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ubunja:
https://www.nairaland.com/5241432/ubunjas-miseducation-all-sex-making


the more you understand female nature the more women's actions make sense,, and the more it makes sense that they have no shame in what they do cause it's something natural for them, something deep wired into their biology.

Read the full Miseducation here: https://www.nairaland.com/5241432/ubunjas-miseducation-all-sex-making

Do you honestly want to be like that man? Only a bum goes around making babies with random women.

Any woman that finds this attractive in a man needs to have her head examined.

ubunja:
when your rich baby mama comes through for you....

Let’s learn to reason clearly and logically. How many men in the world get to plant seeds in multi millionaire women? How many baby mamas do we know in our personal lives that are wealthy and do not need financial support from their baby daddies?

Please stop using exceptional cases to prove your point.

ubunja:
a baby will always be a bigger investment for a woman than marriage. a woman who has married you has not given you anything she can't get out of in the blink of an eye and give to another man. a woman can marry a new man every Saturday,, cause marriage is only a male investment, never a female investment...

women only become seriously invested in a man when they choose to have his baby. and that investment is biggest if it's outside wedlock.

This is false. I know many baby mamas that have babies with several men and are still on the look out for more men. They are not invested in their baby daddies at all.

ubunja:
https://www.nairaland.com/5241432/ubunjas-miseducation-all-sex-making


the more you understand female nature the more women's actions make sense,, and the more it makes sense that they have no shame in what they do cause it's something natural for them, something deep wired into their biology.

Read the full Miseducation here: https://www.nairaland.com/5241432/ubunjas-miseducation-all-sex-making

How do you look a young man with a promising future ahead of him in the eyes and advise him to impregnate a woman to keep her? This is very disappointing.

My only hope is that we still have young men reading these exchanges that can still reason logically and can learn to detect and discard posts that only seek to brainwash them.

As a young man, planting your seed in random women is not just irresponsible. It leads to financial ruin and kills dreams. I am not telling you what I think. I am saying what I know.

Most young men with baby mamas do not end up doing well in life with all the distractions. In life there are always exceptions. Please stop using exceptional cases to prove your point.

Any young man that realizes that there is more to life than sex sex and more sex has won 90 per cent of life’s battles. You don’t need random sex to live a fulfilled life. You can be getting all the sex in the world and still be very lonely. Sex can be bought. Fulfilling relationships cannot be bought. And having strong bonds and fulfilling relationships (with family, friends and partners) is what keeps men going during rough times in old age.

You don’t need to be married to have fulfilling relationships. You certainly do not need to plant seeds in women to have fulfilling relationships.

Hrhdujdb:
Basically, operate with a woman that wants you but just like girls play the game of minimum input and maximum output, you shouldn't commit to her(cuz that's the major thing you're bringing to the table) but get every gains you can from her and one of the best ways to do that is planting your seed in her. Personally I believe the best way to play this is impregnating a virgin that has genuine interest in you without still committing to her. The sunk cost fallacy would always work for your sake that way

Once you have planted your seed in a woman, 9 out of 10 times you as the man will be responsible for caring for the mother and child. Regardless of if the woman wants you or not. How is that minimum input and maximum output? You are at the losing end of the bargain, whether you like it or not.

You must defer you life goals as a young man and continue to provide financial support to her and mind you, she can choose not to sleep with you if she doesn’t want to. Are you willing to add unnecessary stress to your life just because you want to tie a woman down with a baby? When there are millions of women in the world? This is very senseless in my opinion.

Nobody in their right senses ties a random woman down by planting a seed in them. Most times, it happens by mistake and the men must deal with the consequences with their full chest. A few are lucky that they impregnated well to do women but most must live with the huge financial burden of catering for the women and children. Or become dead beat dads.

ubunja:
I actually know one or two guys with multiple babymamas and I don't see them self-destructing... Even the bums with multiple babymamas are not exactly self-destructing, they're what they've always been: bums. Don't mistake Africa for America.

The few guys I know with babymamas are not even suffering,, on the contrary they're the guys who always have someone to call when they need the most and have women who'll drop anything to come to their aid in their hour of need. But let me tell you I know good upstanding gentlemen living their life by the book who don't even have anyone who'll sacrifice for them when they need it the most.
And there's only so much even a true friend can do for you before he cut you off as a liability and face his own problems. How many friends will consistently visit you by your hospital bed till you recover? How many friends will consistently visit you in jail till you get out? Not very many.
You can talk about your own family,, but truth is a lot of guys are not maintaining good family relations and there's plenty of grudges and sibling rivalry between them and their brothers and sisters, and few can count on their own blood in their hour of need. I've seen that shít play out and seen the babymama come through harder for a man than his own family and friends.
If you think I'm talking trash, Here's a sobering fact that a lot of guys will not want to admit: Your own sister, your own blood sister, will be more loyal and do more for her baby's father (married or not) than she'll ever be or do for you. Am I lying?

Now am I promoting immorality and irresponsible behaviour? Maybe. But I'm thinking in terms of self-preservation. I wouldn't want to be a 90 year old man who has no one checking upon him just cause I never had any kids cause I didn't want to overpopulate the world or I didn't want to have kids out of wedlock. Let me tell you, At a certain age it won't matter how you got your children, what will matter will be DO YOU HAVE ANY CHILDREN AT ALL?
A lot of us have uncles etc who have good relationships with their children who they got under suspect circumstances, and at that stage no one is talking about where that kid came from but that the kid is here and they're a blessing.

We can talk about getting married but we know the divorce rate. And honestly speaking if we as the red pill discourage marriage then the more a man needs to have children with different women cause tomorrow is not promised and all the money in the world won't matter in your old age as much as having your own kids (regardless how you got them) be around you.
It may seem like I'm talking a lot of bullshit,,, but men don't have a lot of people to count on. And it will actually be irresponsible of us to let men go into the future without Plan B , especially since we're talking down on marriage.

I don't know man,, but that's the way I see it. It would be nice to hear what other guys think though.

1. Most baby mamas will give you hell on earth. It’s not as easy as you make it seem. I know a lot of men that are going through baby mama hell. Trust me they are suffering and regretting.

2. Most baby mamas don’t give a fukk about how you feel or your health. They just want your support money. If they cared so much about you, they will not be your baby mama. This is a fact.

3. Sleeping with your baby mama is as good as sleeping with a prostitute. Lots of diseases.

4. Baby mamas come with lots of baggages especially when they have kids with other men and/or are married/in relationships with other men. You don’t want to be watching your back all the time especially if the man is a bum as you put it.

5. Baby mama children most times are raised by their mothers. Why will they care about you when you are sick or dying in the hospital? Elon Musk, Kanye West, etc have children that they rarely see. Elon’s kids really don’t give two shits about him. You think they will be there when he’s dying in the hospital?

6. Having children does not guarantee that you will not be lonely in old age. Same way not having children does not mean that a man will be lonely in old age. Good health is the key here. A man that ages well and grows old with good health has so many adventures to keep him busy. This could even involve dating women.

7. I maintain that children raised by baby mamas generally don’t turn out right. A lot of negative influences around them. Most children need a father figure who’s consistently in their lives. Fact!

8. A man doesn’t have to be married to be fulfilled in life. Same way a man does not need to have children if he doesn’t want to.

The worst thing a man can do to himself is to go the baby mama way to have children just to avoid being lonely in old age. Recipe for a very stressful life. Know this and know peace.

chikasnight:
I’ll guess by saying this “I honestly feel very sorry for anyone that listens to this kind of self destructing advice” you’re referring to your own advice ...

What advice have I given?? You must be retarded…

ubunja:
80/20 is in full effect. women are congregating around a few men to the exclusion of the majority. at least in the west. (see the 2 pics below) but this is nothing the red pill didn't predict. we been saying this for years. women want money from men but at the same time women have made the government their provider and have also become financially independent, so no one must be surprised men are becoming increasingly single. this is also why I've never subscribed to that "You don't need women to be a man just succeed and you're a man". nope. success without women is always a miserable existence for men cause they get lonely easy.
in all my writings I've never talked about sexual temperance and sexual control cause I've always operated from the viewpoint that most men are struggling to get sex and telling someone who's starving for puccy to deal with puccy in moderation has always been hilarious to me--- how you gonna be moderate and have self control around women when you're not getting any women to begin with?

what most men need is women, especially sex. that's what male loneliness is all about. it's also why for ages, even before that article on THE RISE OF SINGLE LONELY MEN came out, I put that display picture on my profile that explains what male loneliness is.

even before that article came out,, I knew a lot of men were lonely, that is, not getting sex. and it's funny how a lot of men don't wanna hear anything about sex and will go to great lengths to call you shallow and desperate for always talking about sex and not other nobler things like building your career etc,, but the same men, after building themselves find that women are not exactly streaming to them, and they're left lonely with all their achievements. as said article has revealed.

hypergamy declares women want someone who makes more than them,, yet the same women are screwing nobodies and getting pregnant for nobodies. how do you reconcile the two?
well hypergamy IS NOT sexual. what turns a woman on is the same regardless of a man's financial position. if a woman is turned on by muscles, she'll be turned on by muscles regardless of the guy's job status - just that if muscle guy is top achieving, a woman will deal with him PUBLICLY,,but if he's a broke failure, the woman will deal with him SECRETLY. at either state, muscle guy will get the puccy. it's why/how many times, broke men and successful men end up dealing with the same type of chicks. cause both are what turns her on.
now, Since a lot of women are putting off marriage till later, it means hypergamy is at pause till such a time women want to get serious and settle down. which also means women are thinking with their vagina until they decide to settle and have to use their brain and start being choosy and selective with whom they associate with and start having standards,

this is the door I have always preferred. deal with women on a lust level while they're thinking with their vagina, cause then they're not using their brain and are not rational. let their lust turn to love. fucc them until they catch feelings. and they start asking for more out of the situation. there's no relationship whereby a man holds the most leverage as a relationship that starts as a sex thing and a woman gets caught up in the ecstasy of the dicc that she asks for something permanent. you hold all the cards and if you're really as toxic as the best of them, that's when you'd ask for a baby. remember a baby is quickly becoming today's virginity. when no woman is no longer a virgin cause all women are hoes babies become the next best thing.

in all this talk about the Rise Of Single Lonely Men, guess who's not lacking for sex together with the usual suspects (rich men, celebs etc) ---> baby daddies. especially multiple baby daddies. women will always fucc the father of their kid. no matter what.

if men are no longer getting sex and there's no longer any sexual security for them, then making women pregnant all over doesn't seem as bad an idea. modern problems require modern solutions. I'm just saying. and please no man must come for me cause of this baby mama talk I have flue and a headache lol.

These men are not lonely because they are not getting sex. Sex is so easy to get when you are a man with a decent job and some disposable cash. Worst case you go to a prostitute.

The truth is that these men are lonely because they do not have soulmates, spouses, wives, girlfriends and meaningful relationships. Please let’s get our facts right.

And I cannot believe you will advise men to just go and make babies with random women. That makes no sense. Do you know this is the beginning of financial ruin for many men? Do you know what this does to the children? Just imagine men going out and making babies all over the place in an already overpopulated world with very limited resources. And then tomorrow we complain about high crime rates, and increase in the number of armed robbers, kidnappers, hired killers, yahoo boys and prostitutes.

I honestly feel very sorry for anyone that listens to this kind of self destructing advice.

RikudoSennin:
Tips for the single ones here. Women never back down on their specs when it comes to men, you should not either.

1. If a girl/woman has childhood trauma, no matter the trauma, never, ever date her.
2. If a girl/woman father is not present in her childhood, never date her.
3.If a girl/woman is an attention seeker, will do anything for attention. Never date her.
4. If a girl/woman says she was raped when young or sexually abused when young, never date her.
5. If a girl/woman is materialistic, never date her.
6. If a girl/woman has depression, never date her.
7. If a girl/woman is a single mother, never date her.
8. If a girl/woman has chad/tyrone as exes(do your research on her past). Never date her.
9. If a girl/woman is not a virgin, never date her.
10. If a girl/woman has no idea or cannot give ideas on how to invest, never date her.
11. If a girl/woman has more than one ex, never date her.
12. If a girl/woman is a baby mama, never date her.
13. If a girl/woman does not give you space for you as a man to develop and grow, never date her.
14. If a girl/woman is not close to her parents be it father or mother or close relatives, never date her.
15. If a girl/woman cannot spend her own money or buy gifts for you, never date her.

You might say but where will i find all the healthier girls. Answer is, they are out there, do not let one-itis blind you from enjoying a healthy relationship devoid of drama. The women on the list above will make you life miserable. Stay away from them.

Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.

You may as well tell men to start dating fellow men

missidy:
You got it right. I am working with the circle I know, same way you are working with the circle you know. There are so many earning more millions a month, same way there are so many earning little and struggling to send their kids to school. My argument is that it is false to say not many parents earn up to that amount a month in Nigeria.

Please just stop embarrassing yourself and showing that your parents wasted the money used in sending you to school. Just stop please.

missidy:
Many. I can count so many for you that I know personally plus my classmates parents. There are many parents doing excellently well in Nigeria. You think it is cheap to pay for private secondary schools in ogun state and Lagos? It is the same way people don't believe that young people in their 20's and 30's are earning up to 1 million from tech in this same Nigeria. The person living in iyana ipaja will never believe that life is more comfortable in lekki, their mentality will always be different.

This is embarrassing. You have no idea how the real world works.

Nozino:
You’re working with the people you know. If most people over 40years are earning above 2M, would we be the poverty capital of the world?

Don’t you know that most families in Nigeria are surviving on less than a dollar per day?

That person is a buffoon. Pay her no attention.