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This is a wonderful opportunity to highlight your strong points, past and recent successes, current projects and, dreams for the future. It's the best time to talk about the 'best part of you'.

Can you create and innovate? Then talk about it in a simple and a straightforward manner.

Remember, 'tell me about yourself', is about how you are a solution provider. Everybody needs a problem solver; an entrepreneur needs someone to help minimize costs and maximize profits and not, an unproductive drain on a lean purse.

'Tell me about yourself' is not the time to talk about missed opportunities. It's the time to seize a great opportunity and worm yourself into the heart of a potential 'dream helper'.

https://ayietim./2017/07/27/tell-me-about-yourself/

Without sunshine there's no flower,
without flower, there's no butterfly,
nature is a great teacher,
it greatest lesson is, without one, there will not be another,
nature tells us clearly, that there's a power,
an awesome power that keeps us together,
but hatred is destroying you and I,
filling our hearts with discord and tearing us apart;
if you don't know me, you can't reach me,
you can only be with me when both of us agree,
now, let us go back to what makes us strong,
let us surrender to the power of love.
https://ayietim./2017/07/24/the-power-of-love/

"Want to Win at Life? Be Ready to POUNCE on Opportunity!

I see people all the time who never achieve their dreams. It’s heartbreaking.
But the sad part isn’t that they never get their big break. The sad part is that their big break comes…
and they’re not ready!
Instead, they hesitate.
They come up with all
sorts of excuses.

They’re not bold. They’re not
ready to pounce!

It’s not enough to have a dream. We have to be ready when opportunity
knocks. When Providence moves, we don’t want to be caught flat footed. We
need to move along with it, or it’s going to pass us by. But we never know when we’re going to get
our shot at our dreams. So…

- We need to be alert
- We need to be prepared
- We need to be HUNGRY!

I remember many times in my life where that made
all the difference. Here’s one:

Before I was a speaker, I was a radio personality. But breaking into radio
was a huge challenge. I was young, had no
experience or education, and no one wanted to give me a chance. I went to the local radio station every day for months, until I finally wore down the owner and
got a job fetching coffee from the commissary and
VIPs from the airport (I didn’t even have a driver’s license, but I drove like I did.)

Of course, my dreams
were bigger than being a “gofer”. I wanted to be a
radio disc jockey! But it looked like I would never get my shot. I was a nobody.
Still, I keep my eyes open for my opportunity. One day, one of the DJs couldn’t finish his segment
and I was there, watching and waiting. None of the
other DJs were in the
building. In desperation, my boss told me to take
over the controls.
I pounced. I was going on the air!

That started a long career in radio, and eventually led to my becoming a motivational speaker.
But if I had not been ready to pounce on that opportunity, I might still be fetching coffee today.

It’s the same for anyone reading this. It’s about being ready to say “yes” to opportunity when it
comes." - Les Brown.

https://ayietim./2017/07/18/les-brown-want-to-win-at-life-pounce-on-opportunity/

mgdimagaladima:
What are u saying?

The mistake a lot of people make in relationships is, sweeping pains and discomforts under the carpet. They do this because they want peace, which could best be described as a graveyard peace.

A graveyard peace filled with scary bones which are giving partners nightmares, no real peace and no security. This attitude puts relationships on a time bomb, which often explodes when one partner decides not to be the fool any more. But this could be avoided. How?

By talking about everything beautiful and everything ugly, even when the ugly stuff could make someone angry. Don't you think it's okay for someone to get angry, then know the truth, apologize where appropriate and reconcile?

I believe that sorting out differences strengthens relationships but running away from it weakens relationships. What do you think?

Don't run away from a good fight.

Yea, don't shy away from disagreeing and demanding that you are heard before you are shouted down. It pays everybody, when you get the burden off your heart and save your heart from the poison of malice.

Also, the other party benefits from that honest outburst, because genuine feelings are well understood. The understanding sets the tone for effective management of misunderstandings and strengthening of the bond of relationships.

So, sometimes when you feel aggrieved, let out the steam but don't fail to listen to reasons and accept apologies. Every quarrel is an opportunity to talk frankly about concealed disappointments and frustrations in a relationship. And it's also an opportunity to make the relationship stronger by taking advantage of the reconciliation window. https://ayietim./2017/07/16/sometimes-in-a-relationship-a-good-fight-is-necessary/

"Scabies is a very contagious skin condition that's common around the world. Although the infections are uncomfortable, they usually can be treated easily.

Causes;

According to an article published on live science, scabies isn't like other skin conditions. Whereas most skin problems are caused by allergies, viruses or genetics, scabies infections come from mites. A microscopic mite called the human itch mite (Sarcoptes scabiei var. hominis) burrows into the upper layer of a person's skin, where it lives and lays two to three eggs each day.Symptoms Though scabies has very few symptoms, it can be very uncomfortable.

The prominent symptoms of scabies are itching and little red bumps or blisters on the skin (on the fingers and webbing between the fingers and areas with skin folds), Kapoor said. "Itching is often severe and usually worse at night," she said. In infants and young children, the bumps may form around the neck. scalp, face and palms, as well as on the soles of the feet.

If a person has had scabies before, the symptoms may develop within a few days. For people who haven't had it previously, it may take as long as six weeks for symptoms to begin. However, anyone who is infected with scabies is contagious even if he or she does not have symptoms, according to the Mayo Clinic.

Diagnosis & Treatment;

Good timing and adequate communication are essential to the success of scabies treatment, Kapoor said. A medical professional may suspect scabies if the patient has one or more of the following symptoms: Widespread itching that is worse at night. Itchy eruptions with characteristic lesions and distribution. Other household members with similar symptoms. The doctor also may examine a sample of the patient's skin under a microscope, to look for eggs or mites in the skin. When scabies has been diagnosed, treatment is simple. Kapoor said there are two main methods for treating it.

One way is to apply a cream containing an insecticide called permethrin. Patients massage it thoroughly into the skin from the neck to the soles of the feet, including areas under the fingernails and toenails, Kapoor said. The other method is to take an oral prescription medication called ivermectin, she added. A doctor may prescribe Lindane lotion or Crotamiton (Eurax) creams instead of permethrin, or he or she may recommend antihistamines because they can help control the itching. Itching often persists for one to two weeks even after successful treatment because the mites, mite feces and mite eggs have irritated the skin and it needs time to recover."

https://ayietim./2017/07/14/causessymptoms-treatment-of-scabies/

It's so difficult to get people ( locals and foreigners) to take you seriously, when you are coming from a part of the world, notorious for all the wrong reasons.

The stench is so offensive, that you are shut up before you could talk, you are avoided before you arrive and you are written off before you could make a point. Your best intentions are a suspect.

As a matter of fact, everything you try to do to make life easy for you and others turns out to make life difficult for ONLY you.

So should you go into hiding or roll over and die because you are a victim of what you had no input or control over? No!

No matter how strong the stench is, keep on doing beautiful things, keep on being strong so that you can help the weak. Keep on doing what you can to help out those in need.

Keep contributing positively and generously to charity. Charity is for givers and givers are respected, regardless of the stench or the stigma attached to where they are coming from. The stigma is a human creation and no human being has ever attained perfection.

https://ayietim./2017/07/11/walk-tall-the-stench-is-not-your-fault/

It's so difficult to get people ( locals and foreigners) to take you seriously, when you are coming from a part of the world, notorious for all the wrong reasons.

The stench is so offensive, that you are shut up before you could talk, you are avoided before you arrive and you are written off before you could make a point. Your best intentions are a suspect.

As a matter of fact, everything you try to do to make life easy for you and others turns out to make life difficult for ONLY you.

So should you go into hiding or roll over and die because you are a victim of what you had no input or control over? No!

No matter how strong the stench is, keep on doing beautiful things, keep on being strong so that you can help the weak. Keep on doing what you can to help out those in need.

Keep contributing positively and generously to charity. Charity is for givers and givers are respected, regardless of the stench or the stigma attached to where they are coming from. The stigma is a human creation and no human being has attained perfection.

https://ayietim./2017/07/11/walk-tall-the-stench-is-not-your-fault/

A relationship is about two people and what they want together or what they don't want together.

You will start having problems in your relationship when you believe what 'you' want is what 'we' want. What if it isn't? Have you had a long patient discussion with your partner on why 'yours' should be 'ours'? If you have, has your proposal been accepted or has it been rejected?

If it has been rejected, trying to impose it on the relationship is activating a ticking time bomb. What should you do when you really need your partner's cooperation? Appeal for understanding by asking for reasons. Make a genuine effort to know why your partner is opposing your proposal. Listen objectively and actively to every reason. In the course of it, you may realize that you were about making a wrong decision.

https://ayietim./2017/07/05/this-is-the-major-reason-you-are-having-problems-in-your-relationship/

It is no hard work for the star to shine,
it's natural for it to shine.

You are a star and you too can shine. But at the moment your light is hidden by self-doubt and the fear of failure.

You know what? I am going to encourage you to bring it on.
The world have endured worst,
have tolerated the very average
and have helped mediocres become celebrated stars. Now, is your turn to shine. Turn on your light. https://ayietim./2017/06/20/now-is-your-turn-to-shine-like-the-star/

Men are natural risk takers while women have an aversion for taking risks. Naturally also, you may not have the support of your wife when you choose to jump off the edge of the cliff and hope to grow wings on your way down.

So what do you do when your wife doesn't support your dream?

1. You must show understanding and demonstrate a high level of toleramce. Yes you must understand that her refusal to support you is borne out of love and fear. She loves you so much that she is scared of ruining what both of you have together and possibly, losing you to a life of depression. You must also tolerate her.

2. Try telling her everything about your dream, risks you are taking to make it a reality and why it must be that dream and nothing else. Telling her everything means sharing with her prospects and problems of the dream and, fears and concerns you have about the success of your dream .

3. Try to accomodate her passion in your quest to fulfill your dream. Don't ever be under the impression that since she doesn't support, she can't contribute positively with her talent. There's always a chance that she could be useful somewhere.
4. Avoid the urge to talk about you and your dream every time you have a discussion with your wife. Rather talk about the family and her projects more,. Offer useful suggestions where necessary and reassure her of your constant undiluted support.

5. When every approach fails to earn you her support, don't stop loving her and don't stop taking calculated risks to turn your dream into reality. When you succeed, she will be your first and most loyal fan.

https://ayietim./2017/06/19/5-positive-things-to-do-when-your-wife-doesnt-support-your-dream-relationships/

You live with the choices you make. And the choices you make determine whether you succeed or fail in life.

Your success in life is a funtion of the amount of time and energy you put into making essential choices. So, as you spend more and more time choosing to do extremely important things, you naturally rid yourself of the non-esstials.

The non-essentials are never necessary and they don't help the march towards progress. And it is not difficult for you to eliminate them because if you checked, you picked them up from the society, just to be like a friend or someone else. Non-essential choices don't define you but essential choices give you a unique identity that makes you a brand.

Now, you have a choice to make, choose to do what is extremely important. https://ayietim./2017/06/19/the-best-way-to-make-those-extremely-important-choices-2/

When you talk,
your heart works better when someone listens to you,

when you walk,
you cover thousands of miles easily with a company but very difficult alone;

alone, we are bits and pieces of a whole,

but together, we form a great group,

everybody matters, so tolerate each other,

small streams, together form a mighty body of water,

a home to all; big, great and small,

where all are for one and one is for all,

therefore respect all, for the one you snub today,

maybe your tomorrow's saving grace.

https://ayietim./2017/06/09/lets-live-work-eat-and-sleep-together-in-peace/

YtivitissuP:
Forward ever, backward never

@ StarBukola: Sometimes in life, we need to go back to that heap of rubbish or vomit, to find the gold covered in dirt. Sometimes, we need to do the 'socially wrong' to get our lives back on the right track.

You see, a relationship is about two people from two different backgrounds, often with two different childhood dreams, coming together to seek happiness on the same path. There must be problems, some could pull them apart for a brief or a long period. But if they were meant to be together for love sake, they would come back, forgive one another, forget about the past and move on stronger together.

What if your ex wants to come back? Find out; 1. Independently what your ex has been up to, who he has been with and why he is quitting to come back to you, 2. Your level of commitment to a new relationship, that is, if you are in a new one, 3. If you are in a new relationship and whether or not you are deep into it, assess the following: a. Having experienced both worlds, you should be better placed to gauge their level of seriousness with you in terms of the quality of time devoted to you, b. Accessibility and quality of communication. You could be with someone without having access to the person's inner recesses where the true person lives. This could be because he doesn't talk much about himself, his interests and his fears. He neither volunteers nor answers. 3. Why you? Find out from him. Take your time to study the development before you say 'No' or 'Yes', it is alright to give someone a second chance when they realize their mistakes, come back to apologize because they are remorseful and want you back be cause they now appreciate you worth. But be careful how you handle it. You wouldn't want to fall a victim the second time, would you?

Any time the breeze sings a silent song,
the leaves hear and dance along,
if you weren't trained to see,
how could you keep an open eye?
If you weren't trained to interpret, how could you understand?
A mystery lives in the mind that doesn't understand the tune,
a trained eye penetrates the darkest night to find the moon,
to a trained mind, nothing is hidden for long,
so learn the music by the breeze and sing along.
https://ayietim./2017/05/30/suffer-to-train-your-mind/

A troubled mind is an arse on fire, panicky,
no peace in wine, truth just escapes the mind, momentarily,
eventually, reality is ever present,
ever so real, ever inflicting pains
on a troubled mind, hiding under illusions,
when it could sit up and search for solutions,
by asking questions, keeping pride aside,
possibly, you could find an answer to your troubled mind.
https://ayietim./2017/05/26/pour-some-wine-for-the-troubled-mind/

Have you been told recently by a loved one or an expert. that what you envision can't be done or can't be achieved.

Where have those words placed you? At the point of giving up on your dream or you have crossed the bridge and burnt it down, never to retreat until you have proved that it can be done.

The latter option is the way to go for anyone who wants to make a real positive difference in life. Don't go searching for words of encouragement from others rather encourage yourself to take actions.

One positive action speaks louder than thousands of words. Actions go the distance to get the job done. It is when the job is done that you prove that it's possible and it can be done.

https://ayietim./2017/05/26/it-cant-be-done-every-startups-worst-nightmare/

To all those talking down to you, let them talk, while you respond to every talk down by challenging yourself to go to places angels don't tread, think about things not yet in existence and attempt to do impossible. things.

Are they talking down to you because they believe your time is over? Well, let them continue while you use the brief period they are looking else where, to discover your best yet. Then surprise and make believers out of your worst critics.

Are you going through your lowest moment yet? It's bad alright but since you are still breathing, keep on working and believing, your finest moment is approaching. Those laughing at you now, will end up being your most loyal fans. Just don't quit yet until you have reached your best yet.

https://ayietim./2017/05/22/how-to-discover-your-best-yet-when-people-talk-down-to-you/

Life takes on a whole new meaning when you know the purpose for your existence.

Many people are going through life without realizing why they are here and what they are here to do. This is why many things in life don't make any sense to them. They are just going through the motion of living without being alive to those little things which make others function effectively and succeed greatly.

Doesn't awareness spark interest? And doesn't interest engender conscious and determined efforts to make progress? If this reasoning is correct, then understanding the purpose you are here to serve is necessary to get you on the right track. It is fundamental to you searching for and finding your forte in life.

When you operate within and from your position of strength, nothing can stop you from going forward. You break down all barriers by simply doing the thing you love effectively. You don't struggle to win, you just have fun and get paid for it.

https://ayietim./2017/05/21/whats-the-purpose-whats-the-meaning/

Stories and story-telling are one of the exciting things that make life less boring and more interesting.

You love stories, especially gossip, don't you? Hearing and retelling them give you a temporary escape from the struggles of life. It is sweet when it's about others but very bitter when you are the subject.

What is the best way to handle it when you are at the center of a bad gossip? The first step is- DON'T IGNORE IT! Then, use every channel available to you, to tell your own side of the story.

It is very dangerous to ignore a gossip that paints you in bad light. Your reputation could be severely damaged. And if you should allow this to happen, it could weaken your goodwill to get considerations for job offers and business referrals.

So face it and deal with it.

https://ayietim./2017/05/21/gossip-what-must-you-do-when-its-about-you/

"Researchers have discovered a mechanism by which the body's immune reaction to viruses like influenza and HIV may cause learning and memory problems. This is the finding of a study led by researchers from NYU Langone Medical Center and published online May 15 in Nature Medicine. Evidence in mice suggests that the entry of a virus anywhere in the bloodstream turns on "first responder" immune cells called CX3CR1highLY6Clow monocytes, which then release the inflammatory signaling protein TNF-α. According to the authors of the study, TNF-α then travels to the brain where it blocks the formation of nerve cell connections needed to turn sensory information into memories. Although immune system activation by viruses has long been linked to cognitive problems, the underlying mechanisms have been poorly understood. In the new report.

https://ayietim./2017/05/16/certain-immune-reactions-to-viruses-may-be-responsible-for-learning-problems-research/

"Researchers have discovered a mechanism by which the body's immune reaction to viruses like influenza and HIV may cause learning and memory problems. This is the finding of a study led by researchers from NYU Langone Medical Center and published online May 15 in Nature Medicine. Evidence in mice suggests that the entry of a virus anywhere in the bloodstream turns on "first responder" immune cells called CX3CR1highLY6Clow monocytes, which then release the inflammatory signaling protein TNF-α. According to the authors of the study, TNF-α then travels to the brain where it blocks the formation of nerve cell connections needed to turn sensory information into memories. Although immune system activation by viruses has long been linked to cognitive problems, the underlying mechanisms have been poorly understood. In the new report."

https://ayietim./2017/05/16/certain-immune-reactions-to-viruses-may-be-responsible-for-learning-problems-research/

"Researchers have discovered a mechanism by which the body's immune reaction to viruses like influenza and HIV may cause learning and memory problems. This is the finding of a study led by researchers from NYU Langone Medical Center and published online May 15 in Nature Medicine. Evidence in mice suggests that the entry of a virus anywhere in the bloodstream turns on "first responder" immune cells called CX3CR1highLY6Clow monocytes, which then release the inflammatory signaling protein TNF-α. According to the authors of the study, TNF-α then travels to the brain where it blocks the formation of nerve cell connections needed to turn sensory information into memories. Although immune system activation by viruses has long been linked to cognitive problems, the underlying mechanisms have been poorly understood. In the new report."

SOURCE-

https://ayietim./2017/05/16/certain-immune-reactions-to-viruses-may-be-responsible-for-learning-problems-research/

"If areas of compatibility are not more than areas of tolerance then your relationship is heading for the rock"

Without compatibility, there is no successful relationship.

A relationship is an agreement between two people to come together and work as partners to achieve goals that make them happy. For them to begin on a happy note and continue happily, areas of compatibility must be more than areas of tolerance.

For instance, for you and your partner to enjoy a great relationship, both of you must be compatible in;

1. Timeliness and Punctuality.

2. Money and spending,

3. Belief and ideology,

4. Food and diet,

5. Leisure and tourism favourites.

Finding compatibility in the 5 areas listed above may not be easy but with the readiness and willingness to compromise, it is achievable.

SOURCE-

https://ayietim./2017/05/17/compatibility-is-successful-relationship-5-areas-where-compatibility-is-a-must/