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My wife and I raised four daughters—without shotguns in the house!—and three of them have already married. We love our sons-in-law, and it’s obvious God handpicked each of them to match our daughters’ temperaments and personality.

I have always believed God is in the matchmaking business. If He can do it for my daughters, He can do it for you.

Today I have several single female friends who would very much like to find the right guy. Some tell me the pickings are slim at their church, so they have ventured into the world of online dating. Others have thrown up their hands in despair, wondering if there are any decent Christian guys left anywhere. They’ve begun to wonder if they should lower their standards in order to find a mate.

My advice stands: Don't settle for less than God's best. Too many Christian women today have ended up with an Ishmael because impatience pushed them into an unhappy marriage. Please take my fatherly advice: You are much better off single than with the wrong guy!

Speaking of “wrong guys,” here are the top 10 men you should avoid when looking for a husband:



1. The unbeliever: Please write 2 Corinthians 6:14 on a Post-it note and tack it on your computer at work. It says, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?” (NASB). This is not an outdated religious rule. It is the Word of God for you today.Don’t allow a man’s charm, looks or financial success (or his willingness to go to church with you) push you to compromise what you know is right. “Missionary dating” is never a wise strategy. If the guy is not a born-again Christian, scratch him off your list. He’s not right for you. I’ve yet to meet a Christian woman who didn’t regret marrying an unbeliever.



2. The liar: If you discover that the man you are dating has lied to you about his past or that he’s always covering his tracks to hide his secrets from you, run for the nearest exit. Marriage must be built on a foundation of trust. If he can’t be truthful, break up now before he bamboozles you with an even bigger deception.



3. The playboy: I wish I could say that if you meet a nice guy at church, you can assume he’s living in sexual purity. But that’s not the case today. I’ve heard horror stories about single guys who serve on the worship team on Sunday but act like Casanovas during the week. If you marry a guy who was sleeping around before your wedding, you can be sure he will be sleeping around after your wedding.



4. The deadbeat: There are many solid Christian men who experienced marital failure years ago. Since their divorce, they have experienced the Holy Spirit’s restoration, and now they want to remarry. Second marriages can be very happy. But if you find out that the man you are dating hasn’t been caring for his children from a previous marriage, you have just exposed a fatal flaw. Any man who will not pay for his past mistakes or support children from a previous marriage is not going to treat you responsibly.

5. The addict: Churchgoing men who have addictions to alcohol or drugs have learned to hide their problems—but you don’t want to wait until your honeymoon to find out that he’s a boozer. Never marry a man who refuses to get help for his addiction. Insist that he get professional help and walk away. And don’t get into a codependent relationship in which he claims he needs you to stay sober. You can’t fix him.

6. The bum: I have a female friend who realized after she married her boyfriend that he had no plans to find steady work. He had devised a great strategy: He stayed home all day and played video games while his professional wife worked and paid all the bills. The apostle Paul told the Thessalonians, “If anyone is not willing to work, then he is not to eat, either” (2 Thess. 3:10). The same rule applies here: If a man is not willing to work, he doesn’t deserve to marry you.

7. The narcissist: I sincerely hope you can find a guy who is handsome. But be careful: If your boyfriend spends six hours a day at the gym and regularly posts closeups of his biceps on Facebook, you have a problem. Do not fall for a self-absorbed guy. He might be cute, but a man who is infatuated with his appearance and his own needs will never be able to love you sacrificially, like Christ loves the church (Eph. 5:25). The man who is always looking at himself in the mirror will never notice you.



8. The abuser: Men with abusive tendencies can’t control their anger when it boils over. If the guy you are dating has a tendency to fly off the handle, either at you or others, don’t be tempted to rationalize his behavior. He has a problem, and if you marry him you will have to navigate his minefield every day to avoid triggering another outburst. Angry men hurt women—verbally and sometimes physically. Find a man who is gentle.



9. The man-child: Call me old-fashioned, but I’m suspicious of a guy who still lives with his parents at age 35. If his mother is still doing his cooking, cleaning and ironing at that age, you can be sure he’s stuck in an emotional time warp. You are asking for trouble if you think you can be a wife to a guy who hasn’t grown up. Back away and, as a friend, encourage him to find a mentor who can help him mature.

10. The control freak: Some Christian guys today believe marriage is about male superiority. They may quote Scripture and sound super-spiritual, but behind the façade of husbandly authority is deep insecurity and pride that can morph into spiritual abuse. First Peter 3:7 commands husbands to treat their wives as equals. If the man you are dating talks down to you, makes demeaning comments about women or seems to squelch your spiritual gifts, back away now. He is on a power trip. Women who marry religious control freaks often end up in a nightmare of depression.

If you are a woman of God, don’t sell your spiritual birthright by marrying a guy who doesn’t deserve you. Your smartest decision in life is to wait for a man who is sold out to Jesus.

(https://www.facebook.com/SalvationHouseMinistry)

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In response I received numerous requests to share similar guidelines for men who are looking for wives. Since I am mentoring several young men right now and have seen a few of them marry successfully during the past few years, it wasn’t difficult to draft this list. These are the women I tell my spiritual sons to avoid:


1. The unbeliever: In last week’s column, I reminded women that the Bible is absolutely clear on this point: Christians should not marry unbelievers. Second Corinthians 6:14 says, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?” (NASB). Apart from your decision to follow Christ, marriage is the single most important decision you will ever make. Don’t blow it by ignoring the obvious. You need a wife who loves Jesus more than she loves you. Put spiritual maturity at the top of your list of qualities you want in a wife.

2. The material girl: One young friend of mine was engaged to a girl from a rich family. He saved up money for months to buy a ring, but when he proposed she told him he needed to go back to the jewelry store to buy a bigger diamond. She pushed her fiance to go into debt for a ring that fit her expectations. She wanted a Tiffany’s lifestyle on his Wal-Mart budget. I warned my friend that he was stepping into serious trouble. Unless you want to live in debt for the rest of your life, do not marry a girl who has dollar signs in her eyes and eight credit cards in her Gucci purse.

3. The diva: Some macho guys like to throw their weight around and pretend they are superior to women. Divas are the female version of this nightmare. They think the world revolves around them, and they don’t think twice about hurting somebody else to prove their point. Their words are harsh and their finger-snapping demands are unreasonable. Some of these women might end up in leadership positions at church, but don’t be fooled by their super-spiritual talk. Real leaders are humble. If you don’t see Christlike humility in the woman you are dating, back away from her and keep looking.

4. The Delilah: Remember Samson? He was anointed by God with superhuman strength, but he lost his power when a seductive woman figured out his secret and gave her man the world’s most famous haircut. Like Delilah, a woman who hasn’t yielded her sexuality to God will blind you with her charms, break your heart and snip your anointing off. If the “Christian” woman you met at church dresses provocatively, flirts with other guys, posts sexually inappropriate comments on Facebook or tells you she’s OK with sex before marriage, get out of that relationship before she traps you.

5. The contentious woman: A young man told me recently that he dated a girl who had serious resentment in her heart because of past hurts. “Before I would propose, I told my fiancee she had to deal with this,” he explained. “It would have been a deal-breaker, but there was a powerful breakthrough and now we are engaged.” This guy realized that unresolved bitterness can ruin a marriage. Proverbs 21:9 says, “It is better to live in a corner of a roof than in a house shared with a contentious woman.” If the woman you are dating is seething with anger and unforgiveness, your life together will be ruined by arguing, door-slamming and endless drama. Insist that she get prayer and counseling.

6. The controller: Marriage is a 50/50 partnership, and the only way it works is when both husband and wife practice mutual submission according to Ephesians 5:21. Just as some guys think they can run a marriage like a dictatorship, some women try to manipulate decisions to get their way. This is why premarital counseling is so important! You don’t want to wait until you’ve been married for two weeks to find out that your wife doesn’t trust you and wants to call all the shots.

7. The mama’s girl: It’s normal for a new wife to call her mom regularly for advice and support. It is not normal for her to talk to her mother five times a day about every detail of her marriage, including her sex life. That’s weird. Yet I have counseled guys whose wives allowed their mothers (or fathers) total control of their marriages. Genesis 2:24 says a man is to leave his parents and cleave to his wife. Parents should stay in the background of their children’s marriages. If your girlfriend hasn’t cut the apron strings, proceed with caution.

8. The addict: So many people in the church today have not been properly discipled. Many still struggle with various types of addictions—to alcohol, illegal drugs, prescription medicines or pornography—either because we don’t confront these sins from the pulpit or we don’t offer enough compassionate support to strugglers. Jesus can completely set a person free from these habits, but you don’t want to wait until you’re married to find out your wife isn’t sober. You may still be called to be married, but it is not wise to tie the knot until your girlfriend faces her issues head-on.Your best rule to follow in choosing a wife is found in Proverbs 31:30: “Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.” Look past the outward qualities that the world says are important, and look at the heart.

Source: Salvation House (https://www.facebook.com/SalvationHouseMinistry)

There are many things that happen in this life that we consider foolishness and not righteousness while some are righteousness and not foolishness. I want you to base your judgments on this true life story

I have a very distant cousin that once told me of a true life story that the victim of this story shared with her. She told me that there is this person close to her going to farm with her mother one fateful day, on their way to the farm they stumbled on a briefcase loaded with dollars (The amount is unknown to them). She and her mother walk past the money hoping that the owner could come back looking for it. They returned home that fateful day and heard news on the radio that a bank very close to them has been robbed earlier that morning and the thieves has gone with lots of money from the bank. So they flashed back to the briefcase, and they thought it could have been in the process of being in haste that one of the briefcases fell from the vehicle of the thieves. They didn't bother to go back to the place they saw that briefcase thinking a lucky person would have picked it up.

Some weeks later they walk through that same path they saw the briefcase loaded with dollars, lo and behold the money was still there, but as at that time the rain has seriously beaten that briefcase and the money inside has been destroyed as a result of the rain. Though they were unhappy that the money was destroyed but they did not regret not taking the money. Mind you these people are still farmers till date.

What would you term this to be? "Righteousness or foolishness"

Ayo
RCCG OYO PROVINCE 4 (APAPA FAMILY)
PARISH: JESUS EMPIRE

If there is one thing we all know that can cut one's destiny short and hinder the fulfillment of God's plan for our life is greediness. Greediness is a sin which will should be beware of. Greediness deprives us from heavenly and other good benefits God has in stock for us. Gehazi could have been two times more powerful than Elisha and four times more powerful than Elijah but greediness couldn't allow him. Gehazi exchanged his glorious destiny with just two talents of silver and two changes of garment, not just that only, he got leprosy with it also. Satan realized this weak point of Gehazi, dealt with him in his weak area and robbed him of his glorious destiny. Gehazi was never mention in the Bible since then. This is the reward of greediness.

Ananias and Sapphira are another examples of individuals that played the role of greed in the Bible (Acts 2:1-11). What baffles me the most is that Ananias and Sapphira were not forced to sell the land and bring the money to the house of God, they did it in their own freewill. What I think they would have done is that, they would of told the apostles that they will be selling the land and they will be giving the house of God a portion of the money. I think this would have settled the whole matter instead of them lieing against the Holy Spirit and dieing as a result. They both died as a result of their unfaithfulness and greediness.

Adam and Eve were another example of greed. We can say the origin of greediness is from Adam and Eve. We see that the greediness of Adam and Eve cost us the garden of Eden thereby we toiling for anything before we can have it. Maybe If Adam and Eve had not taken of the fruit of the tree of knowledge I think we all will still be living happily, gloriously, bond-free in the garden of Eden. We will not have to work/struggle/labour before we will eat. We can see what our first parents has cost us all just because of their greediness. Satan knew that they will be happy to eat the fruit because they want to know the good from evil, so he convinced Eve to eat of the fruit, greediness that is what i termed this. God has given them the privilege to eat of all the fruit of the tree of the garden but not to eat the fruit of the tree of knowledge only. Disobedience and greediness couldn't allow the original glorious plan for man be fulfilled. Thank God for His grace that he showed us by sending His only begotten son to come and die for you and me to cleanse the bad deed that has been laid down by our first parents

A greedy man is a wicked man. A greedy man is a covetous man. A greedy man does not want good for his/her neighbour because he wants all the good things of life for himself alone.

Rewards and Results of Greediness
1.Greediness make one a candidate of hell: Ananias and Sapphira destination will be hell fire, because they lied against the Holyspirit which led to their death. They died unrepentant
2. Greediness make one a candidate of death: Greed was the cause of the death of Ananias and Sapphira
3. Greediness cut one destiny short: We can see how Gehazi's destiny was cut short because of his destiny. Gehazi could have been another great and powerful prophet in his days.
4. Greediness can cost us the fulfillment of God's glorious plan for our life: We can see what our first parents cost us because of their greediness. They made us toil before we eat, struggle/labour before we can achieve a particular thing. That is what greediness can do.
The reward of greed is not good at all. It is better we prevent and cease from being a greedy fellow
GOD BLESS YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. (Proverbs 22:6)"

The scripture quoted above is an instruction which is more or less an advice from God to the earthly parents.

The future of our nation be it good or bad depends on the kind of child brought up today. Our present nation today is an outcome of the training which our grandparents gave to our present parent.

I think the time parents start to have this consciousness inside of them; they will take training of the children very serious. There are many things parent do with/for/on their children that they overlook; they will say after all they are still kids.

An example is the aspect of dressing, many parents put on different kinds of bad wears on their children which suppose not to be so. Any cloth that is not worthy for a child of God to wear is bad (miniskirts, micro miniskirts, spags, extra short gowns, etc. among other seductive dresses)
If the bible says “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. (Proverb 22:6)” and you put on miniskirts, spags on your children, which way are you training such child, it is simple “Prostitution”.

Many little children have fallen to be victims of rape/sexual harassment due to this improper dressing parents put on them. The adults that are involved in this evil and wicked act are not to be totally blamed for this, parents are also to be blamed alongside. You see some very flashy children, yet some parents will put on seductive wears on them. It is these seductive wears that attract most rapist to children, parents of today must be very careful in picking their choice of clothes for their children. One thing funny is that after you've taught them to wear those clothes from their childhood, when they are grownups they will not cease from putting on such clothes you've taught them with.

Another example is the[b] aspect of moral training[/b]
- Respect to elders; many little children of nowadays do not respect elders; this is a result of the training given to them by their parents. Parents are to make the children aware of how important respecting the elders is. (Isaiah 3:5)

- Parents should train children on how they can be independent on their own, children should be taught how to do things themselves.

- Parents should exhibit love among themselves. If a father and mother shows love to one another thereby they share things together and do things in oneness. Your child can not marry and will not exhibit that character, that’s what he/she has grown up to see

- Parents should be responsible before their children. A house thereby a father and mother fight every morning, rain abuses on themselves, etc. What are they teaching such a child; Irresponsibility when he/she also marries?

-Parent should live responsible life: Parent must not be wayward in the presence of their children. Many wayward children today are as a result of irresponsible parents and broken marriages. Parent should live a responsible life that even their children will like to emulate their characters thereby taking them as their role models. Is your character good that your child can take you as a role model? Ask yourself- Parents should be careful of foul languages in the home. Children are smart and brilliant, that little fowl word you have said that you taught they didn’t hear, they will speak it to you one day. Be careful


Another example is the aspect of respect to parents.
Parents should not overlook this because the bible clearly states that any child that respect his/her parent, his/her days will be long and it will be well with him/her Ephesians 6:2-3, Exodus 20:12, Deut 5:16,Col 3:20 In this age some parents have become children and some children become parents. Some children command their parent to do some things for they as if their parents are their children. The bible says in Ephesians 6:1 “Children, obey your parents in the Lord…..” not parents obey your children in the Lord. Parents if you want all to be well with your child and their days may also be long teach them to respect even you as their parents. Other bible verses spoke about children obedience to their parents. Prov 30:17, Exodus 21:25, Pro 20:20, Mark 7:10


Another example is the aspect of training to be wise and smart.
Some Parents have over-pampered their children in such a way they are sluggish and fools to their fellow friends either at school, church, or the community. This ought not to be, a child must be trained on how to survive in the hard and good times. Prov. 15:5, Prov 19:13, Proverbs 15:20, Proverbs 30:11, Proverbs 10:1, Proverbs 17:21, 25,


Above all, children are not to be trained in any other way, but the way of the Lord. This is very important. Any parent that train a child in the way of the Lord will never live to regret it at all, no matter how little. We have example of good children in the likes of Abel, Samuel, Isaac, Timothy, Naaman’s maid. We also have bad children in the likes of Cain, Absalom, Hophni and Phinehas. Which of the child do you desire to bring up? It depends on what way you decide to train up your child

Your child is your tomorrow; he/she is also the future leader/parent tomorrow. Any way you decide to train up your child to go, You will definitely meet it in the future.

We have several examples of good Parents in the bible in the likes of Abraham and Sarah, Hannah & Elkanah, Paul, etc. We also have bad parents in the bible in the likes of Eli, Esau, etc.

What type of parent are you? Ask yourself that small question

We know how Eli and his children ended up, if you don’t want yourself and your children to end up in such a way, be a good parent to your children and train them up in the way of the Lord (Pro 22:6)

GOD BLESS YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
GOD WILL GIVE YOU THE ENABLING GRACE TO TRAIN UP YOUR CHILD IN THE GOOD WAY OF THE LORD IN JESUS NAME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
GOOD AFTERNOON GOD'S PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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