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yellowpawpaw: Ee yaa. Sorry sis.but on d other hand didn't u c it comin during courtship or whatever?
If ur parents r still alive,start ur own and at odd hrs too.(It might backfire)
A friend that married mummy's boy (first son) said that every weekend,her hubby will drive to enugu from PH to be with d mum,after bein so bored at home,she too joined d enugu trip.(Her parents were there 2). Hubby will drive them to enugu,stop her at her parents and off he goes! Comes back to pick her later.madness I think!
I didn't know how it all ended but d husband's eye opened at last d day he beat her up with 8 months pregnancy because of his mum.
U can wait it out or find other means to occupy urself.don't even ? Why he does that.pray for wisdom also.I feel for u trully

daduke2k: ♍ƺ guy, stop living ΰR̶̲̥̅̊ American marriage ecstacy life Ãήϑ come back †̥♥ 9ja. Ŋo̶̷̩̥̊͡ matter H̶̲̥̅̊ọ̥w̶̲̥̅̊ Ğoº°˚°ºϑ ΰR̶̲̥̅̊ mother is Ãήϑ H̶̲̥̅̊ọ̥w̶̲̥̅̊ sweet ΰR̶̲̥̅̊ wife is, U̶̲̥̅̊ can never keep both of them in the same house f̶̲̥̅̊Θя̩̥̊ a year. Nawa ☺h°˚˚˚°!. Ordinary 3months of babysitting Ãήϑ U̶̲̥̅̊ would wish †̥♥ God U̶̲̥̅̊ hadn't done W̶̲̥̅̊h̶̲̥̅̊ά̲̣̣̣̥τ̣̣̥ U̶̲̥̅̊ did.

Aafulenu: now this is better. a reason.

he wants his mum to stay with to you to help with the baby, thats ok. u just have to treat her like u would treat ur own mother and i doubt u will have a problem with her. respect her, even if she does what u wouldnt like, just close ur eyes and count to ten. besides it just temporary.

or

if ur mum is available and u still don't want ur MIL to come stay with u, u can suggest to ur hubby that ur mumsy would come stay with u instead, and help wit the baby. explaining to him that its not cos u don like his mum but just cos u dont wanna walk on ur toes all the while he is away

Aafulenu: y does ur hubby want his mum to say with u? is she sick or invalid? or r u pregnant? or sick?

or is it that he doesn't trust u enough to let u stay alone, that he needs his mum to monitor u?

first find out y he wants his mum to move in. if there is no reasonable reason, maybe u should suggest that u will be visiting her every weekend or something like that.

bottom line, u need to knw his reasons b4 u can knw what to do.

Afam4eva: It's difficult but it's doable. Just see her the way you see your husband.

Afam4eva: The last time i quarelled with someone was 7 years ago. Do, you know why? It's because i've always been on my own minding my business...So, it's normal if issues arise as a result of your MIL living in the same house with you and seeing you everyday. It's your ability to handle whatever issues that arise that matters the most. Don't be confrontational and in her face at all times. Try as much as possible to still mind your business to some extent and your days will be long. Let somebody shout halleluya!!!

iebanehita: It seems you lack comprehension and verbal reasoning.
The OP has bn a loving wife n wants 2giv her hubby a SPECIAL TREAT,,as stated in d post.
What happened 2bringin dt spark u both had,,when dating?
Re-ignitin d marriage n njoyin moments 2b treasure forever in dier hearts?

mekaboy: A lot of people are married today because of the religious standards.I know marriage is stressful and kills romance faster than anything.

That joy a feel when you visit your gf or bf in their house is gone. The beauty of the quarrels, when you both stay in your houses and waiting for the first person to apologize.

The freedom of going and coming as you please, without anyone timing you. Now married pple most times. Pretend and tell the unmarried that marriage is the best thing that can happen to you, just to make them feel inferior because they are

Now if the bible made marriage optional. You can have children without necessarily getting married. How many people will want to be married?

Aleovera: Very insightful points I must say. Actually, I know what I want, that is why I am not looking to pursue a meaningless relationship with the married dude! I am seriously working on doing the right thing hence my decision to cut of ties with him. But then it doesn't change the fact that I have feelings for him. Feelings are not switches that one can turn off at will. Also, is telling my boo about that immoral affair really the right thing to do?

ogugua88: [size=13pt]What I'm getting from this is that you once believed cheating was wrong, but because you're now a cheat yourself, your perspective has changed? Give me a break.

As far as I'm concerned, cheating is one of the worst forms of disrespect to a partner or spouse, and people who cheat are discontented and highly undisciplined human beings. There is such a thing as self-control. In your case, it's not that you lost control, but that you know what's right and wrong and have chosen to do wrong on more than one occasion. You are giving yourself to another woman's husband. What does marriage even mean to you, if anything at all? I'm assuming you want to get married one day. Isn't marriage a sacred union that people are supposed to hold at high regard? If you're disrespecting and desecrating another woman's union, what makes you think yours should even be average, let alone sweet?

How on earth could you even take a break with your boyfriend? If you loved him at all, you wouldn't even consider leaving him for another woman's husband. You told him you need a break as if you're the one that's being hurt. Add the word "selfish" along with discontented and highly undisciplined please.

You are not just wrong, but double wrong. If you have any ounce of morality left in you, come clean with your boyfriend and let him go. I wonder what he's done to deserve having an adulterer as a girlfriend.

And we wonder why STDs are rampant. Shey na 2013? Smh.[/size]

Princess zoe: Com'on i love this. Now this is marriage. My dear lady, may the lord keep smiling at you. I concur with the suggestions my fellow nlders posted here, but in addition, PET him always. Infact always tell him how handsome and lovely he looks, it doesn't matter whether he is ugly. For beauty or handsomeness is not just about physical things but also the inner traits. Please cherish him the more and don't forget to be a praying wife in order to scare devil away from your lovely marriage.

Monicasque: just cook a romantic dinner, take the baby somewhere for the evening. candle lit, strawberries and cream. wear something sexy and rock his world you know how. that will mean more to him coz men love sex period

Dyt: B the best wife u can be

yellowpawpaw: @op,I don't get u at all.from what I saw up there,r u a man or a woman cos u represent both.how can pple help u when u r hermo?today,a she and tomoro,a he? Any explanation?

yellowpawpaw: @op,I don't get u at all.from what I saw up there,r u a man or a woman cos u represent both.how can pple help u when u r hermo?today,a she and tomoro,a he? Any explanation?

taryour: Am happy for you dearie,thank God for your home too,may God continually bless your home

taryour: @op this whole story is so confusing to me with all this one tiitee diged up,but I will simply ignore it and believe u both have changed from you picking his call always and him planning to cheat on you or cheating on you.

Firstly what kind of job does your hubby do that he dosnt have free time to himself? How do you demand for sex that he refuses? For me I don't demand for sex from my hubby,I simply initiate it,seduce him and of course we are in the game and it has to b when he is in a good mood.

I wouldn't say you are selfish,I would rather say you should be more understanding and tolerating. You already know his kinda work that there is hardly a free time, do you study his mood before you demand for sex He could be exhusted after countless hours at work and all just needs is to rest and cool of his head n that last thing on his mind and all he wants at that moment is care and encouragement from his wife. If you realy play your games well you sure can still get him to bed if you go about it the right way.

All you need is study your man properly,understand his work,be more encouraging, initiate sex and not demand but do it at d right time wen he is in a good mood and not tired from work load.
Above all put your hubby in serious prayers for a better and more comfortable job with better pay and also time to spend with his family.


I still wonder the kind of job with no free days at all.. May God help you dear. All the best.

pc guru: Well the advice was a bit vague "get your act ($hit) together" isn't a clear solution, and let's be sincere if it were a guy who complained about a lady not having time for sex, the response would have be different. (besides you can easily express terms without using offensive tones)

biolabee: why r u on this chics case

op please ignore

TiiTee: Hehehe... I laugh in kwara.
He dictates when you're to have sexx...deal with it and stop whining
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TiiTee: Since you claim to know him so well, why bring your marital issues to NL?

TiiTee: No laugh o! I detest braggarts with passion.

She repeated same here https://www.nairaland.com/1274895/cheated-husband-plan-continue/3#15512415

TiiTee: https://www.nairaland.com/1267846/dis-fault-hubby-just-loves


https://www.nairaland.com/1259618/relationship-ex-after-marriage


https://www.nairaland.com/1263472/fears-ruining-everything

Yes i get ur point but i am d same prsn telling u now that he isnt cheating. We discussed dat and trashed it out


Do you still maintain you know your hubby very well?

jidegirl12: Speak for yourself madam I say no when I'm not in the mood , what's good for goose is also good for.....



A n mole ole n moloko why should we trust you when you can't figure out what's going on yet? Anyways communication is the key code, sit him down and have heart to heart 411 talk with him how you feel and see what happens. You also sound too passive, not that there's anything wrong with it, but moderation is the key, speak up!

Get a sitter and spend time together, you're helping him waay too much, if he's not comfortable with sitters with his kids, he will work with you adjust to your schedule.