₦airaland Forum

Starcrest1:
I don't know why this is funny but I feel Isa El buba should be smarter than this.

The only three serious contenders are OBI ATIKU AND TINUBU. No other person has the resources for this coming election.

Anybody supporting any other person than these three is actually a joke.

If you check very well na APC or Atiku boys de push this narrative. Now, now Adebanjo don become the best candidate with a better vision for Nigeria. Anyway, na better Nigeria we want irrespective of the vessel God uses to accomplish that.

madridguy:
This is so funny and you think our leaders will believe there's hunger in the land. The Police should arrest the lady for wasting the eggs when many are hungry

Try read before commenting…unless you’re a Ghanaian.

BarrElChapo:
While she’s right, I wonder why she didn’t wait to marry a guy her age, rather she’s married to a wealthy guy almost twice her age.

How’s that your business? Most thoughtful women I know would want to marry someone older than them. Because of a fact, most older men are more experienced and emotionally stable than younger men and also most women age faster than men.

dominique:
She made a lot of sense but this one that she's calling her husband "this man", hope there no trouble in paradise o.

Online in-law, Is “this man “ your brother?

tunapawizzy:
If they want to behave like animals, that is their problem.
If home is conducive, Nigerians wont have to deal with their behaviour

They ignorance of the black race is something to behold. Human rights and empathy seem to be far from our collective consciousness. People all over the world travel and migrate to other parts of the world where they believe they have better chances at succeeding. The Chinese, Indians and Filipinos have the highest immigrant population in Canada. Yet we no de hear word over Japa in Nigeria. As if Nigerians are the only ones travelling. All these garagara in South Africa is only targeted towards blacks. Isn’t that shameful?

Babatunjo:
The thing about insecurity is that it will embarrass any government. All your other achievements become less meaningful. Your supporters start looking at you like a weak leader.

One of the major problems with insecurity in most African states is government complicity. If government people’s (politicians) hand dey am, it dey hard to solve.

tunjijones:
If na for south west them do this one, the sAdeast people will wail till heaven falls.

Sorry pal, but you don’t have a point. Soludo in recent times have shown to be anti SE and is obviously a closet APC member.

What is wrong with this one? How can you compare what happened in Oyo state to Biafra day? And why must you mention it in the first place? Everything no be politics na. What is bad is bad irrespective of the region where it happened. Learn to be a human!

Counterigbolies:
Many people from here don't care about this n how it affects people but they all care about oyo all of a sudden

Ijele have made a million videos of how people aren't happy about this and it affect their everyday life but people from their don't care since it's not oyo or Lagos or Ibadan.


Hospitals and other emergency services won't open today and they really don't care, let it happen for 5 minutes in Lagos and people from here will want to turn the world upside down

The hypocrisy is too loud

Amerengues2:
Most of those commenting don't understand the gimmicks and antics at play.

This is, though a genuine concern but largely a pretext to the real challenge.

There are growing concerns in the UK, US etc for local manufacturers, Amazon, eBay, NEXT, Argos, Curry etc. Since the advent of Temu, most of the sales of these big companies have kinda dwarfed compared to projections.

Their complaints, though genuine, arose from cost of production. Temu is super cheap because of the model and the exemption from the UK company for some goods and value of items.

1) Temu is Manufacturers to Consumer- it takes a lot to beat that

2) 90% of Temu Sellers don't pay for logistics- they only take their goods to Temu Warehouse in China thereby selling at a ridiculously low fee as Temu helps ship to their destination country.

3) Once you are a seller, you can't raise your price down once it's set and the algorithm is designed to always serve you lowest prices first hence the cheap prices and this drives down sales and lower demand on other companies like Amazon, eBay, etc.

4) Temu is intentionally currently running at a loss to capture the market. This is largely disruption big companies as they've amassed a good proportion of the market share.

Etc. I can keep typing and typing....I found out all these recently when I went into deep research.

Temu is popular in climes where prices come before quality and safety. Unfortunately, European companies can’t gamble on selling toxic junks to their consumers. Lawsuits arising from such actions would bankrupt them.

Fansa25:
You dey see these mumu men? These are one of the reasons why the xenophobic South Africans are chasing them from their country.

It’s not so. Gangs exist in most major cities of the world. Canada get am, America get am…There was a time Italian mafia was terrorizing America and yet I didn’t hear that there was a xenophobic attack on Italians.Cultism and gangs are bad but don't because of bigotry throw your people under the bus. It fit reach you or your own tomorrow.

MrJames007:
Ok.

But I guess it also depends on the state of the car. But then it’s common sense one can’t drive around in a car without windshield for example.

MrJames007:
No be 9ja. You don't drive it like that.

I have heard of guys that drove salvaged cars from the dump, in another city ,to a workshop in their city of residence for repairs. You only need to get a temporary license/registration for that. I am talking about Canada.

TayoT:
you may need to pay for forklift if it's RORO. If it's container, no problem. Good car

Why pay for forklift if the car runs and drives?

IronCondemned:
Oga I am a staunch Peter Obi supporter but that doesn't make me not to critique him when I see something going wrong.

Obi should move around his Southern base, enter the Western heartland and build support base by choosing leaders there who can mobilise grass roots support for him.
Also, enter the South South, South East and build same base, dislodge APC structure even if he will not take all, at least take reasonable numbers. Akwa Ibom, Rivers, Cross River, Delta and Edo needs serious grass root support base. Stop depending only on Obidients and crowds that cheer you whenever they see you. Educate these people on the need to go and register and get voters cards.

A hungry man will vote for that one thousand naira and Tinubu evil rice because that's the only thing that he knows at that moment. Educate the electorate on why they don't have to do that. Build leaders at the grass roots, provide logistics support, not sharing money as we all know that he will never give money but at least open offices by supporting them with funds.

A stitch in time saves nine.

Nigerians neva ready for positive change. Obi should go around reorienting Nigerians on what good governance is, abi? Dem neva suffer finish.

IronCondemned:
HONESTLY!
Peter Obi is not serious. I have been asking this same question, does he want everything to be delivered to him on the platter of gold? Even in the US, Trump had to fight hard if not they would have rigged him out again.

I ask again, what is he moving up and down like cholera going to other countries for photo shoots with crowds that won't vote on election day instead of meeting people at home, speak out with strong tone and contest this concoction of primary election because it is a pre rigging strategy.

While Kwankwaso is in his region building base and handing over flags, Obi won't haven’t done anything on ground. He is banking on Obidients movement who mostly don't have voters cards. Man really need to learn Nigerian kind of politics where the strong take it by force.

You and Ironface are obviously same. Why attack Obi? Is he the only one in the opposition? What about the mighty Atiku? It’s clear that you are on a smear campaign.

HacheNoire:
Only someone who is not familiar with politics will be shocked.

Kwankwanso is a featherweight that can only move a LGA. Outside his LGA, even Portable from the West will defeat him.

His association with Peter destroyed what is left of his political reputation.

Na so! The same man APC courted for months, which purportedly lead to what happened to Ganduje? Abeg say something else.

Bimpe29:
I am telling you. It seems the perceived Messiah are even worse than the assumed devil/tyrant. We are in for a long ride of President Bola Ahmed Tinubu.

Don’t be deceived, it was the possibility of Peter Obi joining the coalition that made seem desirable to Nigerians. Nigerians already know their enemies and destroyers …

jogojogo:
I thought Naija has got to the point where everybody is hungry and none can afford this machine. Sorry, are you based in Ghana or Benin

There are millionaires in Somali and South Sudan , if you don’t know. The state of the nation is determined by the condition of the “masses” not a few privileged individuals. Nigeria is rich with natural resources that yield billions of dollars daily. But this money is not trickling down to the populace as it should. Hence the high poverty rate.

Blacks ehhh. Go back and read your comment again? Because you believed that it’s Igbo that are victimized you have already started blaming and selling them out ,even without considering their complaints. That’s why people of all races would come to Nigeria and turn the citizens to modern day slaves in the name of job creation and no one will say anything about it…what goes around comes around!

Counterigbolies:
Nigerians misbehave a lot n that's y they face issues like this

If people can travel many miles only to come to another man's land n call it no man's land, tell me wetin Dem no fit do again?

Same people who go to other people's place to do crime only?

press9jatv:
Check out the pictures of Arsenal Captain, Odegaard Carrying EPL trophy for winning this year 2025/2026 season. Congratulations to the best team in the World 🌍. Congratulations 🎉🎊 to Arsenal FC .

Who is the Nigerian looking brother in the fourth photo?

Person die and your are only concerned with what bloggers called him. Btw, you no know say una naira don fall yakata?

Factoryfitted:
Small thing una Don call billionaire. Na so billion come cheap for naija?

Like I said, learn to apportion blames correctly. Your country has leaders, hold them accountable. All of una want awoof from business people that are paying multiple taxes to government but fail to hold your government accountable.

Believeintruth:
Oga stop all these mischief abeg. How do you explain that Nigeria is the only country in the world that the price increase in fuel prices was by more than 60% whereas ivory coast that imports didn't even increase by that large gap and we are a crude oil producing nation. Even US that is pro capitalist didn't increase by that large gap. Make una dey fear God

Learn to apportion blames rightly. Inasmuch as I agree with about Nigerians and greed, this one is a global issue. Even taxi drivers and most other transporters have also increased their fares…

flokii:
Most business owners in Nigeria operate from the standpoint of greed, nothing else.. their target is to reap Nigerians off by every means possible. It's the reason you'd hardly find them existing in other African countries. Imagine Air Peace going to South Africa or UK to increase air fares the way he is doing in Nigeria, that'll be the end for his business.

Nigerians are very wicked people who love to capitalize on every situation to hurt their fellow countrymen.

Which black man you see sleeping outside in winter without shelter in Canada? Make una slow down with the exaggeration abeg. Anyway, 15 million naira won’t get him anywhere in the Canada of today, as a new immigrant(student).

LordBiden:
Life in Canada too is uncertain,there are many out there sleeping outside in the cold without accomodations, without jobs.

Na you be the content creator with this your made up story. Your no nonsense uncle no fit stop his wife from misbehaving…

KnowledgePower7:
Never Marry A Female Content Creator

Anytime I go on Facebook I always see my uncle wife misbehaving online and calling it content creator

All her life is documted in video.
She shares screenshot of private messages online

Any small thing she run to social media and tell the whole world what happened.
Imagine she video her son breastfeeding and uploaded it. A very private moment

Now my uncle was seen as a no nonesense man, but the way this woman talk too much about their personal things is baffling.
She will even post after they had sex🙄

There is no single privacy

Then the one that burst my head was when she started uploading sexy pictures with half revealing clothes😤😤 A married woman oo

I used a burner account to advice her to stop doing this and she insulted me and blocked me.

The husband go dey work
Him wife go dey embarrass the whole family online in the name of content creators
Now the respect for this man don reduce because he now looks like a weak man and the wife looks like she is running the show

I suspect say na because of this man make Atiku no wan step down. The man go wan be president too and won’t step down for Atiku now nor in 2031. Because after Tinubu na dat time political war go start for as per who go succeed him from the north. Kwankwaso has nothing to lose as it is…even if Obi no win, he can easily be in the good books of Obidients. But Atiku don make himself a spoiler…

Dogalmighty17:
Why is he wearing an earring though?

Na where you see earring? He is likely wearing an earpiece.

2mch:
Lmao. Social media warrior. Honestly that 3 votes na big insult. Senate don tire for the disgrace you brought to the hallowed chambers. You were trafficking underage, fighting her publicly like a market woman, allegation of drugs and abuse. Even your brothers and village people no like you. You became a liability quickly that lack class enough to sit with those men in that chamber.

You dont see how akpabio quickly tried to dead his own issue? You were busy arresting people illegally and fighting on social media.

Which senate are you talking about?

Iyeku:
Not peculiar to only one political party, other political parties do the same , it's Nigeria nothing different. Go to South East same thing happening there

You people need help walahi! Wetin concern south east with what APC is doing to itself? Because someone stole means that stealing should be treated as a way of life?

Luckysbab:
Change that US to Nigeria and Trump to Tinubu, everywhere go be yam pepper scatter.

Ndi Saner clime

Funny Nigerians! American corruption favours there country, whereas Naija own de enter politicians pockets. That’s the difference…

How on earth would you be able to experience all of the mentioned stages when you are not in a marriage covenant? Unless you were in a common law relationship aka cohabitating before marriage.

Avedonn:
Not all marriages go through the listed stages. Some couples have already experienced all of the mentioned stages while they were dating, unless they were pretending with each other during that time, or they got married after only a few months of dating.

That said, I believe most marriages fail because of boredom. Doing the same things every day for years, without any spontaneity, kills the thrill.

Living according to the dictates of the Bible will save humanity all these long epistle.

Brownlumi:
Does a very sexually experienced person have a higher chance of cheating in marriage than a sexually restrained/inexperienced person?

Short answer:

Yes — but not automatically, and not for the simplistic reason many people think.
Because the real issue is not merely:
“How many people has this person slept with?”

The deeper issue is:
“What kind of habits, beliefs, appetites, and emotional wiring has that sexual history built into the person?”

That’s the real question.

And this is where the conversation becomes very interesting.


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Let’s break it down properly, the theory basically says:
“If someone has been highly sexually active with many people before marriage, won’t that make it harder for them to suddenly become sexually exclusive after marriage?”
That is a very reasonable thought because human beings are not robots.

You don’t spend years training one pattern of living and then expect marriage ring to suddenly perform miracle surgery on your instincts.

That’s not how people work.

If someone has spent years in a lifestyle of:
novelty, multiple partners, casual access, secret meetings, emotional detachment, thrill-based intimacy, low restraint, high sensual stimulation
…then yes: that person may carry those grooves into marriage.

That’s not “judgment.” That’s just how conditioning works.

Why past sexual behaviour can increase cheating risk

There are several reasons.

1) Habit formation: This is the biggest one. When someone repeatedly lives a certain way, it becomes normal to them. So if a person has lived by: “follow chemistry”, “if I feel like it, I do it” “I can separate body from commitment”, “private pleasure is not a big deal”…then marriage does not automatically erase those mental grooves.
This is why I believe:
Marriage does not create character. It reveals and tests it.
A wedding can give: structure, legitimacy, companionship, accountability. But it does not magically produce: discipline, integrity, restraint, self-governance. Those things must already be growing in the person.

2) Sexual novelty can become part of their appetite: This one is huge and people don’t talk about it honestly enough. Some people are not just attracted to sex itself, they become attached to: newness, variety, the chase, the forbidden, being desired by different people etc. That is a different beast entirely because now the issue is not:
“I need sex.”
It becomes:
“I need stimulation, novelty, validation, conquest, or excitement.”

And marriage, by design, is stable but novelty addiction feeds on: unpredictability, secrecy, new bodies, fresh emotional chemistry, ego validation. So yes:
someone heavily trained on novelty may struggle more with exclusivity.
That’s very real.

3) The person may have weakened their “internal brakes”: This one is psychological and spiritual. Every time someone crosses a line and keeps crossing it, one of two things happens. Either:
they feel conviction and turn back
Or
they normalize it. And once something becomes normalized, it stops feeling “serious.”
So if someone has repeatedly done: sneaky relationships, cheating, casual intimacy,
emotionally overlapping relationships,
…then over time their conscience can become less alarmed by those behaviours.
So yes, repeated sensual looseness can reduce moral sensitivity. That is a real thing.
And that matters more than people admit.

4) They may confuse desire with destiny
: Some people are trained by life to believe:
“If I feel strongly, it must be meaningful.”
That’s dangerous. Because in marriage, you will still meet very attractive people, emotionally interesting people, people who “get you,” people who spark chemistry.
If your whole pre-marital life trained you to treat chemistry as a green light, then yes, you may be more vulnerable to cheating.
Why?
Because marriage requires the ability to say:
“This feeling is real… but it is not a command.”

That is maturity. And not everyone has built it.
But now let me balance it, because this is where many people become too simplistic.
MEANWHILE...

Sexual history does NOT automatically mean the person will cheat
And this is very important because some people hear:
“Body count matters”
…and then jump to:
“Ah! Once she has a past, she can never be faithful.”
That’s nonsense.
Too simplistic.
Too online, and of course
Too Nairaland 😄

Because some very sexually active people genuinely change deeply.

And some sexually inexperienced or “innocent-looking” people still become terrible cheaters.

So the real issue is not merely:
“How much have they done?”
but
“Who have they become?”
That’s the deeper thing. A low sexual past does not automatically mean faithfulness. This is the part many men miss badly.
A person can be “novice” and still cheat later if they are: emotionally hungry, validation-starved, immature, entitled, resentful, easily influenced, thrill-seeking, conflict-avoidant, lacking self-control. So a low sexual history can lower certain risks… but it does not guarantee fidelity.
Why?
Because cheating is often not just about sex.
It is often about: ego, loneliness, fantasy, revenge, attention, resentment, boredom, emotional hunger, poor boundaries.
That’s why some people with “clean” histories still derail.
So What predicts cheating better than “body count” alone?
If you want to estimate whether someone is more likely to cheat, these are more useful questions than just:
“How many people have they slept with?”

1) How do they talk about boundaries? Do they think: “Nothing is wrong with harmless flirting”, “I can handle myself”, “It’s not cheating unless sex happens”, “My partner is insecure." That’s a red flag because cheating often starts long before physical action. It starts in permission structures.
2) How do they handle desire? Can they say:
“Yes, I’m attracted, but no.”
Or do they live by:
“If I feel it strongly enough, I should explore it.”
That difference is massive.
3) Do they have a history of secrecy? This one matters a lot. If someone is comfortable with hidden chats, backup lovers, coded communication, emotional double lives,
…that is a much stronger warning sign than “number of partners” alone.
4) Do they crave external validation? Some people are dangerously powered by being desired.If a person needs to constantly feel wanted, admired, chased, chosen,pursued,
…then marriage can feel “too normal” after a while and that person may become vulnerable to outside attention.
5) Have they actually repented / matured / changed? This is the big one. It's not: “They said they’ve changed.” but have they actually become different?
Signs of real change include: stronger boundaries, honesty, accountability, less appetite for chaos, less need for attention, more self-respect, more respect for covenant, less secretive behavior, more discipline. That is what matters not just “She said she’s not that person again.”
Words are cheap. Patterns are expensive.
To conclude,
Yes, a person with a long pattern of sexual looseness, multiple partners, and thrill-based intimacy may have a higher statistical and practical risk of cheating later in marriage but the reason is not mystical.
It is because they may have developed:
habits of novelty
weak restraint
normalized boundary crossing
high stimulation appetite
Comfort with secrecy
chemistry-driven decision making
That is what raises the risk.
But there’s a spiritual dimension too. From a spiritual and moral lens, repeated sensual disorder can do more than create habits.
It can also create:
desensitization, appetite disorder, attachment confusion, weakened conscience and what some would call bonding fragmentation.
Meaning: the person’s inner world becomes trained to separate body from covenant, pleasure from responsibility, and desire from discipline.
That’s not a small thing.

So yes:
there can be a moral-spiritual dulling effect if someone repeatedly lives in unrestrained sensuality.
That is very real.
But again — and this is important —
it is not irreversible.
Some people genuinely turn around.
But they must actually do the inner work. Marriage alone won’t do it for them. I rest my keyboard.