will wash the dishes, sweep, mop daily, cook food, bath her children and all those things.

The only thing she does is to bath her youngest baby, but now because for these few days she has been doing those work I do daily she is already saying she can't tolerate me sleeping and not waking up on time.

My question is this, does she have the right to be so angry at me because she is doing her house chores? I feel its her house and so she doing her house chores herself shouldn't be a problem since am not too strong to help her do it. She herself just sweep and doesn't mop, but she expects me to sweep and mop everyday.

Should i just go back to my parents house and get a job there? Me renting my own house is not an option because am a lady and am just 22...

Please i need you guys advice, what can I do?

please when its on again you guys should do well and update us o...am tired of staying at home...God will help us all.

please I also want to get the redmi 7 but when I checked on jumia they said its out of stock...where else can I get it during this lockdown? help!