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Papyrus411:
Thank God that he is not into bet9ja or other sports betting. Get a job closer to where you live and find a soft time to talk him out of his bad habit. If you could force him to drop other ladies for you, then he could be cajoled to turn better. Change the way you have been handling the issue.

Please what's the different between bet9ja and lotto? The app I saw is WINLOT and I saw series of numbers scrambled on papers.

hylyne:
Hope your demands are not too high, that he is finding difficult to meet-up with salary alone?

I don't demand from him until he gives even while we were courting cos I had my income that was enough for. I'm a kind of person that do not like bothering anyone. I made a lot of savings from my previous work which all went on the wedding.

sapien:
Thank God you learnt a trade you could easily fall back on.

Going back to the trade, after delivery, would give you ample time to cater for and take care of the home front, rather than search for a private job.

I wish you a safe delivery in Jesus' name.

Amen in Jesus name.. Thanks abunch. God bless you.

HenryDion:
I think communication is lacking in your relationship.. You courted him for 6 years and yet, communication is an issue? I really don't understand ma'am. You both need to sit down, watch the beautiful stars and then talk. If he's not ready to initiate a conversation, please do. Through that, intentions and desires are made known.. What are your visions? What about his? How are you both working toward it? His current lifestyle shows of a man without a destination. You're a helper, help him go to the right path.
And again, being a full time housewife isn't cool. i mean, who does that in this century? You are here for a reason and your purpose in life isn't all about raising kids or mobbing the floor. Talk to your hubby about getting a job. You need to have your own priceless experience and touch lives in any little way you can. Time has gone when the female gender are been tied to the kitchen.
Wishing you a blissful life..

I try as much as possible to communicate with him but alot of things are involved that I can't begin to say here. Think I will have to get a job or just be strong and go back to my Catering job.

I appreciate your advice.

ammyluv2002:
Being desperate for money with a well paid job is not a good thing if you ask me, but I don't think it's bad to have other means of income especially when you don't have to do much work. I think, you should let him know how you feel about it, have a heart to heart talk with him on the matter & see his reactions. If I were you, I will flaunt the idea that I'm scared for his health, stress, worries etc after all, YOLO


Secondly, I'd advise you revisit the issue of getting a job with him again. Being a full house wife isn't the best, no matter how rich or the amount of money that comes in monthly. If you have the qualification, pls ask him to permit you get a job no matter how small. If he's worried the job might be time consuming then take up a teaching job at least it's relatively okay. You can have time to take care of your family. And, if you don't have the qualification, look for a business to start up with his permission sha.

I sure do have a qualification and i have discussed the issue of job with him, I learnt Catering also but my strength does not permit since I'm pregnant. My fear is for him not to get into anything crazy since he is so desperate.

I caught him first with Lotto which he apologized about and deleted the app from his phone, it was later I now saw the other ones he's into and he has downloaded the lotto app again on his other phone.

fijiano202:
sorry i just have to laugh,that ur hubby is covetous he cant be satisfied,be prayerful cos desperation can lead to crazy things

That's my fear... so that he won't end up doing something crazy. Will have to go more on my knee to God. I feel so tired!

Acidosis:
I don't see any issue here.


In addition with the listed, some added at least 3 cooperatives, pension scheme, mortgage/estate/housing scheme, bank loan, fixed deposit, mutual funds, even ajo.



Remind me, what's the issue again?

You mean you don't see anything wrong in Lotto?

sapien:
A full housewife in 2016?

Madam, your hubby is covertly telling you to go find a job, that the responsibilities at home is burdensome.

Hence, his involvement in diverse sources of making cash.

Thanks so much, that's how I feel too. Have talked to him about getting a job, though this might not happen any time soon as no one will be willing to employ a pregnant woman.

Luckily I have learnt a trade,will have to fall back on that, I hope my strength permits

Dear Nairalanders, please advise a sister.
My marriage to my husband is just 13months and it's like I don't know him despite we courting for 6years before settling down.

My husband is so desperate (so to say) for money, he is into a lot of things I.e Lotto, MMM, get help, e.t.c that I'm not cool with. He has a well paid job, though I'm a stay home wife. Already told him he should let me know if the burden is too much on him so that I can get a job since he was the one that actually told me to stop work at the initial stage.

Please what's your take on it?

Osalobua

Congrats Tonto...Baba God answer my call

Better you tell her the truth if you will be spending the rest of your life with her cos you might not like the outcome if she eventually finds out..

Left a 6year relationship cos he was always lieing about what he is and his family and i kept finding out..

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