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Yoshi-Master:
Girl tell me say she wan serenade me, I say oya now sere, sere, baby!

She come pull down her shirt come remain her bra, e be like say man dey dream, I just dey too excited.

All of a sudden, she come stop, bring out POS, come ask me, "Current or Savings?"

Chai, see strategy! Stewpid girl, serenade ni serenade ko.

Anyways sha, I tell am say na current.

All man, donate laugh abeg to make the world a better place

You must be a learner asking if there is spiritual side to sex, be like say you never give girl prick before wen she go dey speak in tongues dey roll like person wen T.B. Joshua do deliverance for

Wu Zetian: Can I replace pagan??

Seconded An agnostic is good for neutrality on the team

Ishilove: Hell no. When I tried it with my ex, he practically begged me to stop. Said my voice was giving his ears aches and pains.

Once is enough, thank you very much

Don't worry you can sing for me, I will appreciate you

I'm writing the names of noisemakers

wolegzy: While serving in Ohagewaka of Ebonyi State, I had among other things : Free weekly supply of Yams ,fresh Ugu, local rice and Mango (during its season) from my students.

[color=#000000]While serving in Ohagewaka of Ebonyi State, I had among other things : Free weekly supply of Yams ,fresh Ugu, local rice and Mango (during its season) from my students.

[/color]While serving in Ohagewaka of Ebonyi State, I had among other things : Free weekly supply of Yams ,fresh Ugu, local rice and Mango (during its season) from my students.

This your stammering dey one kain

joel lala: This thread is about to get closed cos i just saw the signs...before the final nail is hammered i just wanna ask, if it was another MOD that did what mac did what do you think would happen?

Ban till the apocalypse.

Reyginus: I don't understand this strictlymi of a guy.
Weeks back he claimed Mac was at the top of his list of senseless people, now he is making a new claim.
strictlymi, I don't understand.
https://www.nairaland.com/1114515/christian-chatbox-sticky/230

Maybe he is gunning for a Nairaland award

Striktlymi na you suppose conduct INEC elections for Nigeria, you are just too much

De Beauvoir: You really need to stop taking hard drugs......

Lwkmd

Let men shake hands, women are already shaking bumbum

lagcity: One day person go break gulder bottle for ya head after hugging im babe for party. keep hugging, u go hear am very soon.

That's why you should grab everything grabbable when you hug them so that it's worth whatever happens

Deep Sight: What about the Raelian movement....pretty strange peeps. .....

Tell us more

Mr McJay: Ha! Oga mi, your life remain 1 bar o.

Lwkmd

Rationalmind na only me you no welcome wetin I do you

crownfisk: She is not even pretty.

Your chauvinism no get bus stop, what has her prettiness got to do with her opinion?

Classical male privilege problems.

Wu Zetian: I recommend this thread for front page.

https://www.nairaland.com/1479747/10-extremely-weird-religions#18853194

Me too

Monicasque: dude wats with the angry face ? okay lets be exes no wahala. gues u wana b avoided

Na so my face be, or are you calling me ugly?

Wu Zetian: Don't give up.

Isn't polygamy legal in Nigeria?? I can still marry both of you

Yes, polyandry or we can take turns

Monicasque: if m still cookoos about him i will be caught doing number 5 so its 100% better that i avoid at all costs

Let's be Exes

addictiv: that one na talk...as soon as she enters i am making sure that a mallet or 2x2 is within reachable proximity cos she ll definately come prepared ....man gast defend himself

Lmao

Saint Chukz: Nice Points...but then you should listed them by numbers to make it easier to pick out, so that if there is any of the above people disagree with, then it should be easily spotted.

Thanks for this useful suggestion, I've done it.

@Wu Zetian Exactly

Saint Chukz: ^^^ To all the proponents and opponents of MRM & Feminism. I have a question for you all and that's - Let's assume in an idea situation all the priviledges you all are fighting and clamouring for becomes granted, what then will happen? Will the world end? Please i want you all to attempt an answer to my question. Thanks!

No, feminism is not clamoring for privileges. It is just asking for the female sex to be treated like normal human beings, as well.

@Wu Zetian hahahahaha!

@Saint Chukz No, the world won't end, but it will be a FAR better place.

If you're male and you still think feminism is not necessary, I just posted a list of male privileges that you may have become so used to in your society, that you don't even recognize them anymore. And some of these things are serious problems for women in your society. Feel free to let us discuss them there
https://www.nairaland.com/1479878/case-feminism-male-privilege-checklist

41. Assuming I am heterosexual, magazines, billboards, television, movies, po'rnography, and virtually all of media is filled with images of scantily-clad women intended to appeal to me se'xually. Such images of men exist, but are rarer.
42. In general, I am under much less pressure to be thin than my female counterparts are. If I am fat, I probably suffer fewer social and economic consequences for being fat than fat women do.
43. If I am heterosexual, it’s incredibly unlikely that I’ll ever be beaten up by a spouse or lover.
44. Complete strangers generally do not walk up to me on the street and tell me to “smile.”
45. Se'xual harassment on the street virtually never happens to me. I do not need to plot my movements through public space in order to avoid being sexually harassed, or to mitigate s'exual harassment.
46. On average, I am not interrupted by women as often as women are interrupted by men.
47. I have the privilege of being unaware of my male privilege.

31. I can ask for legal protection from violence that happens mostly to men without being seen as a selfish special interest, since that kind of violence is called “crime” and is a general social concern. (Violence that happens mostly to women is usually called “domestic violence” or “acquaintance rape,” and is seen as a special interest issue.)
32. I can be confident that the ordinary language of day-to-day existence will always include my sex. “All men are created equal,” mailman, chairman, freshman, he.
33. My ability to make important decisions and my capability in general will never be questioned depending on what time of the month it is.
34. I will never be expected to change my name upon marriage or questioned if I don’t change my name.
35. The decision to hire me will not be based on assumptions about whether or not I might choose to have a family sometime soon.
36. Every major religion in the world is led primarily by people of my own sex. Even God, in most major religions, is pictured as male.
37. Most major religions argue that I should be the head of my household, while my wife and children should be subservient to me.
38. If I have a wife or live-in girlfriend, chances are we’ll divide up household chores so that she does most of the labor, and in particular the most repetitive and unrewarding tasks.
39. If I have children with my girlfriend or wife, I can expect her to do most of the basic childcare such as changing diapers and feeding.
40. If I have children with my wife or girlfriend, and it turns out that one of us needs to make career sacrifices to raise the kids, chances are we’ll both assume the career sacrificed should be hers.

21. If I’m careless with my financial affairs it won’t be attributed to my sex.
22. If I’m careless with my driving it won’t be attributed to my sex.
23. I can speak in public to a large group without putting my sex on trial.
24. Even if I sleep with a lot of women, there is no chance that I will be seriously labeled a “slut,” nor is there any male counterpart to “slut-bashing.”
25. I do not have to worry about the message my wardrobe sends about my s'exual availability.
26. The grooming regimen expected of me is relatively cheap and consumes little time.
27. My clothing is typically less expensive and better-constructed than women’s clothing for the same social status. While I have fewer options, my clothes will probably fit better than a woman’s without tailoring.
28. If I buy a new car, chances are I’ll be offered a better price than a woman buying the same car.
29. If I’m not conventionally attractive, the disadvantages are relatively small and easy to ignore.
30. I can be loud with no fear of being called a shrew. I can be aggressive with no fear of being called a bit'ch.

11. If I have children and provide primary care for them, I’ll be praised for extraordinary parenting if I’m even marginally competent.
12. If I have children and a career, no one will think I’m selfish for not staying at home.
13. If I seek political office, my relationship with my children, or who I hire to take care of them, will probably not be scrutinized by the press.
14. My elected representatives are mostly people of my own sex. The more prestigious and powerful the elected position, the more this is true.
15. When I ask to see “the person in charge,” odds are I will face a person of my own sex. The higher-up in the organization the person is, the surer I can be.
16. As a child, chances are I was encouraged to be more active and outgoing than my sister(s).
17. As a child, I could choose from an almost infinite variety of children’s media featuring positive, active, non-stereotyped heroes of my own sex. I never had to look for it; male protagonists were (and are) the default.
18. As a child, chances are I got more teacher attention than girls who raised their hands just as often.
19. If my day, week or year is going badly, I need not ask of each negative episode or situation whether or not it has sexist overtones.
20. I can turn on the television or glance at the front page of the newspaper and see people of my own sex widely represented.

Axion: Privilege is a set of advantages (or a lack of disadvantages) enjoyed by a majority group who are often unaware that they possess such a vantage point. Privilege is not seized by individuals, it is conferred by the society. It is about how the society accommodates you, where you are one of the "normal" majority and the others are the deviation from the norm, the ones being oppressed by the -ism. Fate has just decided to deal them the worst lot in that case.

Not every privileged person is inwardly prejudiced (sexist, racist, anti-homosexuality etc) but they mostly support such oppression (even if they are unaware of it) because that is the life and society they are used to.

Privilege makes it hard for privileged people to see from the perspective of the ones being oppressed. i.e. your perspective as a _______ probably means that you're unaware that other groups struggle with issues like _______ .

Peggy McIntosh once wrote about White privilege. This list is compiled in a smilar manner by Barry Deutsch, and it is for males in general to better understand the feminism problem. I have separated them into groups of 10.

You know you're enjoying the Male privilege in your society if you're a man and most or all of the following applies to you. How many can you say YES to?

1.My odds of being hired for a job, when competing against female applicants, are probably skewed in my favor. The more prestigious the job, the larger the odds are skewed.
2. I can be confident that my co-workers won’t think I got my job because of my sex – even though that might actually be true
3. If I am never promoted, it’s not because of my sex.
4. If I fail in my job or career, I can feel sure this won’t be seen as a black mark against my entire sex’s capabilities.
5. I am far less likely to face sexual harassment at work than my female co-workers are.
6. If I do the same task as a woman, and if the measurement is at all subjective, chances are people will think I did a better job.
7. If I’m a teen or adult, and if I can stay out of prison, my odds of being ra'ped are relatively low.
8. On average, I am taught to fear walking alone after dark in average public spaces much less than my female counterparts are.
9. If I choose not to have children, my masculinity will not be called into question.
10. If I have children but do not provide primary care for them, my masculinity will not be called into question.

In a place like Nigeria we only really notice when something privileges female interests because the male privilege has thoroughly pervaded every nook and cranny of our society.

To understand the core of this discussion, one needs to be familiar - within an oppressive setting - with the concepts of privilege and prejudice (which are in some cases mutually exclusive).

Privilege is a set of advantages (or a lack of disadvantages) enjoyed by a majority group who are often unaware that they possess such a vantage point. Privilege is not seized by individuals, it is conferred by the society. It is about how the society accommodates you, where you are one of the "normal" majority and the others are the deviation from the norm, the ones being oppressed by the -ism. Fate has just decided to deal them the worst lot in that case.

Not every privileged person is inwardly prejudiced (sexist, racist, anti-homosexuality etc) but they mostly support such oppression (even if they are unaware of it) because that is the life and society they are used to.

Most of the MRM's ideologies are unnecessary and borderline poisonous to what feminism truly stands for. However, this still depends on the context of society, in order to identify who the oppressed and the privileged are in that particular context. As 99cent rightly said, in a place like Nigeria there is no need for a movement like MRM because by default the society is strongly sexist with a favorable bias towards the male gender.

Privilege makes it hard for privileged people to see from the perspective of the ones being oppressed. i.e. your perspective as a _______ probably means that you're unaware that other groups struggle with issues like _______ .

You can fill in the gaps above based on the privileges that your society has conferred on you.

This is Axion's 2 cents. I am male, and I am a strong feminist.