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sonOfLucifer:
Prepare for something special.

Okay

This is for those thinking that sex before marriage in inevitable..


A young woman recently wrote to me through my website. She's 18 and a university student and wanted to know how to stay pure. She said that people give advice to guys, but they're not the only ones who struggle with sexual desires. I'm glad she pointed that out. I agree! This is what I wrote to her. Maybe it will help you, too:


Dear Casey,

*Thank you so much for your note. I love that you're asking this question. The first thing that popped into my head was ... stay away from boys. Don't go on any single dates. Ask friends to keep you accountable! All those things are good things, but there'sa deeper issue and that's the desires of our hearts.

You're so right, girls do have sexual desire. We want to be held and kissed and be intimate. It's not just the guys who are thinkingabout those things. Girls also want to be loved, appreciated, and made to feel they're attractive. We want to see a sparkle in a guy's eye when he looks at us.

The truth is... that never stops. Ideally when we get married all our desire is to be toward our husbands, but I've even struggled with wanting to feel attractive to other men too ... we all want to be adored!

The thing is, what we do with our bodies starts with our minds and hearts. We think it. Then we dwell on it. Then we want to act it out. When I struggle with something, it's because my heart isn't where it should be. My first priority is to love Jesus with everything in me—to ask Him to satisfy me. To realize that I may be "missing out," but in the end I'll get the best. Those rules are good boundaries, but too many times we set them and then we like to dance on the line. We like to stick our toes across and see how far we can get.

Instead, it's better to ask Jesus to show us His way. After Bible reading, prayer and counseling with adults you respect (and who live righteous lives) your decisions will be just that... your decisions and boundaries.

Pray and ask God to change you from the inside out. Pray Psalm 139:23-24 and ask God to search your heart. If you find your mind wandering where it shouldn't be, pray 1 Corinthians 2:14-16. Ask for God to give you the mind of Christ.

Also, remember the God who created the universe can strengthen you (Is. 40:28-31). He can help you through this! Finally, pray for your future husband.

Pray for his purity, his strength, and his desires to be saved for you. I guarantee that if you're praying for him to be strong it will encourage you to do the same."The One."

Praying for you,

Tricia.

http://www.charismamag.com/life/women/21470-how-do-i-stay-sexually-pure?utm_medium=MostPopularArticles_UnderArticle

The guy sitting across from me is a professing and practicing Christian. He dropsby my office unannounced today to talk to me about his new online-dating life. Specifically, he wants to talk about the overwillingness of Christian women he has encountered on several of his dates who want to jump right from a very public conversation and vanilla latte at Starbucks to very private whispers and physical exchanges between the sheets back at his place.

Usually this gender scenario is reversed, but the sex, love and dating landscape continues to move in a progressively liberal direction among Christians without any solid indicators that it will change anytime soon. Both genders today, across all ages and Christian demographics, are prone to compartmentalize their faith away from their sexual life.

While Christian singles report that praying and church attendance are highly desirable qualities in the dating matrix, a troubling and confusing dichotomy arises when the issue of sex before marriage presents itself. Specifically, single Christians enter a sexual fog. That fog clouds and hides the reality thatan identity rooted in Christ should manifest itself in intelligent and hope-filled sexual restraint based on God's promises and instead replaces it with fear and pride-filled choices based on some other promise they believe more.


A Church Full of Sexual Atheists?

In a recent study conducted by ChristianMingle.com, Christian singles between the ages of 18 to 59 were asked,"Would you have sex before marriage?" The response? Sixty-three percent of the single Christian respondents indicated yes.


In my 30 years of youth and adult ministry experience, this is as unfiltered, direct and honest as a question and answer can be.


It is equally honest to say that nearly nine out of 10 self-proclaimed single Christians are, inpractice, sexual atheists. In other words, God has nothing to say to them on that subject of any consequence or, at least, anything meaningful enough to dissuade them from following their own course of conduct. It is the ultimate oxymoron. A person who at once believes in a wise, sovereign and loving God who created them and all things, can also believe simultaneously He should not, cannot or will not inform their thinking or living sexually. It reminds me of those famous red letters in Luke's Gospel where Jesus says, "Why do you call me 'Lord, Lord' and do not do what I say?" (Luke 6:46, NIV). There is a disconnect between identity and activity.


If you let the paint mentally dry on the statistic above and the perception about God it reflects for a moment, perhaps my contention of sexual atheism won't seem so far-fetched. No amount of hand-wringing at the many-headed hydra of the entertainment world or raucous deploring ofimmoral political philosophies invading our nation can explain this one.


No, our life in God and for our God reflects our real view of God. These are our adult who populate our weekend services, attend our Bible studies, download our podcast messages, pray often and who have Jesus Culture, TobyMac and Maroon 5 in their playlists. Having tracked this trend among youth for decades, it is no surprise to me that the broad spectrum of single adults—yesterday's youth—both feel and act this way. We should really make an effort to not be too shocked or surprised.


Jesus Himself said it would trend this way. The apostle Paul forewarned the very single,very godly Timothy that there would be times in his ministry when clear and sound doctrine in Scripture would be defeated by broken culture teaming up with the ever-present and self-serving nature within every Christian. He accurately forecasted a self-styled Christianity that reflected culture over the character of Christ in personal moral spaces and practice.


And nothing, from any frame of reference, is more personal and more moral than our choices regarding sexual expression. It's where the spiritual rubber really hits the road. But interestingly, Paul's counsel to Timothy for that time when he saw these trends manifesting on a grand scale was this:"Be serious about everything, endure hardship, do the work of an evangelist, fulfillyour ministry" (2 Tim. 4:5, HCSB). Solid, timely and reliable advice like this was needed then and is really needed now.


As God's men and women, as fathers and mothers, as pastors and lay ministers, and as loving brothers and sisters, we too must keep our heads clear. We must do our work in the midst of this attack on the body of Christ and fulfill our ministries in the midst of this spiritual battle. We must faithfully and directly speak into the relevant spiritual and practical themes that are at the root of the issue instead of wasting our time bemoaning the symptoms these statistics represent. We must graciously but prophetically call out the shortsightedness of Christians who are borrowing trouble sexually and sinning against God and others in the process through our messaging and ministries.

We must confront ourselves and our brothers and sisters with the veracity, authority and loving transparency of Scripture, which reflects God's love and wisdom in life-saving and marriage-saving ways. That is, we must point out the truth that if I am undisciplined sexually before marriage and willing to compromise my convictions before marriage, a wedding ring will not make me disciplined after marriage. But most importantly and practically, we must avail ourselves of the ministries, tools and resources speaking into this clearly massive hole of spiritual life and practice among our single brothers and sisters.


The Love, Sex and Dating Forecast

The love, sex and dating forecast among adult single believers for the foreseeable future is this: cloudy with a chance of fear and pride.


Instead of believing that God knows better, Christian adults will believe they know how to meet their needs better or, on the more arrogant end, that they know better when it comes to sex and dating, period.

To say that professing or self-described Christians are becoming more liberal means that their reference point for assessing and practicing sexuality is more cultural and personal rather than biblical or spiritual. It means that they possess a low view of God and Scripture and a high view of self and culture as the key drivers of their moral and sexual behavior.

Practical sexual atheism among Christians says God can speak into some things but not sex. This ultimate expression of self-deception and loss of mind goes all the way back to the garden, when a certain character asked Adam and Eve: "Did God really say that?"


They took the bait and, apparently, so are the majority of single Christians in the garden of love, sex and dating. They are listening to the voice that says, "Eat and have your eyes opened." Like the first couple, God's single men and women are letting fear win over faith and curiosity win over Christ with inevitable and untold prices to pay.


But it is not a time to act high and mighty. It is time to act graciously but truthfully with our single brothers and sisters. For they, along with us, will have that moment in front of the living Christ, and we want that moment to be the best it can possibly be.

To realize such an epic and eternal moment, we not only have to pray for them, but we also have to equip them practically with the best possible teachings and tools that serve to restore a vision of God that transforms them in their context.Indeed, we have to engage the culture, not run.

http://www.charismamag.com/life/relationships/20385-the-deadly-deception-of-sexual-atheism-in-the-church

sonOfLucifer:
Who are you?

Ajibam

sonOfLucifer:
Silly people.

We've got a lot to do sis.
One of them is this, Share it with others
https://www.nairaland.com/1938779/declares-17-19-october-national-repentance

It's another morning, guess what?
Am alive!
Thank you Jesus

itstpia1:
warnings are in order, but most folks who are in the system wouldnt consider the warnings as applying to them. Or they just ignore them outrightly.

however, i suppose there's only so much one can do.

at the same time, eleran ara na ni everybody, nobody possesses jet propelled wings, they still are human regardless.


There was a lady who went to preach to some naked tribes back in the olden days, she had to take off all her clothes before they allowed her to talk to them.

very extreme, but the gospel MUST be preached to all nations (including naked ones), and then the end will come.

That's true, ignorance is a major setback..
Yes, we are all flesh, but We can subdue flesh if we don't play with fire.
That's lovely of her, it shouldn't be a big deal since others are unclad too

Nice writeup..

itstpia1:
hmm.

lets assume most youths are already in the net.

How would you pull them out?

just theorizing here.

Seriously, I don't think that's possible..
The best we can do is to do awareness about the danger, organise seminar both online and offline.. I think this will open their veiled eye!

itstpia1:
how is he winning?

or you mean he has won already.





no, i dont.

Yea, he is winning. Youths don't read their bikes again but always online.. Only in this 21st century will you see someone that can spend 10 hours gaming, browsing without sleeping,, immediately they lay hands, n the bible, give them 10 minutes, they are gone..
Satan also use this distractions to pull some youths into pornography, which is becoming a norm now, it's only a matter of time.

ifeness:
Who created God?

Who created you?

Unchurched?
Everybody is expose to this great development from Satan, and unfortunately he is winning!
Do you have a plan?

ucyoma:
Mr Keshi pride goes before a fall
Swallow your ego n pride n call d young man back. He's good
This useless pride n ego of yours could be d reason u have been failing lately


To you Uche, don't wait until u are begged before u serve your fatherland

You were there right?

guess am safe,mine is LS-18

Smooyis:
My broda you can never trust anybody! Many of these great world leaders are from the pit of hell.

Okay bro.

Macelliot:
No! Just advicing...

Okay.

Macelliot:
Hello!
After viewing all your comments on ur profile, I found out that you only oppose the muslims. Pls, why don't u use that opportunity to fight off all these atheists, pagans and satanists here on nairaland?

Are you recruiting team?

Macelliot:
I feel disgusted by the way the religion section looks like...
The religion section is getting worse day by day....


As Christians, there is power in unity?
Let's unite together and subdue this freaking atheists, pagans and satanists.

What's ur view of this?
Tags: HumbledbYGrace, Mintayo, emmyskies, malvisguy212, francistony, ukutsgp, alexlo, unibenstudent, prophetudeme, SalC, truthman2012, Goshen360, Rich4god and others........

Subdue?
Like extinguishing them?

The topic is confusing or are you the one confused?

This thread should be in literature section or better still you can create a diary and post it there,, all I am seeing is just stories!

So, Obama coordinated the attack?

Romans 12:2
This will help you to know what to do and it will let you realize that those that seems like they are condemning you are actually helping you..
Shalom sis

Xtarxhyne:
Allah Is d Arabic form of God...
Can u pls quote d verse of d Quran where d 72 virgin r stated?

Quran 56:36 mentions that Muslims will receive many virgins in Heaven but it does not specify their number. The number of 72 virgins is specified in hadith.

"Each time we sleep with a Houri we find her virgin. Besides, the penis of the Elected never softens. The erection is eternal; the sensation that you feel each time you make love is utterly delicious and out of this world and were you to experience it in this world you would faint. Each chosen one [i.e. Muslim] will marry SEVENTY [sic] HOURIS, besides the women he married on earth, AND all will have appetizing vaginas."(Al-Itqan fi Ulum al-Qur'an, p. 351)

Various Islamic sources talk about the physical attributes of the virgins.

Quran 78:33 mentions they will be voluptous. According TO another Islamic source (Al-Itqan fi Ulum al-Qur'an, p. 351),
the virgins will have appetizing vaginas.Muhammad was heard say: "The smallest reward for the people of Heaven is an abode where there are eighty thousand servants and SEVENTY TWO WIVES , over which stands a dome decorated with pearls, aquamarine andruby, as wide as the distance from [Damascus] to San'a.—Al-Tirmidhi, The Features of Heaven as described by the Messenger of Allah

Read more here and know your fate
https://m.facebook.com/notes/roy-ore/islam-paradise-72-virgins-with-appetizing-vaginas-for-every-man-the-erection-is-/669385983088870?_e_pi_=7%2CPAGE_ID10%2C2807630642

I don't see anything wrong with what happened.
God is taking the guy to a high place than the talent show he went for...

Hope you've seen experienced pastors?
Smh

Thank you for the grace given unto me, for your protection on my life since the last time I posted on this thread which should be last year! I say thank you lord..

Alexis86:
i understand the scripture now.
Thanks!
Of a truth, Jesus wasn't just a mere prophet. He is king even at grave. He restored mankind back to eternal life by overcoming death.
I'm happy to know that truth, i once shared it to my late grandpa before he died.
When he finally understood it he was smiling with hope. He was 105 before he died.
Thanks!

Glory to God, your grandpa found the cross before he left the world..
Now, you must work out your faith too perfectly so as to see him again, you are an evangelist!