Jeferious:
Op, I just want to believe that there are vital facts that you left out in your account. Otherwise, you're not a man, to say the least.

When I was around your age, I lost my father too. And I wasn't around too. But immediately I learnt of his death on the day he died, I acknowledged immediately that the mantle of leadership has passed to me. That not one vital decision would be made concerning the affairs of my family without my approval. And even though I wasn't around, I was able to persuade my uncles who were already at our home to wait for me to at least see my dad's body lying in state before they can take him to the mortuary. The convo happened through calls.They refused at first, but later agreed by the special Grace of God. And that was exactly where they started losing the battle against me and my family.

When I arrived the next day, I accompanied them to the mortuary, where I was smart enough to enter details as next of kin. I also secured the mortuary tally. They asked me to give them the tally since they lived closer to the city where the mortuary was situated. I politely refused. By now they have not started showing any evil intentions.

Not much later, strange things began to happen. They started holding meetings about the burials and making decisions without involving me. I knew, but kept silent. Afterall, na me hold tally. Na when me like na im that burial go hold.

Soon, I started having issues with them over a burial date they chose that I wasn't comfortable with. I wasn't even involved in the choice of this date. They sent emissaries that I argued with, all to no avail. With time, other stuffs started to take form. They started accusing my mom of having a hand in the death of my father, and so many other nasties. Time will fail me to mention many other events that followed, but after they have seen that I was too stubborn to yield to their nonsense, they finally called for negotiation. This was after i have involved the Police, Army, Umunna, village elders, the village chief, youths and so many other personnel. My father was finally buried seven months after he died in a befitting manner. The matter nearly sink the community sef . Wetin concern me. I would rather that community burn to the ground than not exercise my authority as the first son of my father.

See op, na who God don sign make im die na im go die. Go and face those diabolic uncles in the power and wisdom of God. Don't listen to cowards here. This people are testing you to see if you're submissive enough to be their footmat. Abeg no gree. This is almost two years since my father ceased to exist, and more than one year since he was buried. Everything he left behind, I control ALL. If there's anyone I don't control now, it's because I don't have enough knowledge about it. And about my uncles....all of them have ran away. If I tell you that I'm an only son without any brother and I was able to do this by the power of God, you may find it hard to believe.

I had to write this story of mine here to motivate you. God is bigger than juju. My only issue with your account is that you may not be legitimate son, or that your mom may not be regarded in strict legal terms as a wife to your father till his death. Where these doubts are taken care of by corresponding facts, then you should exercise authority as the man of the house. May God be with you

Sorry for your loss bro. First of all my mother was legally married...did traditional..white and even court marriage. I am the first son. The reason why i wasn't the one that put him in mortuary was because of lockdown. When i got to the shop after lockdown was eased i even ordered for it to be locked down before my Uncle's all started calling me and we started having problems over the phone. It was actually a man of God that calmed me down because that day i was ready to go to war. But now i dont think i can act quiet anymore, hence my post asking for advice.

Chiderad:
Brother,

My sincerest advise to you is this - Get a genuine Prophet of God to stand by you in the place of prayer. Your uncles already have a plan of fight on ground and so, you must tread carefully, be full of prayers and fasting but don't be confrontational.

As per your daddy's shop, be bold to take over what belongs to you. Seek counsel of wise ones in the village and report them to Umu nna.

thanks bro

Jesse25:

You are just too weak I swear

Slynation:

Bro... The next thing you need to do is too gather all important documents and keep safely, know your dad next of kin in his bank accounts... Most importantly know the kinda plans your uncles have for you and your siblings, from what your uncles are doing now, they'v got other plans, your siblings are looking up to you now, so apply wisdom and trade with caution... #Good luck

Thanks bro. If they had good intentions at least they would have told me the shop was running. Because initially i was told the shop was closed ...I even asked the sale girl there and she said it was opened few days after my Dad's death

TheArchangel:
Are you sure it is your fathers sweat?
What was your relationship with him? Or you also heard that he is gone and you want to make your own grabs cos what is happening to you is a very rare occurrence especially at 24. And Where have you been all this while?
Have you been in contact with them about the burial or you just jumped when you heard that his shop was opened?
And they needed to make sales in order to bury him, ain't that right? Or are you footing the burial.?
Except if you all are all wacked upstairs as there is no reason for them not to involve you.

lol. Please read up ... I've updated the thread

bizzibodi:
1.Do yur father has ppties in d village or city?
2.Was yur mother legally married to yur father?is she with yur father b4 he died?
3.How big is d shop,what goods or worth is inside?
4.Are u in good relationship with yur father b4 he died,when he was sick have u ever visited him.
5.Who took care of him when he was sick?we took him to hospital, who paid his bills.
I can advice u if I get yur answers.

1. Both
2. Yes and No
3. It's a warehouse and he bought new goods worth over 4m
4. Yes we were close. I wasn't able to visit but we kept contact on phone and the illness was very very brief
5. A friend who was with him at the time

TO CLARIFY


Thanks everyone for your advice. My Dad is not staying in Lagos...he's based abroad. When it comes to my Dad and brothers ..he has achieved more than any of them. And the house is his. I said when i got to the village.. my uncle i called said the keys was waybilled to them in Lagos... So i asked myself why wasn't it waybilled to me in aba because that's where i am schooling and was waybilled all the way to Lagos (which i think it's a lie) ... I wasn't the one that put my Dad in the mortuary because i wasn't around then because of the lockdown. It was the day I was gonna come back that's the day he died but we were talking on phone.. was going to hire a taxi so one of his friends in the village was the one that put him in mortuary. My Dad is someone who liked staying in the village anytime he got back from Europe. He is very close to people around and have also helped many of them. Starting out i wasn't very close with him because of some family ish which i wouldn't want to say but for the past 5-7 yrs we've been very close... Also his shop is his alone and he bought goods worth over 4m before his demise. Why say the key is in the house? If not because they don't want to enter the house before them and maybe take some documents?

Bola146:
Sorry for your loss, please don't let them kill you, let them do whatever they want to do, just be in one accord with your siblings, don't wait for any property to be shared, go far to where you can hustle

thanks but still i can't let someone else take my father's sweat... Will surely follow them with wisdom and probably involve village elders if need arises even the youths have told me that they are behind me if it turns out they are planning something evil

Ulunne777:


Pls be careful in whatsoever.

thanks i will

merahki:
So, like the poster should bend over, just like that?
Not even to ask them why they would take the key when they know he is around? Not even to ask why the shop was opened without telling him? And more importantly, why they would set a date for his father’s burial without informing him? It doesn’t read right at all, and anybody who gets to know about it is surely going to support you!

Dear OP, how old are you? Where is your mom? You should at least ask them why did all those(even is it’s as a text message or email, even letter), to know the responses you are going to get, for tomorrow’s sake.
You obviously shouldn’t go breaking heads but you deserve to know these answers. And if, for any reason you don’t, at least you would have asked, and kept records of the asking, with or without the replies.
If you are less than 18, maybe your uncle is your legal guardian and in that case, this might explain his high handed actions. Is he? But if you are an adult (but maybe without means)? Just ask, they would respect you for that even if they don’t show it. More importantly, your father would respect you for becoming a man who can hold his own.

I've asked them and he said he didn't need my permission to open the shop and asked what can i contribute for the burial...hence i am a final year student and above 24yrs. My mum is not around.. normally i would have acted but i just want to follow them with wisdom

Thanks everyone for your advice

Carchoice:
The mistake you’ll ever make in life is fighting uncles/aunties over your late fathers property. It’s not a lost battle but it’s a waste of time and resources to me.


Leave them to do their thing. It doesn’t mean you are a weakling or scared but don’t fight over property’s with them. Just don’t do it.

Surprise them on the date of the burial by showing up to pay your last respect or better still you can shun it. Your father is dead already.

Don’t fight over property o!!! If they want to take it by force. Leave it for them and work for your own. You can always do more with the life ahead of you.

thanks

Jullima:
Sorry for your loss.

Sad, another story on a greedy family trying to reap where they did not sow. Unfortunately these kind of family battles are hard to fight on your own, you have to recruit another uncle or uncles to help you.

hmmm i have 4 uncle's and they have one heart o... whatever the elder brother does is what they will do

donbachi:
Go and transfer ur late father's corpse to another mortuary or u go back to that very mortuary u deposited his body,and warn them not to release his corpse to anybody,unless u come in person.as for the shop,buy another key and lock it.while u plan for his burial..do not give room to anger and exchange of words.

I don't think this will be possible...Asin moving his corpse

thorpido:
Your uncle's obviously are not straight forward.Whatever you do,just be careful with them.

yeah I've not because they don't ask me before making any decision

I think they have bad intensions but not sure yet.


TO CLARIFY


Thanks everyone for your advice. My Dad is not staying in Lagos...he's based abroad. When it comes to my Dad and brothers ..he has achieved more than any of them. And the house is his. I said when i got to the village.. my uncle i called said the keys was waybilled to them in Lagos... So i asked myself why wasn't it waybilled to me in aba because that's where i am schooling and was waybilled all the way to Lagos (which i think it's a lie) ... I wasn't the one that put my Dad in the mortuary because i wasn't around then because of the lockdown. It was the day I was gonna come back that's the day he died but we were talking on phone.. was going to hire a taxi so one of his friends in the village was the one that put him in mortuary. My Dad is someone who liked staying in the village anytime he got back from Europe. He is very close to people around and have also helped many of them. Starting out i wasn't very close with him because of some family ish which i wouldn't want to say but for the past 5-7 yrs we've been very close... Also his shop is his alone and he bought goods worth over 4m before his demise. Why say the key is in the house? If not because they don't want to enter the house before them and maybe take some documents?

Please I need advice. I lost my Dad over 2 months now and he hasn't been buried due to the pandemic. My Uncle's are all in Lagos and can't come back.

So after the lockdown was over we decided to go to the village.. On getting I discovered that his shop was open and all the money going into the first Uncle (first son) account.. So I called my uncle because he told me it was locked and he was saying did he need my permission before to open the shop and i decided to just control myself because i like peace and i decided to go to the house in the village...

On getting there I called my uncle and he told me the keys are with them in Lagos ... That it was waybilled and i said ok and went back with my brother and sister.

Fast forward today... I got a call from someone in the village that my Dad's burial death has been fixed and i was wowed because as the first son i haven't been told yet by my uncle's. So right now i am about acting but i need advice.