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This is the reason why I want to grow my own business to the highest level.

Yorubastardz:
She should have left the baby to be eating beans in orphanage.

That is why I don't like helping people

Now she don go buy market.

I heard the boy hits her sometimes

Her crime was to raise and take care of the boy.
The boy know that he is adopted

All I see is there is no motherly connection
Because she didn't give birth to him. Simple

Help her hit him back na

letskeeptalking:
Oh I follow my dreams, I never stopped. And I get a lot of satisfaction from my growth and everything I’ve achieved, despite his best efforts to frustrate me.

And I have PRAYED! I could easily have lost my child, but God had mercy. The more I think about it, the more I don’t believe that God wants this for me. Life is not supposed to be this complicated.

Someone told me that my children will love me more in the future when they see what I endured for their sake. But will they, really I mean they see us live seperate lives and they know it’s not right, or they will eventually. Again, what kind of example am I really setting for them?

I’ve been celibate for years now, because I’m technically married. But he has his affairs, and even though I don’t care because I stopped fulfilling that “duty” for him a long time ago, and I am no longer interested in any kind of romantic relationship with anyone, I still feel that this is unfair.

On the outside I have a great life, but I feel empty inside.

Do you mind if I DM you want to share some things with you.

gabbyfarms:
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Wow this rose is beautiful. I loveeee

Desperado Melimeli abi how did they sing that song again

GloriousGbola:
like i said - go to the bush and be a lion. you can learn how to chase gazelles or fight baboons or chance hyenas

people with gray matter are looking for serious role models, you are chasing lion. all mane and no real action. even better if you decided to follow andrew tate. you will learn how to be an alpha male, how it is gay to knack women, and how to get your ass kicked at the MMA you are supposed to be good at

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Omoluabi16:
people do it for financial gains.

Oh them get power sha

Mrshape:
I will need 50kg, how much will you sell for me, this is now wholesale

I just sent you a mail.

Mrshape:
location

Benin-city

Mrshape:
7000 to 7500 in Benin

I sell for 5500 fresh from my farm

I would really love to visit this island

LOL do people still do aso ebi for weddings? I hate unnecessary stress, so on my wedding day there was nothing like that even my mom did not do aso ebi, we just told people to come looking beautiful 😊

sweetkev:
They probably silenced him, so he won't reveal things.

He killed himself, please take time to read things carefully.

Na Valentine baby 🫣🫣

Onegai:
The fact that you wrote this about Innocent 2face Idibia and not some celebrity like Banky W, is wild.

You could have picked any other man to defend and your writeup would have made even more sense.

Heck, the Pastor that married and raised 2face's kids by his 2nd baby mama quietly and respectfully, deserves this. Not 2face Idibia.

And it is a truth universally and biblically acknowledged that the sign of a truly bad decision is abandoning everything and everyone you know JUST for something or someone else. Literally, that is the basis of the story of the ENTIRE Old Testament of the Bible, the Prodigal Son, Samson and Delilah etc.

I sincerely hope you don't give advise outside sha.

Honestly the comment is nauseating. It is so sad that some men think this way. God abeg let my sisters not marry confused men like this IJN 🙏🏾

pocohantas:
All una wives dey talk to one man or the other.
Even the thread above yours. On FB one man has dashed his wife to her sideknacker. You might wanna take a cue from him.

Always remember you are the prize.
Don't take nonsense from any woman.

I always love and wait for your response. In dbanj's voice It's a banger 😂😂😂

She should go for MRI or CT scan and also she should check her eyes maybe it is an underline issue that is causing the headache. I was once in her shoes and apparently it was my eyes the moment I started using glasses it reduced.

chatinent:
Our leaders rather spend time in England than make anything better for their own people.

The whites don see us finish.

But don't you think we are a reflection of our leaders? I mean why would a normal thinking human being attack another because of football? Where then is the spirit of sportsmanship? Not everything is about our leaders, we the citizens we also have a lot of work to do. This news is just so sad and annoying to read.

chieveboy:
Its too simple.

You need two basic ingredients.

1: Substrate or growth medium (saw dust, dried rice straw, Old wood, Grains, old, paper, etc)

2: Mushroom Spawn (This is the seed. It is simply the fungus which had colonized or grown inside a substrate which you can use as 'seed')


Mushroom is simply fungus. Fungus colonizes or engulfs things it likes l, and turns the whole thing white as you can see from the OP's bags. Those were brown before (saw dust).

1 & 2: Sanitize the substrate by steaming for 2- 4 hours if using sawdust to kill bacteria and bad fungus. If using rice straw, use hydrated lime and soak for 14-24hrs. This one is more simpler.


-I use dried rice straws in place of the popular sawdust for the substrate.

-I buy grain spawn from Mushroom Planet (Google this person or ask OP if they sell).

How I do mine:

1: I cut the rice straw into small half-finger sizes. I Soak all in water which has some measure of hydrated lime (calcium hydroxide). This kills unfriendly microbes like bacteria by raising the PH level of the Soak.

2: I remove the soaked straw in the morning of the next day and keep inside a sack to drain.

3: Spawn-straw-spawn-straw-spawn: By evening, using pure water bagging bag (the main bag containing pure water), I pour some little spawn (grain spawn) inside the empty pure water bag, then fetch some straw and add on top. when it reaches the middle, i add some more spawn...add straw and top the bag with spawn...

You can even do the above using that big black nylon bag for waste.

make like three incisions on three sides of the bag and keep somewhere for the bag to turn white with the mushroom spawn. after like three or four weeks, the thing will rear its head from the holes you made.


I find rice straw and soy husk most fruitful for me than what the OP uses (saw dust).

cc:Amwitty

Simply get the edible seed from the sources above if you're not sure.

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Thanks for sharing.

Racoon:
THROWBACK; "Which Prefect Position Did You Hold In Primary Or Secondary School?"

Sport prefect and till now the play and sport still dey body 😁

chieveboy:
Yea, it's a nice and nutritive alternative to meat.
The cultivators could do better by making it more affordable for adoption in Nigeria.

I cultivate mine myself.

Do you mind sharing please. I noticed some growing on some fallen wood close to my poultry but I don't know if it is poisonous or not.

Emeskhalifa:
Just a quick question, should Dangote departs the world today, what will happen to the refinery? The government will takeover or his family members will continue with it

This thought has buried a lot of great ideas.

breadtoaster:
Please, those of you who are married — how do you cope?

I am married to someone I don’t think is my friend. We dated before marriage, but during that time, I had a very senior friend whom I always went to for advice, help with decisions, and assistance with things that required initiative or “manly” effort.

My husband, on the other hand, is very quiet. Living with him feels like living in a graveyard — no TV, no outings, nothing lively. It’s not that he isn’t intelligent (trust me, he is), but he’s too lazy to put his mind to work sometimes. By 9 p.m., he’s already asleep. He eats, goes to work, and that’s all. He has no drive for more. Whenever I talk about progress or goals, he says, “It’s a process; it’ll take years to come to fruition,” but he never thinks of ways to get things done efficiently or on time.

So in terms of ambition or drive for achievement, I’m suffering living with him. I feel alone. I’m scared that his lack of motivation and his slow, passive lifestyle will kill my own drive. I’m not even extremely driven myself, but I know I want to achieve greatness. That desire pushes me, but I’m afraid that living with him will make me too relaxed and unmotivated — and I don’t want that.

Before marriage, I had friends — both male and female — with whom I shared advice and ideas. I’ve always had male friends because they tend to be driven. From them, I learned about crypto, stocks, business ideas — they inspired me. But my husband doesn’t trust them or me around them. Since we got married, I can’t talk to most of these friends at home unless I’m at work. It’s affecting me mentally. I’m scared that my circle for growth and greatness is being trimmed down, and soon I might start behaving like him — with no ambition or hunger for achievement.

Women, how do you handle such relationship dynamics?
How do I keep my drive while being married to such a man?

Every Friday night, he’s already asleep. One time, I dragged him to a lounge on a Friday night, and he was dozing off there. I ended up dancing alone while other couples danced together. If there’s something important we’re supposed to do, he won’t take initiative or push for it.

For example, I suggested we start going to church regularly to build our spiritual life. One Sunday, he woke up first and went to bathe. When he finished, he didn’t wake me up, and by the time I opened my eyes, it was already late. When I asked why he didn’t tell me, he said he called me but I didn’t answer. For me, I wouldn’t act that way — especially when it’s something that helps build our faith together.

We also planned to pray as a family. We did it for two days, and then he forgot — and honestly, I’m struggling to remember too. I don’t know if our marriage is under spiritual attack or if it’s just his personality, but my mental health is suffering. I’m not happy. I don’t genuinely smile anymore.

He doesn’t know how to pamper me or show warmth. If I complain about something, he just lashes out. He didn’t date much before marriage; he was one of those “spiritual brothers.” I was spiritual too, but I thought quiet men were more romantic or deep inside. I was wrong. I feel like he’s choking the life out of me.

At home, I can’t even make calls freely — he gets unknowingly aggressive if I’m on the phone and says things like, “Don’t you have things to do?” So I can’t talk to the people I’d love to.

After our marriage, he had issues going to my family, claiming I blackmailed him because of earlier arguments. He would get upset about small things, like me dancing to Afrobeat music. He’d say I shouldn’t, then later deny he said it. Or if we go out to eat, he’ll say we should leave early or that the place will soon close, even when I just want to relax and enjoy being outside.

I feel alone, yet married. I miss home. I’m not sure what to do.

It even took us one month after the wedding to consummate our marriage. We were both virgins, but his manhood wasn’t functioning well, and we had so many arguments that our emotional connection broke down. I felt it literally fall apart. Now I feel like I’m just living with someone.

He often says, “We’re not aligned,” or that he trusts me only 60%. If I go out, he sometimes gets angry or accuses me of lying about where I went. I can’t stay indoors all day like him — I’d just die inside.

I need help. I feel like I’m losing myself. When I visit home, my mother’s voice feels loud or too much, my friends when i talk to them, it feels like they are talking too much — not because they are talking too much, but because I’ve been living in such silence that I’ve lost touch with voice, morelike in a graveyard.

I am even crying as I type this, and he is sitting somewhere on the other side asking me if my head is swelling or what is making me cry.

I’m just… tired. feeling so strongly emotionally starved tooo.

Please and please leave the marriage because from all you have said you both don't align and it will only get worse. It's not spiritual attack sis, you both probably miscalculated before getting married so now that a child is not yet in the picture please leave.

Maybe the FBI or CIA is using him, if not his audacity is very loud.

Kelvinnchucks:
Maybe its just me and my Nigerian thinking but is there a way to safeguard the ideas of those who's pitch doesn't get picked from being stolen and used?
it easy to throw your idea out there but theres no justice if its plagiarized.

Again maybe its just me

It's not just you I also feel the same way. Most times I am scared of all this programs cause someone might just steal your idea and run with it and there is nothing you can do about it.

syndrum:
We name such child Aina here in yoruba

Why please educate me. Is there something special about them?

Acidosis:
We can't really blame some parents. Some decisions we make early in life have long-lasting, if not eternal, impacts. There are certain schools you attend, and you just know that it will take only luck or the grace of God for one to rise above a certain level. The world is so competitive now.

Just last week on X, I saw some Nigerians regretting that they didn’t study Engineering in Unilag. Who wouldn’t? You just have to see the number of graduates getting jobs in top global companies like Bloomberg, Google, etc., straight after school. The same goes for their medical students. Their level of networking is just something else. While other people are hustling for NYSC, those ones have already completed their online interviews with Bloomberg, US medical schools, etc. I've read the same pattern with CU students.

Same education as someone who studied the same course in e.g., faraway Taraba State, but the networking, friendship? That’s what makes the difference.

As long as they’re not doing it blindly or getting into needless debt or blind competition, omo, we can’t really blame them. Many adults today developed low self-esteem because of their poor background. By poor, it doesn’t necessarily mean lack of money, but poor exposure and mentality.

I get your point but uni is very different from primary and secondary school. I will pay huge for my childrens uni education cause that's where they actually network just as you mentioned.

How can AI help in commercial banking?
Cause you still need to interface with clients.

I love carpentry, I wish I could learn the skill.
I love DIY a lot.

Good evening NLs. please i am looking to connect with any bioinformatist here or any one with knowledge in computational biology. I really need some answers. Thank you

DoctorStanley:
Easier said than done. Suppose broke girl is the only girl you "love"?
I'm in my early 30's and a medical doctor and I wish I studied something else.
I wish I knew not to study something simply because it is prestigious and in vogue

You did not have passion for medicine a mistake most doctors make. You can still change career it's not late at all.

Sometimes I wonder if most men would want their sisters and daughters to be treated the same way they treat other women.
I don't understand the hate on Toke. Please try and read her book before jumping into conclusion. Thankfully the husband confessed few months back I guess, that he was manipulated but no o the hate on her must continue. I am grateful she did not allow the pain of her divorce swallow like most men wished but she grew and now she is going to be a mum indeed God is not man and He is not from your village.