You no like sell am 15million?

9m for venza?

MufasaLion:


Damn straight!

Some men are weak and they are easily influenced by family foolishly. I really hope the guy is gonna fight for his love. I hate doing unto others what we would never accept!

Yeah right.. Easier said than done.

InTheCloudySky:
They certainly wouldn't. The OP himself needs to grow up. That he's considering leaving her now and for such a flimsy reason is an indication that he doesn't love her. This is why women show be careful getting pregnant for men without marriage. If you're not married and are engaging in premarital sex, then make sure you know the man you're laying with well to avoid stories that touch.

May the good Lord have mercy on you.. I hope and pray you don't ever fall into the present predicament I am in.

benqo01:
Op I understand your point and trust me it really hurt .My advice to you is to dissolve that relationship you have with her immediately.

Don't put your self in a fix state,if your parents don't support your union,then am sorry it cant work don't listen to anyone telling you to go ahead you.

Ekejoestar:
What are the reasons for their rejection of her? Is it because she's from another state or what?

she's from another state. She is a calabar woman and I'm igbo. There reasons includes calabars being too fetish and they hardly stays in their husband's house for long. That's hasty generalisation as far as I'm concerned.

odinson1:
Dear Op,

Whatever you do,do NOT cut your parents off! You can disobey their wishes but do not Cut them off because of any woman,be it your wife!

Secondly, I can see she is pushing you to do a Court wedding. My dear man,that would be the biggest mistake you will ever make in your entire life. What ever happens,do NOT go for a Court marriage, because it mostly never ends well.

She wants that court marriage so as to secure her future with your properties and resources in case of divorce or separation or something similar.


A final word: "in your family,the only person who isn't related to you by blood is your wife"

Let that sink in.

My fear exactly. It's all taking a toll on me

Godada:


Who you choose to marry is your business.

Your concern should be how you can nurture this relationship against the storm that is bound to come.

Court marriage is a good option but in the case of divorce, it favors the woman.

In any case, you are in for a rough ride. Show your mettle.

Boss, it have really been a hell of a
Roller-coaster ride. Can't remember when last I laughed. The whole issue has taken over my mental health

There is this lady I'm so much in a woman! She's everything and more that I want in a woman. We have been dating for about a year and half, but the problem is that my parent don't want me to get married to her because she's from one of the south south states and I'm from the South East. They insisted I marry an igbo lady because I am the first son. We have been going back and forth on this issue for about 2 months. I insisted that I was going to get married to her regardless of whatsoever they think with or without their blessings.

Early last month, she got pregnant, I told my parent about the pregnancy thinking that it would further soften their hearts and make them come to terms about marrying her but it seemed worse. None of my family members are in support of the union, and this matter caused a big issue during one of the family meeting I once organised where I base.

she served in the Anambra and fell in love with the everything igbo, there is no Igbo soup she can't cook. She love everything about igbos and she's 100% willing to adapt to the Igbo culture. Give her 5 years from now she will understand and speak igbo like she is one of us since birth. She is that determined.

Now that she's pregnancy is in it 9th week, I don't want her to be my baby mama, I don't want our beautiful love story to turn sour. To be honest, I went to my hometown to for the festive period and I didn't find anyone that approved of me getting married to her from my family, extended families or relatives. Some swore that she has given me love portion to eat, others adviced that I should drop the idea of the marriage because no one is in support of the union. Not a single soul.

I tabled the matter to the UMU-NNA (meetings for men in the family usually done in the village) it went back and forth and the elders ruled that I settle it within my immediate family and that whatsoever my parent says, they are 100% behind their decision. My parent said No, and as for the pregnancy, they will be involved in their grand child's life in everywhere but they don't want me anywhere around the mother.

The frustration is real! I only find succour in my lady and the unborn baby. These days I can't even look into her eyes because I'm the reason she's in this predicament. From her side I have no issues. Her family is all welcoming and they approve of me but it's a brick wall at my end.

Some days ago my lady was painting a senerio to me about her colleague big sister's husband that was in this same predicament as i am, according to her, the husband's went ahead and did the court wedding and later on after delivery he did the trad and the husband's family later came around and became part of his family. For my lady to say such, seems she's also thinking I should do same. It could really backfire in my case because my family really get coconut head and I might be all alone with no family to run to in times of turbulence.

I'm in at a cross road. Do you guys reckon I take my lady's opinion because I see it as the only alternative if we are to be together. If you have ever been in this scenerio kindly share your experience.

Pls help a brother. Thanks in anticipation.