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lolz

thats another thing i dont understand

most of the time they cheat on women

that cant even step near thier wives or gf's

im yet to understand that!

queen

ONE BAD BISH!!

ok saga so basically cut a long argument short

ur saying she should learn to cook?? for the family??

like most of the posters here have said?? right??

because learning to cook food is what will really make the marriage work?? of course- what have i been thinking

the ability to prepare pounded yam is the foundation of any strong and succesful marriage

*hits forehead* im sawy my reasoning just flew out the window

how ignorant of me to assume a woman can be happily married when shes not a housewife or a doorknob

i take it all back- poster shuld bend ova backwards to serve husband and families needs

in fact if they want to marry on mars she should be prepared to foot it- because thats what will make the marriage work!

if the mother says jump her response shuld be how high- we came to the earth to serve them and not ourselves!

makes sense now

peace out!

ooo saga are u talkin abt my fanbase?? yea i see them too wat can i say *kanye shrug*

and what is all this feminism crap??

IM OFF!

Jenny, u callin me child didnt start from here??

i almost have the feeling ur following me!

*rolls eyes* yes i have parents thank you- and i thank God thier own marriage doesnt rely on food niether! lets not even go there! my parents have lovely families that dont make habits out of calling thier in laws witches or going arnd to look for food- we are not paupers, like i said before;

ur the married one

im not married

ur obviously married to the typical nigerian man??

im not naive, believe it or not, but i dont need to tell u abt me- one rule cannot work for all

u cant expect a career driven woman to maintain the lifestyle a housewife has? u cant expect someone to change 360degrees cos they are married?? marriage is an institution, its not a jailhouse, u get a partner not a liability, you move forward with life- not back!

then again i must say we are 2 diff people from 2 diff backgrounds in 2 different places- what will do for u wont do for me and vice versa! leave it at that!

yes naa im soo heartbroken and duped

wont u come and console me??

i have soo much money to give

bunch of eda's!

inno this is what the world is comin too now

even pastors get divorced!

divorce is not something anyone shuld experience
its a touchy subject
but id rather be single forever than marry and divorce
theres soo much more to life

then again i guess people have thier reasons
some more sensible than others
some not sensible at all
some people divorce simply because they can
to them its just partin money and ova with!

wheres the love??

o well *kanye shrug*

badoomusoo:
@ayettymama

Well, dont blame me 'cos u r a lady
u've got so much feminist venom.
its either u 've been dumped or duped by boys

Get a MAN

looooooooooooooooooooooooooool

feminist venom- thats very funny

yes na- im lookin for a man now

soo i can send all my money to him

u wanna be my man?? gimme ur account number


ive got soo much money i just wanna send it to someone!



monkeys!

Sagamite:
L'Oreal adverts always ends with a woman saying "Because I am worth it".
I think this epitomises the mentality of modern day Western woman that are brainwash into demanding more and more from men whilst offerring less and less themselves. They surely must have fallen for that advert and think they are worth it ^Not.

not really, its a bloody make up advert wat do u expect??

by offering u mean typically cooking and cleaning??-- no thats not westernized mentality
here people are more reasonable- simple
did u even read the post??----- th eman is not marrying a cook!!
ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Sagamite:
L'Oreal adverts always ends with a woman saying "Because I am worth it".

Good you can identify where your weakness is at. That is a good start in resolving it.

The next step is to listen to older ladies talking sense here like SA Lady and Jenny.

It would do you a world of good and might save you a lot of heartache in future (not to talk about expense of 2nd and 3rd weddings).

im sorry my mother is also an older woman and she doesnt talk trash!

we havent even identified they are older than me?? they simply share different views from mine simple!

mooovin on

Sagamite:
I knew you were smart.

Yes, a partner is suppose to complement you. So there are some certain things men are not good at and/or keen at. A prime example is cooking and cleaning. Obviously some men are exceptions but a vast majority fall within this rule.

this is where things fall apart again, did u read the post??
besides that- if ur looking for a cook and a cleaner u wont be seeking much more than that, its understandable cos what pleasures u will be very limited- village women de plenty, then again with all the cookin and cleaning they still have adulterous husbands?? kinda makes u think?

Sagamite:
So you would have a wider pool of men at your feet if you can complement this. Note: a substantial proportion of those that might love and know how to cook are gay. I just wanted to let you know that, you don't want your man at 12 midnight in Clapham Common Park.

A man is not your provider, neither is he your therapist but most men would (and YOU would expect them to) do that especially when you have had a bad day, go out for dinners, you want him to do things (buy you diamond) that you can show of to your friends, you are pregnant or satisfy any other insecurities as a woman you need suppressed. So do serve his meals if he deserves it.
E mi? Me?
Me I no go school o. Which kind English you wan make I speak, na ijinle Yoruba I know o.

wow ur ignorant- did u really just say that??

ok let me tell u this- no, ur dependance on women boils down to ur upbringing- theres not a man in my hsehold that cannot cook- no they are not gay- so the gay shit is something u need to go back on- cos a man can cook it doesnt make him gay im sorri to burst that lil bubble!

lolz u can bring ur definition of men

i can bring mine- tbh ive seen more women provide and give therapy to thier men, yet u still complain abt westernization, they are the ones that need pamperin on bad days, men are the ones that wanna be spoiled when they arent spoiled enuff they go outside to be spoiled some more!
a man also wants a token wife- a beautiful woman to hold on his arms and show off to his friends, who will clean cook and hoover whilst him and his friends watch football and talk about thier sexual escapades, extra points if shes a working class woman, but that shouldnt stop her from poppin a few and cleanin whilst the dude sits his arse dwn all thru

lolz

the girl i working- i thot men should appreciate that??

lolz

poster is pullin all ya legs!!

but i like the slogan- new tshirt alert!

all that money and its fake??

actually its not that expensive is it??

lolz- i remember sayin that once in a biology class and i was almost crucified

my teacher brought his snake

i soo ignorantly said; omg look at the scales on that- that will make the baddest pair of shoes!!!

i swear the guy almost cried! i felt really bad!

what are u on abt?? loreal?? ok now im kunuffled  

im not a man--
i can tell u what pleases me in relationships- i cant tell u what pleases men- u shuld tell me
inno where ur going, u think all men want a cook, a cleaner and someone to foot half the bills and pop u sum babies
to some men relationships delve a bit deeper than that-- i honestly cant spk for nl dudes
but a partner is meant to complement you and not serve u(not in that way anyways)
throw arnd all the english u like and hate of westernized virtues, sometimes im even glad, one needs to step out of the backwards circle to regain sanity sometimes!

SA lady

me and jenny go waay back ok b4 u start talkin u might wanna think abt that!

according to u im a power ranger- power rangers and neanderthals dont mix

we'll neva see eye to eye on this matter- hold ur views, ill maintain mine!

aisha2:
My Brother In law beat up thier parish priest cos he was sleeping with his Fiancee, now his wife. The priest had been sexually abusing her right from when she was 14, she did not even realise it was a bad because she thought a priest could never do bad. It took a lot of counseling before she was able to get over that experince. The priest was a Family friend and her parents were going through a tough divorce, she sought sloace in the church becasue she had no one else, the priest was like kind to her, paying her fees, sometimes when the trouble got too much at home she would run and sleep in th church but the priest will insist she follows him home, her parents were so engrossed in thier own problems that they never noticed anything, My brother In law and the lady had always been really close when he noticed that there was something going on he confronted her and she answered innocently that the priest said sleeping with bhim was the cure to her demons (She used to have nightmares). He went with her and confronted the priest who also tried to sell the same sick story to him, He gave the Priest a dirty slap and beat him silly, till people came to rescue the priest. That girl really had a hard life and she went to the house of God for protection only to be exploited.
Anyway she is lucky to have had a happy ending and now she is also a volunteer conselor to children who are dealing with parents divorce, seperation and abuse. We live in a sick society and it is really sad that when a girl is sexually molested we find a way to bbalme it on the girl still

stories like this make me wanna lock up all the babies in the hse all the tyme! such sick people in this world!

lolz

is that real animal skin??

i still dont see the appeal

inno-

what can we do ehn

jenny speaks and all i see is blah blah--- cos i dont share ur backwards views im a child?? hold that thot

saga- i dont look at it that way im sorry

i wont be able to write a list in what ayettymama has to offer

i dont run a russian bride providing or escort service

call it westernized whatever u like- if posters fiance wanted a typical ogbona cooking african woman he should have married one!

female empowerment-- thats the first time ive eva typed those words on nl--- cos its a bunch of bs
if a woman has no degree of power ova her life then its better she send all her money to her broke men!
theres nothing much she can do for herself
theres no such thing- females dont need empowering, you either have a mind of your own or u dont, u either came to serve the master or u didnt, u have a life or u dont--- its soo simple!
enuff of that trash talk i dont dwell in it, i leave it for the dumb celebrities tryna sell thier trash to intelligent people!

badoomusoo:
Everyone says there's luv in sharing, Accepted
Guys gives ladies, Good man, Very acceptable
Ladies give  guys, Hell no, Not acceptable at all.


Some ladies are so damn pathetic,
I'm not mentioning names but i fink Ayettymama and clique have got very
ancient and sadistic view on relationships, somebody's got to remind them
this aint the stone age!!!

of course-- its not the stone age

its onli when it comes to cookin cleanin poppin kids and that we forget its not the stoneage

when it comes to bride price payment, payig the hse bills, paying the date bills and excetera we remember stone age left a while ago

which one shuld i do now?? is it new age or stone age??

should i do all the hse chores, then work everymorning and pay 50% of the bills, pay my own bride price, fork every night cos after all this God forbid i get tired, and when i am- allow him to go astray, when he does beg him to come bak cos obviously its all my fault, i must remain sober in all this so after all the stress if one turns to alcohol and comfort food, gets extremely fat- that is also a sin- so the next solution is to gym every night- that doesnt include the forkin
If he begins to maltreat him, i must not leave- no no no, a woman must remember the 4 p's in all situations- patience persistance and plenty of prayer, as long as hell is ur home u must stay!

in fact let me start quoting some beautiful words of wisdom from fellow nlers

You don't leave your matrimonial home for any reason. Remain there and be Focused . Be a good wife no matter what, be patient and always pray. With time, things will come back to normal. Thats all i can advice you to do

I'm not mentioning names but i fink Ayettymama and clique have got very
ancient and sadistic view on relationships, somebody's got to remind them
this aint the stone age!!!

Your being rude- have you tried to adjust in your ways of talking espeically when there are issues to settle? The fact that you are doing well and independent of him could create some aura of "i am ok" in you which he sees as act of being rude too. Some women are fond of this attitude.  --------hehehe if u read that thread in fact!  

Be yourself and dont let the situation change you.  try to be happy else he thinks he is getting at you.  no matter how painful, try to be in control of your emotions, he would be wondering the source of your strenght and want to make up if he loves you.

In short the woman has the most to lose & we hurt the most when things get out of control like this; hence she is the one who has to work hardest at keeping it together anyway she knows how; be it prayer, change in approach & attitude. tolerance levels etc.----------i feel like i live in soudi, A WOMAN SAID ALL THIS!!!

Cheating on u?  Pretend it does not hurt even if it does, but make sure, u are looking good too. Be sure u can defend your leaving if u have to do.  U can still win this battle. Best of luck.

Hand the mangement of the supermarket over to your trusted siblings  to oversee while u sort urself out with him.----- wo,am im question should hand ova her business, how will she settle all the bills?

ansa to what??

thers lb's at the top of the page

and i just remembered im begginin to hate them

lolz

im soo sawy--- these stories are too funny

why are the police maltreatin people like this na

Sagamite:
^^^^You still haven't given me an indication of what kind of benefit a man would have by being with you.

your looking for a business transaction and im not a commodity

SA Lady:
I swear this story must be coming out of the pages/scenes of one of the nigerian movies. I read a lot of drama in you post far removed from the poster's story it happens when an imagination runs wild. My advice is why dont you write/produce films you could be wasting your talent and time on this thread. Please read posters initial post it will help to get you back on track.

havent you got something positive to bring to this discussion especially to the poster which I believe is the reason why she started the thread? Again please refrain from quoting words that are out of context keep it constructive not streetswise.

wat story are u talking abt?? u quoted me and im still baffled on ur power ranger mentality??

im even beggining to think none of u read the posters story

she engaged to a dude that has not once complained abt her not beoin able to cook??

plus the family are calling her all sorts of ridiculous names cos she's not the bend ova backwards to pls them type??

i think u need to read the op again then go ova my initial posts b4 u start lamentations

im not a big fan of LB's

i think theyre overrated!!

its just the siggy red sole and the fact celebs wear em (prob get them for free) thats gettin everyone gaga

kmt

^^ what did u eat for breakfast this morning

who and u will fight

me am not fightin ooo

i just want more inspirational words to the greatness of giving to ones boyfriend!

^^ does all this happen in lagos??

what areas

if this is tru something must be done

madlady:
Really .

U r 1 smart cookie.

lolz madlady

i have a knack for susin out

broke men
confused men
playing men
cheating men
dumbass men
ignorant men
proud men
CIA
FBI
MI5!

luizworld:
am fyne, why u dey call me player
btw nice pose, [size=3pt]see as u come dey form sexy pose fro mirror.[/size]. just kidding oo lolz. how u doin

jokes i removed that forro aaaages ago


[size=2pt] meanin its probably stored somewhere on ur ompurer   [/size]

im fine thanx

jenibayo:
Ayettymama se u want make we guarrel abi.

AH AH

im askin question naa- wetin do u sef

ok im not askin again

i dunno why u want to fight me

[quote author=~Borat~ link=topic=425155.msg5839656#msg5839656 date=1270550669]Prisoners of love. . . eyah!  
No matter how ladies kid themselves, they are all prisoners of love
Pity   [/quote]yes na-- thats how its meant to be

thats why we must send all our monies to the following address

BROKE ARSS BOYFRIEND
NIGGAS WITH NO SHAME
P.O B.O.X IN LOVE WIDA LOSER

^^ hey the nl player himself himself

how u de??

lolz no ttroubl eooo

just asking??

so how much did u send??

1000?? 1500?? 2000??

the whole monthly salary??