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Romance / Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Plan To Continue by ajokealako(f): 11:25am On May 02, 2013 |
U can only cheat on someone whose mind and soul is still in a relationship, but since the husband doesn't even care if u know he's cheating or not I doubt he'll give a hoot about ur escapades. That might even give him reasons to pack his bag and leave or pack ur loads outsides. Sometimes we do something's and we regret our actions later.Lots of of women r going thru what u r going thru and some ve resolved to prayers, some divorced and some ur type of life. I tried that once and I was so bitter with myself, I wanted to get back at my husband but after my first experience I was so miserable and I knew then and there I couldn't do it. No matter what my husband does I know I wouldn't be able to do it. I couldn't even bring myself to pray with my children or hug them and kiss them cos I felt so filthy. Funny enough we had a terrible incident not too long ago and it's made him submit himself to the will of God. He's actually making progress and doesn't wanna go anywhere in d evening or weekends especially with some "friends" except am with him. Everyday he's renewing his mind with word of God. He's always asking me to help and that he never wants to fail again. Am only telling the writer this and every other encouraging her to continue that there is nothing on this earth without a solution and that God can actually do all things. I remain prayerful and that which the Lord has started in my marriage will surely last. MEN ARE ACTUALLY MOVED BY WHAT THEY SEE. with half clad women every where it's only the grace of God that sustains. 3 Likes |
Romance / Re: Way Forward For A Me In A Marriage Of Lies by ajokealako(f): 7:30pm On Oct 19, 2012 |
vivian chinaza:Thank you. |
Romance / Re: Way Forward For A Me In A Marriage Of Lies by ajokealako(f): 6:50pm On Oct 19, 2012 |
sunnshyn: Mrs Ajokealako,Thank you. I guess I might eventually talk to someone who can talk with him. |
Romance / Re: Way Forward For A Me In A Marriage Of Lies by ajokealako(f): 6:45pm On Oct 19, 2012 |
Mynd_44:I am not making excuses for him, but to me marriage is much more than what u think. And let me make something clear. And I know it will surely kill him if by any means the children finds out that type of thing. They don't even know we argue. I make enough money than most Nigerian men. The only reason I spoke on dis forum was because I know nobody knows me. why would u advice me to get divorce. I have 3 little children the last being 2+ What do I tell them. He's never raised his hands on me for once. Will you be willing to accept someone like me with 3 children and raise them like ur own. Maybe you've never really been married or u just haven't married someone u really love to know how difficult it is to leave the person for ever. I married for love and I never in million years think dis would happen. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Way Forward For A Me In A Marriage Of Lies by ajokealako(f): 6:09pm On Oct 19, 2012 |
vivian chinaza:We've never lived apart except maybe occasional traveling |
Romance / Re: Way Forward For A Me In A Marriage Of Lies by ajokealako(f): 6:06pm On Oct 19, 2012 |
Mynd_44: And I think your idea of chatting with another guy is just silly. You should just get out of the marriage cos this will eventually end the marriage. So now you are living like two strangers and you both are cheating and this is what you like?All ye men are just hypocrites. All ur advice boils down to divorce and am 100percent u would do worse than him if u find same fortune the same age he is. |
Romance / Re: Way Forward For A Me In A Marriage Of Lies by ajokealako(f): 5:53pm On Oct 19, 2012 |
[quote author=vivian chinaza]Madam, this is a delicate issue, honestly I'm scared to say a word cos this is marriage we are talking about here. So I'm gonna ask, pls answer me.....is divorce an option for you? Do you have a job? [/quote No divorce is not an option for me and yes I do have a very lucrative job. I tried sometimes last year not to pick his calls for just 4 days while I was away with the kids and he was yet to join us.And my children wanted to kill me asking after him. Especially my daughter who's is 7 and kept saying daddy always calls even when we are not together. How come he hasn't called. I didn't have an option but to pick his call. |
Romance / Re: Way Forward For A Me In A Marriage Of Lies by ajokealako(f): 5:06pm On Oct 19, 2012 |
MRbrownJAY: i am trying to understand what exactly you are saying, but cant finger it....... ONE thing that i've understood very clearly is that your husband is a serial cheater, and you've decided to FORGIVE HIM. oh well, we all know how you "desperate to be married" women think and i hope you feel just the same the day he gets one of these women pregnant (or better yet catch a deadly disease, infect you and make your children possible orphans). Mr brown, point of correction I wasn't a desperate to be married type. We dated for 4 yrs before we eventually got married. I agreed to marry him cos he never gave me any reason to doubt him. We were inseparable and always together. I didn't ask for ur type of advice. Am 34 and to some extent I know good from bad. I just wanted to unburden my heart. I don't think u r any different from him, with d way u judged |
Romance / Way Forward For A Me In A Marriage Of Lies by ajokealako(f): 1:03pm On Oct 19, 2012 |
Am a wife and a mother of 3 very adorable children. I met and married my husband while we were both trying to become somebody, he works with one of this multinational coys now. I thought I had a wonderful marriage until 3yrs ago when my husband got a blackberry. For 6 yrs I never had any reason to suspect my husband of infidelity. And no reason whatsoever to go through his phone. I got to found out my husband was cheating on me when he stepped out of the car one day to talk with some people and I was in the car waiting for him. The phone kept buzzing, I picked the phone to try and answer the call but realized it was the pinging thing. I got curious when i saw the face of a girl beside the message, and immediately another face appeared and it was another girl. Apparently he was chatting with some people before I went to pick him up. Curiosity got the better part of me and I battled with the phone till I was able to read all the messages. By the time I finished, sweat was all over me and I was shaking and I realized not only did I not know my husband I didn't even know what he was capable of doing. From the messages I got to know he had slept with a married friend of ours. And they were even planning to meet again. I couldn't even talk to anybody cos even in my family he is a saint. I didn't say a word to him for 5days. I cried my heart out. He begged, cried, called like 100 times a day from office, but I was too sad to even open my mouth. My mom thot it was pregnancy that made me sick. I decided to forgive him after a while cos my house was like a graveyard no laughter nothing even my landlady noticed because I always see him to the car before I go back in and get ready. Never knew that was the genesis of many more tears and lies. I have prayed and fasted so much that sometimes i get discouraged. kept malice, got angry, the only thing have never done is spoke about it. Even in church they see us as one of the most adorable couples. He is a good father to the children. I get whatever I want especially when am angry. He's never abused or maltreat me in anyway. I drive the best of cars and we've never spent summer in Nigeria. He tries deleting messages and calls before getting home and even stores some names as guys name. But I always find out somehow. I've resolved to keep chatting and flirting with an old buddy of mine I met recently at the airport. And I realized for the past 2 months I've not checked my husband's phone or pick a quarell with him. By the time he returns from work am filled with erotic nonsense and even imagine the guy making love to me. Not sure if I want to go to the next level but for now since we live in different states am okay with that. Before u judge and blame and crucify me I think I like the new found peace in my home. Why can't my husband understand that not all Nigerian women are comfortable with infidelity. I hear lots of pple say if the man is taking care of you then u should be grateful. I know he's happy have not gotten sad over any issue. Let's keep it that way. |
Family / Re: My Wife Is Pushing Me To Do Things I Don't Like Please Advice Your Friend by ajokealako(f): 2:00pm On Oct 15, 2012 |
There is really nothing wrong with taking care of someones mother inlaw. I think it's just a proper thing for couples to know how much they want to give thier parents if not monthly may be every 2 months. The bible tells us to take care of our parents. I believe even when they ve u should still show gratitude by giving them something , it tells dem ur not an ingrate but a daugther or son who ve dem in mind. No matter what pple say I strongly believe u still make out something for her every month end no matter how small. 20 or 30£ won't kill u. Her survival might depend on dat money u know. God loves a cheerful giver. |
Crime / Re: Man Kidnaps Brother For N4M Ransom by ajokealako(f): 8:42pm On Jun 26, 2012 |
ote author=Lady Amaka]He doesn't have money to help him but has 1.8million to pay cash? Some relatives nawaoo but the younger brother went to the extreme.[/quote]. U re just an idiot. Couldn't he ve waited for when d brother will be ready to help him out. I don't blame u, apparently u've never worked for money in yah damn life. |
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