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Original post at https://passionresolve.com/2016/08/04/when-a-woman-is-really-loved/

She is easy to spot from the crowd whether or not she is loud or quiet. Her passion tends to fill up the room and her energy can be felt by anyone and everyone whether they know her or not, whether she is sitting quietly by a table or jumping around chatting with random strangers. She affects people as she herself has been affected by someone. It's not necessarily her beauty or her charm that gives her away, it's her inner glow, a kind of inexplicable gracefulness that seems to have descended on her lately. People try to tell her but they can't quite figure out what words to use to describe it, so they say with a smile "you seem kinda different. What's your secret cos I'd like to have what you're having" to which she smiles gracefully, knowing the secret but not telling. Her anger doesn't hold for long anymore, for she is so easily pacified; a simple apology, a funny joke, a tickle on her sides, a peck on her cheek, anything would do the trick. She has a drive and seems highly motivated now. She is more focused and passionate about her dreams and ambitions. She is more generous than usual. There's a secret excitement always underlining her daily life; like there's something exciting waiting for her somewhere.


She is not a feminist, for feminists are women that are either desperate for real love, betrayed by love, afraid of love, or unlovable, regardless of what they may try to portray or what you think of them. She is docile around him because he has tamed her, and she likes the fact that he knows her buttons and presses them whenever duty calls. Yes, he controls her and she loves it. Perhaps because he controls her with Love and NOT tyranny, and perhaps because he has proven to her that he has her best interest in mind, and she figures: why rebel against someone who is only trying make her as beautiful and as accomplished as she can be. So she surrendered everything to him. She feels like a complete woman now, a feeling women only feel through a man. Gone are the days when she used to delude herself and pretend everything was fine just the way it was. Flushed are her previous beliefs that more money or fulfilling her ambitions would be enough to complete her. She knows better now and is grateful for the knowledge- this experience- an experience she cherishes more that anything else- a man she would do more than anything for.

Pictures, full article, and similar talks, see: https://passionresolve.com

Temmymulla:
Thanks for your response on my thread... about your questions.

1. I've been heartbroken several times...

2. I am a graduate who doesn't have a job yet but I run a little laundry business of my own pending the time I get a job.

3. The girl was someone I met through a friend, 5yrs ago but recently we connect on facebook and we exchanged contact. She's an undergraduate of Osun state university. She often complains to me about her bf that he's too nosy and I try to be a good friend and I advice her, but as for me, I don't have a relationship at the moment.

This are the answers to the question, if there's more I'd gladly answer them..

Okay. So it's a long distance thing. plus, according to your 3rd answers it seems your relationship with this girl has not even taken off officially. Anyway, this is what's happening in a nutshell: you're pushing her away, as usual!

I know you probably don't get how that statement makes sense but listen,:

If any two people are attracted to eachother, but one person's attraction becomes too hot too early, the other person would begin to back off and lose interest. It doesn't make sense but that's just the way we humans were created.

So, that was your error. And from your answer number 1 I'm sorry it's going to keep happening because it's a cycle: you're getting close to a girl or u even start dating her, everything seems to be going fine until YOU start worrying that something would go wrong and she would leave you, this fear makes you begin to act clingy or jealous or controlling or all of the above, she begins to back off and maybe give you attitude because of your annoying behavior, you panic that your fears are coming true so you try even harder to appease her attitude, she gets angrier and maybe leaves or becomes cold to you, you conclude that God doesn't like you that's why he's bringing heartbreaker girls your way. But really, it wasn't her; it was YOU!

My advice: you are not ready for the dating world. You need to first subdue your fears and learn to not need any girl in your life before you even try to date one. As for this one you're talking about, just forget she even exists. This is not to spite her, because, really, she didn't do anything wrong; shes just being human. But it's you who needs to write-off relationships for now. You're like a wounded animal who has to lie down somewhere and heal properly before trying to hunt another animal again. If you date any girl now, she will literally become the centre of your universe and that may be too much responsibility for the lady. Im not asking you to get busy with work cos that's just trying to hide from your problem. I'm asking you to find your passion, your joy, what makes you tick, then devote yourself to it. You can save up some money and take a trip to a random new place (not your village o) because new experiences help to open up ur mind and you may just find your passion. You'll become happier and it will heal you. Then I promise you that any girl you get involved with will be complaining that you don't have her time- because you're too busy loving your life!

If u still need more advice Go to https://passionresolve.com/project-lora/
It's only for Ladies but u might be an exception. Take care!

Upaka:
U need lullaby

https://passionresolve.com/project-lora/


#JustSaying

People are commenting here instead cos it's finer. Lol

https://passionresolve.com/2016/08/03/bedroom-talk-is-the-female-condom-a-lost-cause/comment-page-1/#comment-28

Okay. I guessed as much. This is a typical instance when it comes to boy-girl relationships. Sometimes it's the girl who begins to panic that she's losing the guy. And it only gets worse unless you quickly control things before it's too late. Okay let's talk:

1. Have you been heartbroken by a girl before?

2. Are you a student or working? What do you do with your time?

3. Tell me a bit about this girl and your relationship.


Lets start from there.

See full discussion with pictures here: https://passionresolve.com/2016/08/03/bedroom-talk-is-the-female-condom-a-lost-cause/


Hi Dearie,

Being a guy evidently makes it impossible for me to speak too assuredly on matters that are all so feminine, so please, riddle me this:

I’ve always been skeptical of the logic behind the female Condom. As I see it, the female Condom is bound to get slippery and crumple, shrink or disappear into vagina during intercourse. And if this happens, what then is stopping the sperm from taking a corner route into the uterus to impregnate the lady, and what is stopping the partners from catching STDs since all the pvssy juices would have mixed with the man’s own fluids anyway. Does this invention make any sense? The male Condom, being a necessary evil, is already annoying as it is so why bother inventing something even more annoying in a bid to help matters.

Dearie, what do you think about this? Have u used it and have a contrary opinion, or would you confirm my curious suspicion that the reason why most ladies don’t use it is because they hate haTe HATE the mere thought of wearing one?!

https://passionresolve.com/2016/08/03/bedroom-talk-is-the-female-condom-a-lost-cause/

mizzbouqui:
Saw this somewhere
But he is not at fault tho

it's simple. The guy is trying to make a point. The girl is probably never certain of what she wants and she's always saying "I dont know" and it annoys him. So he's just being sarcastic about it. Nice technique tho. #Love it

Temmymulla:
I have a friend of the opposite sex, we've been friend for a long time but we just recently got close and am starting to get used to her. I miss her when she doesn't chat with me, I feel I have an incomplete day when I don't talk to her. Recently she's not been that friend anymore, I think am getting attracted to her.

Please nairalanders and the proffesional with matters of the heart should please help me.

Hello, you need to be more elaborate with your exact challenge when youre asking for advice. Do you feel like she's losing interest in you or you're worried you're falling in love or, what exactly is the problem?

Next time pls stand your ground bro. Fuckkk what anybody thinks abt you, yes, but always defend your truths! You should have stood up and yelled over the sound of everyone, commanding them to shut the fuckkk up. They will for a moment. Then you face that girl and tell her that she was very dumb to have slapped you because that's the fellow who did it (since u saw him anyway). Then demand an immediate apology before she even thinks of facing that dude or anything. Speak with full authority and the world would have to listen to you. That's how it works. I know this cos I've done it before. Just dont let fear or shyness get to you at that moment.