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Akwamkpuruamu:
It's unfortunate that a POS guy in Onitsha here took #500 charge from me to give me #10000 withdrawal

You’re lucky; here in Osogbo, it is 1k per 10k.

Saintinoo:
Good evening nairaland family.
I have never been in such a situation where i am afraid to make mistake like this.

I have been with this girl for more than three years, of courses i promised her marriage, but i have been seeing so many red flags which after doing my findings, takes me to her being a narcissit.

My problem with her:

1. She wants to control and dominate
2. She loses control of her words when angry; she talks to anybody in any manner she likes when she is angry
3. When she is wrong, instead of apologising, she rather manipulate you to take the blame (gaslighting)
4. She appears disrespectful at times, you dare not tell her that she is disrespectful, she will bring up manipulation.

Her good side:

1. She is a type of woman you can call good woman, considering the moral decay of our society
2. She is a virgin, even though am not bothered about that
3. She can go any lenght to make sure her man and family is ok
4. She cares about me so well, prays for and check on me very well.
5. She is contented with the little i give, even if i know she nags about it sometimes.
6. She is always ready to help when things goes bad.

This good sides if hers is the reason i have still not kicked her out, but the red flags are so clear and i would not want to over look that.

Pls advice, because i think these behaviour of hers won't go, and if i marry her, i have to live with with.

I had some of these issues with my ex, especially number 3. I was with her for 3 years; we were even friends for many years before dating. She also has the exact good qualities you listed. 

But I took the hard decision and I eventually left her because I was convinced in my heart that she would never change, and if I eventually got married to her, which was my plan, there would be a crisis. It’s been eight months since we separated, and I never regretted my action. 

Follow your conviction, bro.

Cheers.

EmiDon11:
i dont know why i find the bolded funny

hisexcellency34:
The nation is too bias because of Tinubu

And TVC, Journalist hangouts program is now more focused on trumpeting Tinubu.