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Hello everyone,

I'm usually not a fan of write ups but this is so important to me .For those that won't be patient to read to the end.The essence of this ,is to warm unsuspecting public from purchasing expired (or possibly fake goods from popular De Prince supermarket that has one of its branches in Omole.

Yesterday afternoon, I pleaded with my husband to take me to De Prince supermarket in Omole all the way from one end of the town where we stay.Though reluctant, but he still did just to please but he kept wondering why he will travel all the way in the name of quality

On getting there,I was fast and sharp to pick a cartoon of Huggies snug and dry which goes for N18050,and then we paid and headed to the car park.On getting into the car,I put a call to my friend just to be sure I had bought what I truly wanted.And just before I ended the call,she reminded me to check the expiry date (but I waved it saying "it's De Prince supermarket they cannot sell fake".

Just to be sure before leaving the park,I looked round the cartoon for the expiry date, I found none,so I headed straight back inside to the cashier to inform her of my discovery, we opened the carton,searched everywhere ,still no expiry date.The brought me another cartoon of snug and dry,still no dates on it ,just batch numbers.

So I politely requested for a refund which she then referred me to the acting manager, instead of just apologising and returning my money or indicating on the receipt that I could come another day for it, he kept on persuading me to go and use for my baby like that,can you imagine.After pleading him to just let me have the receipt with indication that I have a refund of 18050 to pick up later,still he refused.

I had to do something, so I picked up the bunch of key on his desk just to get his seriousness and attention because of course you can't force me to buy something without dates which could be possibly expired or adulterated. I got the worst of my surprise walking to the exit when the semi attendant at the door gave me a punch on my face.So I got a punch for insisting I wasn't buying a fake/expired products nor using it to buy something else as the acting manager insisted

I wasn't surprised when one of the cashiers worked to me and pulled me to a corner apologising for what happened,also acknowledging that the diaper was expired and had the dates wiped off ,that she was very surprised when the acting manager insisted I go with the diaper without dates ,even after I had detected it had no dates

Before I knew it, My husband came around and the guy was locked up and the police station, then I suddenly became a super star after I had been humiliated for wanting something quality with my money.Everybody started begging me,the real manager had arrived .Other customers were now sharing their experiences of how they had bought either fake or expired products.

After so much pleading from everyone left and right ,I had to forgive and just let go but promised the manager that I will get the word out to unsuspecting public to beware of their chain of stores for expired products.

Then we left omole and headed back to our end of the town.I .I was filled with so much thoughts. All I wanted was a good diaper for my son, but what did I get? Humiliation.I have forgiven but I needed to share this story for customers to beware of De Prince supermarket stores, they are use to selling either expired or adulterated (stories from other customers confirmed this).

What will you not see in Nigeria? Fake rice,fake cabbage, expired (but wiped off) ,all in the name of getting rich quick.

This is my story,

5minsmadness:



Damages and compensation for what When she is the one that moved out of the house? When she is the one that packed things that didn't belong to her? When she put the man through emotional torture not knowing where she was?

Op is the man rich? Maybe it was a financial trap? I hope he has a good lawyer, he should countersue her st[upid as's!!

WTF!!


Also@snakie86 I'm not saying I doubt your story, but u can't sue for divorce before 6months of marriage. It's the Nigerian law. Unless there's something else we don't know?

I feel the husband is not speaking out.There are basis one can file for divorce.

I'm suspecting the husband is unable to meet up with his sexual responsibilities for her to have her parent's support

Their test is simply gmaths.All the best

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PastorAji:
Good morning and compliments of the season.

A friend of mine complained to me yesterday 'bout what he's passing thru and I was @ loss to give him advice.....
I noticed my wife lately that she wants to be bossy in the house. She always wants things to be done in her own way not minding whether it's convenient or not. I got really mad @ her yesterday night. Please what should I do?
P.S. I'm a salary earner while she's into business and what she earns in her business is 4-5 my salary every month



Cc. Lalasticlala

Though I know money plays a lot of role in position assumption but often times its more about the personality than money.

Maybe your wife is a strong Choleric ,Cholerics like to be in charge regardless of their financial status.Financial status or contributions can also trigger their bossiness

I just feel you both need to sit,talk about it and draw her attention to your observations

yetseyi:
I took my time to read the whole story and a lot of us are not being realistic.

Its good enough when a host makes the home hospitable for a guest but shouldn't guests learn how to be nice visitors? And for the "she is just a spoilt teenager" part I do not agree she knows exactly what she is doing, If she is wise enough to help the Mother in Law then she knows she should help the pregnant lady at least to wash plates, is she expecting her to ask her to wash plates or clean up or just stay around with her in the kitchen while cooking, It is all this it is my brother's house mentality that is affecting her.

The hubby even asked her to help aunty in the kitchen still no improvement. I do not even know how she can sit comfortably while babeabike is waddling around with a 38week pregnancy in the kitchen or doing something else without even offering to assist HABA! I really cannot understand how some people do not see anything wrong with this.

I was once 18 and I have visited cousins and and stayed with their wives and by default I know I should help.

Her case is not even a case of poor upbringing, If she knows she should help mum in law then she is not spoilt she just feels ohh I shouldn't help shes my bro's wife. It is even girls like her that you will ask to help and they will go and report your matter to the family that you are giving them work to do.

So because a heavily preggy woman couldn't cook and told you to help yourself in the kitchen you do not eat that night and lock yourself in your room since then.

Like i always so do unto others what you want to be done to you.

OP just dont give yourself headache ooo do not even think about it. Just do what you can, when you can and be nice.

Thanks my dear sis for taking out time to read all through.

I am happy people like you understand the angle I'm coming from.

Funnily I still got to wash all the plates we used for yesterday's breakfast inclusive hers.I made pando yam when she told me she didn't like amala for lunch that I was to prepare initially.And of course I did all the plate and pot washing.

But this morning, no paparazzi,I just stick to my work reports and washing.And everybody had to find food for themselves.And now in the hospital for my Antenatal

Compliments sis

classicB:

Keep ranting then my dear sister. The girl you are angry with doesn't even care or know wether u r angry or not. Instead of you to talk to her u brought your frustrated self on here as if na we go help you talk to her. The girl hasn't stayed for 48hrs and all you can say about her is ill. The truth is you never wanted her to come and no matter what she does to please you u will still find fault. We know your type

Ok ma. You need know the meaning of "ranting and frustration"

You mentioned"anger" angry with a girl I took out?

You are not married yet soo I no blame you or maybe you never even had opportunity of hosting ppl in your home while growing up so you can never get the picture

sherrylo:


Abike dear you are going the wrong way!
In marriage especially the Yoruba ones you are married to your in laws more.I have been in marriage for like 8yrs now with 3kids and I am telling you dear you will always need your in laws both younger and older ones pls.

The girl in question I believe this is her first time in your house, pls don't give her the I own my home attitude because when she gets home she will definitely have so much to talk about you and believe me that's the beginning of the end. Yes you cannot please every one but you have to have more than half of your inlaws on your side to be able to hold the storm in a Yoruba marriage. Its our culture Darling!

Now stop comparing your relatives to your inlaws they are not the same. You're the Iyawo in this case and you have to always start the friendship with any of your in law so as to be on a good grounds with them cos you will always need them when the man begins to be a "Man". Involve the girl when you're doing somethings even if you don't need help just go like "aunty lagbaja let's sit out here together, aunty tamedu come and help me make this eba edakun" call her before you get home
"Iya Oko mi pls I am on my way home put water on the fire for me" and see as things will change afterall she will be leaving soon abi?

Thanks sis,

I will look into what uve said.

classicB:

The truth is she might not be forming or anything. What if she is this type that doesnt get used to people easily? Someone that likes to isolate herself and maintain her space. I visited my boyfriend's sister last year and i spent three days there. I tell you, the only person i relate with is my bf, cos i am already used to him. His sister was just surprised and always like "this ur gf dnt talk" she is an extroverts that thinks everyone will be free with people. If i had stay uup to one week then relating to everybody might no longer be a problem, she is new to the house, give her time to get used to you, and dnt force your talkertive self on her did i forget to tell you that i didnt do much of cleaning and helping?

Did I say in my post that I needed a cleaner?

Been reserved doesn't mean ill mannered.

I work with a multinational and sometimes you find yourself doing some cultural things you wouldn't have thought should exist in such environment.You don't want to find yourself telling them "me ooo I am who I am and cant change for anything,I relate with only those I'm cool with" It will only suggest u don't fit into their values n system

As a guest too,you should attempt to make your stay a memorable one for your host.You don't just watch tv,eat,lock urself in the room till the next meal and on and on.Why u no stay your house?

Tolatutu:
People are being to hard in the Op and I think that's because of how she started with not wanting her husband to pick up the girl. Clearly you may have been raised differently from the girl which is why to you picking up an 18 yr old is over pampering whereas to some families it's not. That's the thing about marriage we are from different backgrounds, the girl may be coming from a home where to her a guest does not go into the kitchen and start cooking.

You have a point that with your own family it'll be easy to say what you like and what you don't but with inlaws you will have to tiptoe around things. If you are cooking add hers, if you are not don't cook because of her. She's an adult and when she's really hungry she'll sort herself out, I think the best thing with in laws is not to stop them from visiting but rather keep visits short. For both side of the family sef, it's easy to ignore people's short comings when you know it's for a few days versus when it's for months and the rule should be if you ever need to tell someone off for bad behavior each person should handle their own family. It always easier that way also remember like someone said even in a family everyone is different so don't like that girls attitude cloud your view of the whole family.

Please relax and all the best with the baby on the way

Thanks,

On issue of picking her up,maybe ppl got me wrong because I didn't expatiate the reason behind my hesitation.Just 3 weeks ago that my mum came to Lagos n was about 3km away from our house,I suggested we pick her up which he outrightly declined that she should take her cab that he could not go out because of heavy traffic

This is my mum who always come to Lagos with her car and had never asked for such favours.She had helped bring all our wedding gifts in bits on each of her journey down.Even brought food stuffs on some occasions.And then my husband declined and I had to drive down at about 9pm with my protruding tummy all alone to bring in my mum.

Tell me how would I react to his volunteer to go bring the girl from over 50km away during festive season(with so much traffic in town) after refusing to pick my own mum that has BN supportive and relevant to us.And now there was more traffic in town than the day my mum came around.Who deserved bn picked up? Someone from a journey or someone within Lagos?

Siena:
It's all well and good for you guys to berate the thread starter, a pregnant woman. As for those who are saying you're married to your inlaws too, you need them etc.

I can honestly say many of you know EXACTLY what the thread starter is on about, and where she's coming from, you just refuse to acknowledge what is glaringly obvious. This teen WAS being obstinate, bringing her bad manners from her own home to that of her hosts. The fact remains inlaws CAN be a pain in the posterior. I do NOT feel an 18-year-old girl needs to be asked for help in the home of her host. It's common sense.

Jeeze, in Nigeria, you would see a stranger in the street, struggling to lift a stack of firewood onto her head, or a comparably light bucket of water. It is pretty common to offer help to lift this load, in most cases, we do it without being asked! So tell me, why would this teen NEED to be asked to render assistance to her pregnant host, who is also a relative?

My myself and my wife have been on the receiving end of similar, where a house guest (a good friend of hers) would sit with her laptop, or hog the TV remote, not stirring till food was ready. She had her own bathroom, yet would NOT clean it up, leaving my wife to sort out the mess. She just did NOTHING! How old was this girl?

She was 30!

I can see inlaws CAN be useful, but I can also see they can be the world's biggest meddlers, who can seriously raise cain in your marital home, if you let them. This is also one of the reasons myself and my wife do NOT have inlaws from either side stay over for any length of time. The longest has been 3 nights, and that is more than enough.

Smiles...@ "3 nights,and that is more than enough"

Thank God people like you understand me,its not hatred of any sort,its just the inconvenience they sometimes bring on their host.

My mum thought me at a very young age not to be any form of burden to my host.

gost:
My friend I don't think you read the write-up sef.Shey my Mother in-law is not an inlaw?

So loving means indulgence for your mind?

I need no one to do me chores,I Av someone who comes around to do all that including washing with my washing machine.okay?

Next time you are reading,stay objective.

When you marry,make your wife slaves to your relatives all in the name of loving them Shey?

Park well abeg



FIRST OF ALL, IF YOU HAD CLINICALLY READ MY REPLY, YOU WOULD HAVE SEEN THAT I AM MARRIED, MYSELF AND MY WIFE SERVE OUR INLAWS THE WAY OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST ASK US TO SERVE OTHERS SO AS TO MAKE HIS KINGDOM. SERVING YOUR INLAWS OR ANYOTHER PERSON, DOES NOT MAKE YOU A SLAVE. IT MAKES YOUS BLESSED.

FROM YOUR REPLY YOUR MIND IS MADE UP, YOU DO NOT LIKE YOUR INLAWS, YOU ARE ONLY MANAGING YOUR MOTHER INLAW COS YOU DO NOT HAVE AN OPTION, ATLEAST FOR NOW.
IF AFTER ONLY TWO DAYS YOU HAVE SOLIDIFIED YOUR MIND ABOUT AN 18 YEAR OLD GIRL, WHOM ARE SUPPOSE TO MENTOR, COACH, AND CORRECT, THEN YOUR CASE IS HEAVY AND YOU NEED HELP.
PLEASE KINDLY, POLITELY SEND THE POOR GIRL AWAY PEACEFULLY, BEFORE WATER PASS GARRI.

Lol 18yrs represents a girl in your hometown in this jet age?
The Bible says love your neighbour as yourself not more than urself.
Serving other people to your own detriment is not service

Miami11:

I personally have no problem sending my real brother and sister packing. It's only hard if they are in-laws because of the backlash

Thanks my sis jare.

I think people don't get it here.if its my sis or bro,if I'm not ok with their attitude, I send them back sharply and infact my ppl will be the one to come begging for their wrongs.

But as an inlaw,I can only wait on her to offer help because if I call for her help,it can be misinterpreted that I'm ordering her around.

Anyways since I withdrew from cooking in the morning,she has refused to find herself food despite been warm to tell her "My dear what will u be eating,u know my hubby has had it full at d party he went to and me I'm ok"I told her she could Av whatever she felt like and reminded her where she would find anything she wanted.

She dey form I no chop if I no fit cook am and I guess she is on a long thing

Miami11:


I have zero tolerance for in laws tha meddle with my house affairs

I chose not to invite any of my sister in laws unless I know their character well, my other in laws are always welcomed especially brother in laws and their wives and kids.

Get to know your in laws better, avoid troublemakers in their midst, reward the wonderful ones,

Thanks my sis.

You seem not only to be understanding but experienced with guest/host relationship. they both are meant to do things that will bring good memories.

God bless you sis

EVILFOREST:

READING STUFFS like this make me see the beast in women.
And these things further delay marriage proposals.

At 38weeks, you are expected to be PRAYING for safe delivery, because you may likely go into LABOUR just as you are typing this rubbish. RATHER, u still have thoughts and time to type and upload such article.
U have already HATED the young lady before her arrival.
Pls. Persuade your hubby to send her home before you POISON her.

U should get your delivery bags and baby cloths ready by now. pls. add sanitary pads, Olive oil, spirit solution and delivery mat.

Also PRAY before leaving

WOMEN are indeed "WO" unto "MEN".

From ur comment, I am speechless sef.

Its obvious u are single and looking for reasons to stay single.

Miami11:



Years ago my dear I told hubby same thing, I said I don't want to see this your people because of my sister in law attitudes,

But I had to correct that because all my male in laws adore me, their wives and kids get along fine with me, so all you have to do is be diplomatic with in laws see who is good see who is bad, work with the good ones ignore the bad ones

If the only bad thing that your girl is doing is not helping in the house you and hubby can tell her nicely that in order to live there she has to abide with family rules and one of them is sharing chores or go home.

My sister in law was worse, gossiping about me, stealing my stuff, bad mouthing, I had to let her go sharp sharp

Lol @ let go sharp sharp.

Me don't want to tell her because my husband has indirectly say things like : Go help aunty in the kitchen and all sorts"

Is it not better not to come around at all,than allow them come and they carry stories to their houses that you are wicked and all those touchy stories.

Sincerely I have no problem with the babe,as I type we are on our way to ikeja taking her out so she can just add fun to her visit (this outing is on my advice oo

I'm just thinking if most inlaws will give this posture,there is no point coming around

eyinjuege:
Hahahahaah. In-law stories can be funny atimes.
Sorry I'm finding your obvious discomfort a tad funny.

We all love our personal space, but sometimes you have to share it.

Maybe the girl felt somehow going into another woman's kitchen/territory.

What I think you should do is show her where everything is kept in the kitchen, and how you'd like your things placed.
Next is to let her know she is free to cook for herself and even the whole family when the need arises. Let her know she's free to touch your pot of stew/soup and you wouldn't be angry.

Everyone is expected to pull their weight around, and she shouldn't expect any special treatment. You can let her know which chores she can help with.

Another thing is that teeny bopper years she's still in. Teenagers- they always feel entitled at that age, most of them anyway so you may need to just have that at the back of your mind when dealing with her.

Be firm with her, but also know when to draw her close for a "hug".

Thanks though I wasn't expecting her to go inside my kitchen like that but she could attempt to help while she saw me there sweating...agree?

Its not like I cant tell her to come help but it may be reproduced as another story around their family plus none of them know I'm heavily pregnant except my parent inlaw.

I've showed her around and tried to be loving to her.I'm this kind of person that I get along with ppl easily because I'm a talkative plus bn a sales man.But still she dey form queen or wetin I no know

What i love about my house, I can decide to neglect you but I no sabi to neglect ppl because I be extrovert.

The truth is when the wife's family come around because they are use to ur personalty, they readily accept you the way u are.But when brainwashed inlaws, they come with some form of right,ownership and some form of entitlement. And my house no be for that kind thing all in the name of marriage

Cutehector:
The more reason why i dnt like visiting relatives! They just convert u to househelp...

Ok so when u visit, you want to be treated like a king , yet u act like a guest abi?

I'm sure when u visit,you want to be showered with love and gifts ...isnt it?

bukatyne:


@OP:

You need to learn how to be hospitable. You and hubby have equal stake in the home so I would not let my in laws come is opata yarns.

Also learn to take charge... The next morning, you tell her to join you in the kitchen/ assign a chore to her. If she can't do it, let her go back to her house.

And that lady is ill-trained/naughty. How can she cross leg and watch you work?

How can you be doing everything and be nursing grudge against someone young enough to be youngest sister?

Aunty,no grudge whatsoever faaa..

If I call her to do things which she obviously feels she should not, they may start circulating around their family now that I was ordering her about.

Funniest part of it,I no get anything to do for house,I have someone who comes around to do it.When my mother in law was trying to do some cleaning, she attempted to help but she refused so obviously I know its an intentional act watching me sweat cook while she relaxes

As for inlaws coming,I wont tell them with mouth not to come but will simply lock up.Shebi they wont come and sleep on my bed in my room.

If the wife is not warm and receptive,inlaws will back off themselves

Miami11:
Maybe that girl is spoilt not much home training, however you

Shouldn't use her as yardstick to judge all in laws, especially if your mother in law is helpful, that is what counts

Talk to her, ask her why she does not want to help, assign one specific house chore for her see how it goes, then carry from there

Thanks,my husband has actually tried to talk to her.asking "why Av u locked urself in the room? Why not join my wife in the kitchen? Of course he is been careful because of future stories that touches because of cos he knows I won't go sweating in the kitchen if it was just d both of us in the house with my condition.So my husband feels guilty sef

I am an extreme extrovert and get along with people so easily.But I'm just like if inlaws are going to be coming around and be like this, I may not welcome any further.

Note oo: When she came,I took her to d room,laid the bed.gave her a new slippers she can wear around the house and said she should feel free to ask anything she needs.

I no try?

Ginaz:
Whenever I go to my Aunty's house, she never let me cook, she does it herself. I help with bathing of the children and cleaning the house. You should relax o.p, dont give yourself unnessary worry over something temporary, will she stay in your house forever? You should learn the spirit of tolerance O.P, you are giving that girl a bad memory of you. Bear with her till she moves out of your house for good.

First note that this babe is the least of my headache, even if she stays for 2 months.As my topic suggests "Reasons why husband's rel are not welcome"

If you know me, you will know I can tolerate even a mad person.Morever she won't sleep in my room so wetin be my problem? My write-up was just to buttress the reasons why some react somehow to their inlaws presence.

You said your aunty does not allow you cook,that means u attempt to help or do u just sit and make her bring u ur food and then u eat.U also mentioned you give other helping hands

lovaleenny:


Ur rant is actually baseless...assuming d girl entered ur kitchen to cook her food u will still find issues with it...she's a guest...u expect all guests to come into ur home,cook and clean all ur clothes and what not seriously? D ppl u mentioned are close family so they wud do it outta love but u and d babe sef no close and u expect her to be all chummy and start doing all chores...o ga o...some women need serious brain resetting...den u brought it to NL like we r suppose to praise u or go beat d girl or better still abuse ur hubby for allowing her to come to ur home...some women be finding issues where there's none since 1800

From your comment I'm guessing you are not married.

So I'm meant to make her 3 square meal for a week as a guest...ok?

Aunty mi,note oooo I av not bn cooking persay since I clocked 34weeks because its BN me n my hubby which he understands or I eat at work.

Don't worry I will not rant again.infact before I leave for work on the,I will dutifully go and make her breakfast..that's cool right?

TooNoisy:
OP,

I honestly think you are very immature and you have a lot of baggage. You don't want your husband's people around you, and that is fine; but remember that you will need them someday and they will deny you.

You will one day become a MIL and I pray your DIL will treat you the same way you are treating your inlaws. Anyway, you just got married and you have a lot to learn, so you will definitely learn.

Your views will be very different after 15 years of marriage, trust me. You are no different from the 18 year old you are quarrelling with.

Aunty,did I say I was quarrelling with her?..

Please read again because maybe you read what u presumed in your mind.

So it was right for my Mother in-law to make her food while she chills out.isn't it?

I also went to an uncle's house at 16 some years back.even after travelling all the way from southwest to Abuja and got there late.I stood with my uncle's wife in the kitchen trying to help while she made dinner.I didn't sit to make her treat me like a queen that I'm not.

So if I need inlaws,I should be turned a maid to them when they would Av given helping hands if I was their aunty or sister

gost:
Then last week my hubby informed me that his paternal cousin will be spending Xmas season with us.I first got pissed when he said he will be going to pick her from their place.I said maka why a girl of 18.but told him if he insisted, he can go ahead to do d pick up even though I found it unreasonable

Women of nowadays! I can autoritatively tell you that before this girl came, you have a bad motive against her, and from your write up you do not like your inlaws, not because they are bad but because you do not trust them or you are not comfortable around them.

Truth be told, no matter what that girl does in that house, in the form of chores, cooking, erands, cleaning etc, you will never like her as long as she is your husbands relative. It is not the girls fault, you are just manifesting who you really are. (A WOMAN WHO HATES HER INLAWS BEFORE EVEN METTING HER HUSBAND).
My wifes best friend have always wished to marry a man whose mother is late, even as a tenager. God answered her prayers and today she got married to a man who lost his mum early in life. she (my wifes friend) now has a 3 year old son. what if her future daugther inlaw wants her death too before her wedding to her son! BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU WISH FOR!
Most times i do not blame you women for hating your inlaws. I blame your weak husbands who allow you to devalue their relatives.
If you really wants to live an inlaw free live, please do not get married, or better still find a husband who is an ophant.
As long as you are married to a man or woman who grew up in a family and have relatives they must inconvienence you, and where ever humans are there must be problems, as a mature person you must find a way to solve your problems and not outrigthly trowing them (your inlaws) out.
THE REASON WHY MY WIVE HAS TO VALUE ALL MY RELATIVES WHETHER SHE LIKES IT OR NOT IS BECAUSE IF I WERE A NOBODY SHE WOULD NOT HAVE MARRIED ME. MY FAMILY, BOTH NUCLEAR AND EXTENDED ALL CONTRIBUTED TO MAKE ME A BETTER PERSON. I ALSO TREAT HER PEOPLE WELL AND WELCOME THEM TO MY HOUSE AT ALL TIMES.

My friend I don't think you read the write-up sef.Shey my Mother in-law is not an inlaw?

So loving means indulgence for your mind?

I need no one to do me chores,I Av someone who comes around to do all that including washing with my washing machine.okay?

Next time you are reading,stay objective.

When you marry,make your wife slaves to your relatives all in the name of loving them Shey?

Park well abeg

Thanks for all contribution.I would have loved to reply each comment directly but for those that didn't probably read the write-up well.Here are clarifications;

I am cool with inlaws and if you read again I talked about my mother-in-law that we are cool together.We talk on phone almost 4times in a day and I even dedicated one of 4 rooms in my house to her so no one sleeps there except her.And of cos she respects my space,she doesn't come around without informing me.just like my mum too won't do same

Most men here will think I'm intolerant of the girl or maybe unmarried females here or even if your culture differs from mine.I am Yoruba and a cultural one.It is wrong when you are with someone older and you don't extend a hand to help.No Yoruba well brought up 18years old girl(not boy oo) will sit and expect her food to be served her (especially by a heavily pregnant woman).If I was her relative will she sit and watch me run around the house? Of course No.

For those who believe I should instruct her on what to do.I decided not to because she had proven ill -mannered and may see instructing her as bossing her around.

The fact remains that the husbands family sometimes,sometimes I say come into the home with one form of ownership and do some stupid things all in the name of ownership.If you won't come to my house and accord me with the love you would Av accorded your sister or aunty,abeg stay your house.

The home is for the Man and Wife and not relatives.And if you must come,then adherence must be applied.