Two years ago, my friend and her husband had a nasty divorce due to irreconcilable issues. At the time of their divorce, she confided in me a lot—she told me they didn’t love each other anymore and that's why they fell apart.

I felt there was something more she wasn't saying but I didn’t press further; I just pretended to believe her.


A few months ago, I ran into her ex-husband, Tim at a party and we danced together. He’s a really good dancer—we had so much fun. After the party, I realized we had a connection but I dismissed it as a misinterpretation of feelings.

We’ve bumped into each other several times since after the party and I sense he’s attracted to me. Fortunately, the last time we bumped into each other, he asked for my phone number which I gave to him with excitement.

The next day, he asked me out to dinner! I think it’s a date! I know I should be very excited but now I’m just skeptical.

Tim seems like a really nice guy and he’s so sexy!—I would like to go out with him and see where it leads but I don’t want to hurt my friend Lucy.

What should I do? Do you think it’s okay to date Tim?

Source:http://www.momentswithjenny.com/2017/08/should-i-date-my-friends-ex.html

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Join our team
Are you a graduate in Port Harcourt, currently seeking opportunities for career advancement in the NGO sector? Do you have good interpersonal relationship and communication skills? Are you willing to give your time and resources to the advancement of a course? Yes…? Then we are looking for you.
We are receiving applications from prospective volunteers for the Save-a-Mom Project. Interested volunteers should please send an application and CV to cwhadev@gmail.com , on or before Friday, May 26, 2017.

divinehand2003:
Missionary still rocks for me

Me too. I lurv missionary!!

My dear, I feel your pain! I've been down this path before but when I thought of what it will do to my family and my bofriend, I remained strong. Now, I'm teaching little children French and seeing them every day gives me immeasurable joy. Blogging is another thing that adds meaning to my life. Just listen to your soul and do what makes you happy.
https://momentswithjenny..com

I'm kind of new here and I don't really know the guys in Nairaland. Although, I see the name Lalasticlala a lot.

TrapHedges:
ATTEND IN A BENZ

**SMILING IN SWAHILI**

IHATEPUZZY:


OK

my advice is dat u should attend in a company of a Handsome man


u know y!

OK. Nice point.

Habiodunz:
Attend the sh*t let him knw how excited,happy and successful you are without him

**SMILES**

Fidecoo:
, if you have the heart to withstand emotions, Pls do if you are invited . I once did to that of my ex I dated for 7 years. It shows maturity and acceptance of fate. Guess what to this day we are still best of friends.

THANKS FOR YOUR HONESTY.

Yes nah

IHATEPUZZY:
is tat question?

Hello everyone, It's been a while since I dropped by. In Falz's voice, **Hashuali** I've been invited to my ex's wedding. What do I do now? Should I attend or not? What should I even wear if i decide to go? I'm a bit confused. Please, I need your advice.

iPrevail:
Oga.. If she's told you she is in a serious relationship, please leave her be.

Now, lemme set som'in straight, there's no such thing as being "in love" okay? Love is a choice that is in one link with our desires. According to you, you love the way she smiles, dresses, talks and bla bla bla.. Okay lemme add, you "love" her because she's not a perceived "gold-digger".

What's the point of my epistle? Go out there and find some other woman that satisfies your desires and make her your choice (what you guys call "falling in love).
Leave your friend's daughter alone.

Two things in life that are valuable and irreplaceable.. True friends and family.

Nice Epistle. True talk!!!

Some days, I secretly wish I had a gay best friend! I’m serious! Hope you aren’t surprised? Well, don’t be! I’m a free spirited human being and so the things I do shouldn’t surprise you. I’m sure you’re asking why I would even harbour such weird thoughts of having a gay bestie. Um, the simplest answer is “I want a friend who is not a girl and who is not my boyfriend or aspires to be my boyfriend.”

Sometimes, I search for someone neutral to talk to; someone who won’t be envious of me or biased in judgement. I seek the company of someone who won’t pester me for sex; someone who would be okay with being just friends. During my long search for that sexless guy, I discovered that the term “just friends” never works with a guy unless he is gay or he has a serious girlfriend he is committed to. Even when rules are laid out at the onset of the friendship, halfway through the guy starts harbouring fantasies of taking you to bed when you’re seeing him as “a non-sexual being”.

For you, all you really need from him is quality time and interesting discussions on various topics but unknown to you, he has already pictured you beneath him a long time ago. This is the usual routine for straight guys; of course, it is not their fault, they were wired that way. No matter how friendly or responsible they seem at first, they are already hoping or planning to take you to bed. I guess this is why I need a gay best friend badly.
If you're gay and interested , please apply via my blog below. Waiting to hear from you!!!
Source:http://momentswithjenny..com.ng/2016/06/i-wish-i-had-gay-best-friend.html

Dear readers,

I was a happily married man until recently when
my wife deserted me. She woke up one morning,
packed her belongings and left without saying a
word to me. When I called her to ask her where
she was, she refused picking up my calls. Later,
she sent me a text saying " I've been miserable
these past months. I want to be happy again. I've
reconnected with the love of my life and I've taken
my kids with me". That was how I lost my wife
and kids in a twinkle of an eye. I was thrown back
into the den of dating without prior warning.
Since she left, I retreated into my shell; I barely
go out or have fun. Where exactly am I going to
start from? When I approach a lady, the first thing
she asks is " Are you married? How am I
supposed to answer that? I'm 45 years old! Am I
supposed to reply with a " Yes, no or maybe
"answer?

The few ladies I allowed into my life all turned out
to be lying gold diggers! The ones I slept with
were too desperate to impress me; the sex was
so fake and premeditated!
Some years after my wife left me, I decided to
enroll in a business school just to chase away
boredom. I was just tired of being alone and I
needed something apart from my job to keep me
busy.

During the registration week at the business
school, I ran into my friend's daughter. I wasn't
aware she was running a program there until I ran
into her. Since I hadn't seen her for a while, I
asked her to join me for lunch. After lunch , I
dropped her off at her house and went back to my
apartment. I asked her out to either lunch or
dinner several times after that. We started getting
kinda close; we talked about a lot of things.
Unknown to her, I started developing feelings for
her.

When our program ended, we parted ways but I
haven't stopped thinking about her. I love
everything about her; the way she dresses, the
way she smiles, her mannerism and her jokes.
She's so different and mature from all the ladies
I've met. Her voice and laughter are very
comforting to me. I don't mind that she is just 25
years old. I call her often under the pretence that I
want to see how she's doing but the truth is that I
just love hearing her talk and laugh. She makes
me feel young again whenever I'm with her.

Because of her, I want to love again!
Sometimes, when I'm alone, I daydream of her
becoming my wife and I hope that our unborn
children would look exactly like her. I think I'm
going crazy! I've told her how I feel about her but
she took it very lightly and simply said she is in a
serious relationship with another man. I haven't
summoned the courage to tell her father how I
feel about her because I'm afraid it may destroy
our friendship. I'm really confused! What do I do
now? How can I make her mine?

http://momentswithjenny..co.ke/2016/05/help-i-in-love-with-my-friend-daughter.html?m=1

Diddyydiva:
Drunk in love








I feel sorry for the guy

Me too

feran15:
If the bird is without cage or chain, then you should really be able to walk right to it and pick it up

You no know say the bird go shout? Police fit ask am for receipt for the bird.

Dear Opponent,

My name is Felix. You don't know me but I've heard a lot about you. I've been madly in love with your girlfriend, Cynthia for 5 years now. Yeah! I know it's been a long time but I keep having hope that maybe somebody she'll look at me with love in her eyes instead of pity.
I've tried all the love tactics in my book to convince her to be mine but she keeps throwing those words "I'm in love with someone else" at me. Those words pierce my heart each time I hear them. It hurts to know that she's madly in love with you and honestly, I would do anything to have a girl cherish me the way she cherishes you. I feel jealous even when she looks at a cat more than once. It's that bad! I'm obsessed with her.
I'm writing this letter to remind you of the treasure you have in case you've forgotten. I hope you're aware that there are other treasure hunters after your treasure? If you didn't know, know it now; you're not the only man after her heart. People like me are praying that you break her heart so that we can rush in, comfort her, make her forget you and then take her to the altar. God! Every night, I dream of seeing her pregnant with my child! I don't understand how I'm ever going to achieve that when you're still very much in her heart and life.

I've used you as a prayer point these last few months. When the man of God in church says "Open your mouth and pray that every stumbling block in your life would be destroyed", the first thing that comes to my mind is YOU. Every time, I fast and pray, I don't forget to mention your name. Each time, I burn prayer candles in my room, I burn a red one specifically for you.
After all these tactics I've employed, you still refuse to be moved. I don't know what you're waiting for ohh. If you want to marry her, abeg do am sharp sharp because my eye don dey red!! If you have no intention of marrying her, please reply this letter asap and send your blessings alongside. Don't tempt me to go to a native doctor and ask him to prepare a love potion for her ohh!

How can a man catch a fine bird and leave her outside without chain or cage? Answer this question for me in your letter.

Kind regards,
Miserable Crusher.
Source: http://momentswithjenny..com.ng/2016/05/a-letter-to-my-crush-boyfriend.html

Quite true. Nice one!

Yuneehk:
Baby this your writeup is scattered. Arrange it well..
I think most ladies are picky. You want someone from your state and attends same church as you do. Then you already have an image of how he should look physically and how fat his pocket should be. So when men come and you see none of what you've imagined, you turn them down and keep waiting on the Lord.

Yeah, i know and i'm sorry. Thanks for reading and commenting anyway.

firstolalekan:

Na babyboo92?
How she go know when na copy and paste she dey do

You no lie my brother. I copied and pasted it from my own blog. momentswithjenny..com and unfortunately it turned out this way. Thanks for attempting to read it anyway.

Maxi112:
op arrange ur post plz

Abeg no chop me raw ooh... na my kpako Tecno P5 i use post this topic. Make all of una no vex abeg. Pardon me, i be learner for Nairaland. Thank you.

Many ladies are still single and unmarried today because of the following reasons:

1) Fear of commitment: Guys are not the only ones with commitment issues. Some ladies are actually scared to commit to one man for the rest of their lives. They feel they would lose out of life if they get married. They want to have complete freedom from all the responsibility that comes with marriage. It's not only the guys who are afraid of commitment, some ladies are too.
2) They haven't found "the one": Finding a husband could be as easy as ABC but finding "the one" isn't always easy. It is one thing to be married to a good guy but it's another thing to get married to a really special guy. Some ladies are still waiting for that special guy who would sweep them off their feet and shower them with unconditional love. Not everyone is so lucky to meet their soul mate on time.
3) Financial instability: Some ladies aren't scared of commitment and they've obviously found "the one" but they haven't been able to tie the knot with the love of their life. Even though they are ready, they could be facing financial challenges or their partner isn't financially stable at the moment.
4) Fear of the unknown: Some ladies are reluctant to marry someone because they are skeptical about the future. Even though they are committed to a guy, they fear what might happen after they get married. They keep hesitating to accept a proposal from their partner because they feel they might not make good wives or maybe the man's family won't accept them.
5) Lack of readiness: Some ladies aren't exactly ready to get married. They are still busy pursuing their dream careers and marriage isn't at the top of their priority list. They want to attain all their goals before settling down with a man.
6) They are too picky: It is not a crime to have a picture of who you want to spend the rest of your life with but being too picky isn't always a good thing. Sometimes, we find love in unexpected places with imperfect people. If you're still waiting for Prince Charming who is six feet tall, God fearing and romantic with a large bank account, I advise you should start fasting and praying.
Some ladies have received countless marriage proposals but they've turned them all down. They are just too indecisive to make a choice. Any man who comes to marry them is either too short ,too poor, too fat or too skinny. They find endless excuses to give to their suitors and in the end, they chase them away.

Although there are many possible reasons some ladies are still single and unmarried, I've managed to list out the top six. If you've been wondering why many ladies are getting married and others aren't, I guess this post has answered that question. Did i forget any? Please remind me by commenting.
Source: http://momentswithjenny..com.ng/2016/05/top-6-reasons-some-ladies-are-still.html

you punish them by not being friends with them. period!

6. Ignore his calls and texts:
At this point, he will notice that you're avoiding him and he will like to use his sweet voice on you.
Remain adamant! Don't pick up any of his calls or reply to any of his messages. Just go cold
turkey! He won't give up so easily though. He will try to contact you at all costs; don't pay him any
attention. Just focus on yourself and do all the fun stuff you've been dreaming of.
7. Don't stalk him on social media:
Even when you have deleted him on every social network, you may have the urge to check up on
him regularly to see what he is up to. Don't do it! I think it's better to avoid stalking him on social
media or in reality. Don't follow him everywhere to see the new girl he is dating; it's absolutely none
of your business. Don't make his private life seem important to you.
8. Don't ask his friends or family members about him:
Whenever you meet any of his friends or family members, don't avoid them. You could just greet
them and chat a little but don't ask them questions about him. Anything you say or ask about him,
could likely get to him and he might get the notion that you are still hurting.
source: http://momentswithjenny..com/2016/05/how-to-punish-your-ex.html

The only way you can punish your ex and get revenge is by using the "no contact rule".

There are certain things you must do in order to establish the "no contact" rule. I'll list them below:
1. Delete his number from your phone: This is the first thing you need to do before anything else.
Erase all his phone numbers from your phone. Don't write it down anywhere as a form of reference.
This prevents you from having the urge to call your ex when you miss him.
2. Don't call or text him: Whenever you feel like calling or texting your ex, please find something
else to occupy your mind. You're not supposed to call or text him till the "no contact" is over. As
far you're still hurting inside, refrain from contacting your ex; it will only hurt you more. If you call
him and he answers in a nonchalant tone or another girl answers, what would you do? Cry even
more! Don't call or text him no matter what.
3. Block him on Whatsapp :
It's normal for him to pretend to care about you even when he was the one who dumped you. He'll
chat you up on Whatsapp to see how you're coping or not coping without him. Just block him
already! All he wants is to fan his ego! When he sees or hears how miserable you are, he will feel
gratified. Don't give him that joy!
4. Defriend him on Facebook:
Facebook would be another means for him to see how you are coping with the break up. He may
post some updates or pictures and tag you in them; ignore all those tricks. He is on punishment
and therefore, he doesn't deserve your friendship. Defriend him and block him on Facebook.
5. Delete him on twitter:
Twitter will be his other target in getting your attention. Don't mind his mentions
or hashtags; just delete him, unfollow him and block him if possible. Just shut him out of your
head; you need time to recuperate.

Most ladies are single and unmarried because of the following reasons:

1) Fear of commitment: Guys are not the only
ones with commitment issues. Some ladies are
actually scared to commit to one man for the rest
of their lives. They feel they would lose out of life
if they get married. They want to have complete
freedom from all the responsibility that comes
with marriage. It's not only the guys who are
afraid of commitment, some ladies are too.

2) They haven't found "the one": Finding a
husband could be as easy as ABC but finding "the
one" isn't always easy. It is one thing to be
married to a good guy but it's another thing to
get married to a really special guy. Some ladies
are still waiting for that special guy who would
sweep them off their feet and shower them with
unconditional love. Not everyone is so lucky to
meet their soulmate on time.

3) Financial instability: Some ladies aren't scared
of commitment and they've obviously found "the
one" but they haven't been able to tie the knot
with the love of their life. Even though they are
ready, they could be facing financial challenges or
their partner isn't financially stable at the moment.

4) Fear of the unknown: Some ladies are reluctant
to marry someone because they are skeptical of
the future. Even though they are committed to a
guy, they fear what might happen after they get
married. They keep hesitating to accept a
proposal from their partner because they feel they
might not make good wives or maybe the man's
family won't accept them.

5) Lack of readiness: Some ladies aren't exactly
ready to get married. They are still busy pursuing
their dream careers and marriage isn't at the top
of their priority list. They want to attain all their
goals before settling down with a man.

6) They are too picky: It is not a crime to have a
picture of who you want to spend the rest of your
life with but being too picky isn't always a good
thing. Sometimes, we find love in unexpected
places with imperfect people. If you're still waiting
for Prince Charming who is six feet tall, God
fearing and romantic with a large bank account, I
advise you should start fasting and praying.

Someladies have received countless marriage proposals
but they've turned them all down. They are just
too indecisive to make a choice. Any man who
comes to marry them is either too short or too
poor. They find endless excuses to give to their
suitors and in the end, they chase them away.
What do you think?
Source: www.momentswithjenny..com

In a society where there are both wealthy and
not-so-wealthy people, it is not strange to find
ladies attaching themselves to wealthy men for
financial gain. They stick to these men to be
financially stable and also to assist their families.
Most times, these well-to-do men gain
permission from the lady's parents to fund her
education and in return the man expects her to
marry him. An agreement could also be signed to
ensure that promises are kept.
Sometimes, a man could just fall in love with a
girl who isn't well educated and decide voluntarily
to fund her education. He may not have any high
expectations concerning this investment. The
funding begins and a few years later...
The girl graduates from the University and when
the guy proposes to her, she refuses and breaks
up with him instantly. Why did she do this? Is this
actually fair or not? Let's look at some possible
scenarios before we conclude:
1. Maybe she met someone else and fell in love
with him during the course of her education.
2. Maybe she feels she is too good for the man
who funded her education.
3. Maybe she has gotten a better offer elsewhere.
4. It could be that she doesn't love the man and
therefore doesn't intend to marry him as payback
for his assistance.
5. Finally, it is possible she is not ready to get
married yet.
All these are possible reasons a Lady could
present for refusing to marry a man who
sponsored her education. Whether she is right or
wrong, I cannot say. It is not in my place to judge
the actions of others. I think we would all behave
differently when faced with certain challenges.
If a single Lady has the choice of rejecting a
marriage proposal from her sponsor, how about
the married ones who still leave their sponsors
several years after marriage?
http://www.momentswithjenny..co.ke/2016/04/is-it-right-to-fund-your-partners.html?m=1