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Elder001:
Did you read the post at all

Did your own father take care of you because of child support?
Men who sent their wives packing still provide money for the upkeep of the children, did anybody tell them to pay child support?
Men have been taking care of kids since without child support.

Any man who support my ideas is worthless to be called a father?
lol... many Nigerian men know child support is a scam don't think Nigerian men for fools.
Women now use kids as bargaining chips, almost 60% of the money for child support isn't spent on the kids but the mothers use the money to sort out themselves so who do you think for a fool?

If at all Nigerian men are going to accept child support scam then it must be paid equally by both parents.. why are women so scared to accept that?

Oh the responsibility of the father is to provide money for the upkeep of the child alone while the responsibility of the mother is to pop out the Child ,bathe him/her and feed him/her?

you must be very funny if you think Nigerian men are going to accept child support scam.

Unless the courts set up accounts relating to this issue where both parents will be required to pay money into equally and the mother won't be allowed to withdraw any money, she'll specify what she want to buy for the Child and the court official in charge of the account purchases the thing for her .

y'all think you're smart. come and use money for child support to buy weaves, clothes for yourself and also sort yourself out.... no man is a fool okay.

Nobody will be against child support if it is being paid equally.

if as a woman your responsibility is to pop out kids then wait for only the man to bring money for the upkeep of the kids then you're worthless.

The funny thing is the money doesn't get spent for the kid.


don't think Nigerian men for fools.

And after all these she still decides whether you can see your children or not. Haba!. All the women posting in this thread are potential leeches who will quickly start looking for who to rob from once the law gets actualized

victorian:
Any man who supports your ideas, means he's irresponsible. And he's not worth to be called a father.

Your own kids, u don't want to take care of them, but if na to fucvk babes and impregnate them, automatic strength don come.

Smhhhh

You mean any man who supports equal responsibility is not a true father? Just say that any weak kitten guy that doesn't opt to be a slave to useless 0loshos who are looking for an easy way to get rich over a hardworking mans money. If the ladies can't take care of them let the guys keep their kids. As a man you don't need 1/20 of that money to take good care of your children

Elder001:
You obviously have comprehension issues.

I said child support should be jointly funded by both parents so what do you mean by what you just said?

Illiterate what I've achieved in life, you won't achieve it in your entire life time..

Keep trying to run away from responsibility. If child support cannot be paid equally by both parents then it's a scam.
They must jointly do that support.

Don't mind her. I'm sure she is one of those dumb gold diggers praying that the law gets passed so that she will start looking for who to trap

BossLaifay:
Silly!

Child support is exactly what it is! SUPPORT! You illeterate and your cohorts sound like the woman impregnated herself. You both created a human and you both should 'support' that human! Anything other than that is irresponsible behaviour but I don't expect you to understand. Illiterate!

You are the one displaying all kinds of illiteracy here. How many times has the op emphasized that he doesn't have a problem sharing the burden 50-50 with the wife? Our problem is that THE WEALTH OF THE MAN shouldn't be divided into 2, giving the wife half to go and enjoy her life while the husband is forced to pay her monthly. At the end of the day less than 5% of the mans money will be spent on the child while the useless gold digger lives a lavish life with the rest. This is unacceptable.

Netanyahu1:
Woman wrapper is old school, guy face your responsibilities, stop flooding the streets with idiots in the name of being a player cause you are just a nuisance to the environment, if the footballer is so stupid to not get a prenuptial agreement before marriage whose fault is that? If with all his money he can't get a good lawyer to represent him , again whose fault is that ?

Yes the north will stop it that's why alimajeri is everywhere. You that is not woman wrapper look the kind of society you admire, an environment full of stray children (your directionless) children.

I guess you are too lazy to read the statistics, keep displaying your colossal ignorance here .

http://ceceyara.org/child-sexual-abuse-statistics/

You are getting too emotional. Why can't the law simply be fair to both sexes by default? Emmanuel ebou was stupid simply because he acted like guys like you. I'm very sure he tried to be a 'nice' guy by showing her that he trusts her with all his heart. As for the almajiris you better watch your tongue because their parents acknowledge them as their kids unlike you that have baby factories. You could even be a product you know?

Netanyahu1:
When you argue with a lot of insults it shows how empty your brain is, so why did you not use a condom then, why did leave her to care for the child herself if two of you agree to have sex unprotected.

If you did not want your property shared why did you not ask for prenuptial agreement before wedding? Why did you not opt for traditional or church wedding instead of court?

The government needs to round people like you and sort out all ur kids and make sure you put them in good school and take care of them, instead of having them roaming the streets of obalande. I like to look at the faces of men like you from third world country when they realize I have just facilitated thier arrest for not paying child support. It downs on them that they are no more in Africa.

I swear this guy is a woman wrapper So what is wrong with sharing the bills 50-50?Go and read about Emmanuel ebou. The lady will go about throwing parties and going on vacations with your hard earned money while you rot in abject poverty just because the two of you had sex. And at the end of the day she decides when and how you meet your children. Its only an ass-lickerr to women that will support this.

I also expected you to counter me since you said only men maltread children or engage in domestic violence. At the end of the day you will only be fooling yourself because it will never be legalized in Nigeria. The North will stop it.

Netanyahu1:
Seriously? So you have all the time to read some idiotic thread on nairaland yet you have not come across the word sexual abuse before? Grown men deceiving and impregnating underage girls and abandoning them and the baby?

I understand what the op. Is trying to say , but men like you is the reason we actually need strong child abuse laws, domestic violence spousal abuse and iron clad child support laws in Nigeria.

For your information most guys don't need harddoon abi whatever you call him to teach them how to be players , its a simple stuff.

Keep worshipping women. So are you trying to tell us that only guys that abuse girls or what? How can a grown a$s woman agree to sleep with a man carelessly and then you try to blame it on the guy? Don't women initiate sex or attract males to it? You are foolishly letting yourself into the silly agenda of the west. Portraying women as perfect beings while everything negative is blamed on the men.

Your second paragraph shows it all. In 2018 alone I have heard more cases of women killing their spouses ( 2 from kano, the female lawyer, the one that killed the son of and ex minister and many more) i have forgotten the number of times I have heard stories of aunts burning girls for stealing meat, abusing their maids, and many more but to your brainwashed self its only men that are guilty. You also talk as if men are the only cheats in Nigeria. Stop all that gentleman bullsh!t and tell yourself the truth

Netanyahu1:
Seriously? So you have all the time to read some idiotic thread on nairaland yet you have not come across the word sexual abuse before? Grown men deceiving and impregnating underage girls and abandoning them and the baby?

I understand what the op. Is trying to say , but men like you is the reason we actually need strong child abuse laws, domestic violence spousal abuse and iron clad child support laws in Nigeria.

For your information most guys don't need harddoon abi whatever you call him to teach them how to be players , its a simple stuff.

Keep worshipping women. So are you trying to tell us that only guys that abuse girls or what? How can a grown a$s woman agree to sleep with a man carelessly and then you try to blame it on the guy? Don't women initiate sex or attract males to it? You are foolishly letting yourself into the silly agenda of the west. Portraying women as perfect beings while everything negative is blamed on the men.

Your second paragraph shows it all. In 2018 alone I have heard more cases of women killing their spouses ( 2 from kano, the female lawyer, the one that killed a politicians son, etc) than the reverse. As for child abuse I can't recall how many times I have heard stories of aunts burning girls for stealing meat, abusing their maids, and many more but to your brainwashed self its only men that are guilty. You also talk as if men are the only cheats in Nigeria. Stop all that gentleman bullsh!t and tell yourself the truth

Xander85:
Looks like the thread isn't getting as much traction and enough anti-Oduah comments as you had hoped, so you want to help stoke the flames by throwing in a few caustic and snide comments! That should get things moving a bit abi?

You'll find out how she got all these companies, properties and funds just as soon as you find out where Tinubu, Otedola and Jimoh Ibrahim got theirs!

There seems to be a linking thread joining sad gits who create Buhari/APC propaganda threads and chronic Igbo haters! Quite easy to see!

So criticizing a thief is now equivalent to hating igbos! Mujtahida this guy needs your advice.

Even ojukwu that caused the war made it clear that he doesn't want another war and one useless bleached cow who has never seen a banger before was thinking that he could wage war against Nigeria. Unfortunately, he ended up running away like the way hoe-jukwu dressed like a hooker and fled the country. What a shame.

how stupid does this sound to you? "Drop your nuclear weapons and get our protection"

If they needed US security they wouldn't have started the project in the first place. If the US could invade Iraq in order to stop their nuclear program(according to them) what's stopimg them from invading NK?

emmysoftyou:
will you shut up and stop judging the almighty God like that. If you want to know more, read more on genesis to exodus, this is a conflict that is eternal and everlasting among Israelites and her proximity nations.
Oga if you think you are being philosophical about the fact then you need to read more on Jean Paul satre. We're facing the existence of his words.

where was your god when Hitler was dealing with his chosen people? And why does he support Israel that is full of homosexuality and sodomy while ignoring hardcore Christians in Africa?

Mujtahida:
I agree with you that both North and south have problems (and I've said so since when I said that the south is poo) .

Now that I have agreed with you I hope you are satisfied. Oya go and face the problem of the North(nothing scares you more than this though)

Good. Don't forget to do the same for your region

Mujtahida:
Why are you like this? Are you really so hard of understanding. So okay they are worse than the northerners. Has that solved your problems in the North?

If you would lead I really weep. Cos your thinking is twisted. Nothing can repair it.

Cos I've tried( and I am tired) to direct your mind to face the issues affecting the North but your joy is compare the North with the South. Continue

I think you are the one with a twisted mindset. The aim is to make it clear to you that the north is not the SOLE problem of Nigeria. simple

Mujtahida:
What happened? I have not been online

An educated family in the south took a mad member to a prophet instead of a hospital for healing and unfortunately, The pastor denied the mad man food and water for 7 days and flogged him to death. How are they different from the uneducated northerners?

Mujtahida:
Stop being crass. It's low. Both southerners and Northerners are all Nigerians and if you cannot see it like that then no need talking to you.

I have never blamed the south for anything. But how funny does it sound to you saying that the north is the reason for what just happened now?

Mujtahida come and see what your advanced and civilized southerners are doing.

Elder001:
The most provocative thing is these ladies now see the kids as bargaining chips.
The money for child support they use it to sort out themselves.

Don't mind the gold diggers. That is how Emanuel Eboue, a great footballer lost all of his money after divorce to a woman who contributed nothing to his fortune. The silly men that are supporting it should go and read about him

Mujtahida:
To say the North is pulling the country back is no blame game. It's reality.

But that aside - lift your people up. Is it really so much painful for you to face your people and lift them up? Chai, Northern Nigeria is in soup. Didn't you read me where I said that the south is poo. I've lived in the North, schooled in ABU. Worked in the West. Nigeria is a broken country. But the central issue is until each region, every leader assumes responsibly for the upliftment of their people we will not make progress. So long as comparisons especially negative ones continue to dominate our political discourse we will not move forward. That's why I kept saying forget the south. Not forget as per that they are perfect. Forget as per face your problems. If you were from the south, I'd change my position and tell you to forget the North and face your people.

I never mentioned Buhari but since you have brought him in just know this: in 2015 I voted with passion for him but today I detest the man with everything inside me.

As for Islam I ask is it not Islam that they are practicing in Dubai? In Saudi Arabia, in Indonesia? Before you point me to Christianity just know I am not a Christian. I detest all religions

There you go again! You are talking from both sides of your mouth so kindly compare your first and 3rd paragraph. As an atheist is it not the same atheism that is being practiced in China, Russia, etc? Forget western propaganda even North Korea with all the sanctions is doing better than Nigeria. I'm not saying that the North is perfect but it isn't more guilty than any other region in Nigeria. What have you done about your problems in the south?

They are known for Yahoo business. Maybe he is a brother to the late namdi cownu

Netanyahu1:
I pay child support, Am not complaining. The effect it has on me is that am zipping it . if the child support law in Nigeria is effective men won't be inpregnating innocent girls at the slightest opportunity.

Some men won't be having 10 children from 5 women.

What do you mean by innocent? Are they raping them? Start reading Harddon threads fast before you become a slave to women

nancyv:
I really doubt you are sane.You are the most worthless and senseless person I have encountered in this forum

seun

aureen:
Copycat, this shows how I have influence you , May your daughters and grand daughters marry a disgusting old fool like you.

mynd44

SalamRushdie:
I did not say Lamido is popular in the north but Buhari is not a popular as before

You will be shocked to coma come 2019. The surprises will overwhelm your ipob brain

FriendNG:
Tonyebarcanista come and see how Buhari will humiliate PDP in the north.

That guy never learns. He will soon tell you that the report is fake

Mujtahida:
You are not getting the point but you still wallowing in the cesspit I'm trying to pull you out from. I feel like knocking some sense into your numbskull. The south is shit. Yes. So what then? Because the south is shit all we have to do is to continue blaming each other? How long have we as a nation engaged in blame games and where has it taken us to? I told you forget the south. Are you not seeing how lagos is forgetting what is going on in other states and forging it's own path? But of course you don't want to do the hard painful work of taking responsibility, getting down to ground and lifting the consciousness of your people (and they are my people too cos we are all Nigerians)
If you are a person of influence and this is how you reason then we are going down into the deepest depths of hell. You have no single concern for your people. They exist to be used as pawns in the political chess board, as instruments for garnering votes and nothing more. They are not human beings to you. They are mere numbers. If not why can't you face the ills and the privation your people suffer, why can't you acknowledge it and say yes these things: poverty, illiteracy, disease, low thinking exists in my land but I will work to make my people educated, I will fight for better health care, for education, for food sufficiency, for industrialization. No, you won't do this. It's the goddamn hard Road. Instead you sulk like a spoilt child refusing to do his assignment and say 'daddy Bako also refused to do his assignment therefore you must excuse me'. Instead of you to see it as an opportunity to man up and be responsible. I feel angry and sad cos I perceive you are a leader but your thinking, your mentality is tragically poor, and almost irredemably shallow. You can never raise your people. You will only eat and drink and carry your kunu filled stomach from one political party to another, shouting political slogans and deceiving your people and then one day you will die. No change, no impact. And your people would be poorer and even more broken because somebody like you led them.

Why can't you dream, dream a dream so big, so terrifying that once it touches the hearts of your people they will rise and within five years discover the wealth and potential that is buried there lying for inspiration to bring it to reality. Dream Bro. Alhaji dream. Forget the south. They have their issues but you can never make progress if you continue looking at them instead of taking responsibility and lift your people. Shikena. Kaa ji ko?

When I took a first glance at this post I initial ly thought you were going to type like someone with a brain but alas!

You are suddenly acting as if I initiated the blame games. You were the first to say that the North is pulling Nigeria backwards while completely exonerating the south. isn't that the same blame game you are hypocritically talking about now? Wait until you solve the problems in your region first before you start trying to correct others. I made it clear that the north is imperfect and even went further to explain that "every region contributes to the retrogression in Nigeria". There was nothing like that in your post. You are trying to act as of the south is made up of top-notch perfect humans while the north sabotage their works. I mentioned several issues prevalent in the South but no you don't care about that. The only thing you know is the North and its problems. The Lagos that you are beating your chest about had been the capital of Nigeria for many decades and states like Kaduna and Kano are also enjoying the kind of leadership in Lagos. And don't tell me that out of the 17 southern States its only Lagos that you can talk about

Remove oil from Nigeria and let's see how the north and your south will survive. That proves my earlier assertion that we are all pulling the country back. Instead of you to be thinking of How to move Nigeria forward, you are blaming the North, Islam and Buhari

aureen:
Spy how much were you paid to write this? Who sent you? Why kill your concience because of money.

How am I killing my conscience? I don't mind spending on my child but what will he need 50% of my income for (Assuming I am worth billions of naira)? Won't I get more children.

aureen:
Just know this now for the fact that you call yourself an elder on nairaland(A strategy you use so people can swallow whatever you push down their throat except your family members is very obvious) doesn't mean your opinions are 100% perfect/genuine/correct or you are perfect and better than anyone.

The rule is if you don't have the capacity to care for a child's emotional/physical/financial needs, have a plan for their future, how they can become great in the society then don't bring them into this world to suffer.

You are not my role model no matter how old you think you are.

I think you have comprehension problems. The op made it clear that he is not against child support but against the nature of the laws. If Dangote were to get into that trap he would be forced to pay over 5 billion dollars to a woman who contributed nothing to his wealth and still pay her salaries? What kind of child will need this money? And at the end of the day the useless gold digger will use it to live luxurious lifestyle while dangote gets bankrupt and even go to jail. It has happened to so many celebrities. Google it.

Deji63:
Why fear dey grip you like this? What is there in supporting your own child? . Use condom una no dey hear word. Now to face the consequences of your action you dey fear fear lol. Never have kids with a woman you do not love and who will not stand the test of time. So enlighten us. How is child suport a scam? To me it will reduce baby mamaism because people will have more responsible sexual relationships when they know they will be forced into facing their shi*t.

How much does a child need that you will have to lose half of your hard-earned money and even pay salaries to a lazy woman?

tonididdy:
glory glory the blues

The match will turn to rugb. I will choose any of them and simply knock him out. I will gladly take the red card

Mujtahida:
It's more telling in the North. Go and raise your people. Free them from ignorance and poverty of the mind. Forget about the south. Concentrate on your people. Are you happy the way they are. What kind of Islam do you people practice. Is it different from the Islam practiced in Saudi Arabia, Egypt, Indonesia, Singapore, Qatar, Malaysia and other developed countries? Face your people and raise their consciousness. Who says the North cannot be far ahead of the south? But if you keep pointing fingers at the south and saying oooo, you too you are like this, you are like that, you will never take responsibility for the human refuse bin the North has turned into. Remember Ahmadu Bello combined the politics of power with the politics of development. Today's crop of Nigerian politicians especially those from the North think exclusively in terms of power devoid of development. Power must return to the North, power must return to the North, it is our turn to have power, it must stay with us till 2023. You have power but look at your people, look at our people. Don't they deserve a better life?

Wow I can see the way you have left the North be and focused on developing the south. Why can't the south look at countries like Israel, Britain, USA and try to be like them instead of blaming everything on Northern Nigeria? Mention ONE southern governor that is different from his northern counterparts. Is it Fayose that distributes rice or rochas that builds statues?There are many of countries with ZERO oil yet they are far more developed than the south. By how much is the south more developed than the north? we are in the same poo and every region contributes to the retrogression you are trying to blame the North entirely on. Is it the north that pushes you to protest on behalf of politicians under trial, welcome convicted thieves back to the country expect the govt to do everything for them?. You have thousands of ritualists, pirates that discourage hardwork, Cultists, Yahoo boys, conmen calling themselves pastors, Drug puahers but no you prefer to blame everything on the north. Your people believe that pastors can revive the dead yet its the northerners that are back-ward thinking. You are the champions in exam malpractice and jungle justice administration. The moment you quit being a bigot and accept reality that you are totally unproductive just like the northerners, the better for you. How many christian African countries are doing well today if Islam is responsible for the backwardness of Africa?

AgentOfDarkness:
Shut up with your propaganda, I watch Palestine videos where they lie down as if they are dead while taking pictures to show the world, in the video so of the so called dead bodies started scratching their body,

Israel belongs to Jews
Palestinians can go to hell

No probs. Benue Christians should also go to hell. Their farms shall continue feeding Fulani herdsmen