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Movingname1:
I am really sorry you’re hurting like this. What you’re feeling makes sense .When you have invested your heart and your future in someone, their distance can feel overwhelming.But I want to gently say something that might help you breathe a little easier: the block, as painful as it feels, might actually be a gift in disguise. It’s giving you the space you haven’t been able to give yourself. It’s creating a pause in a cycle that has been exhausting you for a long time.You have described a relationship where you were often disrespected, dismissed, and left carrying the emotional weight alone. No one can thrive in that. Wanting to walk away but feeling pulled back isn’t weakness , it’s what happens when your heart and nervous system have been stretched between hope and hurt for too long.This moment, as hard as it is, can be the beginning of your healing. You deserve peace, kindness, and a relationship where you don’t have to beg to be heard.Please be gentle with yourself. Reach out to people who care about you, talk to someone who can support you, and take this time to reconnect with your own wellbeing. You don’t have to go through this alone, and you don’t have to rush anything. One steady step at a time is enough.

Chatgpt is that you? 😁

kokoA:
She wore another guy's polo to my place with a drycleaner's label written "Anthony". She has one brother and his name is not Anthony and I am 100 percent sure my name is not Anthony. Na so I take bounce am comot.

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Lanmonfishery:
Follow my steps and watch her beg u for sex

Continue to be a loving guy, even this time be more caring than before
When she tries to kiss u, don’t let it be. Do like u no Dey feel an if she near u
Be distant from her but still shower her with love and care
Invite her again but this time don’t even go near her, make her feel like u have no interest in touching her
Ignore passionate eye contact
Be more mature, no force conversations
Find a game to play maybe ludo or card game
After a few hours discharge her, don’t kiss her just hug and turn back

Reason: she will go home thinking her brains out like what is wrong with her, but this guy is always all oVer me

Do it again
After the third time try enter her and u go see she go open leg, I bet with u



Thank me later

One of the 48 laws of power states ' conceal your intentions'.. Let her be the one to ask for it..

RollinTNDA:
Looking back at that incident in 3D
I was too Nice to her and it backfired so badly..
Forget about the life saving incident
Lets focus on what happened after that.
We got to hangout after that incident. As a guy i took her out and ate and talked. During the discussion
From her own mouth she said

" i like guys that are very honest with me, if you smoke tell me you smoke, if you drink tell me u drink if you womanize tell me instead of hiding it from me. I dont respect a man that will hide and do those things and cover it up"

Now mumu me was blushing like Sabinus, telling her that im a very honest guy. That infact im brutally honest. All of a sudden i began to tell her my secrets to prove that im a very honest guy..SMH

The girl was just giving me adlibs like migos.. Oh wow, seriously, OMG and mumu me was just rapping and exposing things that my family dont even know about.

And she was gaslighting me to tell her more...

Seeing the whole thing backfire to the point neigbours heard about it and it was like the whole compound began to See me finish.
Bro it felt like a real stab to the heart and it changed me for life.
The way i view women now
It will take 10000 years for me to go back to being a nice guy i was last year.

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virginprincess:
Such a wicked and heartless fellow,may God not let this kind of beast come my way .

You are very stupid and useless for this particular comment you made.. it's been 2 years now, I hope you've grown some sense

But why you sef go agree to date girl wey get boyfriend?

immortalcrown:
Okay. Next...

Leaving him is a good choice because a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. Good luck in your marriage. But the problem is most humans, especially women, are insatiable. You have left him. If he gets another woman or gets richer, you will begin to regret leaving him.

I like the fact that you publicized this. If you mess up in your marriage, your marriage will remember this publicity and do what will vindicate the man you accuse now.

ADDED:
I have gotten 21 quotes and have no time to reply to the quotes one after another. Fools attack me because of my last paragraph where I addressed the lady's publicity of the case. The stupid attackers ignored where I say a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. My last paragraph implies that she herself should not be abusive in her marriage since she left an abusive man. If she becomes abusive in her own marriage, this publicity will work against her. Tonto is an example. Tonto left her marriage and made the world see her estranged husband as a beast. The man has been living peacefully with another woman and Tonto has failed in her second marriage. This does not mean Churchil is innocent of her accusation. She might have said the truth against Churchil. She might have lied against Churchil. I was not there to know the truth. But whether she lied or not, her failed second marriage went viral because of her publicity against Churchil. So, if you publicize the weakness of your ex, be careful in handling your next partner, be you a man or a woman. The stupid attackers who accept only one-sided judgment and hate a balanced judgment should hug live energy transformers.

"If he gets another woman or gets richer, you will begin to regret leaving him." If this bolded part is more reason the stupid attackers are angry, I can justify the bolded part. If not for material benefits or for getting an orgasm, what will make such a lady date the highly abusive man for more than a year? We can see the man's picture. We can see he is not all that physically attractive. So, what kept her in the relationship for more than a year? Any lady that decides to date a highly abusive man for up to a year does it either for material benefits or for sexual satisfaction, and such a lady will have interest in the man for a long time even after a breakup. If not that common sense is not common, those attacking me would have asked themselves why she dated him for more than a year. She claims she was hoping he would change, this is a lie. Or, are there not men she dated for less than a year? Why didn't she give those ones more than a year to know if they would change?

I know this is a two year old post but I'll still go ahead and say what I want to say which is 'YOU ARE A VERY BIG FOOL FOR MAKING THIS TYPE OF COMMENT

ItisWell22:
Same way some amazing women are single to stupor, or with beasts called men.

It’s called life.
It’s not black and white.

These one don chop breakfast tire 😂

purples25:
Idiot I'm not the cause of your problems.

It still doesn't change the fact that you've been saying rubbish

brain54:
You are right...

It's just like a peice of rock is more valuable than your brain.

Ode!

😂😂😂

purples25:
"My friend was responsible for everything about this lady. Feeding, partial housing, airtime, date, transportation and every human needs you can imagine."

These are not marriage moves. These are binding moves. Someone can decide to live off you even without loving you, for these moves. They are very kind, but they are not serious moves. They are binding moves. You do a little of this, you do marriage moves as well. If he had also met her parents and paid bride price, I would have more things to say in his favor.



She didn't love him, true, but this issue would be clearer if he went for her hand in marriage. She would have to clear herself that she doesn't want after that. Too many guys out there wanting to do long term relationship without being ready to hitch, so I cannot still rule out the fact that perhaps, she was unsure of his plans for her, therefore exited with another guy who has gone ahead to make plans to the point of printing I v.

So it's if she sits there and waits for him to say that he's sorry, he can't marry her due to finance, or until his feelings change, or until he marries her as an old maid, that she loves him. No, I don't support being blind and stupid about your future because of love. But she would not have done something horrible like that.

Like I said, she's wrong, her method is wrong, though I have explained the motive behind it. She should have ended the relationship with him, been open about her feelings and concerns. Even set a time frame to him and opt out if he didn't reach it.

You just dey yarn rubbish since

Swiss92:
Why would you conclude,
You saw where I wrote clearly that she's beautiful and she's my spec, this means I really love her,
Is it my fault that my feelings doesn't align with the male trait she has, which I'm seeking for solutions to,

You dey seek for solutions.. na you won marry her?

paxx:
We got married in October. 2 days after the marriage my father came into my house and yelled at her that im already a married man. My father wants me to marry someone else. I did not defend her. She cried 3 times in 10 minutes.

She then told me she wants to take a 2 year break until we do a wedding. We did not do a wedding we just went to the goverment office.

What should I do? She told me that shes no longer ready to be married and even before my dad yelled at her she had reservations.

It has been 1month and she doesnt want me to call her wife anymore. She prefers financE. she is telling her friends that she is engaged.

What should I do?

😂😂😂

santaclaws:
I'm cursed, I need help

Let's help him

j3r3myk3n:
So I literally was at this church this las Sunday, wouldn’t disclose the name of the church but my first 1hr or so, it was certain workers mounting the pulpit kabashing (speaking in tongues as they’ll say).

Brethren, “start speaking in Holy Ghost/tongue” while he led the session.

As a first timer and a total stranger to such, I felt embarrassed and worried cos of course, a female worker leading the session, probably a prayer warrior was putting on a Jean pant but all I could hear is kabashing for straight few minutes, no much words I could relate to, just speaking in tongues.

While eyes were closed, I sensed another woman’s voice again taking the speaking in tongue session from the previous one, I managed to open my eyes and at least be sure of what I signed up for lol, lo and behold the female pastor had leg chain, that was when I asked myself a sincere question; “haven’t I trespassed already?”

Cos what’s all these straight one hour or more kabashing with questionable mode of dressings?

Oh! Pastor Mrs. must have felt weird noticing that I was busy ruminating the thoughts in my head regarding their totally different mode of worship, she got vexed at some point noticing that while she did everything to lead the whole congregation to clap, jump, do stuffs but I wasn’t so much moved.

She felt unrest and started “… don’t rebel, clap, clap clap” I knew she was indirectly referring to me, so I personally ignored and acted like I didn’t notice but of course the people sitting next to me must have felt, I’m not complying at some point. Hahahahahah.


Fast forward, choir came to my rescue with a very badass music and dancing session, okay I like good music, I felt a relief at least, this is a bit different, I could hear them sing in English and nice songs accompanied with the melodies instrumental backups.

Oh before I forget, while we were at the music and dancing session, I could sense the Pastor Mrs. communicating and probably ensuring this other pastor knew there’s a rebel amongst them lol, I was like; today na today, they would bomb me with Holy Ghost fire if I’m not careful.

After the music and dancing session, a well dressed man, another pastor or so who the Mrs. must have reported me to mounted the pulpit in a nice senator wear but I could sense his maturity, appreciated the choir, sounded humble being compared to Ps Mrs. which she later recognized while trying to pitch in the sermon of the day.

To my very surprise, uncle pulled the

Wey the pishaw

Ballzproblem2:
The day my wife or gf wants to pick any stupid instructor wether male or female will be the end of the relationship,if you no fit work out for house forget it.

All these ball-less weak ass men go just come here dey rant

santaclaws:
The person wey lay this curse of foolishness on me, e no go better for the person

😂😂

santaclaws:
How can I be so foolish to the point of not being able to control myself even on a public forum

Wow 😳

santaclaws:
I'm the most foolish person on Nairaland, nobody not even my father whom I inherited this foolishness can take that away from me...

Indeed

santaclaws:
Directed back to your... your what? You already know...

Your U N C L E S... 😁😂

Foolish Man

santaclaws:
Which explains the cognitive disability in your family's bloodline... No wonder your uncles are foolish 🤔

Your thinking faculty is impaired, that's why you can't help but display your foolishness on people's post

santaclaws:
As long as you remember it's your uncles you're referring to, both dead and alive, no yawa... ✌🏾

There is no remedy for your continuous foolishness.. it's genetic

santaclaws:
As long as you remember it's your uncles you're referring to, both dead and alive, no yawa... ✌🏾

There is no remedy for your continuous foolishness.it's genetic

santaclaws:
Then you'll be continually referring to your uncles... They are big FOOLS, especially the uncles from your mother's side. 😁

As long as you continue to live,, you'll continue being foolish.. your foolishness can only end the day you stopped breathing

Lalami3232:

Some of una wey be men eeh, I sure say una need to dey wear skirt atimes because na only balls una get, una heart and brain na woman. Must you come out to seek for public opinion before taking a decision? I dey select my friends like abakaliki rice oOoOoo because I can't cope with simps atall. A man wey no fit take decision on his own no be man atall. You already know what to do and you dey come here to see public validation. God blessed the day I choose to be a tech guy because E join wetin make my heart strong like this.
What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nation wide with the good news

You sounded like an e-diot

santaclaws:
Again, you're referring to your uncles, not me... ✌🏾

And I'll continue saying it .. You are a FOOl, a very big one

santaclaws:
Your uncles for house be fool... If my comment pain you, hug transformer...

Again, you are a fool, a very big one

santaclaws:
Does your room mate bring a girlfriend to the shared room? You shouldn't bring a woman to a room you're sharing with your friend.

I am pretty sure it's not a flat where you have your own personal room. You finished NYSC under 1 year, you never make money, you dey carry girlfriend matter for head. If you were my younger brother I would slap you! 😡

Work hard and get your own apartment before carrying woman up and down.

You be Fool, a very big one

EmperorCaesar:


I have never said this before but honestly bro, you sounded immature

Would you have preferred her to keep playing useless games like a teenager?

If things were reversed and some of you men became women, you'd prolly be more terrible than they currently are

You're confused. You dont know what you want

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dawnomike:
You prefer her to be forming hard to get??

No, not at all I like the fact she's open and expressive, but it's too sudden man, its less than 24hrs, bruv

Typicool8:
December don almost reach bro

Na wetin I been just dey reason since😂