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What's Sheggs nagging about again. Na wa!

What's in this pepsi? I'll like to try it out.

Geezeem:
I don dance tire... the only party I don dance for this season... the DJ good abeg

Very sweet vibes all around. The DJ is fireeee

Oshokhai69:
Hmm. Okay let me run out and go get me a drink then

catch up. An hour remaining.

Twoclans:
I wonder .

Liquor people were questioning if she was actually a professional dancer.

Angel was even rated above her in the dance department.

Oshokhai69:
Well it depends on how sober or drunk one is

I'm slightly buzzed. I'm having a mighty fine time. Choosing to watch any party sober is torture.

Giel:
No matter the DJ that comes to this house. No matter how hard they try, these Housemates must fall their (and our) hands

Chizzy you are the only person giving me joy this night jare.
finally
Adekunle and Hermes giving me some small vibes

Dancers nor party people dey this set.
Liquorose you are needed jor, you and Alex.

Same Liquorose that was trolled heavily for her dancing, abi another one.

Oshokhai69:
Worst BBN party ever

Nope! The party's banging

Hermes with the vibes

ImoleNaija:
Lol,,, the lady in question is my relative. I kept arguing when they told me about her delivery because this is the person I saw, almost everyday, with no look or visible symptoms of pregnancy.

I believe you

Kelvinnchucks:
I'm just seeing this... i have to disagree... when sheggs says those words it's not particularly said to insult her, it's just like when you call your friend big head, or ode... it's more of a slang.. his own is... sick or you are crazy... we are misunderstanding him big time because we aren't used to people saying those things and displaying that type of affection in Nigeria.

It's sad he'd have alot of explaining to do when he comes out.

You must be kidding. You are right?

ImoleNaija:
No be all pregnancy dey show o. I was once shocked to hear someone with normal tummy gave birth.

, many years ago, i only found out my tight friend was pregnant a day after she had the baby. I often wondered about her sudden love for trench coats though.

Sixfeetbelle:
My sentiments, exactly.

I have a little story for you.

Initially, when the show first started, my mom was team Shella, or more accurately team Sheggs. Even when my sister and I insisted Sheggs was too good to be true, she would laugh it off and say that maybe he's actually genuine. That maybe he does love her (cause of all the love declarations he was doing). Last night, she said Sheggs behavior reminded her of a particular type of killers (love-crazed psychopaths) shown on Investigation Discovery (cause she watches mainly ID after BBN ends).

For my mom who was number one fan of Sheggs to classify him as that tells me his "tendencies" is becoming very glaring to everybody and anybody.

Yeah your mum knows whatsup. People's character is like pregnancy, it can't be hidden for long.

Nice vibes tonight

Lauryn41:
Bella is a gemini

Yep

Geezeem:
Was that all you saw?

Well she said she wasn't going to eat anymore and he was pleading with her.

Was there more?

Bella is a feisty little minx no doubt but I don't think she has a lot of experience relationship-wise. She probably even thinks this is a typical relationship challenge. That's why she always apologizes and promises to be better. He has her already believing she's the problem.

If she successfulyl cuts that guy off for good while she's in the house, she'll gain a fan in me. I love courageous and strong women who know their worth.

Geezeem:
I watched last night... live
Plus I hope you saw that Bella was not as weak as you painted her?

Get the full video

After he called her demeaning names, he commanded her to sit on his lap, and she obeyed. so... that's not a show of strength if you ask me

Amya:
I'd earlier said i was going to expatiate more on the narcissistic traits i see in Sheggs and maybe educate someone too in the process. Who knows, i might even save a life today.

Narcissists have a particular image they want to project. They would do anything to be seen in the light they want to be seen in. They want to be seen as the perfect person, the perfect spouse, the perfect parent etc. The fabric of their very own existence is created by others view of them. They're empty inside and need a lot of external validation, adulation and attention. If anything gets in the way of the perfect picture they want to project, then the blame goes to anybody but them. They would throw anyone under the bus, start the most ridiculous smear campaign, do any and everything to ensure their white remain unstained. It's not them, it's you. lol.

Narcissists have three Phase they're universally known with. The Love-bombing Phase, The Devaluation Phase and Finally, the Discard Phase. The Phases are sometimes one off, or go around in vicious cycles.

In the Love-bombing Phase, It just feels too good to be true. The target is loaded with over the top amount of affection. flattery, praise, very early in the relationship in other to win over the target. But most important of all, even the above listed is that they say exactly what their target wants to hear.

Sheggs came into the house and set his sights on Bella. I would think that she made the perfect target for him because her stoic personality made her a challenge and narcissists love a good challenge. I remember him saying she didn't look at him twice when he came in and that's why he set his sights on her.
The supply narcissist get from cracking the hardest rock is quite exhilarating. Sheggs went further to love-bomb Bella. He keyed into her deepest desires and brought them forth with his words. In the first few days of their meeting, he's already talking marriage, kids and the beautiful perfect life they'd have together. He talked about how perfect they are together and how everyone envies their love. Slowly Bella's stoic self begins to break and she fell yakata. We see it in the way she gazes into his eyes, the lingering touches and the blooming intimacy.

Now that he knows he has her in the palm of his hands, her moves for phase 1 round 2 ALIENATION. Narcissist will never be successful in being narcissists if they're unable to completely alienate their prey. He's not so comfortable with her creating deep bonds with others, He doesn't want her to dance with the guys etc. As a Narcissists succeeds with the alienating their prey, they proceed further.

They invalidate your feeling. I've seen this play out with Sheggs and Bella. When she tells him about something he did that she did not like, he blames her for feeling that way or causing it. Narcissist are self consumed individuals. Their needs come first. They like to have power and control over you and make you subservient to their needs. It's always all about them. Your emotions and priorities are something they don't care about. They will make you feel less then any chance they get. They will say you're naïve and that there's something wrong with you. They would keep trying to push and shape you into what they think their perfect mate should be like. You dare not be yourself. They keep on pushing your boundaries and if you keep adjusting just because you hate wahala and love peace, thinking they'll leave you alone. For wia! They'll never stop pushing and pushing and pushing. They slowly chip away at your self esteem and sense of self, till you lose yourself.

Unfortunately, there a lot of people who have found themselves in that vicious narcissistic cycle and can't get away. They begin to truly believe they're the ones with the actual problem because they've been gaslit to the moon. They keep thinking maybe if they do more or become better their spouse will change, but no, they simple don't change. The Narcissist will call it a day when they no longer have a need for you and brutally kick you to the curb.



Two months and two weeks is a short time to witness the full scale of a narcissistic abuse in the BBN house ,but as we've been seeing with Sheggs some of this character flaws as i wrote above still peeks through. For Bella's sake, i hope she somehow does not get sucked into a life of pain with this guy, if not, last night's tears is only the beginning of her woes.


Run Bella, Run!

The bolded is currently what's playing out.


I just watched a video online where Sheggs called Bella 'sick' and other demeaning names just because she insisted on opening her suya pack.

If people have been wondering what narcissism is, this is it in its purest form.

cc Geezeem

https://www.instagram.com/p/Ch_nYR8jQnT/?igshid=MDJmNzVkMjY=

This just made me tear up this morning.

I knew there was something that deeply connected me to Hermes. Aside his high energy, he's a true empath. This is who truly deserves the title of winner of BBN. I can truly see him changing the lives of the people not only close to him, but his community as a whole.

Hermes is a pure soul.

KIDDRICAsHAWK:
Bella?

I don't think Bella would do the break up. Segun will, abusive people need the right victims. Bella isn't that person, from the past few days, you can see that the rational part of her is questioning the relationship and Segun has also become restless because she isn't as "obedient" as the right victim comes.


As much as I'd love to watch this unfold, I find it too disturbing and extremely sad. Left the WhatsApp group, muted both names on twitter and will reduce activity here until Segun leaves that house or biggie gets them help. This whole thing is a madness.

Segun has something to prove to the world. Especially as it relates to the rumoured abuse accusations from his ex from 2 years ago. It was to my understanding that this ex in question is a fairly popular YouTuber who did an exposé of the abuse she suffered from him on her YouTube page ( the content now private)

I feel one of the major reason he quickly got into a ship in that house was to create a different impression of his persona. If it wasn't Bella, it would have been someone else.

Bella a typical Gemini is mule-headed and not as docile for his plan to go as perfectly as he would have wanted. But the truth is that with people like this, even if Bella had been completely docile, he'll still have something else to complain about. He just can't help it.

However, even with the everyday friction, he just wouldn't let her go just yet. Especially if he comes out and finds out that there are people actually lapping up the the BS (cue in shippers)

GoAndVerify:
Just so you know....

Self delusion is a terrible disease.

You can delude yourself.

But please, try not to mislead others from your self delusion.

Thanks.

I haven't tried to mislead you or anyone on the thread, so.....

Who's delusional now?

GoAndVerify:
Will you stop all these zodiac nonsense!

Trying to judge or understand people from a zodiac point of view is very limiting as well as misleading on its own because it makes you to only concentrate of those attributes of that particular zodiac you really want to see.

You can't tell what to do. Thanks

Geezeem:
Who says we can't support more than one housemate? see me see local wahala ooo ... so if tomorrow I start to post about Groovy nah una go start to drag me for here? unto wetin nah?

Ignore the noise

Rosebloom:
What is it about Arians?

They're simply amazing!

Munzy14:
Amya how far?

I realized the exit of your name sake and the deep connection....

I hope she is doing well now?

At least we've seen Eviction wey shock you like Buhari will say I received with shock.

Munz Nwanne. Omo the thing shock me o, i won't lie. She's not just my namesake, she's also an Aries like me, so i truly understand her type. She's completely harmless. You see how almost obsessive she is with star signs and sh*t, I'm a bit like that too. And i think most Arians are also intrigued by astrology and mysticism.

Anyway, i know she'll be fine. She brought something to the show that is especially visible now she isn't on the show. But laslas, she no die, she was just evicted. She'[[ be fine.

Doyin will whine for 2 days.


Hermes still making me proud. If he had lost today. 10 pages would have been dedicated to trolling him.

KIDDRICAsHAWK:
1 year is too much. They won't last a month.

You underestimate people trying to prove a point.

safarigirl:



I have never gone to any voting centre in my life. I don't even know what that is about, but I know say una go just dey here dey create scenarios

I've been away from this place for the sake of my mental health mbok, also, I finally got a major job opportunity in a sector I've always wanted to be part of, so, I really don't want to tank it.


My attention span is not strong enough to survive juggling the research process with coming to this place. So, I just dey avoid here. Big Brother no dey feed me mbok.


I talk say I be introvert, you come think say I fit head voting centre, I can never be that involved in any Big Brother thing. You guys exaggerate how interested I get in housemates because I too dey analyse.

We've been speculating on your absence.
You just disappeared after the nominations. What was I to think? Especially as we know your sis is a VVIP/BBN PR, we thought you'd be swamped with it.
Anyway since you say you're protecting your mental space, that also makes sense too.
Wish you success on your Job opportunity.

What is Bryan and Hermes doing?

This task pained them sha

Na wa o. Na fight?

IGoComotYaTeeth:
E be like say dem don kidnap safarigirl

Someone that probably busy heading one voting centre and supplying IUCs. We'll probably see her after voting close