Barbaric age!? We are still in barbaric age while kids and families starve to death in Nigeria and Africa. Colonization is barbaric. Do some research

ancientbanana:
c ur life? we are talking abt today n u are talking about b4 even Buhari’s great grand father was born. This shows u the xtians have matured past the barbaric age but Muslims are just stepping into. Barbaric ppl

Jewish lover. Ask Palestinians what they think about '' the wonderful people''

guru03:
Sebastian Vilar Rodriguez published an article in a Spanish newspaper on Jan. 15, 2008. It doesn't take much imagination to extrapolate the message to the rest of Europe - and possibly to the rest of the world. REMEMBER AS YOU R WAS IN A SPANISH PAPER Date: Tue. 15 January 2008 ALL EUROPEAN LIFE DIED IN AUSCHWITZ   By Sebastian Vilar Rodrigez I walked down the street in Barcelona , and suddenly discovered a terrible truth - Europe died in Auschwitz ... We killed six million Jews and replaced them with 20 million Muslims. In Auschwitz we burned a culture, thought, creativity, talent. We destroyed the chosen people, truly chosen, because they produced great and wonderful people who changed the world. The contribution of this people is felt in all areas of life: science, art, international trade, and above all,  as the conscience of the world. These are the people we burned. And under the pretense of tolerance, and because we wanted  to prove to ourselves that we were cured of the disease of racism, we opened our gates to 20 million Muslims, who brought us stupidity and ignorance, religious extremism and lack of tolerance, crime and poverty, due to an unwillingness to work and support their families with pride. They have blown up our trains and turned our beautiful Spanish cities into the third world, drowning in filth and crime. Shut up in the apartments they receive free from the government, they plan the murder and destruction of their naive hosts. And thus, in our misery, we have exchanged culture for fanatical hatred, creative skill for destructive skill, intelligence for backwardness and superstition. We have exchanged the pursuit of peace of the Jews of Europe and their talent for a better future for their children, their determined clinging to life because life is holy, for those who pursue death, for people consumed by the desire for death for themselves and others, for our children and theirs. What a terrible mistake was made  by miserable Europe The Global Islamic population is approximately 1,200,000,000; that is ONE BILLION TWO HUNDRED MILLION or 20% of the world's population. They have received the following Nobel Prizes: LITERATURE: 1988 - Najib Mahfooz Peace: 1978 - Mohamed Anwar El-Sadat 1990 - Elias James Corey 1994 - Yaser Arafat: 1999 - Ahmed Zewai ECONOMICS: (zero) PHYSICS: (zero) MEDICINE: 1960 - Peter Brian Medawar 1998 - Ferid Mourad TOTAL: 7 SEVEN The Global Jewish population is approximately 14,000,000; that is FOURTEEN MILLION or about 0.02% of the world's population. They have received the following Nobel Prizes: LITERATURE: 1910 - Paul Heyse 1927 - Henri Bergson 1958 - Boris Pasternak 1966 - Shmuel Yosef Agnon 1966 - Nelly Sachs 1976 - Saul Bellow 1978 - Isaac Bashevis Singer 1981 - Elias Canetti 1987 - Joseph Brodsky 1991 - Nadine Gordimer   WORLD PEACE: 1911 - Alfred Fried 1911 - Tobias Michael Carel Asser 1968 - Rene Cassin 1973 - Henry Kissinger 1978 - Menachem Begin 1986 - Elie Wiesel 1994 - Shimon Peres 1994 - Yitzhak Rabin PHYSICS: 1905 - Adolph Von Baeyer 1906 - Henri Moissan 1907 - Albert Abraham Michelson 1908 - Gabriel Lippmann 1910 - Otto Wallach 1915 - Richard Willstaetter 1918 - Fritz Haber 1921 - Albert Einstein 1922 - Niels Bohr 1925 - James Franck 1925 - Gustav Hertz 1943 - Gustav Stern 1943 - George Charles de Hevesy 1944 - Isidor Issac Rabi 1952 - Felix Bloch 1954 - Max Born 1958 - Igor Tamm 1959 - Emilio Segre 1960 - Donald A. Glaser 1961 - Robert Hofstadter 1961 - Melvin Calvin 1962 - Lev Davidovich Landau 1962 - Max Ferdinand Perutz 1965 - Richard Phillips Feynman 1965 - Julian Schwinger 1969 - Murray Gell-Mann 1971 - Dennis Gabor 1972 - William Howard Stein 1973 - Brian David Josephson 1975 - Benjamin Mottleson 1976 - Burton Richter 1977 - Ilya Prigogine 1978 - Arno Allan Penzias 1978 - Peter L Kapitza 1979 - Stephen Weinberg 1979 - Sheldon Glashow 1979 - Herbert Charles Brown 1980 - Paul Berg 1980 - Walter Gilbert 1981 - Roald Hoffmann 1982 - Aaron Klug 1985 - Albert A. Hauptman 1985 - Jerome Karle 1986 - Dudley R. Herschbach 1988 - Robert Huber 1988 - Leon Lederman 1988 - Melvin Schwartz 1988 - Jack Steinberger 1989 - Sidney Altman 1990 - Jerome Friedman 1992 - Rudolph Marcus 1995 - Martin Perl 2000 - Alan J. Heeger ECONOMICS: 1970 - Paul Anthony Samuelson 1971 - Simon Kuznets 1972 - Kenneth Joseph Arrow 1975 - Leonid Kantorovich 1976 - Milton Friedman 1978 - Herbert A. Simon 1980 - Lawrence Robert Klein 1985 - Franco Modigliani 1987 - Robert M. Solow 1990 - Harry Markowitz 1990 - Merton Miller 1992 - Gary Becker 1993 - Robert Fogel MEDICINE: 1908 - Elie Metchnikoff 1908 - Paul Erlich 1914 - Robert Barany 1922 - Otto Meyerhof 1930 - Karl Landsteiner 1931 - Otto Warburg 1936 – Otto Loewi 1944 - Joseph Erlanger 1944 - Herbert Spencer Gasser 1945 - Ernst Boris Chain 1946 - Hermann Joseph Muller 1950 - Tadeus Reichstein 1952 - Selman Abraham Waksman 1953 - Hans Krebs 1953 - Fritz Albert Lipmann 1958 - Joshua Lederberg 1959 - Arthur Kornberg 1964 - Konrad Bloch 1965 - Francois Jacob 1965 - Andre Lwoff 1967 - George Wald 1968 - Marshall W. Nirenberg 1969 - Salvador Luria 1970 - Julius Axelrod 1970 - Sir Bernard Katz 1972 - Gerald Maurice Edelman 1975 - Howard Martin Temin 1976 - Baruch S. Blumberg 1977 - Roselyn Sussman Yalow 1978 - Daniel Nathans 1980 - Baruj Benacerraf 1984 - Cesar Milstein 1985 - Michael Stuart Brown 1985 - Joseph L. Goldstein 1986 - Stanley Cohen [& Rita Levi-Montalcini] 1988 - Gertrude Elion 1989 - Harold Varmus 1991 – Erwin Neher 1991 - Bert Sakmann 1993 - Richard J. Roberts 1993 - Phillip Sharp 1994 - Alfred Gilman 1995 - Edward B. Lewis 1996- Lu RoseIacovino TOTAL: 129! The Jews are NOT promoting brain washing children in military training camps, teaching them how to blow themselves up and cause maximum deaths of Jews and other non Muslims. The Jews don't hijack planes, nor kill athletes at the Olympics, or blow themselves up in German restaurants. There is NOT one single Jew who has destroyed a church. There is NOT a single Jew who protests by killing people. The Jews don't traffic slaves, nor have leaders calling for Jihad and death to all the Infidels. Perhaps the world's Muslims should consider investing more in standard education and less in blaming the Jews for all their problems. Muslims must ask 'what can they do for humankind' before they demand that humankind respects them. Regardless of your feelings about the crisis between Israel and the Palestinians and Arab neighbors, even if you believe there is more culpability on Israel 's part, the following two sentences really say it all: "If the Arabs put down their weapons today, there would be no more violence. If the Jews put down their weapons today, there would be no more Israel ." Benjamin Netanyahu General Eisenhower warned us it is a matter of history that when the Supreme Commander of the Allied Forces, General Dwight Eisenhower, found the victims of the death camps he ordered all possible photographs to be taken, and for the German people from surrounding villages to be ushered through the camps and even made to bury the dead. He did this because he said in words to this effect: 'Get it all on record now - get the films - get the witnesses - because somewhere down the road of history some bastard will get up and say that this never happened' Recently, the UK debated whether to remove The Holocaust from its school curriculum because it 'offends' the Muslim population which claims it never occurred. It is not removed as yet. However, this is a frightening portent of the fear that is gripping the world and how easily each country is giving into it. It is now more than 60 years after the Second World War in Europe ended. This e-mail is being sent as a memorial chain, in memory of the, 6 million Jews, 20 million Russians, 10 million Christians, and 1,900 Catholic priests who were 'murdered, raped, burned, starved, beaten, experimented on and humiliated' while the German people looked the other way. Now, more than ever, with Iran , among others, claiming the Holocaust to be 'a myth,' it is imperative to make sure the world never forgets. This e-mail is intended to reach 400 million people. Be a link in the memorial chain and help distribute this around the world. How many years will it be before the attack on the World Trade Center 'NEVER HAPPENED' because it offends some Muslim in the United States ?

Christianity is
A religion imposed by colonialism and only brings poor the poorer and the rich pastors because they steal so much from their poor ignorant followers getting richer and Exploiting more their followers that have been erased of their tradition and their ways of life by colonialism and foreigners remember the rapes done by Christians to Nigerian children the British Christians the ones that enslaved your family were Christians and the ones that murdered so many family members and have caused so much suffering throughout the world were the Christians through the crusades in an attempt to early colonization in the middle east and the Spanish inquisition with called heresy to anyone that did not beloved the church and murdered and tortured anyone simply for not believing but let's talk about Africa about Nigeria the only thing that the British protectorate brought to the civilians was slavery, oppression and eradication of their traditions wich leaded them to be successful empires before. Now subjugated and uneducated many uneducated Nigerians look for faith of foreigners because it has been imposed yes British brought Christianity but is sad to see the rich preachers getting money and the Naija population specially those near the oil refineries Christians devotes treating disease with only vitamin C for their family . While the pastors are traveling the world and ''balling

Is religion imposed by colonialism and only brings poor the poorer and the rich pastors because they steal so much from their poor ignorant followers getting richer and Exploiting more their followers that have been erased of their tradition and their ways of life by colonialism and foreigners remember the rapes done by Christians to Nigerian children the British Christians the ones that enslaved your family were Christians and the ones that murdered so many family members and have caused so much suffering throughout the world were the Christians through the crusades in an attempt to early colonization in the middle east and the Spanish inquisition with called heresy to anyone that did not beloved the church and murdered and tortured anyone simply for not believing but let's talk about Africa about Nigeria the only thing that the British protectorate brought to the civilians was slavery, oppression and eradication of their traditions wich leaded them to be successful empires before. Now subjugated and uneducated many uneducated Nigerians look for faith of foreigners because it has been imposed yes British brought Christianity but is sad to see the rich preachers getting money and the Naija population specially those near the oil refineries Christians devotes treating disease with only vitamin C for their family . While the pastors are traveling the world and ''balling

seunmsg:


How can a traditionalist be an atheist at the same time?

CEO1:


source: http://www.onenigeriablog.com/2017/01/no-terrorist-group-shouts-jesus-jesus.html

Is religion imposed by colonialism and only brings poor the poorer and the rich pastors because they steal so much from their poor ignorant followers getting richer and Exploiting more their followers that have been erased of their tradition and their ways of life by colonialism and foreigners remember the rapes done by Christians to Nigerian children the British Christians the ones that enslaved your family were Christians and the ones that murdered so many family members and have caused so much suffering throughout the world were the Christians through the crusades in an attempt to early colonization in the middle east and the Spanish inquisition with called heresy to anyone that did not beloved the church and murdered and tortured anyone simply for not believing but let's talk about Africa about Nigeria the only thing that the British protectorate brought to the civilians was slavery, oppression and eradication of their traditions wich leaded them to be successful empires before. Now subjugated and uneducated many uneducated Nigerians look for faith of foreigners because it has been imposed yes British brought Christianity but is sad to see the rich preachers getting money and the Naija population specially those near the oil refineries Christians devotes treating disease with only vitamin C for their family . While the pastors are traveling the world and ''balling''.

Yes it is possible to turn a woman from a friend to a lover, if you know what to do -- but even then, it won't work every time.

Some women keep you as a friend because you've been too scared to make your romantic interest known, or you've made a bunch of bonehead mistakes, and alienated her (at least temporarily) from being romantic. Perhaps you've made fart jokes, said callous things, or treated her like a buddy; nothing too serious. These are women you've got a shot at changing into lovers.

Other women have you squarely in the "just friends" category, and you ain't goin' anywhere, pal.

These woman may be married or in relationships, may be difficult high-maintenance women, or -- the sad fact -- simply may not like you very much, and keep you around for when they have nothing better to do. You are unlikely to turn these women into lovers, but by trying, at least you'll get them out of your life, and clear some psychic space for women who do want to be sexual with you.

So what can you do to get "just a friend" to become your lover? Let's look at the basic primer on friends-to-lovers, Louis and Copeland style.

1) Pursue other women.

If you want to turn a friend into a lover, it is crucial beyond words that she not be your one-and-only-hope for sex. You MUST be pursuing other women, flirting with other women, romancing other women, and being sexual with other women.

Pursuing and being successful with other women is the only way to have real freedom around the "friend" woman you are trying to seduce. It will give you a sense of patience with her, remove any sense of desperation you may be having with her, and make you less available -- and thus, more attractive -- to her.

2) Act like a lover, not like a female friend.

Pop quiz, hot-shot: What does a man who becomes a woman's "friend" do differently with her than another woman would? Answer: nothing.

Moral: If you want a woman to see you as a sexual man, rather than basically as an ugly woman, then you must act differently than another woman would. This is true for woman you are just meeting, as well as for women who have known you for a while and already think of you as a "friend."

Bottom line: you must flirt with her, weird as it may feel to you the first time you do it. But you must flirt.

So often a man who ends up a woman's "friend" falls into the trap of wanting the woman to feel comfortable, above all else. Consequently he is indecisive and appears weak to her, always nervous, always waiting for her to relax before he relaxes.

He doesn't ever flirt or say anything romantic, because he doesn't want to risk making her uncomfortable. Only if he had a clear signal that flirting was okay would he do it. This will never work.

If you are going to be seductive with a woman, you must be willing to provide the certainty in the interaction that everything is okay -- even if it's romantic. That means that you believe it's okay, and let her know it.

You don't act like there's a problem -- you act like everything is great! Since she's probably been looking to "you" and your behavior to know how to feel about things, most of the time this will actually help her relax.

3) Be upbeat and be busy.

The chances are, you are kind of depressed with the female "friends" you want to have sex with, complaining about your life and generally being a whiner. You must stop doing that right away.

She should find herself thinking, "Wow, he seems pretty happy, even without me. I'd better get a piece of that!" rather than "Wow, this guy is a downer."

You must act more upbeat, and like you have something going on in your life. The best way to do this is to pursue other women (see #1, above).

One man we know did this with a woman he was interested in. She had dated him a few times, then decided they should be "just friends." ("I'm very excited," is how she told him. "I'm excited you are going to be my best friend." Arrrg!)

He started following the dating fundamentals aggressively, and soon found himself being sexual with another woman. From that place of sexual abundance, he was able to be happier and less available around the woman who wanted to be "just friends."

He told us "She called to tell me she'd be too busy to see me for a while, and I was able to honestly say it was just fine -- that I was really looking forward to seeing her, and that we'd get together whenever we both found the time. Her response? 'But I really want to see you!' By being happy and busy, I've been able to keep her pursuing me, and I'm confident I'll end up in bed with her."

He's free to be patient with her, to work the seduction slowly, and is not attached to the outcome. Be upbeat and busy if you want to turn a friend to a lover.

4) Refuse to stay "just friends."

If you do what we say, things will start seeming more romantic with the women you befriended. She'll either get with the program (and probably tell you, "You've changed!" or she'll tell you in no uncertain terms that you are now and will forever be "just friends."

If that happens, you have to stop hanging around with her. Without apologizing, tell her, "I'm sorry, but it's too painful for me to be 'just friends' with someone I feel this way about. I am attracted to you." Then stop hanging around with her -- at least then you'll be doing something positive for your self-esteem as a man.

5) Don't backslide.

If she goes for it and gets romantic with you, you may be tempted to fall into the trap of acting like a friend again. Don't do it!

Good luck from Habana, Cuba.

the new nations are forced to live with an international society very dynamic and supporting the weight of the inferior technological delays and of its contradiction of it's many United tribes put forcefully together by it's colonial masters, force destabilization of their military, the lack of education and health and interference of powers world. together, their rulers faced with a difficult tasks that exceeded. Europeans left well inculcated in Africa a lesson: the strength of weapons is the final resource for conquest of power. there is nothing like force overwhelming of the military power. when was the conquest of Africa, the middle of the nineteenth century, is written the argument of the "civilization", because in Europe was assured that civilization, as mother, there are no more than a, which was -needed more colonialism and enlighten them with the excuses of Christianity and Africa were and are still considered a bunch of caveman monkeys by the Europeans. today speaking of "development aid" sometimes "solidarity." are two concepts politically correct, but loaded at times of both cynicism as when the past is speaking of "civilization." Africa is the mother of most of the raw materials that are in the world and re-interest so always attracted to the West and now to East: for their natural resources. there in Africa a double interference, political and economic, which is making African countries in mere branches of the North. the moorings are so strong that when a leader try to cut a rope to get rid of pressure, is located immediately with a revolt well organized and armed up teeth. this interference, doesn't have origin and only in the European countries, but pressure now is also US, China, India, Brazil, ... even himself Colonel Gaddafi encouraged the Libyan to go to "get rich» the black Africa. these actions of penetration in Africa is still attending the third colonization of the continent. Africa this flooded weapons. weapons in African countries come legal and illegal or rather, for official channels and informal markets. there are other commercial interests very important in the provision of weapons to the region. the continent has suffered wars atrocious, often presented as civil wars, but in the background are wars economic mounted with the only goal of sack these countries and enrich the price of the death of millions of people and indoctrinate their religion by controlling the masses and showing them as if they were the only way when indeed the most poorest and awful countries are indeed Christians because religion is the opium of the masses therefore destroying it's culture and it's ancient religion and forcefully indoctrinating Christianity as an excuse of enlightenment when what it was just pure mass manipulation through Christianity as it was actually the Christianity excuse for the slave trade that meant that the black men was inferior to the white men who supposedly rightfully owned the blacks. predation resource was the cause of wars more virulent in countries such as Angola, Sierra Leone, Sudan and Democratic Republic of Congo. in these countries has not been fought for any idea, or by impersonating a power despotic to improve the situation of citizens, but simply to control and exploit oil, gold and Diamond, mostly in connection with transnational corporations that have supplanted States themselves. and have acted as suppliers, in many cases, of weapons necessary to destabilize communities, regions, entire countries. a clear example of this is the case of the Democratic Republic of the Congo, respect to one of its resources-the coltán-, material used for the manufacture of mobile or computers. an area particularly vulnerable throughout sub-Saharan Africa is the agricultural. agriculture is a sector vital for Africa. represents 70 percent of the economy of the countries of the continent. the biggest problem lies in unfair competition of imports of the countries of the North. is abnormal, for example, that the imported Rice cost less in Africa that Rice produced in their countries. the same happens with cotton. programs structural adjustment (SAP) world Bank and IMF -estas international institutions that we sold as the "little sisters of charity" and, However, their actions can compare with techniques more macabre and sophisticated used during the Holocaust Nazi are directly related to the process that leads to the creation of situations hunger, because attempt to systematically against all economic activities not serve the interests of the system world market. programs structural adjustment consist of the imposition of conditions economic and financial countries indebted to adjust the foreign trade, remove the financial imbalances and get new loans. that is, the world Bank delivery loans (obviously with high interest engrosan external debt lethal of the United) provided compliance of their structural adjustment programs. programs that target clearly the construction and maintenance of the world capitalist system: fundamentalism economic or what is the same, prioritization of the financial system and market on human life. hunger present in Somalia or Mozambique, for example, is attributed mechanically to political factors and climate external: the absence of clouds Laden rain and abnormal air pressure ... is misrepresents history and only teaches the surface. Somalia, However, was self-sufficient in food to the 70's what precipitated the collapse of civil society? why is destroyed agriculture food production and grazing Nomad? Africa has become the region where more are applied SAPS. the shadow of them, exploitation rural family is carried bankruptcy, the agricultural producer lost control of the Earth working. income of farmers-and this in both countries rich and poor are reduced to a minimum expression under the siege of a powerful group of companies world agribusiness simultaneously control markets grain of agricultural inputs, seed and processed foods. the consequences of SAPS in Africa are increased levels of poverty urban and rural, lower wages in the modern sector, the disappearance of schools subsidized by the state, privatization of health, etc. the immediate results are increasing illiteracy, reducing life expectancy and recurrence of epidemics eradicated in other parts of the planet. the disease incidence is another of pests whip the African continent: AIDS, tuberculosis, malaria, anger, Ebola ... how can a village with a health as precarious reset a country, desolate by the war, reach peace, work fields, trade internationally and progress? circle vicious poor health is one of the traps maintaining the peoples of Africa in his state of prostration. it is taking effect the plan more finish looting total had known humanity in his as long existence. it is squeezing to levels inconceivable peoples and hungry and impoverished the most by concept of a debt that never asked or usufructuaron. but this is not everything. it is probably the prelude other predictable greater and last Super genocide that consumaría with the outbreak intensive diseases caused in retrovirus laboratory to extinguish physically the starving masses still survivors. it perceived that everything detailed is not but part of a gloomy plan domain and empowerment total of the world, designed by large corporations and circles financial the planet. Africa beats creepy records: the highest number of AIDS patients in the world (is estimated 26 million people), malaria, as many cases of tuberculosis (20% of total world), as many children soldier (calculated more 150,000), as many light weapons, millions of people displaced by armed conflict; 10 countries with a lower human development index are African, ... and sum and continues. President Ugandan, Yoweri Museveni, explained thus, in 2005, in the Center of policy studies based international Washington, "is usually say that Western governments help Africa; the truth is that Africa is helping the countries of the West; donors are the African ... talk a lot of poverty in Africa, but Africa is not poor; it is very rich natural resources, the real problem is in the export of raw materials." "are not underdeveloped countries, but overwhelmed," says Eduardo Galeano.

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Because Cuba was busy growing it's revolution and helping the rebels in the Congo to try to overcome mubutu sezeko with revolutionary guerrillas.

dmz1:
But why did Cuba not support Biafra? we would've been a first step world country by now

Agree with you and you are welcome. I am happy to share the truth

Bujumbura:
Thanks for this piece.



God bless Fidei Castro a great revolutionary

RicardozRichard:


I wasn't expecting a Response ... It's rhetoric but weldone sha

South Africa. If you write it in plurar you say South AfricaN or South Africans but is OK to say or write the title like that because is referring to the country. No one says for example the Naira raised in Nigerians

RicardozRichard:
SOUTH AFRICA OR SOUTH AFRICAN

On March 23, 1988, the South Africans launched their last major attack against Cuito Cuanavale. It was an abject failure. The US Joint Chiefs of Staff noted, “The war in Angola has taken a dramatic and—as far as the South Africans are concerned—an undesirable turn.”

The Cubans' left hand had blocked the South African blow while their right hand was preparing to strike: powerful Cuban columns were moving towards the Namibian border, pushing the South Africans back. Cuban MIG-23s began to fly over northern Namibia. US and South African documents prove that the Cubans gained the upper hand in Angola. The Cubans demanded that Pretoria withdraw unconditionally from Angola and allow UN-supervised elections in Namibia. The US Joint Chiefs of Staff warned that if South Africa refused, the Cubans were in a position “to launch a well-supported offensive into Namibia.” The South Africans acknowledged their dilemma: if they refused the Cuban demands, they ran “the very real risk of becoming involved in a full-scale conventional war with the Cubans, the results of which are potentially disastrous.” The South African military was grim: “We must do the utmost to avoid a confrontation.”


Pretoria capitulated. It accepted the Cubans’ demands and withdrew unconditionally from Angola and agreed to UN supervised elections in Namibia, which SWAPO won.

The Cuban victory reverberated beyond Namibia and Angola. In the words of Nelson Mandela, the Cuban victory “destroyed the myth of the invincibility of the white oppressor ... [and] inspired the fighting masses of South Africa ... Cuito Cuanavale was the turning point for the liberation of our continent—and of my people—from the scourge of apartheid.”

It is worth pondering why the organizers of Nelson Mandela’s memorial service invited Raúl Castro to be one of only six foreign leaders—of the ninety-one in attendance—to speak at the ceremony. Not only was Raúl Castro accorded that honor, but he also received by far the warmest introduction: "We now will get an address from a tiny island, an island of people who liberated us ... the people of Cuba," the chairperson of the African National Congress (ANC) said. Such words echo what Mandela himself said when he visited Cuba in 1991: “We come here with a sense of the great debt that is owed the people of Cuba ... What other country can point to a record of greater selflessness than Cuba has displayed in its relations to Africa?”

Many factors led to the demise of apartheid. The white South African government was defeated not just by the power of Mandela, the courage of the South African people, or the worldwide movement to impose sanctions. It was also brought down by the defeat of the South African military in Angola. This explains the prominence of Raúl Castro at the memorial service: it was Cuban troops that humiliated the South African army. In the 1970s and 1980s, Cuba changed the course of history in southern Africa despite the best efforts of the United States to prevent it.


In October 1975, the South Africans, encouraged by the Gerald Ford administration, invaded Angola to crush the leftwing Popular Movement for the Liberation of Angola (MPLA). They would have succeeded had not 36,000 Cuban soldiers suddenly poured into Angola.

By April 1976, the Cubans had pushed the South Africans out.

As the CIA noted, Castro had not consulted Moscow before sending his troops (as is clear from later tense meetings with the Soviet leadership in the 1980s.) The Cubans, Kissinger confirmed in his memoirs, had confronted the Soviets with a fait accompli. Fidel Castro understood that the victory of Pretoria (with Washington in the wings) would have tightened the grip of white domination over the people of southern Africa. It was a defining moment: Castro sent troops to Angola because of his commitment to what he has called “the most beautiful cause,” the struggle against apartheid. As Kissinger observed later, Castro “was probably the most genuine revolutionary leader then in power.”


The tidal wave unleashed by the Cuban victory in Angola washed over South Africa. “Black Africa is riding the crest of a wave generated by the Cuban success in Angola,” noted the World, South Africa’s major black newspaper. “Black Africa is tasting the heady wine of the possibility of realizing the dream of total liberation.” Mandela later recalled hearing about the Cuban victory in Angola while he was incarcerated on Robben Island. “I was in prison when I first heard of the massive aid that the internationalist Cuban troops were giving to the people of Angola. ... We in Africa are accustomed to being the victims of countries that want to grab our territory or subvert our sovereignty. In all the history of Africa this is the only time a foreign people has risen up to defend one of our countries.”

Pretoria, however, had not given up: even after retreating from the Cubans, it hoped to topple Angola's MPLA government. Cuban troops remained in Angola to protect it from another South African invasion. Even the CIA conceded that they were “necessary to preserve Angolan independence.” In addition, the Cubans trained ANC guerrillas as well as SWAPO rebels, who were fighting for the independence of Namibia from the South Africans who illegally occupied it.

From 1981 to 1987, the South Africans launched bruising invasions of southern Angola. It was a stalemate—until November 1987, when Castro decided to push the South Africans out of the country once and for all. His decision was triggered by the fact that the South African army had cornered the best units of the Angolan army in the southern Angolan town of Cuito Cuanavale. And his decision was made possible by the Iran Contra scandal rocking Washington. Until the Iran-Contra scandal exploded in late 1986, weakening and distracting the Reagan administration, the Cubans had feared that the United States might launch an attack on their homeland. They had therefore been unwilling to deplete their stocks of weapons. But Iran Contra defanged Reagan, and freed Castro to send Cuba's best planes, pilots, and antiaircraft weapons to Angola. His strategy was to break the South African offensive against Cuito Cuanavale in the southeast and then attack in the southwest, “like a boxer who with his left hand blocks the blow and with his right—strikes.”

“Listen, Agnes.
I am working-class.
And that really does make a difference. I know what’s useful,
and what isn’t.
I know the price of things,
and I know how to give things up.
I know what it is to struggle –
these tough little lessons
I dont think you people ever learned.
I hold tight, and I do my work.
I make posters for good causes.
Even if they get torn up, I make them, even though we live in a country
where theory falls silent in the face of fact,
where progress can be reversed overnight,
where the enemy has stolen everything, our own words from us,
I hold tight, and not to my painting . . . not only to that.
Pick any era in history, Agnes.
What is really beautiful about that era?
The way the rich lived?
No.
The way the poor lived?
No.
The dreams of the Left
are always beautiful.
The imagining of better world
the damnation of the present one.
This faith,
this luminescent anger,
these alone
are worthy of being called human.
These are the Beautiful
that an age produces.
As an artist I am struck to the heart
by these dreams. These visions.
We progress. But at great cost.
How can anyone stand to live
without understanding that much?”

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Most people haven’t heard of him.
But you should have. When you see his face or hear his name you should get as sick in your stomach as when you read about Mussolini or Hitler or see one of their pictures. You see, he killed over 10 million people in the Congo.

His name is King Leopold II of Belgium.
He “owned” the Congo during his reign as the constitutional monarch of Belgium. After several failed colonial attempts in Asia and Africa, he settled on the Congo. He “bought” it and enslaved its people, turning the entire country into his own personal slave plantation. He disguised his business transactions as “philanthropic” and “scientific” efforts under the banner of the International African Society. He used their enslaved labor to extract Congolese resources and services. His reign was enforced through work camps, body mutilations, torture, executions, and his own private army.

Most of us aren’t taught about him in school. We don’t hear about him in the media. He’s not part of the widely-repeated narrative of oppression (which includes things like the Holocaust during World War II). He’s part of a long history of colonialism, imperialism, slavery, and genocide in Africa that would clash with the social construction of a white supremacist narrative in our schools. It doesn’t fit neatly into school curriculums in a capitalist society. Making overtly racist remarks is (sometimes) frowned upon in ‘polite’ society; but it’s quite fine not to talk about genocide in Africa perpetrated by European capitalist monarchs.1
Mark Twain wrote a satire about Leopold called “King Leopold’s Soliloquy; A Defense of His Congo Rule”, where he mocked the King’s defense of his reign of terror, largely through Leopold’s own words. It’s an easy read at 49 pages and Mark Twain is a popular author in American public schools. But like most political authors, we will often read some of their least political writings or read them without learning why the author wrote them in the first place. Orwell’s Animal Farm, for example, serves to reinforce American anti-socialist propaganda about how egalitarian societies are doomed to turn into their dystopian opposites. But Orwell was an anti-capitalist revolutionary of a different kind—a supporter of working class democracy from below—and that is never pointed out. We can read about Huck Finn and Tom Sawyer, but “King Leopold’s Soliloquy” isn’t on the reading list. This isn’t by accident. Reading lists are created by boards of education in order to prepare students to follow orders and endure boredom. From the point of view of the Department of Education, Africans have no history.
When we learn about Africa, we learn about a caricatured Egypt, about the HIV epidemic (but never its causes), about the surface level effects of the slave trade, and maybe about South African Apartheid (the effects of which, we are taught, are now long, long over). We also see lots of pictures of starving children on Christian Ministry commercials, we see safaris on animal shows, and we see pictures of deserts in films and movies. But we don’t learn about the Great African War or Leopold’s Reign of Terror during the Congolese Genocide. Nor do we learn about what the United States has done in Iraq and Afghanistan, killing millions of people through bombs, sanctions, disease, and starvation. Body counts are important. And the United States Government doesn’t count Afghan, Iraqi, or Congolese people.

Though the Congolese Genocide isn’t included on Wikipedia’s “Genocides in History” page, it does mention the Congo. What’s now called the Democratic Republic of the Congo is listed in reference to the Second Congo War (also called Africa’s World War and the Great War of Africa), where both sides of the regional conflict hunted down Bambenga people—a regional ethnic group—and enslaved and cannibalized them. Cannibalism and slavery are horrendous evils which must be entered into history for sure, but I couldn’t help thinking whose interests were served when the only mention of the Congo on the page was in reference to regional incidents where a tiny minority of people in Africa were eating each other (completely devoid of the conditions which created the conflict, and the people and institutions who are responsible for those conditions). Stories which support the white supremacist narrative about the subhumanness of people in Africa are allowed to enter the records of history. The white guy who turned the Congo into his own personal part-plantation, part-concentration camp, part-Christian ministry—and killed 10 to 15 million Congolese people in the process—doesn’t make the cut.

You see, when you kill ten million Africans, you aren’t called ‘Hitler’. That is, your name doesn’t come to symbolize the living incarnation of evil. Your name and your picture don’t produce fear, hatred, and sorrow. Your victims aren’t talked about and your name isn’t remembered.

Leopold was just one of thousands of things that helped construct white supremacy as both an ideological narrative and material reality. I don’t pretend that he was the source of all evil in the Congo. He had generals, and foot soldiers, and managers who did his bidding and enforced his laws. He was at the head of a system. But that doesn’t negate the need to talk about the individuals who are symbolic of the system. But we don’t even get that. And since it isn’t talked about, what capitalism did to Africa, all the privileges that rich white people gained from the Congolese genocide, remain hidden. The victims of imperialism are made, like they usually are, invisible.

You're welcome

tekel:

thanks bro. u need 2 see the message i sent her recently, i really bleeped up.. but i will leave her for now and i hope it helps.. thanks once again.

I recommend you to follow number 10. Best luck also thanks for the praise I hope it helps

tekel:


excellent writeup op..
. Failure to initiate touching

some guys refrain from touching because they're afraid of coming off as being too aggressive or perverted. Others believe they need to respect her personal space until they get permission to enter. These are the thoughts of "nice guys" -- thoughts that will land them squarely into the friendzone.

Once you've established a friendship with her, you must start finding excuses to initiate brief touching. Start with something innocent like brushing her on her arm when something funny is said. You're testing whether she welcomes it. If she doesn't seem to mind or (better yet!) touches you back, you should escalate little by little over time until you can just put your arms around her without awkwardness.
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op this write up is excellent.. recently i was guilty of the one above. Please I have an issue help me out.
There is this girl, she was all over me. So one day i went 2 see her, she lives with her senior sis but she was out. She gave me all the green light but for some bizarre reason i didn't make a move, not that i was scared because i played with her, lifting her up, licking her ear and all that. But that was all, no kissing and no sensitive touches. I wanted 2 take it slowly. So after that day she changed, she started acting up. So i decided 2 visit her again and give her d banging she wanted but i guess its already late. Was close 2 her house called her, she told me she wasn't around i got so angry that i yelled at her for her attitude. Few days later i called and apologized, told her i want 2 see her she promised she will come 2 my office ( managing my dad's business). Didn't see her, called her she didn't pick up, called her for more several days no pickup.. One day i saw her and her sister, they actually packed in front of my office, i came out called her 2 come inside, didn't see her i was so embarrassed. Days later i sent her a text, it was straight 2 d point, telling her i love her, how i was taking it slowly so feelings won't quench so quickly bla bla bla.. Yet no reply ever since..
I really Need 2 Bleep that girl 2 redeem my image. Please what's your advice

deparagon:
I try as much as I can to be good and this man is trying as much as he can to take advantage of me, what do i do? Change or continue being good and get trampled upon?

I happen to be a very young landlord by circumstance ie i inherited a property from my late dad let me hold it here.
Now there is this man i rented a one bedroom apartment to, and being that i'm young maybe he thinks i don't know the value of money he chooses to pay it in instalment, imagine him paying 1yr rent of 80k in a period of 5mounts, now the problem is i was adviced to hand over the property to a lawyer, the man has been intimidating me as to why i had to do such a thing.
Pls ur candid opinion.

ask him to pay YOUR WAY BECAUSE IS YOUR HOME . If he don't agree call police and get him out and say he threatening to kill you or whatever to make the eviction process faster.

Yeah just tell her and see where it leads you. Why critique when you can't even read

Emodeee:
all these just to pull her pant? just tell her you want to fvck her. rubbish.

Do as you please.

Kelly2713:



what's your suggestion then? should i continue

Actually it's informative. If it's too lengthy means it's very detailed.

Kelly2713:
its too lengthy, can't continue reading

11. When she walks by, you always give her your fullest attention

Inexperienced guys think that when he sees the girl walk by, he should drop everything to give her his fullest attention. If he's with friends, he leaves his friends to talk to her. If he's doing something important, he puts it away. If he's on the phone, he hangs up. He wants her to know she's top priority. What a great boyfriend he'd make, right?

LAME MOVE!! roflol.gif Congratulations for landing in her friendzone in record time.

Of course, you must give special attention. But give too much and it longer becomes special. If everyday was Christmas, nobody would celebrate it. The attention you give should be about quality, not quantity. So once-in-a-while, become an absolute sweetheart and sweep her off her feet. Other times, you give friendly attention. Other times, say "hi" and move on. And once-in-a-rare while, you ignore her. You might think she'll get pissed and dump you. WRONG. No girl ever loses interest because the guy walked by without saying "hi". She might not like it, but it will only make her realize how much she values your attention.

Another thing. Girls want a guy who's popular and has a life. If a guy is constantly surrounded by cool people (especially girls), he will be perceived as being more attractive. An average-looking guy who's popular and fun will always go on more dates than a good-looking boring loner. To show that you're a fun guy, she must see you laughing and socializing with other people. Now, why can't you do both? Why can't you socialize with her and your other friends? Because you also want her to see that you can have fun without her. That means, you will need to sometimes ignore her while she sees you busy socializing with other people.

Think about it. Do you think she stays up at night pondering about you playing Xbox alone on a Saturday evening? Or is she pondering about what kind of wild partying you're doing without her on a Saturday evening?


12. You do not believe in yourself

I sort of cheated on this last tip. Not believing in yourself is not a "mistake", it's an attitude. But this concept is so important, I feel a need to include it. This concept is everything. LISTEN UP!! clapping.gif

Why do you guys make the mistakes mentioned on this thread? Simple. Because you lack confidence and self-esteem. Without it, you compensate by being too nice, too romantic, too available, etc. If you had confidence, you wouldn't need to suck up to her. In fact, you would feel she should suck up to you instead.

THIS IS THE MOST VALUABLE "TIP" OF THIS THREAD. HAVING CONFIDENCE. Once you have it, you won't make these mistakes and you'll attract girls without trying.

So what are the traits of a CONFIDENT guy?

- He is friendly but never clings, kisses up or conforms to others to win friendship.
- He makes people laugh and has interesting stories to share.
- He is never hellbent on pursuing anyone...in fact, you often have to pursue him.
- He is unafraid to make the first move.
- He acts decisively and makes things happen, not wait for others to initiate.
- He can be aloof, distant and unavailable.
- He is outspoken, has opinions and speaks with enthuasism...but also knows when to STFU.
- He has goals and interests that he pursues with passion
- He does not get scared (at least he doesn't show it).
- He seems to fit in no matter where he is or who he's with.
- He is surrounded by fun and interesting people
- He does the right thing regardless of the consequences.
- He doesn't care what others think of him.
- He is constantly busy (or seems that way).
- He does not seek confrontation but never allows others to bully or step all over him.
- He does not get emotional, petty, flustered or fussy.
- He can disagree with others without offending them.
- He is a leader without being an a--hole
- He is a bit rebellous.
- He lives for today.
- He is popular without trying.

You must do whatever it takes to be this person. Girls will think you're "that cool guy" who has a life and worth chasing, not the spineless wimp wooing her with lame romantic garbage.

Some girls will try to tear down a confidence guy by calling him "conceited" or "arrogant" or "****y". Guess what? That's because she's madly interested in him!! She wouldn't try to change him if she weren't interested. She knows his confidence is sexy to other girls so she tears him down to reduce competition.

I know it's hard to gain confidence. It happens through years of doing the right thing, being proud of who you are -- and lots of practice. But once you have it, you'll walk around with that aura of coolness....something people call "charisma". Once you believe you're a person of value, girls will also believe it. If you don't

1. Always "being there" on the phone

inexperienced guys think if he talks for hours on a phone with a girl, he will become more "boyfriend material" to her. Very wrong! The opposite will actually be occurring and she'll lose respect and interest for you. Why? Because you would become too available, too easy and you signal you have no life. If a guy has value, his time has value too -- which means he doesn't waste it spending the next three hours on the phone. People value something when it's rare. If you give time too freely, then you're not valuable.

Often times, girls call guys for idle chatter when she's bored. If you think it means she likes you, try this experiment. Call her for idle chatter in return. I bet most of the time, she wouldn't want to talk when you need it. Or she'll chat a few minutes and want to hang up. That's because (duh!!!) she doesn't really like you. She calls you for idle chatter only because you've been identified as the schmuck willing to entertain her whenever she's bored.

Don't get me wrong, if something bad happened, you want to be there on the phone. Otherwise, never do a phone marathon session with her. Never. And if she calls, don't always pick up or return her calls. If you do pick up, talk for 10 minutes max and make sure you're the one who ends the conversation. Long talks are reserved for person-to-person encounters.


2. Saying the perfect things to her

inexperienced guys think in order to get a girl interested, he has to say the perfect things to her. You know...he compliments her constantly, never uses profanity, avoids controversy, always saying what (he thinks) she wants to hear, etc. You're the perfect guy! Or so you believe. Buahaha.gif

but think about it. Your parents don't say perfect things to each other -- and yet they still love each other. You don't say perfect things to your friends -- and yet, they're still your friends. The point is, if you say perfect things all the time, it will have the opposite of the intended effect. She will think of you as being predictable and lacking in humor and confidence.

You need to sometimes say something controversial, unpredictable and edgy. If done correctly, she won't get offended and, in fact, she would like you more! "your last boyfriend worked at the gap? I thought only gay guys worked there!" or "you play basketball?! Girls can't play basketball!". Candid things like that. It shows you have a sense of humor, a sense of confidence and that you can speak comfortably around her like old friends. And if you speak openly, it will invite her to do the same -- which is a great way to build rapport.

It's ok to say something mildly sexist or homophobic (the key word here is "mildly". The only girls who would get offended are the uptight or political types. You don't want to date those types anyways. Just don't go overboard with those comments...use common sense! And never say something offensive pertaining to race, religion or handicap. Those are always no-nos.


3. Being unwilling to walk away

you know that feeling. You've been pursuing this girl but she doesn't appreciate your attention and kindness. In fact, she constantly does thoughtless crap to you in return. You're pissed and want to drop her from your life -- but you like her too much and don't want to risk losing a friend. So you grin and bear it and pretend you're not upset. After all, you're demonstrating unconditional love and hope the girl will eventually be impressed...right?

Wrong!!! If you do this, the opposite effect will occur. If you let her step all over you, she'll lose all interest in you (and you can expect more shabby treatment). Girls don't want unconditional love from clingy spineless wimps. She wants a man she can respect. How do you get respect? Well, you certainly don't get respect by constantly being stepped on! You get respect by standing up to her and demonstrating your willingness to walk away forever. She will appreciate and respect a guy only when there is risk of losing him.

In other words, in order to keep her, you must demonstrate you can dump her when she misbehaves.

Another reason girls don't want wimpy guys is because girls want a man to be her "superior". Let's cut the crap about gender equality. Girls want a guy whom she thinks is "better" than her (older, more educated, earns more money, drives better car, etc). If a guy is spineless and wimpy, she won't think of him as a superior and, hence, he's not boyfriend material.

If you have to resort to dropping her, don't stress. If she comes back to you, that's great! If she doesn't, that's also great because retarded people don't belong in your life. It's a win-win situation for you!


4. When a girl flakes on a date, you ask to reschedule

all guys have experienced the disappointment of a girl flaking out on a date. When this happens, his first inclination is to get upset and request she reschedule.

Wrong move!!! If you vent anger, show disappointment or ask that she reschedule, you are showing desperation. Girls do not want a desperate guy. You can never force her to show up for a date anyway. So the more desperate and forceful you sound, the more unlikely she'll ever go out with you. Not to mention, as mentioned in tip #3, she will identify you as a clingy wimp whom she can step on.

Instead, play it cool and pretend it wasn't a big deal. "you can't make it? Oh well, maybe next time!" -- then talk about other things. Hopefully, you can hint you were out having fun with someone else anyway. Or, you can lie and say "that's ok, i didn't show up either". Whichever you do, you never ask to reschedule. Let her bring it up first. If she doesn't, you don't ask. Period.

Some girls flake to test how much you like her. Never play her game. Because if you do, she'll be in control. And remember (from tip #3), if she's in control, you're not her superior. If you're not her superior, you're not boyfriend material.

Eventually, give her another chance by asking her out again after a week or two. If she flakes again, drop this piece of trash immediately. If she's this disrespectful during the courtship process, imagine what a nightmare she'd be in a relationship.


5. Being too romantic

inexperienced guys think you need to aggressively sweep a girl off her feet with roses, love letters and sweet words. Isn't this what girls swoon over in chick flicks, romance novels and love songs?

Wronggggg!! Two reasons why being aggressively romantic is a turn off. First, in order to get her interested, you must keep her guessing. When you're being too romantic, you are confirming your affection. Not good. If she's unsure, she'll go nuts and spend hours on the phone seeking advice from friends. The more unsure she is, the more obsessed she becomes. The more obsessed she becomes, the more she will like you.

Second -- and more importantly -- girls develop interest in a guy gradually and slowly. When you're being aggressively romantic, you are forcing the issue and pressuring her to make a decision. Instead of reciprocating your affection, she will likely run. You can never pressure a girl to like you. Instead, you must exercise patience and let her slowly develop an emotional attachment. When doing it correctly (read my tips), it will slowly creep up on her until one day...boom!!...she suddenly realizes she can't live without you.

So if you have to give a gift, it should be something humorous and not romantic. Giving a dozen roses is a no-no. Writing a romantic poem is a no-no. These types of gifts exerts pressure and implies you're demanding something in return. Instead, give something silly, cute and imaginative with a funny note and with no strings attached. This is a more effective way to win her affection than your lame corny romantic babble.

Revealing too much information about yourself

inexperienced guys think that if they reveal tons of information about himself, she would feel closer to him. After all, isn't that what friends do? They share everything?

Wrong move, buddy!!! Yeah, that's what friends do. But do you only want to be "just friends"? Two main reasons why this is a blunder.

First, she will be more interested if you're a bit mysterious. When you're mysterious, she will think about you. The more she thinks about you, the more she will like you. Don't agree? Try this experiment. The next time she asks what you're doing this weekend, tell her "sorry, i really can't say" (and give a devilish smile). She might pretend not to care...but she's only pretending. If she didn't care, she wouldn't have asked. By not telling, i promise you'll be more in her thoughts than if you did. She'll also be impressed by you having enough confidence to say no to her. You're a person of value, not a spineless puppet who reveals whatever she demands to know.

Second, why the hell are you talking so much about yourself anyway? You should be talking about her. Girls are highly egocentric and you should feed that ego by focusing the conversation on her. It's easy. Just listen (or pretend to) and ask follow up questions. She'll be impressed by what a great person you are to talk to even though she's doing most of the talking. Besides, it allows you to gain insight on her (such as, what gifts she likes) or you realize you should dump her if she reveals something psycho.

This is not to say you shouldn't reveal anything about yourself. People develop intimacy when sharing about themselves. But i'm sure you have enough common sense to know what you have to say. Like everyone else, you have a natural tendency to talk about yourself. Just remember to restrain that tendency when being too revealing. It's all about finding the right balance. If she complains "you never tell me anything", you know you're striking the right balance.


7. Waiting too long to ask her out

even if you see her often at school, at work or in church, you need to ask her out. Being together in-person outside your normal environment builds intimacy and creates shared experiences. You should ask within weeks of meeting her once there is solid footing to the friendship. Otherwise, you risk the friendship remaining just that...a friendship.

So why is it better asking earlier than later? Three reasons.

First, if you ask early, she would know this is normal part of your routine. What's wrong with wanting to spend alone with a friend? Big stinking deal. But if you wait months (or even years) before suddenly asking, she might feel surprised and awkward. Your invitation should sound like a casual suggestion, not an abrupt surprise. So make it a pratice early in the friendship. Make it casual, of course. Don't use the words "date" or "go out". Just suggest meeting over coffee or going over homework at the library. Let her get used to you asking so that, everytime you do, it's not that big of a deal.

Second, asking early establishes you as someone who has confidence and takes charge. Girls do not want passive wimps who cannot make decisions, cannot lead and afraid of risk. She would also assume that you also ask other girls out since you're so casual and uninhibited about it. A bit of jealousy and paranoia on her part is definitely good for you!

Third, asking early allows you to screen her out immediately. Rejection isn't that big of a deal when you don't really like her yet. If you've been her friend (and admirer) for the longest time, there would be so much more pressure to land that date and so much more disappointment if she declines. And how sucky it is to jeopardize a friendship you've taken so long to build. It's better to know early and not waste time on just one fish.


8. confessing your feelings

confessing your feelings is one of the stupidest things you can ever do. Think about it logically. What does it accomplish? If she doesn't like you, confessing won't suddenly make her attracted to you. If she does like you, two bad things can happen:

- first, as mentioned in tip #5, girls always desire a guy who keeps her guessing. When you confess, you remove all the mystery and she knows you're a sure thing. It's human nature not to value what they have or something easy to get. This is why a girl is most passionate when she questions his intentions. Do you think she stays up at night pondering how nice you are? Or do you think she stays up at night pondering whether you like her?

- second, when you confess, expect things to become awkward. The friendship no longer feels natural. Both parties begin to act weird, paranoid and play really stupid games. You know the feeling. Nothing like love tearing people apart.

So let's repeat. If she doesn't like you, confessions don't do squat. If she does like you, confessions may cause her to lose interest and make things awkward. Weigh the pros and cons and you'll realize it's a risk not worth taking.

Besides, if she already seems to like you, confessions are unnecessary! The friendship can progress naturally without the pressure, awkwardness and other costs and risks involved with a sudden confession.

Many guys feel a need to confess when something goes wrong. Perhaps she begins to lose interest or the friendship is going nowhere. As such, a confession is really an act of desperation. My friend, nothing worthwhile is acheived though desperation!! The likely reason she's slipping away is because he's been doing the bad things mentioned on this thread -- being too nice, too romantic, too available, etc. If that's the case, he should fix these things instead and not resort to taking the easy way out by confessing and screwing things up even more!


9. Failure to initiate touching

some guys refrain from touching because they're afraid of coming off as being too aggressive or perverted. Others believe they need to respect her personal space until they get permission to enter. These are the thoughts of "nice guys" -- thoughts that will land them squarely into the friendzone.

Once you've established a friendship with her, you must start finding excuses to initiate brief touching. Start with something innocent like brushing her on her arm when something funny is said. You're testing whether she welcomes it. If she doesn't seem to mind or (better yet!) touches you back, you should escalate little by little over time until you can just put your arms around her without awkwardness.

Three reasons why you must do this:

First, it establishes your confidence and masculinity. If she touches you first, that's great. But never wait for her to initiate and never ask for permission ("can i have a hug?" laugh.gif ). Remember, you're the one wearing the pants. Girls expect guys to get a bit physical with them...just like they expect you to open doors and pay for a date. If you don't touch, she may see you as asexual and passive -- characteristics opposite of a guy.

Second, realize that touching is highly important to girls. They use it to establish social bonding. If you can escalate touching so that you can just cuddle her for the longest time, it will convey a deep sense of closeness that words cannot accomplish. It is also a great way to signal that you and her aren't "just friends" because regular friends don't do this.

Third, touching is a fantastic way to screen out the retards. There will be girls who will flinch away when you touch them. If she does this, she's either uptight or doesn't like you -- both of which is a clear sign she's wasting your time.


10. Pursuing her when she's losing interest

this is a common scenario most guys have encountered:

You've been pursuing a girl for the longest time and, slowly but surely, she's been warming up to you. You're on cloud nine! But lately, she seems to lose interest and you're beginning to panic. You haven't done anything wrong. You're still the sweetheart she's supposed to love. Yet, she's slipping away without reason and it's driving you insane! So you figure it's time for you to win her back by doing whatever it takes. More gifts, more compliments, more letters, more attention, more everything!!!

Horrible move, buddy!! The reason she's losing interest is because you're making the mistakes mentioned on this thread. You're too nice, too available, too romantic, too <fill-in-the-blank>. You shouldn't be doing this in the first place, but it's too late. All your niceness is causing her to become overconfident and arrogant. You're too easy and she's in control. Mix these two elements together and you're screwed. If you continue to pursue, her oversized ego will inflate further until she loses every bit of affection and respect for you.

When you encounter this situation, you cannot pursue her. You must do the opposite and dump her! Pretend you've lost interest and treat her like you'd treat anyone else. Don't give special attention. Don't answer/return her calls. If she says "hi", you say "hi" and move on. Be seen with other girls. Don't seek her out. Don't do it, no matter how much the temptation. Be patient and keep your cool.

Once it's your turn to lose interest, it will be her turn to panic! Don't be surprised if she does psycho stuff to get your attention again. Girls love being admired. Once it slips away, she will fight to protect that euphoric feeling. Now that you've demonstrated you can live without her, her respect and appreciation for you will return.
"Before you achieve, you must believe".