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Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by idu1(m): 10:35am On Dec 01, 2016

Wetin dey worry this one?

She no see complain to complain again

Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by Nobody: 10:35am On Dec 01, 2016

asunnu:
Dear Nairalanders, please advise a sister.
My marriage to my husband is just 13months and it's like I don't know him despite we courting for 6years before settling down.

My husband is so desperate (so to say) for money, he is into a lot of things I.e Lotto, MMM, get help, e.t.c that I'm not cool with. He has a well paid job, though I'm a stay home wife. Already told him he should let me know if the burden is too much on him so that I can get a job since he was the one that actually told me to stop work at the initial stage.

Please what's your take on it?

Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by fippycbk(m): 10:35am On Dec 01, 2016

AuroraB:
Gambler-husband I'll tell you something, get used to it, he's not leaving that habit. ND hey, who 'earns good' yet gambles

You never jam... seen FOCUS?

Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by imosung(m): 10:36am On Dec 01, 2016

I sincerely agree with this advice

Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by teechedah: 10:36am On Dec 01, 2016

Good morning Op,
Well, What your husband has not is bad and not to bad anyway.Please advice him to stay away from Lotto as this can ruin alot of things.MMM is still well okay as well all know that 70% of Nigerians are into it as is more of like a financial support which is relatively good. Some people indulge in football bettings cos they have passions for football and they are good at predicting. Kindly ask him if his outflow(Spending on gambling) is more than inflow(cash receive on gambling).If YES, please advice him to desist and support him with prayers cos its not easy for an addicted gambler to quit. So also, please try and find something doing as he his trying his best to satisfy his family that is why he indulge in gambling maybe lucky might shine on him...

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Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by butanep(m): 10:37am On Dec 01, 2016

HenryDion:

I think communication is lacking in your relationship.. You courted him for 6 years and yet, communication is an issue? I really don't understand ma'am. You both need to sit down, watch the beautiful stars and then talk. If he's not ready to initiate a conversation, please do. Through that, intentions and desires are made known.. What are your visions? What about his? How are you both working toward it? His current lifestyle shows of a man without a destination. You're a helper, help him go to the right path.
And again, being a full time housewife isn't cool. i mean, who does that in this century? You are here for a reason and your purpose in life isn't all about raising kids or mobbing the floor. Talk to your hubby about getting a job. You need to have your own priceless experience and touch lives in any little way you can. Time has gone when the female gender are been tied to the kitchen.
Wishing you a blissful life..

What do you mean with his current life style has no destination? Do you think everyone rely on their salary alone? Life is about choice. I am a single working class guy. I run MMM, Ultimate cycler etc. It's my life and I am not complaining because it is fetching me extral cash.

Do you know what rich and wealthy men do to keep their high financial life going? They involved in different kind of business not salary alone. The man is trying to keep the family going, you are there saying he has not destination. Do you know what it takes to run a home when your wife isn't working?

Let the man be... Life is a risk.

Everyone can't be you

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Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by segunk1(m): 10:37am On Dec 01, 2016

asunnu:
Dear Nairalanders, please advise a sister.
My marriage to my husband is just 13months and it's like I don't know him despite we courting for 6years before settling down.

My husband is so desperate (so to say) for money, he is into a lot of things I.e Lotto, MMM, get help, e.t.c that I'm not cool with. He has a well paid job, though I'm a stay home wife. Already told him he should let me know if the burden is too much on him so that I can get a job since he was the one that actually told me to stop work at the initial stage.

Please what's your take on it?

Madam please leave that man let him hustle joor if he no provide ur need now u ll complain in as much as he's isn't into crime free him if he's not getting money from lotto he lld have stopped it as for MMM that one is legal if you Don't violate their terms and condition. Abi you like this recession nii? In as much as he's doing his duties at home, madam pray for him instead of complaining everything in life is risk.

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Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by Nobody: 10:37am On Dec 01, 2016

asunnu:
Dear Nairalanders, please advise a sister.
My marriage to my husband is just 13months and it's like I don't know him despite we courting for 6years before settling down.

My husband is so desperate (so to say) for money, he is into a lot of things I.e Lotto, MMM, get help, e.t.c that I'm not cool with. He has a well paid job, though I'm a stay home wife. Already told him he should let me know if the burden is too much on him so that I can get a job since he was the one that actually told me to stop work at the initial stage.

Please what's your take on it?

you should have gotten a job already. your husband loves you to much to tell you than even though it's what he would have wanted
that is why he is busting his ass to make sure that he is able to provide for all your need. seriously why would you eeven need your husband to tell you to get a job in the first place?

Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by Nobody: 10:38am On Dec 01, 2016

Catalin:
I like these type of husbands that chase money with all their strength

And one day he will demand to use ur head to make money.

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Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by Adebimpe1(m): 10:38am On Dec 01, 2016

Well, he's into a lot of things and from your post, he's not into stealing and kidnapping..
He's doing everything to get his family "arranged" and there's no sin in that...
Whichever way he makes his money, 70% of that money will go into making sure the marriage is okay and that shouldn't bother you..

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Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by nams77: 10:39am On Dec 01, 2016

Well, you can't know everything about someone. Firstly, while I think it is OK to diversify your stream of income, involving in stuffs like lotto and gambling is quite risky. He should limit them. I partake in some of these wonder schemes but I am extremely cautious and presently working on some grounded, stable business
Secondly, he should carry you along. He should look for something grounded in the long run. He might get his fingers burnt in the long run. Seat him down and calmly talk to him when he is happy. Lastly what is a grown woman like you doing at home as a full house time wife. Pls get a teaching job or anything. If not for the money at least to give you a sense of purpose, worth and fulfilment. Best of luck

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Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by Ifeconwaba(m): 10:39am On Dec 01, 2016

southernbelle:
From what I understand about serious gamblers, they are either very rich or very poor. There are no in-betweens.
Try and convince your husband to put some money in a joint account every month from his salary and whatever he makes from those other incomes and make sure he doesn't have much access to it, convince him it will be useful for your baby (during and post pregnancy) and your business(when you are ready to start it).
This is so that you have something substantial to hold on to just incase he decides to go "all-in" with his money and God forbid, it doesn't turn out so well.

what do you know about gambling, don't ever wish any of your loved ones gambling. A word is enough,

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Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by Eddodoh(m): 10:41am On Dec 01, 2016

I don't see anything wrong here. He is the type that like to venture into different things that can bring money.

Though he's investment tools seems dubious too many. It's legal but the lotto stuff, I learnt can be dangerous in the long run as some people may start selling off their property If the lose with the hope of recovery.

Talk to him and guide him on other investment opportunities you feel it's genuine and you both are comfortable with.

Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by PStacks(m): 10:41am On Dec 01, 2016

nawa ooo!

Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by Bom4Real: 10:42am On Dec 01, 2016

Madam the burden is too much,u sound to be the unrealistic wife,that everything n yet want ur hubby to work less while u ve no means of livelihood

Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by delishpot: 10:46am On Dec 01, 2016

Slimmos:
E b lyk say u like hunger pass enjoyment..Man pikin dey hustle day and night to make sure u eat, u come nairaland dey complain. Pls, I have no advice for u than for u to divorce him.

She tell you say she nor fit work to eat? Why portray her as a helpless person who can not feed herself? Is she a baby that needs feeding? Many men make this mistake of thinking they are feeding their wives. If he think she can not eat without him, then allow her go hussle and do all she can (just as wives allow their men go hussle and do what ever) an see if she will not feed him too. There are many homes in naija where it's the wives keeping the home run smoothly financialy.
Point is, it is an addiction. If he was running 19 businesses she would not be complaining. Her worry is not that he is a hussler, her problem is his gambling addiction. Many people are ignorant of the damage gambling can do to a family. It is not a normal thing, men have even gambled away family fortune so please this is a genuine concern this sister has. Gambling and hussling, Those are two different things.

Bom4Real:
Madam the burden is too much,u sound to be the unrealistic wife,that everything n yet want ur hubby to work less while u ve no means of livelihood

Here we go again.

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Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by DEBJOCH1(m): 10:47am On Dec 01, 2016

Your husband is simply a hustler, abeg free the man jor, had it been the man doesnt bring money into the home in sorting out some house bill, is same woman that will complain, now the man is working hard by trying to re-invest left right and centre is the same wife that is complaining, na who laziness elp? Abeg free de hard working young man to keep hustling jor.

Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by Ifeconwaba(m): 10:50am On Dec 01, 2016

asunnu:
Dear Nairalanders, please advise a sister.
My marriage to my husband is just 13months and it's like I don't know him despite we courting for 6years before settling down.

My husband is so desperate (so to say) for money, he is into a lot of things I.e Lotto, MMM, get help, e.t.c that I'm not cool with. He has a well paid job, though I'm a stay home wife. Already told him he should let me know if the burden is too much on him so that I can get a job since he was the one that actually told me to stop work at the initial stage.

Please what's your take on it?

he is into gambling, and to talk of it the worst gambling also, gambling habit such as lotto addiction casino, roullete, vitual soccer, dog and horse will surely destroy your gusband if you don't play your part in bringing him out of it through prayers and advice. The only reason he is into all this things is to make more money but at the end of the day he will still regret it and find out that there is no money in all this areas, when he has wasted all his money in gambling. Is better for him to stop now. Talking from experience.

Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by Nobody: 10:53am On Dec 01, 2016

asunnu:
Dear Nairalanders, please advise a sister.
My marriage to my husband is just 13months and it's like I don't know him despite we courting for 6years before settling down.

My husband is so desperate (so to say) for money, he is into a lot of things I.e Lotto, MMM, get help, e.t.c that I'm not cool with. He has a well paid job, though I'm a stay home wife. Already told him he should let me know if the burden is too much on him so that I can get a job since he was the one that actually told me to stop work at the initial stage.

Please what's your take on it?

Look for something meaningful to do please... Do we still have stay at home moms aka housewives these days?? Can't even imagine

Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by Nobody: 10:53am On Dec 01, 2016

First question, does he save money? If yes, that means he is working towards financial security.
Is he indebted to others who are putting pressure on his finances? If no, you are safe.
How much does he expend on these habits you call desperation. Are they funds he can afford to loose and not lose a sleep?
Lastly is it becoming a habit ,like a routine stuff. E.g sport betting, is it an everyday stuff that is taking his attention from major stuff.
Those are the most important questions you should ask. People do things for different reasons.
My marriage is less than a year, my marriage is few months old . I play sport betting and UC with funds I can afford to lose. Like a side business and commission from them. And I don't lose a sleep over it. Reasons, additional funds from UC will take her to see movies, dinner, beach and shopping on a weekend or send some extra funds to my younger ones or for charity which are just additional stuff.
While for the sport betting, it's no habit but just to enable me follow football and rekindle my interest in football since work does not allow me time. So putting some change there will generally encourage me to follow it up.
Lastly she is not the sport type , so I had to explain to her the retionale behind that, not because I am desperate for cash, but just to make it more fun. Sometimes we play table games and we stake on it to make more fun , or I buy a CD and want us to just dance at home like a way of bonding after a bottle of wine.
Being the shy type she might not want to. But when I start bragging that I dance mmote than her , she would wanna prove a point so to make it more fun, I drop 5k on the table, winners take all. And you will see her dance her heart out and I let her win so she can have the money as a way of generating her own money aside what I pay her as salary and upkeep money.

Same for sport betting just to make her sit down and watch football with me and we now fight less over the remote and she won't have to go the room to watch drama while I am bored watching football alone. Why
all this , just to prevent me from going out to watch football since I am trying to quit drinking and matters incidental there with.

So find out his reasons for same. It might just be for fun or just to make extra cash to suprise her. My wife birthday was last month. I had made budget for her birthday since August without her knowledge. So I had to invest 70% in MMM not to her knowledge anyway. Had a plan B should incase I lose that money.
MMM paid over and extra, gave her tripple bash with the profit, shopped for her on black Friday, while the initial capital and the plan B went back to MMM . The profit will buy us Play Station,so the few time I have on non working days, I will spend with her playing football or adventure games at home which I would have have spent with friends drinking and partying.

She is a full time house wife, no friends cos she is new to Lagos and bored cos she stays on the compound alone.

I didn't allow her work for nobody cos I am hardly ever around due to the nature of my work and I want her to stay and raise the kids. Currently working towards her going to trainings so I can set her up in business.Just talk to your man. He has plans for you. Cos if both of your guys work in this Lagos. Family go hear am ooo.Build yourself learn something while you stay at home should incase and also discuss his finances with him . You guys should have a joint account for savings and investments for back up cash should incase the unexpected happens.

Find out.talk to him you might just be worrying your self for nothing.

I rise

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Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by Nobody: 10:54am On Dec 01, 2016

DEBJOCH1:
Your husband is simply a hustler, abeg free the man jor, had it been the man doesnt bring money into the home in sorting out some house bill, is same woman that will complain, now the man is working hard by trying to re-invest left right and centre is the same wife that is complaining, na who laziness elp? Abeg free de hard working young man to keep hustling jor.

Do u know how much he loses to gambling??

Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by Nobody: 10:55am On Dec 01, 2016

butanep:

What do you mean with his current life style has no destination? Do you think everyone rely on their salary alone? Life is about choice. I am a single working class guy. I run MMM, Ultimate cycler etc. It's my life and I am not complaining because it is fetching me extral cash.

Do you know what rich and wealthy men do to keep their high financial life going? They involved in different kind of business not salary alone. The man is trying to keep the family going, you are there saying he has not destination. Do you know what it takes to run a home when your wife isn't working?

Let the man be... Life is a risk.

Everyone can't be you

You seems to allow your feelings take the wheel which is so lame. Am not against engaging into other forms of biz to remain financially buoyant.. But doing that without carrying your wife along shows of a man who lacks destination and vision. It's not always about the money young man, it's about making the right choices without your commitments paying the negative price.

Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by asunnu(f): 10:55am On Dec 01, 2016

hylyne:

Hope your demands are not too high, that he is finding difficult to meet-up with salary alone?

I don't demand from him until he gives even while we were courting cos I had my income that was enough for. I'm a kind of person that do not like bothering anyone. I made a lot of savings from my previous work which all went on the wedding.

Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by Nobody: 10:57am On Dec 01, 2016

Slimmos:
E b lyk say u like hunger pass enjoyment..Man pikin dey hustle day and night to make sure u eat, u come nairaland dey complain. Pls, I have no advice for u than for u to divorce him.

just like that?

Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by batstan(m): 10:59am On Dec 01, 2016

I thought he belongs to the KOOL AND THE GANG things.

Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by creepsyme(f): 10:59am On Dec 01, 2016

asunnu:
Dear Nairalanders, please advise a sister.
My marriage to my husband is just 13months and it's like I don't know him despite we courting for 6years before settling down.

My husband is so desperate (so to say) for money, he is into a lot of things I.e Lotto, MMM, get help, e.t.c that I'm not cool with. He has a well paid job, though I'm a stay home wife. Already told him he should let me know if the burden is too much on him so that I can get a job since he was the one that actually told me to stop work at the initial stage.

Please what's your take on it?

as long as his activities are not criminal and he does not hide it from I tink dats ok.

Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by butanep(m): 11:01am On Dec 01, 2016

Women and nagging/ complains...

Your husband don't have enough money, they will complain...

Husband has no job, they will complain...

Husband involved in others business to make money, they will complain...

Husband come very early from work, still complain...

They come late... complain...

The man is too good in bed, still complain... not good same thing.

His dickson is very big... they will complain..

Truly you can't satisfy a woman.

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Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by asunnu(f): 11:02am On Dec 01, 2016

Papyrus411:

Thank God that he is not into bet9ja or other sports betting. Get a job closer to where you live and find a soft time to talk him out of his bad habit. If you could force him to drop other ladies for you, then he could be cajoled to turn better. Change the way you have been handling the issue.

Please what's the different between bet9ja and lotto? The app I saw is WINLOT and I saw series of numbers scrambled on papers.

Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by CHRISTIANO7779: 11:02am On Dec 01, 2016

He is a man indeed , talking 4rm experience cos not easy to b a man. Talk to him in soft manner he wl change.

Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by ritvin(f): 11:03am On Dec 01, 2016

Catalin:
I like these type of husbands that chase money with all their strength

my sis I gbadu u jare. As long as him no thief am

Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by hylyne(m): 11:03am On Dec 01, 2016

asunnu:

I don't demand from him until he gives even while we were courting cos I had my income that was enough for. I'm a kind of person that do not like bothering anyone. I made a lot of savings from my previous work which all went on the wedding.

Okay.. Alot of people are into Investment. As a wife, he should be carrying you along with details of each. I carry my fiancee along in most of my investment, even MMM, in fact she manages some.

Whichever she disapproves, with cogent reason I refrain. Keep praying for him.

Sincerely, i personally don't subscribe to lotto tins ooo....

Re: My Husband Is Into A Lot Of Things And It Bothers Me! by ednut1(m): 11:04am On Dec 01, 2016

for gods sake what do women want

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