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Tohsynetita1:
bottle of bear? Christians?

Why not? I'm a Christian and I take beer on a date.. maximum 2 bottles while on a date

Go and do menial job. Yes. The country is as bad. Even people wey go abroad, na menial dirty job Dem first dey do before moving up the job ladder.
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So remove I'm graduate from ya head..cos Naija no send you...do menial job for like two months...buy things for yasef, buy clothes, buy footwear, cream and all. ..
and replan how to enter job market by changing ur strategy...Be ready to learn and change strategy

CsRockefeller:
You broke another man's relationship and you are happy?

Lol. Hope it ends well with you two.

Stop talking like a simp...You can't stop a woman if she sees someone else she's more interested in
Why won't it end well? DNT have victim mentality

SultanOfPuna:
When I say older, I don't mean grandma age or below 50
I'm talking about 30+, 40+ women.
I always had a fetish for milfs or married women.
My boss at my workplace I'm naturally drawn to her and she is 40+
There is always a sexual tension between us. I sometimes see the way she stares at me and give me compliments like " you look so handsome on low cut" she keeps dropping signs of attraction. But I'm scared to make a move.
The way she looks me in the eyes and smile when I explain concepts to her.
I can see she likes me but due to what people will say, she respect herself.

The worst part is she is married, but I still want to fulfill my fantasy of having sex with her.
I don't know why I find milfs hotter than young girls... Is this normal?

It's nothing abnormal.
Since u are smart enough to detect a sexually charged signal from her...then u are not too far from suckking her boobs and fvcking that pvssy if u understand sexual tension dynamics btw a male and female
I wish it was me...I can pull those stunt with ease when I notice a woman or lady give off sexual vibe for me..it's a game I relish to play .
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1. Use your eyes..communicate with your eyes anytime u lock eyes taking with her...she will get uncomfortable and sexuallly heightened with ur confidence and sexual vibe.. there's a way u look a woman that makes her wet..lol
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2. Talk to her like u are talking with a younger lady, but don't disrespect her yet..just be funny with it and be bold.. U are only allowed to disrespect her until u are piping her and spanking her ass in doggyy style.

3. Be extremely formal when other people are around. DNT joke wit her while others are there. Be professional. Don't discuss her with other colleages or ur friends..if u try it, it's the fastest way to ur sack..cos rumors travel fast at workplace..and na da rumor fit lead to ur sack..if they ask u they notice she likes u. Tell them u have no idea..that she can never be since she's married. Deny any knowledge of it.
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4. Don't compliment her too much..but do once in a while to surprise her. And make bold compliment when she's comfortable with u.. like..saying this dress really accentuate your prominent curves and blessings ..Or your make up is somehow heavy today Ma....or you dress so good like u are having a date today . You can't make these compliment if ur friendship with her hasn't gotten to casual level. Otherwise,na sack u one chop..


5 Then occasionally make sexual innuendos when gisiting and maintain straight face, lock eyes, or somehow make a devilish subtle smile while saying it..
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...The rest can't be explained. ...u will have to follow her body language and capitalise on sexual tension btw u and her at a point in time to do certain bold stuff..like maybe peck,...subtle body touch..etc..and maybe obtain a kiss lol..u have to be bold to pull those stunt.
The last is how to invite her to ya place in a guise of wanting to host her in a party for two...in a harmless, joking manner...lol...

Guy..don't go this path if u dontknw wot u are doing or how to handle situation if it goes south.. ...Abeg u..don't ever toast her..u will ruin everything and she may come back to her senses...just keep whinning her and creating dat sexual tension..over time..u go chop thick puna

It's strange for a guy of such age and experience of 30yrs+ to not ask you out, or tries to trick you into sex for 18months despite being close to you, since u say u are pretty. Is he as naive about gals issue? I doubt since he had previous relationship according to you.
Question is, how does he get sex? For the past 18months u can't tell me he dint have sex..just as u

These are my guess

1. He may have a lady whom he's observing from afar, probably younger than 29

2. He may be fixated on marrying someone younger than 29

3. He might have seen your greenlight and feels u will come too hard on him if he asks u out, so he's probably preventing that, keeping his option open, and facing his financial goals than entangling with u.

4. He may have certain notion or misconception about you, making him not to consider you as a serious option. Yes get him to talk about his notion about you....

Raise questions about wanting an honest opinion from him about what he thinks about her in terms of career, attitude, marriage, taste, and life philosophy, that u are trying to appraise and change certain things abt ursef.

Such open ended question as this is enough to make him vomit everything he feels about u...also observe his body language, tone, excitement and emotions as he talks..make him talk..and listen..urge in on with further questions...u will get many clue. Best place to do this is at a bar after 1 or 2 bottles of beer
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5. Get him to talk abt his sex life and sex interests jsut to know how he gets sex...and don't flirt in that moment so he won't think u are trying to seduce him. Just be neutral.
Now my advice for you.
At 29, if u are serious about marriage, don't let ur 250k get into ur head. Be humble..many guys are passing through alot. If u meet a humble one who earns over 70 or 80 or 100..stop stigmatising his pay.. You don't know his history, or how much he had earned in the past. Be humble.
A man focused on his goals and vision is worth more than u can imagine. Stop being shallow.
A man earning 80k above in this current Nigeria of joblessness is not a joke.

Nancee4love:
Thank you for this.. I will have conversation with him tomorrow after church, we are in the same unit in church so I will tell him I am coming over to his house later to talk with him, I truly don't want to appear desperate before him and my heart is beating fast what if he say I see u as a friend ... I don't think my legs can carry me out of his house to my house, I may end up crying my eyes out.

Don't ask him out, DNT tell him ur salary, don't have any serious conversation with him. He knows what he's doing, he's over 30..he's not blind. His past experience is making him snub obviously rich ladies. He knows u are expensive or of high taste..and probably knows u earn high...
Just give him green light and talk abt when he intends to have a galfriend since u never saw anyone with her...
Then u can flip his jealousy switch...by saying certain guy is after u, and u are under pressure to commit to him..
Then another point...since u are 29, who knows maybe he wants someone younger..there are guys like that, who wish to settle with gals below 26

MrBrownJay1:
i believe redpillers have lost the main issue/msg... the minute a man hates all women is the minute he has lost the plot, and might as well become gay... furthermore, the fact that you automatically "wrongly assume" that they know more than me, without even listen/knowing my full message, shows exactly what i am talking about. you've been brainwashed!!!!! make your own mind, use your brain and decide whats right or wrong in ANYONE's msg... dont just follow follow everything a redpiller says, especially the garbage that some of them are spewing on NL.

I dint say they know more than you... I said I believe they know "SOME" stuff u don't know..
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Meanwhile, u may hate redpillers here for being loud and tenacious about their gospel...Likeness is a matter of choice
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.But hope you don't hate "The redpill" as a message for men sexual strategy?

MrBrownJay1:
pls dont mistake a real man with a simp... just because i dont abide by some immature childish notion that some deluded redpillers spew on NL. i dont hate women (or see them as the enemy), like many of them clueless redpillers.

What do you have against Redpillers. I believe they know some stuff u don't know

Skepticus:
Here is the link to audio revelation of Real Madrid's president revealing his player (at the time), Mesut Ozil as ignorant of women's scheming nature till his coach, Jose Mourinho red-pilled him.

I'm glad Ozil wasn't stubborn to learn like NAWALTs and love-obsessed mugus

https://www.nairaland.com/6655517/ozils-girlfriend-slept-everyone-inter#103803375

You can hardly expect anything less from a model. Model na cooperate Ashawo in disguise

A whole graduate.. u can't handle a 17 or 18 year old fresher. Too bad. You are talking of take her back, person wey don leave u behind.

1. You believe if you are nice to people and to gals, girls will also be nice to you. That seems like a common belief you've be conditioned to believe by society and religion, including nice Well, it doesn't work in dating world. Disabuse your mind from such belief. Being nice to a gal unnecesary can make her see u like a low value person who is trying hard to get her.
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2 Your Christian upbringing....
This is one of the most difficult to overcome. Your religion condition ur mind to be serious and responsible so that in future u will meet a responsible woman who will give u a happy home and love u..lol. To shock you...Life is not that straight forward, and people don't have manuals for living...
....If u apply Christianity to how ladies behave, u will only suffer ursef. So u have to learn the game. Ladies don't live by Christian moral rules when they date. E no concern them.
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3. You believe you can buy attraction or make a gal like u by being nice. A woman automatically respond to certain appearance, behavior, talking pattern and carriage in a man...if u lack it, even if u use money, ladies won't find u attractive, at best they will eat ur money and go. You have to learn that mannerism, body language and way of interracting that women find attractive. That's the difference btw guys that get gals easily and the ones that are always frustrated.
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4. You are too serious when u meet a woman: Very common for people who are desperate about getting galfriend. When you show desperation and seriousness, ladies run away..lol. you must have experienced it.
You have to be jovial, openminded, not giving a fvck and good at making fun of ladies to easily get their attention. Other than acting like a pastor who is serious to cast out demon when praying..lol
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5. You don't want to annoy a lady so u are being too careful and u apologize like a thief at little mistake...some guys will intentionally annoy a lady and laugh over it, and still find a way to talk calmness into her..and they continue where they stopped. So no big deal making her angry..the point is to know how to strike the balance and not acting like a jerk.
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6. You believe a woman is an angel, is too beautiful, is too perfect, is too decent, is too this, is too different..lol...all those bullshit to scam yasef. No matter how she presents herself..always believe someone had fvvcked her doggy in the past...Even if she's virgin....always believe she's doing sexchat with a random guy on internet...so stop making her look like an angel that u have to give all ur attention and money to impress
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