Thankyou for so many helpful replies.

I have lot's to ponder over.

I was asked a few things - His father runs a very good business and his family is pretty wealthy and as we have our own financial backing we should be able to afford a safe and pretty good standard of living. ikoksi you mention politics, his father is a political figure which led to his kidnapping last year however my partner is keen to assure me that its blown over in the area and all is safe. That was my main concern. However I trust that my partner would never put us in harms way so I am a little less freaked out by it that now lol. He points out thar In the UK I will have more chance of a youth in designer clothing stabbing me or battering me for the sake of filming it on his latest smartphone so as he can share it on you tube. He probably isn't far off

Thankyou for all of the replies.

I don't think I made my self very clear. I do not intend to move because I think the UK is not a suitable place to bring my children up (although I don't think it is at the moment) if that were the case I would be choosing elsewhere. I mentioned my misgivings about the UK because in a post on another forum ,y questions were deemed ignorant and a few confused my fears and questions as me trying to slate Nigeria. I was pointing out that I'm not trying to slate the country when I ask these questions, I think very little of my own so have no judgements to make.

Secondly - the reason for the move as i mentioned ever so slightly in my question is because my partners father runs a few businesses (in the areas i mentioned which is why they are my choice) his father grows old and as the only son the responsibility falls on his head to go and help.

Thirdly - I have visited, my children haven't and I only as a tourist so i realise this would be quite different. I intend to take the children beforehand however I am researching as I realise this is a big decision and one that will be made overnight.

Finally - Franktolk , yes I was 16 when I had my eldest son, I was 17 when I had my second and 23 and in my final year of university when I had my third.  However I am now a law graduate running my own business. One of the greatest things about the UK is that no matter what circumstances you either put yourself in or are put in if you have the determination to make something of yourself you have endless opportunities to do so. The shame is that few take those opportunities or do and squander them.

If I had the option I would be moving to a village in the UK and raising my children, but my partner has an obligation to his family and I to him. My children come first and If it means the family separating so be it, but I would not enter into any decision either way that may lead to the undoing of our relationship lightly.

I'm very glad that I asked, its all very helpful

Thankyou all

Amy

Hi

I am a White British 27year old currently living in the uk. My partner is Nigerian born and has the majority of his family living in Nigeria. We have been discussing a possible move to Nigeria in the near future so as he can help his father with his business. We have 3 children the eldest being 11 this year and the youngest 4. I would like to point out that my questions are by no means intended to sound either derogoratory or ignorant. We are both decided that the Uk is not country that We wish to bring up two impressionable young boys and a beautiful and intelligent young girl. The trend in the Uk seems to be for girls to become pregnant at a very young age (i was one of them) and I fear for my eldest child going to high school amidst a high knife and violent crime rate amongst his age group. The British government is breeding a contemptible generation of youth and a society of lazy citizens living off the welfare system. We want out, however I do I have my reservations in regards to moving my young family to Nigeria. The country doesn't get the best media coverage in the Uk. Although I trust my partners opinions I feel them understandably biased towards his family and homeland. So I'm looking for honest opinions please .

I have many questions so for clarity I shall list them.

1- my partner has mentioned the possibility of living in 3 areas either Aba in abia state, the ebonyi state in general or Abuja. Are these safe areas for families? I am concerned as his father was only recently returned safely after being kidnapped for ransom.  Can I raise my family in either of these areas without fear if we are responsible and invest in good security ?

2- we enjoy quite a social life in the Uk, more so for my children, in your opinion could they enjoy the same in these locations. And will children of mixed race be accepted and make friends easily. (my children do suffer from racism from time to time in the uk and I would like somewhere they can be accepted freely and just be themselves)

3- I own my own business in the Uk, I have a uk law degree. Financial independence is extremely important to me, I like to make my own money almost as much as I like to spend it . Will I as a white British woman find it as easy to work in nigeria ?

4- I worry about schooling, my children may choose to return to the uk or stay in Nigeria either way it is important to me that they have good schooling, if possible at a British school, does nylon have more information about schooling for my age children ?

I jokingly told my partner that I would only live in Nigeria if I had high speed Internet access as I'm an avid online gamer lol. Joking aside I worry about the culture clash, are there many British people living successfully and happily in Nigeria, love to hear from them if so.

I thank you for reading my long post and appreciate all responses

Amy x


Thankyou for all of the replies.

I don't think I made my self very clear. I do not intend to move because I think the UK is not a suitable place to bring my children up (although I don't think it is at the moment) if that were the case I would be choosing elsewhere. I mentioned my misgivings about the UK because in a post on another forum ,y questions were deemed ignorant and a few confused my fears and questions as me trying to slate Nigeria. I was pointing out that I'm not trying to slate the country when I ask these questions, I think very little of my own so have no judgements to make.

Secondly - the reason for the move as i mentioned ever so slightly in my question is because my partners father runs a few businesses (in the areas i mentioned which is why they are my choice) his father grows old and as the only son the responsibility falls on his head to go and help.

Thirdly - I have visited, my children haven't and I only as a tourist so i realise this would be quite different. I intend to take the children beforehand however I am researching as I realise this is a big decision and one that will be made overnight.

Finally - Franktolk , yes I was 16 when I had my eldest son, I was 17 when I had my second and 23 and in my final year of university when I had my third.  However I am now a law graduate running my own business. One of the greatest things about the UK is that no matter what circumstances you either put yourself in or are put in if you have the determination to make something of yourself you have endless opportunities to do so. The shame is that few take those opportunities or do and squander them.

If I had the option I would be moving to a village in the UK and raising my children, but my partner has an obligation to his family and I to him. My children come first and If it means the family separating so be it, but I would not enter into any decision either way that may lead to the undoing of our relationship lightly.

And so I asked your advice.

Thankyou all

Amy

Hi
I know this is a long shot but myself and partner recently opened a Nigerian restaurant in Wolverhampton UK. Our chef has had to travel due to a family death and we are looking to take on a permanent chef ASAP. The applicant must be based in the UK due to speedy start and must be a fantastic cook. We ask nothing more. Good pay, cash in hand, flexible hours and does not always have to be based in the local area.
Thankyou for taking the time, if you can recommend anyone please do.