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This girl shouldn't be brought into the middle of a political issue. But it seems she threw herself in to gain cheap points for her father and of course she is obsessed with herself and thinks she's very pretty. Nothing wrong with thinking high of yourself. But in all honesty, Her beauty is NOT special in any way. She looks like the average girl from a rich family. Make up and photoshop OBVIOUSLY aided many of her pictures. Jonathan on his own part did not use his kids as bait. They obviously aren't into all that makeup and showing off. That is to say that anything he achieved, he achieved in all honesty. Back to the topic, Zahra Buhari is ok looking, she is not extremely beautiful as you can find girls that are much more prettier than her on the streets of Nigeria but they do not get any coverage because their father is not a political figure.

Drogba is not so handsome on his own. He is only famous for playing soccer. The girl is beautiful but appears to be very shy which is probably just one of the good things about her that make her attractive to her husband. many of the people on here saying she's not very good looking in here probably look like ojuju or is with someone not as pretty as Mrs. Drogba. The fact that she could be herself and her husband still loves her shows that it's true love not one of those wash ups that today's celebrities do nowadays.

onila:

What is beautiful here? The man is very old and Indian too?? Wow, what's special about Indians? Or even foreigners at that matter. A good Nigerian man is better than 10 good foreign men. Stop comparing yourself to others or trying to qualify love.

Alexpissu:
Love knows no tribe .....OP, you need to take out time to think about what you want in life .When the purpose of a thing is known abuse is evitable.

Lastly, your folks are tribalistic

You didn't read my post correctly, I said my parents have no problems with where he's from. I am the one bringing up the Igbo issue.

babyosisi:
The man tells you he is Igbo and you are still asking questions?
I don't see any issue here besides the fact that he doesn't seem financially ready for marriage which is not surprising
25 sounds young IMHO

Thank you very much.

tpiadotcom:
And we are supposed to know that how?






Is he an object to study?


Someone already told you , but you cussed the person out, what else should anyone say?

Thanks

tiredface:
MARRIAGE IS DIFFERENT FROM DATING, YOU BETTER BELIEVE IT OR YOU FIND OUT THE HARD WAY. JUST ENJOY THE SEXX

Sorry to disappoint you, we are NOT having any sex unless we are married, ok.

stunningjudy:
Afrobeau, 1 thing u have to understand is anybody can type anything here n trust me it could affect u if u don't know what u want. Biko, try n understand what u want and decide. Certain decisions can't be made via random opinion.

Thank you

babygirlfl:
My dear please for your peace of mind, do not bother explaining this. It's not worth it. I tried explaining that last week and got called all sorts of names. People generally don't like correction.

I don't care about the explanation. My boyfriend is Igbo (and he claims it) and he is proud of it, speaks it better than some Igbos and that's all that matters to me. Would have loved him the same even if he doesn't claim Igbo anyways. So any contribution to the topic at hand or no?

Mishydoo:
What are u saying?!Is there anywhere u wont find igbos in ds country.

Am saying that there are NO INDIGENOUS igbos in Delta State. What u have are tribes lyk Ndokwa,UKwani,Osimili...they have their languages and they DO NOT call it Igbo.
And u cannot compare with lagos whc is a No man's land...every tribe has their differing culture they guard jelously.call an Ndokwa man Igbo and he'll skin u alive!

You can quietly shut up and get off this post if you have nothing to contribute to the topic, ok? Nobody is dragging your Delta with you, gosh! have several seats!!

freecocoa:
Na wa o.

So you are going to decide based on your findings about his tribe and not him as a person, you are not ready for marriage.

Nope, not true. But I will like to know more about the environment he grew up in. As it will help me understand him better and be able to discern his actions/reactions to certain things/issues.

bukatyne:
There will be stereotypes everywhere... just learnt that Lagoisans marry a lot of wives on NL. I haven't seen one Anyways (I know We are talking of a small pool). I am more concerned about the substance of the person here.

First your joint finances cannot cater for your home... How much is the aggregate? Where are you based? What are your plans? Kids immediately? Career first?

Second What do you mean by women are chasing him? If he is not giving them hope, they should back off after a while. What are his views with regards cheating? Love? Man - Woman relationship dynamics? How does he relate with other ladies? Who are his friends?

Third: What was the foundation of your relationship? It sounds like it did not start off serious... What changed? Why is he now interested in marrying you? Are you planning to becelibate till marriage?

Fourth: If you want Igbo kids, marry an Igbo man. Besides, Delta Igbos have Igbo names So your kids would have Igbo names.

Now is the time to find out who he is and he said, he said. Forget all those I want to marry you talk and learn more about him.

Goodluck

Thank you very much. you guys saved the best responses for last.

tonychristopher:
delta igbo are pure igbo just like anambra igbo ...they have similar culture. With anambra and many anambra married delta igbo due to cultural similarity ....it depends on which part of igbo u r from ...as of ur children they will be pure igbo ..there are places in delta igbo that are more igbo than some anambra villages places like igbuzor ogwashi etc

But apart from that love isn't enough in marriage ..look at things like psychological and emotional maturity then compatiblity..cos when troubles comes love will for out ..then finance also ..if both of u guys are working then its okay. The age difference isn't an issue ...


Check if u can handle it.....

If u can ...then go ahead ...wish u success

Married a delta igbo lady also and we are cool .....IGBOS

Thank my dear, I appreciate your response.

An0nimus:
Nne I didn't get the part about wanting your kids seen as Igbo. As long as the Daddy is Delta Igbo that's what will reflect on their local government certificate kini. Maybe you mean outwardly which doesn't really matter.

You guys might look young but if you are finanacially stable you're good to go but seeing you're not so stable then why the rush? You're still in school why not wait till you're done and can support your man better? I can't imagine how it'll be combining school, work/personal business and a young marriage and a child maybe? Take a breather and think things through Miss.

About where he's from, there will always be stereotypes and exceptions. That his tribe marry plenty wives doesn't necesarrily mean he'll follow same route. You know your man and only you can hazard the best guess if he falls in 'stereotype' or 'exception'. Don't let hearsay affect that judgement.

Thank you very much. I sincerely appreciate your response. He said he just want us to be engaged and then we'll get married when I graduate. I just don't want to jump from one guy to another. If I get engaged to him, that means I am determined to marry him that is why I wanted to do some sort of a background check. It doesn't really matter about the kids anyways, he has an Igbo surname... Maybe I shouldn't have put the being igbo part in the question but I appreciate the responses I got. Yours is exceptionally good though. Thanks again.

steppin:
It's quite obvious that the only thing about him that appeals to you is his good looks.
Remember, looks can easily fade away.
He's also too young and inexperienced.

Thank you for your input. However, I'm Not attracted to him just by his looks. I simply didn't mention every other thing that attracts me to him.

Ladybluecash:
Op, i was loved a delta guy frm ogwashi,, dey r nic,, generous nd gud pple bt get ready to av oda wives e dey der blood. I wud av marrid him, he is frm d royal famly bt u knw wat he too lie nd can womanize abeg i run for my lyf, boyfrnd/galfrnd no b marriag. Jos pray sha God wil hlp u

Thank you very much, I appreciate your comment. Thanks again.

Wendy80:
Marriage is no child's play and sincerely from ur post u sound like a child(no offence pls).
If u love your kids to be seen as Igbo then marry an Igbo man, besides what has ds got to do with marriage. If u have doubts(like u said) about him then don't go ahead. Give urself plenty of time to know what u really want.

Thanks for the reply. I probably sound like a child because I was trying to be polite. I am NOT a child. I just need tips on te general lifestyle of people from his area, that's all. That I choose not to come off as strong/bold doesn't mean I'm immature.

lonngmann:
Its better than her watching him die of AIDS

Condom doesn't prevent AIDS

raumdeuter:
Do you have a job? Does your bf have a job/

I'm still in school and I work too. He has a job but his income cannot support a family now.

lilmax:
You are confused

Well duhh, that's why I'm seeking a little advice here...

Mishydoo:
To tell u say u no get sense dey hungry me but am a christian,and I dnt curse.However,Never in ur lyf again say Delta is Igbo.We are Deltans: Uhrobo,Isoko,Ijaw,Anioma.

@Op...when u marry a Deltan,ur kids become Deltans.if u want IGbo kids,marry an Igbo man.

We are welcoming people.u'll love the extended family bonds,vry strong.

Hardworking people with a nice and very peaceful environment. But,u are ryt that we love women,still it depends on individuals.

There are Igbos in Delta and Deltan is NOT a tribe although there are many different tribes in it. Just like Lagos is mixed with many different tribes and Lagosian is not a tribe. However, does your liking women involve Not being faithful to your wives? Extended family bonds are good but not when that "extended" involves a second wife.

shakazuldadon:



You ladies always have the deep deep down feeling if a man is meant for you.

Is delta not igbo... cos I am very very sure that igbo is spoken in the government house.


Where in Delta is he from?

Thank you. He regards himself as Igbo and speaks Igbo well too

SAMBARRY:
What has character got to do with tribe and ethnic background however if he's unemployed then I can understand your parents fear. The rest is nonsense.




At 24 you should know better. You're an adult

Thank you. It's just that sometimes our environment can affect us.. Thanks for your input

tpiander:
this is what I call gathering information.


op are you Igbo from Nigeria or Igbo from outside Nigeria, ie original (or non-negroid) Igbo without black skin.

Does it make any difference?

sweetorgasm:
@OP pls dnt take what i have to tell u personal, "sorry but u reason like a child.

How do I reason like a child? I'm just a little confused. Do you have an opinion on the issue or not?

carnal:
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Still many Mbaise daughters are being married to people outside of the local government area. Some argue that special interest in marrying Mbaise girls is because of their dedication to marriage and hard work, and their ability to stay in a marriage through thick and thin. Whatever be the case, indications are that those who ventured to marry from among Mbaise people more often than not have blissful testimonies of the marriage.
Big lie

@earthmama, i have been married to an mbaise lady for five years now,yes i want to agree that they are hardworking,have ability to stay in marriage (which i think is alot common with ibo girls compare to our yoruba sisters,no offense to anyone) but i disagree on the point that PEOPLE WHO VENTURED TO MARRY THEM OFTEN HAVE BLISSFUL TESTIMONIES and my reason is also that they are unnecessary stubborn and they could very wicked/mean at the least provocation.

That they are stubborn doesn't mean they are wicked, man if your wife is wicked, you wouldn't be half as proud of her as you sound here. I'm Igbo and my boyfriend always says that I'm stubborn but he wouldn't trade me for any other thing! I am not stubborn per say, I just don't do all and everything he tells me even when it makes no sense or the odds are against us succeeding but I still make him feel like he's running the show lol.

mbanusick:
No matter what happens Igbo girls are wonderful, they are worth it.

Igbo girls are the best either way...

Hi everyone, please I need your advice. I am an Igbo girl but my boyfriend is from Delta state (He is Delta Igbo). We've been dating for some months and now he really wants to marry me. He's 25 which my parents think is too early for him to get married and I'm a year younger than him. Speaking of my parents, they are not 100% in support, my Dad is ok with where he's from but my mum, not so much. Their incomplete support also has to do with the fact that my boyfriend is not yet very established so they are skeptical of his true personality. I also heard stories that deltans marry many wives and that sometimes they cheat and do not take it as anything serious. He is good looking and has a couple of girls running after him. He says he loves me and has promised me over and over again that he will never cheat and will do anything to make me happy. I'm seriously confused. I love him but sometimes I have doubts.
Just any information about how marriage in Delta state works could help. Information on their religious beliefs and tradition, the physical environment, and the place of a wife in the extended family, or personal experience/marriage with Deltans will be appreciated. since he is Delta Igbo, will my kids be regarded as Igbo too, (my boyfriend sees himself as Igbo), I have nothing against Deltans but I would love my kids to be seen as Igbos however, I wouldn't reject my boyfriend if he wasn't 100% Igbo.
Thanks in advance.. (pls don't be rude)

This is really funny. For everyone saying the girl is pretty, she is not exceptionally pretty, she's just fair and make up is more noticeable. Besides, she's young enough to be his grand daughter. This is ridiculous as it's obvious this marriage is based on financial gains on the part of the girl and on other benefits for Oshiomole. This man has been making headlines because of ridiculous choices recently.

4 me 2 marry 9ja woman wey dey bleach , i beta marry white chick.
imitation of color. black gurlz turn white.
metcheeeew

Those girls in the picture are not bleaching anything. They were born like that. like 50% of Igbo girls are light in complexion, I am dark though but it doesn't make any difference...

benedictac:
why utaka wife eye be like that

I dey fear o, but e be like say utaka like am lol.. Na for him pocket that one dey

Lol, all the oyibo wives look very weird. Osaze's wife looks old and scrawny. Utaka's wife looks old and wrinkled. They'll age faster than their husbands. But Kanu's wife is the bestest of the bests. The girl too fine with perfect shape. Igbo girls no dey carry last