Ujoan:


Okay now the food was prepared by your wife not her sister? What a shock!!!

If you think your wife is so unbearable, then go ahead and divorce her. What the F are you waiting for

People have advised you here and suggested ways to make things better in your home, but no you insist on crucifying your wife more with every post . . . . . Albeit WRONGLY. What exactly do you want to hear? Your wife is a b***h? There, you heard it, are you happy now? Is there peace in your home now? Are you having s3x 5x a week now

If you don't find the root cause of your marital problems, things will never change. If you can't deal with it then take a walk. . . . Stop whining already! !!

Stop being an idiot. It doesn't cause a thing. I promised not to reply you again but you can't keep running your mouth. Stop being such a fooool, you call yourself a mother for f*ck's sake.

Don't reply to this thread if you can't stop been so f*cking rude.

Comic gold. See finishing.

Watch how GEJ's fans will come here and focus on the fact that a PMB minister is involved forgetting how GEJ shielded Stella Oduah from investigation during his maladministration.

LadyMercedes:


You're a joker! She's a machine abi?

That was to be weekly not daily. How can I myself cope with that and still manage to work. I dey craze?

homerac7:


Bros, reading the long reply to @Felicity2 make fear catch me. You don buy market. Na ya hand e dey sha. I don talk finish. Good luck bro and happy married life.

I will win in the end. Matter of time. I have got useful advises here and I believe with her father firmly on my side, victory is only a matter of time.

homerac7:


I was feeling sorry for you earlier, but after reading this St.upid post of yours i quoted above, then I conclude that you are done for.

Why did I say that? Firstly, I want to ASSUME what you wrote is true (-which is not always), in such case, you have a big problem in your hands you need to tackle head on as head of the house by making fundamental decisions and changes. But here you are gloating and feeling pacified for price of "porridge". Clap for yourself Esau. Obviously your wife isn't too busy for IG, AM, and LIB, yet relegates her wifely duties to her sister. If you don't see the anomaly in that then something is wrong with your head. If your wife doesn't know, then tell her and enforce it! Its one thing to delegate it to her sister occasionally, or part of the chore, but the " madam" thing is sickening.

Secondly, you are too available. Organize activities for yourself outside home. If you're a football person, start supporting Barcelona or Real Madrid, and go watch their matches at bars.

If 1 & 2 above still don't work, then it's finished. No pretence about it. Start winding down/exit process. Yea, your daughter, abi?...don't worry, she won't die or necessarily come out bad for it. In fact, it'd be worse for her ro grow up in a home where dad is unhappy and mum is selfish. While at it, postpone further baby making until you're convinced you can live with the situation.

MOST IMPORTANTLY, it's your life and home. Run it the way that pleases you.

Goodluck bro!

Mate calm down. I believe in baby steps. I am not the most gentle guy out there but my wife isn't an outright evil. I honestly, I am convinced of it, that most of the problems is as a result of inexperience and her age and some idiots advising her ( her close friend, who is actually jealous, I won't say more ) behind this.

And I am not an Esau but if she made breakfast 11am last yesterday and it is 8:58am ( I checked the time ) today, she deserves to be praised and NO, I WAS WRONG, IT WASN'T HER SISTER BUT HER. I found out when I was thanking her sister and she told me it was my wife not her who prepared and that she only peeled the yam.

Felicity2:
Something about the poster doesn't just sit well with me. Your story doesn't sit well too. This minute you are insensitive, the other minute you are understanding another one you are the victim. I got tired of reading. You keep mentioning her siblings. Do they live with you? If they do, they should leave. Early stage of marriage, couples should live alone. If I completely understand you, you aren't perfect but you are trying your best to make it work. Even over doing it and it seems to just annoy her. I think she has seen you finish and your constant need to please her and constant need to feel good is making you feel very dependent on her. I will advice you ignore her deliberately. Make your breakfast yourself as early as you want it. Any shopping you do should be for you alone and daughter alone. Go out more, don't inform her of where you are going. Let her start worrying about you whereabouts. Stop been predictable. Travel for 2 weeks claim business trip. Don't call her while you are away. Even when she calls don't pick immediately. Play with her head. Be a cold bitch and don't feel bad about it nor apologize. If after neglecting her she still doesn't care. She doesn't love or care about you anymore.

Maybe you want me to say what she did not do? I will praise when she deserves praise. What's insensitive? Wanting to meet with my wife at least 3 times a week? Is that insensitive? Or expecting an apology from my wife whenever she does something not good enough?

Like you rightly noted, her siblings are with us for a while. My siblings were with us while we were in Lagos but I chose to relocate us because she was complaining too much. Way too much. I am absolutely okay with her siblings being with us as they make it easier for her. If I didn't like it, I won't have allowed it. It is for me better than getting a maid especially considering the Africa way and the many horror stories I have read about maids.

I won't bother discussing what the other so called mother is saying but let me give you an example;

I have complained jillion of times that there is no longer spark in our marriage. Last week we had to attend a family function. Rather than stay at my family's or at hers ( which I will not do due to my own customary beliefs ) I chose for us to be at the hotel together without the baby ( who had enough people to take care of her for just about 7 hours that we would be away for ) my wife said no, I pushed and pushed and pushed until I stood my ground before she agreed and getting to the hotel was busy with her phone, argued with me and then slept off. I had to let her know the next morning she needed the help of another lady which got to her and calm her nerves.

Yesterday I refused her food because it came by 11am. When her sister and the others that were with us chose to go out with the baby and only me and her left in the house, what I expected from a woman who values her home is for her to come to me and ask why I have been cold to her all day. But even though I was in the room lying down on the bed, she chose to do make ups...when she wasn't going out oo.. So I am still insensitive?

Or what can be more annoying than this... We recently got duped by an agent, who to be honest she warned me against, we got a place with a lot of repairs to be done which the landlord or the agent has refused to repair. We had to practically pay two times as the first agent who knows the agent that knows the land ran away with our money. When repairs wasn't being told to the new house, We asked for a refund which we are getting from the landlord, I decided I won't wait for the refund before we get another place. I asked her to start house hunting. My wife won't go. I only managed to force her to go once. Then when I found a place that I felt was good enough for us, I asked her to go check it out, she refused telling me it is okay if I like it. After I paid, she went to check it on Sunday only for her to be complaining the parlour is too small. This is someone who I begged and begged to go and check the house even way before I paid and refused. So I am insensitive to get angry in this case right? There is still yet no apology or explanation for this madness even as I am typing this.

Okay here is another one

I have stomach ulcer and she knows it is a big battle for me. I ensure I eat my breakfast as early as possible. She has the sister, myself and their family friend ( a young girl ) to help with the baby, yet my break fast can't be ready before 9am? Yesterday was almost 11am. I am insensitive to get angry there right? What if she was working? She won't bath the baby before going to work? How do those women who have to nurse their babies and still go to work manage to get to work before 8am?

Or you try to make move for romance and you get PUSHED away. Or when you are not pushed away, you are told NO in the most offensive way. I am insensitive to get angry there too?

Am I asking for too much by expecting my wife to at least be considerate even when she is not in the mood for romance? Do you push your husband away? If she says I offend her in anyway ( I have to consider this when the idiot, yes she is an idiot, you were responding to brought it up ) then it would be about 6 weeks back when we had an argument the very first time I actually spoke my mind.

I invited my mom over to ours for a discussion, a very important discussion ( and I explained to her before hand ) my mom got in my wife was lying down on the couch and said " welcome ma", while still lying down on the couch. Her sister came greeted my mom the prosper way a yoruba lady should greet her in laws ( and the way my own wife greets her own parents ). I was angry but my mom had noticed my annoyance over the way she greets her before this particular day and had called me to give her time hence I did not talk on this particular ocassion then I was expecting her to at least offer my mom water or food, I waited for 2 hours before I called her own sister to ask her if what her elder sister has done was right. She, GOD be my witness, confirmed she herself was shocked.

When I questioned her, she started playing one Tiwa Savage song " If start to talk" and some other rubbish. This got very serious and I was going to leave the house for her. She didn't apologise but said my mom coming to ours weeks after she left ( she first came to help with the nursing ) was choking her. This is even when I already told her we were relocating out of Lagos in order to have time on our own oo.

To be fair on her, my mom didn't cover herself in glory by wanting ( and actually sleeping ) to sleep over but I myself already called her and told her the solution ( my siblings do the same thing ) was for us to relocate which we did. The least you would expect from a reasonable girl is ... after all we will leave this place in few weeks ( about 4 weeks at that point ). And must you be rude to my family?

How about my little brother coming to ours and wanting to carry the baby and when my mom was about to hand over the baby to him she telling my mom not to give her baby to the boy. My own brother. Oh, I am looking for sympathy right.

You want another one?

On the day of the baby was christened, an indicent happened which she misunderstood. Her mom asked my cousin to help her take the shoe rack she bought and that was just delivered upstairs but because it was the day our daughter was christened, my cousin couldn't take it immediately and told her mom he will take it upstairs after serving people. Her own in law ( her brother's wife ) went telling her it was my mom who stopped my cousin from taking the rack. I over heard them but wasn't sure if I heard correct and forced my wife to talk. And when she told me what happened, I swear on the bible, I immediately told her my mom can do that ( of which she can do, it is her person ) and I immediately told her to calm down that it is absolute madness and I am not going to accept it in my house. I went straight to meet my father where her own father was. I called him upstairs and told him what I had. He also told me my mom can do such a thing but I should not conclude and investigate. He went as far as telling me this is the time for me to prove I decide my manhood ( he said my manhood in yoruba which was somewhat funny ). I took it up, I asked my cousin who explained exactly what happened. He, I swear on the bible once again, told me point blank that I should accept the fact that my mom could be making signals to him but that he did not see any and if he had seen, he won't have obeyed.

I went to my wife to explain what I have done and that I will find out the truth and that she should give me the chance to sort it out. The next day my wife refused to greet my mom nor come out of the room or allow her bath the child...I am insenstive here too right? Her father who I respect so much did worst to me which even her wasn't happy with but rather than be rebellious to him, I postrated and begged for an offense he THOUGHT I committed but I never did.

I can go on and on. But like many have said here, it is my fault. She knows exactly what I can do, when I will do it and the limit I can go.

aubventure:


The shoeless guy saved 30 billions in foreign reserves. concerning boko haram if you know pmb as worn the war simply relocate to north Central.

This is exactly the problem. He ruined us. He had plenty but plurged us into debt. Figures below will do justice.

This took me sometime to dig up. Note the figures here for le shoeless is valid till November 2014. Could have been worst than this.

2. UMARU MUSA YAR ADUA (2007 - 2009)

EXTERNAL DEBT:
Inherited: $3,348.22 billion

Left: $3.94 billion Dollars

http://www.dmo.gov.ng/oci/News/docs/Fact%20on%20%20Nigeria%20External%20Debt%20Stock.pdf

EXTERNAL RESERVE
Inherited: $45.0 billion

Grew To: $63 billion in September, 2008
http://www.nigerianmuse.com/20090102021223zg/nigeria-watch/nigeria-s-foreign-reserves-dip-to-52-7-billion/

Left : $47. 7 billion (As at Dec 31st 2009 when Jonathan took over as "Overseer" )
http://www.vanguardngr.com/2011/03/state-of-nigerias-external-reserves-worrisome-cipm-president/#sthash.cXXdNcoU.dpuf

N/B:
The reserve grew when the price of Crude Oil was $147 per barrel
It Slided in Mid 2008 during the recession, when the crude price fell to $35 per barrel in 2009, till his death



3. PRESIDENT GOODLUCK JONATHAN:
EXTERNAL DEBT
Inherited: $3.94 billion Dollars

As At Now: $9.3 billion Dollars

http://www.dmo.gov.ng/oci/edebtstock/docs/External%20Debt%20Stock%20as%20at%2030th%20June_%202014.pdf

FOREIGN RESERVE:
Inherited: $47. 7 billion (As At December 31st, 2009)

As At Now: $38.2BILLION http://www.cenbank.org/intops/Reserve.asp

N/B:
Of the $9.3 billion EXTERNAL DEBT, Federal Government’s owes $6.36b, while ALL 36 States plus FCT owes $3.0 billion

As at 2010, Oil Price was at $89 per barrel

As at 2011, It was $103 per barrel - During Le shoeless' regime.

As at November 2014 it is $100 per barrel http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/World_oil_market_chronology_from_2003

Meaning, Jonathan have access to more more money than Yar Adua, but he depleted the Foreign Reserve and Still Purge Us into Further Debt With NOTHING to show.

Now go on and defend your boss.

ishowdotgmail:
With deep regret, I announce the sudden death of a fellow friend, brother, comrade Israel Adeyoju a 400L student of the department of Educational Management Faculty of Education, University of Ibadan.

He has been ill for months now and was been referred to the University College Hospital UCH for a surgical operation. Due to the love students had for him, students moved from one hall of residence to another to raise fund to save this bright and promising student.

Dear Uites
Thanks for the money
Thanks for the prayer
Thanks for being there
Thanks for everything

You have tried all your possible best preventing Israel from dying


No matter how much money we contribute, only God can save any soul.....

No matter how hard doctors try, only Almighty can heal....

Who are we to blame God for taking him from us?

Who are we to challenge God that what he has done isn't right?

Who are we to say, "it shouldn't have been ISRAEL" ?

I was hoping to graduate with my friend ...
I was hoping to leave UI without losing any friend....
I was hoping that Israel would get well and join us sooner....




Gone from our sight, but never from our hearts.

I feel more for you than for the dead. I have been there, I have lost someone very important to me and know how it feels. Take heart mate knowing full well the dead has only gone to rest.

ishowdotgmail:
With deep regret, I announce the sudden death of a fellow friend, brother, comrade Israel Adeyoju a 400L student of the department of Educational Management Faculty of Education, University of Ibadan.

He has been ill for months now and was been referred to the University College Hospital UCH for a surgical operation. Due to the love students had for him, students moved from one hall of residence to another to raise fund to save this bright and promising student.

Dear Uites
Thanks for the money
Thanks for the prayer
Thanks for being there
Thanks for everything

You have tried all your possible best preventing Israel from dying


No matter how much money we contribute, only God can save any soul.....

No matter how hard doctors try, only Almighty can heal....

Who are we to blame God for taking him from us?

Who are we to challenge God that what he has done isn't right?

Who are we to say, "it shouldn't have been ISRAEL" ?

I was hoping to graduate with my friend ...
I was hoping to leave UI without losing any friend....
I was hoping that Israel would get well and join us sooner....




Gone from our sight, but never from our hearts.

I feel more for you than for the dead. I have been there,

Felicity2:


Men like you make me sick. So because you cloth and shelter. You deserve Sex? Until you change your mentality towards Sex most of you will keep doing it wrong. Sex is not a reward for taking care of your woman. It is your duty to take care of your family, did your parents ask you for Sex for feeding, clothing and providing shelter? No. That's because you are family and the did their duties. It is your duty to do that to your wife who is your new family and not expect Sex as a reward for doing that. Where you forced to marry her? Sex is an act of love between married couple, it should be enjoyed by both parties, it should be consensual.

Sex should be consensual truly but there comes a time you have to make a sacrifice. It doesn't have to be when you are in the mood at all time. And to be fair even GOD EXPECTS something from us for all he has done for us. And our parents when feeding us, they expect us to feed them when they can no longer do it.

If I don't expect sex from my wife, a wife that I have not abandoned, that I have not turned to my punching bag then from who should I expect it? It is not a reward but it is a reward as well. People underestimate the importance of sex in a marriage. It is not the be it all but it is important too. Or why do some of you women complain of the inability of men to satisfy you?

My breakfast was ready before 9am. And it is one of my favorites breakfast. Fried yam and egg. That's big improvement. The only complaint is it was prepared by her sister but I don't mind provided it is ready before 9am.

Abeymills:
May God punish all those zombies mentioning Jonathan's name put d blame on ur lord n saviour bubuhari n let Jonathan b his not d president d corruption goin on presently in dis useles clueles wicked govt hypocrites will never c dat

You lot are sicking to be honest. So the bureau agent got the money from an aide of Buhari or an aide of the shoeless retardeen?

You know what? You and your lot are only putting the lives of your own kids in trouble. My own daughter and her siblings will be secured.

I wonder how you lot sleep at night.

overall90:


for all you ' GEJ didn't save'crooners,
yesterday you guys were celebrating Ambode for winning an award as the best performing governor.
i am also sure that some of his works are there for all to see.
my question is how much did Fashola save for Ambode bc i know that Lagos is one of the heavily indebted states.
GEJ didn't save ,we all agree but the most important factor that got us into this mess is Buhari's cluelessness and his super-clueless ministers.

Please dig out the debt profile of Lagos state and the terms. Let's educate each other. Please.

Hiploko:
shat up. Buhari led us into recession in 1984. What have you to say about that?

So we have been in recession since 1984? Okay. That means le shoeless is a liar. He and his government told us we are in plenty and the best economy in Africa.

If a country that has been in recession since 1984 is the best in Africa, does that mean the whole of Africa needs bail out.

Some will call this blame game but won't address the issues. They won't want to tell us how much was saved under le shoeless monsieur clueless. They won't want to discuss how come le shoeless was not able to tame boko haram but PMB was able to using the same military.

They won't want to discuss why monies meant for arms was used for electioneering. They will want us to get out of recession but won't want to accept the fact that it is corruption that got us here in the first place.

Children of hate won't ever say the truth simply because of the "my brother syndrome".

Acheron:

You dolt. He should find himself a decent side chick that will feed and kpansh him anytime he wants while pretending all is well at home until the wife comes to her senses.

There, I've said it.

I can't and I won't do this. This is expensive 1. Secondly, what says the said side chic won't do all both physically and spiritually to keep me to herself thereby letting my little daughter to suffer and my life ambitions to the bin basket.

omolayo1310:
pls i need an advice, my husband do beat at every misunderstanding, sometimes it lead me to been hospitalised as result of his beating, my parent have intervene so many times but no change, the last one he did, i report him to the police and he was and arrested and detained overnight and he was also forced to write an undertaking not to beat me again, i hope all will be fine after this, but i guess wrong as he still beat me last week saying, his not scared of going to sleep at the station, am tired i dnt know what to do, i dnt want my 3 kids to suffer,. i need advice, no insult pls.

The very first time he beat you, what was his excuse? What triggered it? Is there something you have done to trigger it?

If you can highlight this maybe myself and others can profer a solution. However, you MUST in the interim leave his house. Never mind those kids. The kids will end up suffering when he eventually kills you as he will if he continues to beat you.

For the kids' sake you have to live and that means you have to leave his house if not you won't live. I don't condole violent men but woman, you are never an angel if it is not a spiritual problem then there must be something triggering it. Find out that thing while you are away from his house.

iyiolaoluwa:
@Op, first thing 1st, ur SANITY comes first! Based on ur report, u av called her attention to her attitude but nothing has changed abi? No wahala she is just being funny! She's nursing a baby & has 3-solid helping hands, not working & still can't satisfy her husband! Pls kindly call d attention of any of her siblings dat u are close with to her craziness because her parents will leave u guys here one day! Dis sibling of hers will be ur witness in years 2 come because u will av 2 take bold step like a man. I'm a nursing mum too & I dare not try rubbish like this with my husband! Say wetin now! Abeg ur life come 1st jor! U too start acting up, don't ask her 4 anything including food just try 2 ignore her! It is well with u!

To ignore her will be extremely difficult but I want results and have no choice. I will do what I hate, ignore her like many on here have advised.

battleaxe:
Can I ask....

On days that she does cook, what are you usually doing at those times?

Ever since we relocated she has had to only cook few days. Her sister does the cooking mostly. And on times when she cooks, I am busy working.

azuson:




Brother

This is what all men pass through,when u are dating full attention will be giving to you by your girl friend but when you marry her rationing will start.

Never mind when women give birth some love and affection go to the child and it will still return to you with time.I am tell you experience of 9yrs and counting.

My advice is for u to concentrate on other things apart from sex.try and keep beverage in the house so that u can quick eat some thing and dash out,she will notice this things and will want to adjust.

I sense that there is what she want you to bye for her which u have not,try and talk it over and pray about it.

There is nothing she wants to buy that she can't buy. We operate a joint account and she has the atm to the account.

She never ever needed my permission to buy anything. Only recently she bought somethings online via instagram and it ended up been a scam. She never sought my permission but she didn't need to. I think it is negligence and arrogance she I will knock out of her using the silence treatment method.

I said it is arrogance because my own wife will never ever apologise for things she did wrong and this has always been the case even when we were dating. I only thought it is a minor problem. She never knows when she is wrong until things escalate.

I am no saint. Not even close but in this case even GOD knows I have been tolerant.

cococandy:
Sorry you were hurt.

I posted according to the available information from your post then. You didn't state everything so my response is based on what I read directly from your post.

It is to be expected on mediums such as nairaland. Someone ( she knows herself) has successfully got me annoyed all because I sought help on here.

At least you didn't call me a liar or a fictionist.

Ujoan:


We don't know your wife too yet you want us to judge her. It hurts doesn't it?

You don't judge people by their past? Even 'murderers' who show no remorse for their sins How convenient. . . .

You act like all the blame here lies with your wife and you are all perfect. . . Well I've been married long enough to know that that's never the case.

You either accept the truth or live with your lies . . . . Your choice.

Only idiots come online and call other people they have not met liars based on their so called experience.

No one is forcing you to respond biko.

Ujoan:
@ adviseseeker

So you are all perfect and your wife is Jezebel herself? Hmmn, sorry but I'm not buying your story. Something just doesn't add up.

Please pinpoint where I have said I am a saint.

You knew before you married her that she had 3 abortions (which you detest) , but you still went ahead to marry her . . . . Even though she asked you to 'do whatever '.

I don't judge people by their past. I was only angry because she didn't tell me early.

Then all of a sudden she turned from the lovey dovey you married to this evil demon? ?? Out of nowhere. Indeed!

In case you don't know, your wife resents you big time and is only acting out. But somehow I have a feeling you know why . . . Even the law of nature confirms that for every action there is a reaction. Things just don't happen for no reason. There is no smoke without fire.

When you are advising people, learn not to be so judgmental. You don't even know me.

battleaxe:
@adviceseeker

I think you already have what to do in mind. I say this as you have pushed back against most of the advice here and tried justifying your stance.

While people may not know you and your wife personally, some of the mentioned symptoms can be diagnosed to offer an advice.

I will like to kindly suggest you open up your heart and take in some of the discussions. Some are indeed chaff and need to be thrown away, but I believe you can find some jewels on there.

I know most Nairaland men believe women are evils just waiting to push men to the limits, but for every cause, there is an action.

Unless she's a good actress, sonething has happened or is happening that is causing this. Find this through deliberate conversation and you'll be closer to solving your problem.

I believe that despite your claims that separation might be in the offing, deep down. In your heart, you want a deeply satisfying and loving marriage. Communication will move you closer to that destination. Seperation, eating out etc will not solve it.

I urge you to please open your heart.

Thanks.

Trust me, nothing has happened. Her first complaint was that my friends were with me. But they all bar one left. The one that didn't leave is a nairalander who I was mentoring and who she was okay with.

Then when she delivered my mom and my sister stayed for 2 months. My mom one is normal my sister simply because she has been evil to me in the past and was trying to make up by helping my wife. They ensured she had everything she needed but she wasn't happy.

I relocated far from my folks because of this, now her own relatives are here which I really do not have a problem with.

She merely doesn't know what's right and wrong. She is 25. And no, I am not trying to push away advise but deeply hurt and now ready to get busy with other things. Cheating not YET one of them.

Dyt:


I am so interested in your kind of business
Can a woman do it?

Sorry I am shying away from your issues
I can't just deal with it
Hianus

I sent a pm.

Dyt:


I am so interested in your kind of business
Can a woman do it?

Sorry I am shying away from your issues
I can't just deal with it
Hianus

I can't discuss it here as it will give away who I am.

Dyt:
Seriously?
Pepper soup her sister ordered?

Madam Tearoses

Ifyalways come and use your detective here oo

Ujoan

Mindfulness

Shabebaby

Heaven is my witness on this

Dyt:


Oh oh
I guess you were desperate to be married
Or you want to start keeping a side chic? Walahi it is expensive

Nah, I was not desperate to be married. In fact it was not close to that. He happened because GOD wanted it.

And what's with abortion?
I don't get why a man would leave cos a woman confessed she had
So long she's medically fit to have children of which she has given you a daughter already

I have serious problem with it. It is murder as far as I am concerned but if someone did it, and are sorry then they should be forgiven. Even GOD forgives. But when someone did it and is shocked that you are shocked and angry that they kept it from you and then ask you to go and do whatever, then there is a big problem.

I hope you not thinking of separation?

It will come to it unless there is a change. I am having one useless assorted pepper soup she through her sister ordered for me as dinner. Just imagine.

I am not going to keep side chics. I don't have the money for that. I am building a home for my daughter and her siblings unborn and won't have the funds to through around.

schumastic:


i don't know what to say but am moved by your post that i had to read every comment you dropped..have you tried seeing a counselor, her pastor, or her dad to explain things to them cus sincerely if this issue is not resolve am sorry to say but it will get out of hand and worst still, turn to a habit which will be hard considering the fact that the marriage is very young.

I have involved her mother two times now. I think the best bet is to get busier and accept the fact that my daughter will understand my position in the future. Time to put myself first.

Dyt:


I don't have issues with either of you washing your clothes
My major concern is her sis doing the cooking
Feeling awkward
My own man would not even eat it
Even if mine is the most sausy
He prefers to eat and purge it

I can't just put my head together and reason how a once loving woman would turn to a wreckless wife and wouldn't mind her home breaking

Well
She's your wife
You know how to pacify her

I can't get it
Shrugs

I thought deep about it all and I think it is my fault for noticing and ignoring all these. I saw the other thread where the lady claimed she had an abortion and was being dumped because of it. That flashed me back to where I got it wrong.

I have had it very roug relationship, lost someone 2 days to our engagement before, had someone secretly married to someone who was planning marriage with me as well and couple of Genotype issues and before I got married to my wife, I ensured we both digged out our pasts.

She shocked me by telling me she had 3 abortions. I was shocked to the bone and because she said sorry and I didn't accept it immediately she asked me to do whatever I wanted, well she didn't tell me, she was telling her friend and I over heard her and brought it up for which she again repeated to my face saying she had begged for forgiveness.

It all boils down to attitude. SHE WILL NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER WANT TO APOLOGISE. She never ever sees anything wrong with her actions and or inaction.

Dyt:
But come to think of it adviseseeker
Things weren't like this
So what happened
Women don't just start acting like demons
Are you sure you haven't offended this woman?

In the same house
Both are sis and brother lives there
Her sister does the cooking
I mean the food you eat
Does the sis or bro wash your boxers too?
*Ofcus with washing machine oo*

I hope your wife is not keeping grudges sha

Her sister does the cooking because she allows it. I don't complain until it is weekends. Her sister never ever washed my cloths. I was washing her cooks and mine until I stopped some 2-3 months back - off course using washing machine.