Good day doctor,
Please I have a challenging situation and I am rather confused. I have been diagnosed with hypogonadotropic hypogonadism (hope I got it right). I am 35 yrs old. I went through successful ovulation induction in my late 20s and had twin babies who are doing fine. Now I want to try again. I have been to two specialists and they both insisted that because of my age ivf is the only option.
I am not really keen on ivf. Is it really true that at 35 years old I can't get pregnant through ovulation induction and natural conception?

pak: Your name says it all -

ALAKORI

any translators ?

as for the name...it is just a name I picked for the purpose of making this thread. I know nairalanders very well... the next time I have a difference in opinion with someone the next thing I go hear na.... no be so your SIL slap you the other time....

okay o everyone thanks a lot for the advice. I agree with most of you who said I allowed the disrespect in the first place. I can only say I was naive and imagined that if I treat in laws like family, they would reciprocate. Nothing beats experience..

Anyway I will do as most of you suggested. I cannot enforce the name calling thing anyway... I just felt it would be a gauge as to whether my SIL was ready for peace or not. I will forget about it and just make sure I keep my self respect.

Once again thanks all....

Ujujoan:

I agree with Ify.
He not calling you 'Aunty' is NOT the problem here.
You let her walk all over you in the first place and something tells me you are waaaaay too soft!
Why would you hold your hubby back from beating her in the first place
If the mum is inciting her then she too need to be put in her place.
Your SIL needed to be taught a lesson and you keep showing her that she can get away with anything.
Abeg stop being a push over jor . . .

I agree that I let them walk all over me. I was trying to be a 'good wife' and it did not pay me. That is why I felt if I cave in now on the 'aunty' issue now I would just be passing across the message that I am still a wimpy doormat.

The 'aunty' thing is just symbolic for me....like I said she had been calling me by name before all this and It never mattered to me.

So now how do I begin to reassert myself without coming across as a trouble maker?

[quote author=cotton101]IBO people and their love of this "sister" "aunty" nonsense - what does not calling you by you first name do for you? na wah o

(i'm ibo by the way)[/quote

Initially when I got married she was calling me by my first name and I had no issues with it. But I feel it was because I allowed that, that's why she could slap me.
If we are going to have any form of relationship I need her to know that things have changed and she would have to respect me. Her willingness to humble herself and call me aunty or at least Mama (my child's name) would show this.

ifyalways: You are NOT being reasonable at all.
First,the golds must be returned.it doesn't matter if you forgot it at Sango or it went missing from under your pants,it should and must be returned to you.

Where is your Husband? . What has he said or done to his sister:
stealing or taking your jewellry.
Slapping you.

So, you ignored your stolen stuff,endured 2 hot slaps from one mgbeke and busy bothering your head with " should they call me aunty,big momma or sister" ?
No wonder she had the guts to slap you.

Again,where is the husband?

I got the gold back from her. When she slapped me and my husband got there he wanted to beat her up but I begged him not to. I did this because tempers were raised, it was the mother that egged her on and I felt if he started to beat her it would degenerate into a fight between him and his Mom and I did not want that.

That being said, I have also informed my husband that I would not welcome her into my home anymore and we seem to have agreed on that.

The problem is that we are due to go to his place soon. The girl makes it a point of duty to greet me, emphasizing my first name. When I do not answer she and her Mum begin to quarell with me. I really feel the problem is with my mother-in-law who eggs are on, as per, if the mom is not around and she greets me with my first name and I ignore her, she go just waka pass. But if the Mom is around she will raise her voice shouting 'is it not you I am greeting'. From there the Mum will join in and shouting match

Please nairalanders I need your advice. I am married to a man who is the first son of seven. I am older than all his siblings. One of his sisters was a frequent visitor to our home. I feel I did my best to make her feel at home. For instance I never asked her to do any house work to help me because I feel it is my home and I would do my house work anyway even if she was not around. I allowed her complete freedom in the kitchen to dish her own food and eat whatever she wanted.

Three years ago when she came on vacation she stole some of my gold jewelry. When I saw it with her she denied that it was not mine. Later she insisted that I must have forgotten it in her parents house the last time we came on vacation which I know fully well was not true as the gold disappeared from underneath my bed.

Last year again she came to visit and some more jewelry disappeared. We were moving house at the time and in all the confusion she packed quite a substantial number. [I sell gold].

I went to their house to confront her about it and we started to exchange words. I called her a thief. Her mother ( my mother-in-law) asked her to deal with me and she slapped me twice. I did not retaliate.

During the peace making process, I gave a condition for which I would forgive. I said she would not call me by my first name any longer. I am seven years older than her. My mother in law jumped up, shouting and saying I had no right to demand that. They are Ibo. The girl is the first daughter of the family.

Well since then if the girl calls me by my first name I do not answer her. If her mother is there at the time, a quarell ensures as she will accuse me of keeping malice. Now people are advising me to let go and accept this girl calling me by my first name for the sake of peace.

Am I being unreasonable?