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ayoku777(m):

God can and should choose a spouse for His children; and we also should deliberately ask Him for such leading and signs.

When Abraham sent his servant to go get a wife for Isaac, the servant prayed to God this way in Gen 24v14;

"And let it come to pass that the damsel to whom I shall say, Let down thy pitcher, I pray thee, that I may drink; and shall say, Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also: let the same be SHE THAT THOU (GOD) HAST APPOINTED FOR THY SERVANT"

These scripture shows that there is a HE or a SHE that God has appointed for His children -a destiny partner to help with their God-given assignment. He didn't say "let her be the type of woman you've appoined"; he said "let her be SHE that you have appointed".


They say you don't decide your destiny, you discover it -God decides it. I also believe you don't decide your destiny partner, you discover him or her.

As a christian you should ask God to show you your destiny partner, the one He himself has appointed. And He will answer; He doesn't waste time with such requests, unless you're still young and immature (either physically or spiritually) and He feels there are other things you should be worried about for now. Or unless you are not watchful or sensitive to His witness.

God will answer, He will order your steps or nudge your heart with His witness, or give you a sign or speak to you. This leadings get more specific and unambiguous as you mature.

The reason you need such leading (beyond just the biblical criteria for a partner) is because not every Godly, God-fearing, spirit-filled and led man or woman is for you.

Abraham's servant wasn't just looking for a chaste, God-fearing, hardworking woman; he would have been lost for choice if he was merely looking for that. He was looking for the one God appointed for Isaac -Isaac's destiny partner.Is it possible to marry someone God did not appoint for you? Well, I believe the reason Abraham's servant prayed that specific prayer was because that mistake is possible.You can marry such a person If you choose based on lustful, carnal, mundane and fleeting human criterias.
Can you make a marriage work even after such a mistake? I believe that with love, patience, forgiveness, tolerance, commitment and God's grace, any marriage can weather any storm, even if you didn't specifically ask God for help in choosing. We've seen unbelievers with model unions that even believers can learn from. But I also believe that there are some storms that arise specifically because of marrying the wrong person not appointed by God for you.
Even so God is awesome and can make all things work together for good, no matter the mistake that led to that issue. If we ask for His help.But about asking Him to choose for you, I've studied Isaac. It is worthy of note that out of the founding fathers (Abraham, Isaac and Jacob) and the patriachs; only Isaac was not plagued with the polygamy palavar, maid and househelp issue and concubine crisis that was the norm with his fathers and descendants. Isaac ended up marrying just one wife (Rebakah) and didn't sleep with anymaid or have any concubine. Unlike Abraham, Jacob, Judah, David, Solomon etc.

I'm not saying if you marry your destiny partner you are guaranteed not to stray, but I believe if you marry your God-appointed destiny partner, it will save you a lot of drama and might even help with (not guarantee) not straying. Because you guys will be compatible in ways and depths you never could have imagined much less foreseen -ways only God could have been responsible for

Yossykit:
mr. Ajibam, let me clarrify some things here. D issue of dreams and vision in marriage is not biblical. Its jst a doctrine in the pentecostal churches. We av seen cases of wht felvet said, we av seen cases of real men of God marrying witches tru dis idea of vision and dreams, search ur bible very well, God never led anybody into marriage in the bible tru dese, and i knw God wil neva change. For u to undastand beta that its a doctrine in our churches, in churches like deeper life, mfm, i tink rccg also does it, if the intendin couples reali saw themselves (will) but during medical check up, their genotypes contradict. The church wil never do dat wedding. My ques is dat why did technology takes over frm the so called wil of God, wht does God has to do with issue of genotype? So i want to categorically tel u dat its church doctrine not biblical at all. Dont be decieved and brainwashed by church doctrine. Use ur bible, search it daily. Baba Adeboye never saw any wil and he is happily married 4 gud 47yrs now, Same applicable to Oyedepo and many apostles and xters in d bible. Marry a xtian and marry 4 love. Dat is my take o.

Felvet:
I'm having this problem right now Bro, I don't love this guy, I don't like where he came from, but by revelations I was told he is the will of God for me. I have been praying for God to give me genuine love if he is the right person, because I really want to do the will of God in marriage, yet I feel nothing for him. Someone told me there is a hindrance and all that. Right now I am more than confused.

apidum:
God placed the power of choice on man if God did not choose for Abramham,isaac,jacob,moses,peter,david how will God then choose for you

ptase:
who exactly are you and from what standpoint do you make these assertations?

Felvet:
what if I don't love the man, even when he has been confirmed as the will of God for me? Should I go ahead and accept him without love? Pls I need answers.

Yossykit:
tnk u my bro. Infact, the basis is not even in d bible. God only commanded the children of israel nt to marry from certain tribes, paul also advocated that xtians should not marry unbelievers. Love and xtianity shud be the basis.

Dapo777:
Yes Jesus loves me enough to prepare hell for me If I don't love him back.
Great love I must say!

shivaclub:
you will soon meet with astra poison called voltabolt. That is your end.

omoiseselagba:
Because speaking in tongues is the begininig of madness

Dapo777:
Peacemakers my ass

paulGrundy:
This thread reflects accurately my thoughts on the issue. God bless you Ajibam

itstpia1:
someone is playing with fire by choice, compulsion or error.

all entreaties are ineffective.

yet you still have a burden for the person and do not want to leave them.

What would you consider a more effective way of preaching- evangelize from a safe distance so you dont get caught up in fire, or join the person and you both play with the fire while you preach?

remember the topic is about the unclad culture on the internet which is the lifestyle of actual people.

itstpia1:
basically, what i'm asking here is how do we minister to the n.aked?


most of who have already heard the gospel at some point.

is it expedient, advisable or possible for a bible believing Christian to enter their enclave in the n.ude (ie as a n.ude) in order to preach to them?

With the full understanding the nudie bible believer will be photographed, marked and also ostracised by all who know them? It represents a totally different lifestyle, value system, and you are not even sure whether or not you will come out alive.


The other option is for the preaching to come from within, ie from among the nudies themselves.

itstpia1:
how to minister to those who are already playing with fire?


talk from the sidelines or join them then preach?






perhaps.

there were no photographers there though.

musKeeto:
#masturbationCrew
#teamRightHand

plaetton:
My simple question to Ajibam is whether he was virgin before he got married?
If unmarried, whether he is a virgin.

Only one who is a virgin, or who was a virgin until marriage, is duly qualified to preach to others on the virtues of intimate chastity, ..otherwise, anyone who preaches what he or she does not, or could not practice, is a fraud.
It's really that simple.

winner01:
I urge you to try to read up the post, this has been explained already, as a believer, you need to know that you can exist in three different forms, and these forms or nature are embodied inside of you...they include the spirit, soul and body...please try to read up the post, thanks.

sonOfLucifer:
Embrace your sexuality. Sex is never evil. Coming before marriage is no different from coming after marriage. Masturbation is not the only way. Give that right hand a rest.
Chrestards, y'all motherfuxkers need to stop masturbating so much.

winner01:
how is it confusing sir?