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Are you sure she is not depressed. I suspect you make her feel so inferior with always comparing and complaining. Maybe she is lost and doesn't know herself anymore. Its okay for you to feel the way you do. Your emotions are so valid but I believe you can look at it from various perspectives before concluding.

elipheleh:
Marrying an unintelligent woman is really the worst mistake a man can make.

If I can reverse the Hands of clock I wont go for my current wife.

Well, I always loved an intellectually sound woman. It trips me. Something like a medical doctor or a programmer lady. At minimum a working class lady. Both intellect and beauty trips me.

I imagined a marriage where I'll be on thesame frequency.

I am a 1st class material but financial burden made me drop to second class upper in my 3rd year to 5th year.

I always knew I was going far in life and needed a woman who wanted to go far too.

When I met my wife she was very beautiful, speaks very well and in her 1st year. Each time I asked about her studies she would convince me how she was the best in her class and this and that.

Ask for her results, she would say results are not yet out.

By her 2nd year I married her after she got pregnant. As per the honorable man na

Do you know this girl after I2nd year, all her results were carry over. I mean ALL. Not even 1 pass.

Damn. Women fear women.

Now she just birthing beautiful kids. But now there's communication. Tge knowledge gap between us is too wide. Nothing to discuss about. Even when I try to communicate it frustrates me. I will speak and still explain my very own grammar. Then I will now explain the meaning and the etymology before continuing with the sentence. Its a real pain communicating.

You can imagine my regrets when I see an intelligent hardworking lady doctor outside.

Secondly, she doesn't want to work or even study to improve herself.

I am not poor by any means. I am a software developer. I earn about N4 million monthly.

But my wife is only happy selling ZOBO and kwulikwuli. Even at that she is not serious with it. Imagine this year she has not even started selling anything. January has passed.

I've told her to learn and IT skills. She says No.

Told her learn nursing, she said No

I did international passport for me, her and our 3 kids. She just came up and said she won't like to travel abroad. Her fears is that women there are likely going to be working on jobs.

Ok. Madam lets open Boutique for you - she no get the energy to run boutique.

Oya learn driving and be taking the kids to school - it is taking her almost 3 years to learn. Today she will drive, tomorrow she will forget it.

Oya madam go back to school and complete your education. She no want.

Every quarrel, she will threaten to commit suicide (informing random relations of mine to take care good of her children if anything happens to her) and accuse me of not seeing any value in her. Madam which value? You don't want to improve yourself and you now cry that I am improving.

She wants this and that and I spend so much. How can a man be spending more than 3 million every month? She want chop chop chop.

Since I met her, I have overworked myself.

Story long..

Sometimes, I always feel like quitting this marriage. But being a Christian, I feel trapped in this better for worse journey.

If only Madam can develop herself. I wish she can be just willing to learn or pursue knowledge. Let her drop this laziness about self-development and littleness mindset thing. Kai. No ambition. No dreams. I wish she can just have dreams for once in her life. And be a lover of wisdom.

I plan to go far in this life. But its difficult to do so when you're unequally yoked with an unambitious partner.

Only God can save my marriage at this rate things are going

Lol I was literally offed

bmd1010:
Op u know wetin molested mean?

This is the best so far and sounds morally right. Well what do I know everyone has there opinion. But it shows many indiviuals love manipulating people and want humans to be at there mercy. It shows the height human will go (( control people)) 😁😁

kcowen:
If I could choose any special powers, I would pick the ability to read minds and to speak any language. Why? Together, these powers form the ultimate psychological shield and sword; able to cut through deception, build alliances, and dismantle threats. I could understand anyone, anywhere, on any level, bypassing deception, language barriers, and misdirection. I’d be equipped not just to survive and thrive, but to lead, protect, and expose or make good use of hidden truths to heal/destroy dangerous predators and abusers of power.

Depression is a silent killer. The most funniest thing is that individuals don't open up and tend to smile like everything is okay. Even when they are with family & friends who ought to be there support system.
In this life pray for a sound mind, I actually believe the worst ailment on earth is Mental health challenge
Please if you are down find a good support system and speak out before you become enveloped with negative thought

Sorry about what you've been going through.
Your emotions and feelings are valid, you ain't the first person having this same case scenario. There's a family I'm aware of that most of the siblings have this same conditions due to their mum predicament. It's quite genetic but most have high IQ and they are working in reputable organization, another will soon become a medical doctor in few months.
The truth of the matter is that you can't help it when the anxiety sets in some type you sweat, you fidget, you talk in a nervous manner. But I believe they are coping mechanism you can learn online to help you cope, if this fails I believe going to seek therapy and neuropsychiatric hospital might help. I'm suspecting you have what is called Social anxiety disorder but I'm not certain though.
Also forgive your dad he doesn't know better if he did. He would have found solution. I believe he thought you were being rebellious. You have so much potential it's just the anxiety that makes you feel threatened that you can't achieve anything be strong don't harbor negative thought or contemplate suicide .


God be your strength it's not the end of the world.its wonderful to know you had the insight to know you have a problem, now it's time to find solution

It's so heart wrenching that our beloved country wants to tread the path of instability in all angle.
From (insecurity, inflation, food scarcity, corruption and tribalism

I pray he is found soon. Mental challenge is one ailments I don't even wish for my enemy. This a reminder to guard your mind

finallybusy:
I thought trust was the first basis of friendships. If you don’t trust the person, he is not your friend. I can trust my life with the five people I call friends. Even at that, I occasionally let them know I can cut them off at any point in time without a significant reason. Too many friends are a burden. In the modern world, friendships are overrated. If you want untrustworthy friends, befriend women.

Trust is not the basis for friendship. Do you know what trust entails. Never I repeat never trust anyone even family, but you know family is always family. I can love you but chose not to trust you. Betrayal from family can even be pardoned due to the fact that blood is thicker than water but you see outsiders never give them the privileged cause there heart dey for back especially when you ain't close to them. You might love them but they might not see you in the same light

I hate gossipers,
I believe those that do so ain't happy with there life

Only you said what I just needed to hear

Konquest:
Hi!

From the description you have of your retiree dad, I suspect he may be experiencing early to mid stages of Parkinson's or some other neurological disorder.

What I mean is that his constant fighting or quarrels with folks in the village (due to irritability), the sale of his house without information you his children, your inability to locate your late mother's properties kept in the original house that he sold, fourth your father's ABRUPT plan to relocate back to the city after a lot has been spent of the village house, fifth, the CONSTANT revealing of family secrets by your father to people which have led to the alleged disrespect for your father by folks are some of the things you and your siblings have to become aware of. Sixth, his inability to keep or spend large amounts of money judiciously.

Read up on Parkinson's symptoms (there are over 30 symptoms or side effects) to get a hang of what I'm saying here. Get him to see a professional neurologist for major checkups to determine what is wrong with him... and primary watch if he has tremors in his hands. Forgetfulness is another major symptom.

CBD oil is a potent patented medication that helps to relieve the neurological symptoms.

There are drugs or medications to stabilize a patient, but under normal conditions, the damage to the brain nerves and stem cells are irreversible. Research is still going on though to find a lasting cure for Parkinson's which can strike from about the age of 35 years and above.

I must commend you for looking out for your dad... That is very noble of you. In the process, you will also learn about yourself and how to give love and vice versa. Now that you know these, please be patient with him from here on out because it's much deeper, though it can be annoyingly and embarrassing when a loved one doesn't keep secrets, missplaces things, and is forgetfulness atimes. These are classic symptoms of Parkinson's disease.

A lot of folks have given brilliant advice here and I also do not subscribe to you renting a house for him. At his age, he should be in his own house and not have to start paying rent to a landlord. Last but not least, in the absence of stock market investments or mutual funds, the recommended investment for retirees is in the field of agronomy as that would bring in sustainable income and they can also feed themselves instead of depending exclusively on others.

They can have hybrid economic trees planted such as avocado and others which yearly produce fruits, hybrid tomatoes and red/yellow peppers, pineapples, etc. these can sustain them and the excess can be sold at a farmers market.

Hope this helps.

Cheers!

50

I'm so sorry about what you are going through, but living with anyone going through a mental disorder. It's one of the most nerve racking situation you can ever imagine. It's better imagined than experienced
Please treat your mom with the last love you have, because she has no idea what she does. Laziness is also a symptom of most mental disorder. manipulation or lies she tells is because she has no idea when she does that. She might have a beautiful soul but I'm sorry to let you know that maybe she never started her treatment on time, which led to a chronic stage. Due to this she ain't responding to treatment. Please treat you mum very well because she might not stay for long and parents her like God on earth.The issue is you don't understand what she is going through. I don't wish a mental disorder for my enemies. Because it's the worst ailment that can happen to anyone . To me I see the individuals living with it as people lost but still lalive, till their maker calls them home, they are always source of embarrassment to themselves and family. She knows she is not okay I can bet it with you she also cries before she go to bed and ask God to take it away. But it is what it is.

Love your mom regardless so that you won't regret it and wish to turn back the hands of time.

Thank God you said majority not all.

I hate to admit it. But your 💯

humilitypays:
How many people on earth do things by considering if it hurts others or not? Does your President, Governors, Senators, Reps, The Dangote's of this world, the Banks of this world, the governments of this world; which of them cared about how their actions affect others?



For your information, life is selfish, and to succeed in life you must be selfish in many things, it is the bitter truth.


People who follow the rules like you are portraying usually end up at the bottom of the ladder of life, that's fact.

What happened to you

SonOfaRichman:
I watched that video last night on Twitter and I shook my head.

In all you do, never forget to pray
I mean those radical prayer points. The mfm type of prayer. Those fire for fire prayer.

If I begin talk my own!
For the past five years!
Well God has taken over, but yiu see those household enemies?

They are more dangerous than the average kidnapper or Nigerian police, those household enemies would never stop till they render you useless like a used female pad. And guess what, it takes the grace of God before you realize what has actually happened to you.
Some don't until they eventually die.

Its a sad sad world.

The average black man is filled with wickedness and jealousy, they won't succeed and they don't want to see you succeed either. That includes some members of your family.
God help us all.

There is high probability you have social anxiety disorder

Clowns